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21 March 2016: Hello Everyone! So I'm going through a break up, after 6 long years together and everyone keeps asking me "How on earth are you doing this?" and "I can't believe how strong you're being" so I thought perhaps I could help you lot in some way. ...
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Your suggestions please to break the good news
Q. Hi Cupids! So - kind of a fun question for you all. I just found out that I'm pregnant with baby #2, and I'm not sure how to tell my husband. He's gonna be stoked, and I thought that maybe I'd have a little fun with it. Any suggestions?...
A. 15 September 2016: Congratulations!! I've seen a few reveal videos posted on facebook recently, one of which a woman asked her husband to get something out of the oven, and when he opened it there was a literal bun and a scan photo haha! Maybe something along th... (read in full...)
Is he genuinely busy or lost interest?
Q. Is he disinterested or just busy? I’m not trying to fool myself or ignore any signs. I lack experience and truly cannot tell so would appreciate your opinions. I’ve been dating a successful man (31 y/o) for two months who was very good to me up ...
A. 11 June 2016: Well he seems like he's made quite a bit of effort. It doesn't seem one sided.
Ask him out! Just text him, Hey do you want to hang out or whatever! Maybe he thinks you're not interested? ... (read in full...)
Are there people who just break up and feel happy and relieved and never think twice about their ex again?
Q. After being together for 2.5 years, I've finally beoken up with him yesterday. He called me last night thinking that I was just 'acting up'. As soon as I heard that he was still out, supposedly driving home at 1am, I didn't want to talk and ...
A. 11 June 2016: I don't know a single person that has never been sad about their ex in some way. Even years after the break up you can see something that reminds you of them and it brings back old feelings.
Feeling sad about this is normal and it's inevitab... (read in full...)
I like my ex-best friend's ex!
Q. There's this guy I like. Him and one of my best friends used to go out. He broke up with her because he said it wasn't going well for them in the last 6 months. He told me that during those last 6 months he had developed feelings for me. She cheated ...
A. 11 June 2016: I personally wouldn't do it...what happens if you and her ever become friends again? Being with her ex would probably ruin the chance of that ever happening...... (read in full...)
How to know if he's interested and show interest for him?
Q. I am almost 40 and divorced. Nothing traumatic, we just drifted away after 20 years of being together. But I a really out of practice! I'm falling in love with a guy whom I met a couple of weeks ago (my age, as far as I know not married, but who...
A. 30 April 2016: Trust your gut with this. If you feel someone is interested in you, they probably are!
Just ask him if he fancies going for a few drinks after work one day. Play it cool, and just ask him. If his reply is "Yeah of course" then you know. If he says... (read in full...)
We are back together, but he is still talking with the girl he dated when we were split up!
Q. I've been dating my ex boyfriend again for the last 4 months. We were broken up for about 6 months and he was dating someone else for 4 months out of the 6 months we were broken up. He says they were not that serious but they did like each other. ...
A. 28 April 2016: Classic 'I want a girl on the back burner' move. If he really wanted to be with you, why on earth would he still be talking to her?
Dump this idiot and find a real man that is SERIOUS about you.... (read in full...)
Can you change a player just a little?
Q. I'm trying to decide if I should have sex with a guy who's a player. If i don't have sex he'll just ignore me. If I do, then I'll get ignored after...but I was thinking, even if I can't get him to commit, what if I got him to at least do nice things ...
A. 28 April 2016: NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NOOOOOOOOOO!!!! Why on earth would you be considering this? Giving into a guy that's obviously going to use you for a quick fumble. Doesn't that make you feel angry, knowing that that's all he's interested in and you want ... (read in full...)
My Bf has secretly been having sex with this woman for more than 6 years. Should he remain friends with her and her partner? I say no.
Q. My boyfriend has been friends with this couple for 20 years. They moved states away a long time ago. They email, talk and text Facebook always. I found out recently that he has been having sex with her for like 6+ years and they have secret ...
A. 27 April 2016: Get out of this horrible situation. He's been with this woman TWICE whilst in a relationship with you.
If he remains friends with her, the chance of him doing it again is pretty high. Why would you want to be with someone like this? It shou... (read in full...)
I’m falling out of love with my boyfriend because he keeps rejecting me due to my weight gain of 15 lbs!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3.5 years, during which time I have been enrolled in a rigorous PhD program. I am 5’8 and when he met me, I weighed 155 lbs. A year ago he told me he hadn’t been attracted to me for about 6 months. He had b...
A. 25 April 2016: Well what a lovely person your boyfriend is! I cannot believe he would even have the audacity to mention anything to do with your weight.
He doesn't love you. If he did, then it wouldn't matter what size you are. Get rid of him and find someone ... (read in full...)
Why do I still want to know how my ex is doing?
Q. I was dumped 3 years ago. It was a serious relationship. I was desperate and have been through every step after the breakup. We're not friends on Facebook, and this did help me a lot. After 3 years, I can say that I'm finally over him now. But I ...
A. 23 April 2016: It's 100% normal! Although I wouldn't bother looking at his facebook, you don't want to see anything that could set you back in any way. ... (read in full...)
He’s stood me up not once, not twice, but three times! Is he just unlucky or is he married?
Q. Ok I'm in a little shock right now. I've been stood up not once not twice but three times. I know many will say why would talk to someone who did this to you. Well he was so charming. He would say how beautiful caring I was then ask me out then at ...
A. 20 April 2016: Trust your gut. If you feel like something is off, it probably is!
If a guy is into you, there's no stopping them. He's stood you up THREE times. Block, delete, and goodbye!... (read in full...)
Do I end this friendship with my ex? I'm feeling very hurt and confused
Q. I'll start off by saving for the past 5-6 months I have been in an emotional tornado regarding my ex boyfriend. It has been hell for me, seriously. And I'm extremely confused about everything I was with my ex boyfriend for over 3 years, HE broke ...
A. 19 April 2016: That's the only thing I find that works, literally delete him from your life. Delete and block him on everything, and get rid of any reminders of the relationship you have. I KNOW how hard this is, i'm going through it right now after being with ... (read in full...)
Should I hint to him that I want this, or should I leave in the hope that he will ask instead?
Q. I had a drunken one night stand with a guy in my first term at university and we eventually became friends with benefits. This carried on for three months, until we both developed feelings and felt the best thing to do was end things as neither ...
A. 19 April 2016: I agree with Denizen! I understand it's nice to have the guy ask, but there's nothing wrong with you suggesting it! He obviously has feelings for you, he isn't going to say no. What have you got to lose?!... (read in full...)
Should I accept? Ex bf has a gf, but wants to start over with me as friends and see where things go
Q. I need to start off by saying I am emotionally in a bad place these last few days, and I may be all over the place with this. I severely need help from unbiased views. I feel uncomfortable talking with friends about this. An ex bf of mine (was ...
A. 19 April 2016: Well what's a strange one I must admit. Maybe he feels guilty about the break up, or perhaps he wants to keep you on the back burner in case things go wrong with his girlfriend? When you say he wants to see where things go and keep his girlfriend, ... (read in full...)
How do I address this situation and this cheating?
Q. I got involved with my friends boyfriend A , we still dating even now behind her back.i always feel awful about it.I tried to break up with him but its not working we always find a way to get back to each other. Now A and my friend S have beautifu...
A. 18 April 2016: Friend?! You are a terrible 'friend'! Sleeping with your 'friend's ' partner?! You should be ashamed that you are calling yourself that. In reality, you can't really have this 'friendship' back, because you know, you're sleeping with her boyfrie... (read in full...)
Do you think this short break from each other might bring us back together?
Q. Hi....i would like to thank everyone in advance for replies. My ex whom i adore still rings me most days.....pops in to see me.....helps me with jobs.....we have tea together and his body language suggests he has strong feelings for me. He says h...
A. 18 April 2016: If you're not together, then there's obviously a reason for it. My ex broke up with me and we went on for a few months as normal, to try and work things out but in the end we just called it quits. This time away from each other will definatl... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, so why is he eyeing other girls?
Q. I met a guy at the gym that i initially developed feelings for. However, after finding out that he had a girlfriend, I've settled my feelings for him, and we've become pretty good friends. I'm pretty popular at the gym, and know pretty much ...
A. 17 April 2016: If this guy has a girlfriend, and he's acting this way about other women, I'm so glad you won't ever date him.
Some men are disrespectful, lecherous pigs with no respect for their partners. That is why he's doing it. ... (read in full...)
Why do men like to ejaculate on their partner's body?
Q. Why do guys enjoy cumming on their partners body? Wouldn't it feel better for them to just leave it inside? My boyfriend almost always pulls out when we have sex and I end up with his sperm on my stomach and boobs. I don't hate it or anything, I ...
A. 17 April 2016: He's probably seen it happen in porn and thought it was really hot.
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Any solutions possible? I have a difficult time trusting women because of a past ex
Q. This is a whole pretty complicated story, I'll try to explain it as quickly as I can. My mother has been putting a lot of pressure on me lately to start dating, especially since I've been out of college for a year. I want to be able to date,...
A. 17 April 2016: Just because one girl messed you around doesn't mean they all will. You need to let go of what happened and just go with the flow, and see what happens! Not everyone will you treat you like she did!
Dating is all about taking risks. You meet peop... (read in full...)
How soon can I bring up exclusivity?
Q. I've been dating this girl for three months after it started one night when she sent me a drunken message saying that she had fancied me for ages. I had feelings for her at this point but I didn't know what these feelings were. We've been dating for ...
A. 15 April 2016: If it feels like the right time, then go for it. She obviously has strong feelings for you! Just officially ask her to be your girlfriend!... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you react to your boyfriend sending you flowers?
Q. Hi All Ive been dating quite a while now, things are good generally I do get her the occasional 'just because' gifts, her fave choccies, an engraved pen when she started a new job etc- nothing too overboard though. I would like to get h...
A. 13 April 2016: It all depends on what sort of person she is. I personally, would LOVE flowers sent to me at work! ... (read in full...)
Have you ever asked your partner to 'unfriend' an opposite sex friend?
Q. Would you or have you ever asked your significant other to unfriend someone of the opposite sex on Facebook? For whatever reason, you did not want them associating with this person; jealousy or insecurity issues included among the reasons. Has ...
A. 13 April 2016: Yes, I did many times. I felt that some girls were really over the top with him and I am quite a jealous person. He unfriended them etc. to make me happy and to stop me getting upset...... (read in full...)
Should I stay with the boyfriend I met on facebook? He was taking drugs so I broke up with him.
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 44 days. I started dating him over facebook. I didn't know what he looked like so we met up and kept meeting then he asked me out. I dumped him because he was taking drugs, getting garried (a pill you swallow and it m...
A. 13 April 2016: You are pretty young yourself, with bags of time to find someone decent. One of the biggest mistakes I made when I was your age was getting too involved with boys and messing up my education. Trust me, it's important.
I would end it complete... (read in full...)
I got drunk and revealed too much of myself to him and now he's ignoring me
Q. Hello. I've been feeling really miserable and need advice. The guy I really like was in the city for some work. We planned to meet but he got stuck somewhere. I waited for 3 hours alone despite him asking me not to. We finally met and it was good. ...
A. 11 April 2016: Just don't text him again. You've tried that, and you've got no reply. Texting again WILL make you seem clingy, so just don't speak to him.
If he really is interested, he WILL reach out to you. And if that doesn't happen, well good riddance. Ther... (read in full...)
My ex contacted me and then I found out he's living with a girl. Should I just tell him and cut all contact?
Q. Well this is kind of a mess of a story but about a week ago my ex boyfriend randomly contacted me through facebook and for the past few days we've been just catching up and chatting about old times, our family, etc. Nothing sexual or flirty ...
A. 11 April 2016: It was very selfish of him to contact you so soon after the break up. I wouldn't tell him anything about how you feel, as mentioned, don't give him the satisfaction!!
You can't have any contact with him until you are 100% over him, as it'll make... (read in full...)
Should I give up? Or is he interested?
Q. So I've been easing into talking to this guy that i really like. He's very pretty (fantastic jawline HOO BOY) and tonight we hung out in a friend group playing a Game of Thrones board game (we are such nerds) and there were a couple flags that might ...
A. 9 April 2016: Well what have you got to lose?! You obviously like him! Just go for it and see what happens! I think there are some signs that he is interested in you!
I would go for it!... (read in full...)
Am I being a drama queen for blocking him? And why wouldn’t he have checked on me?
Q. Hi , last week I posted a question about what I should do about the situation I am in. I am 5 weeks pregnant and currently going through an abortion I am just waiting for the second lot of pills. I am so upset and distraught about the whole ...
A. 9 April 2016: I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult situation right now. You are not being a drama queen at all, I would probably be exactly the same if I were in your shoes. Telling everyone about the abortion is absolutley disgusting of him. It's ... (read in full...)
Do I expose his lies or just blank him ?
Q. Hi everyone 4 week ago me and my ex decided to give our relationship another go he spun me lines and i fell for them. My friend is on a dating site and saw him on there so told me im glad she did , im tempted to message him and tell him liars al...
A. 8 April 2016: I would message him the screenshot of the dating website, and say something sassy like "Want to give it another go do you?! Get lost!" or words to that effect, so you can vent your anger at him.
Don't even give him the chance to reply. Delete and ... (read in full...)
She never checked his social media or snooped around, now I want to expose him! What do you think of my plan?
Q. My best friend has been seeing someone for the past 3 years and was starting to fall for him. I did a bit of snooping on his social media and found that he's been with a girl for over a year now. My friend trusted this guy 100%, so she never ...
A. 8 April 2016: I would go for it! I am SICK of men messaging other girls whilst they already have a girlfriend. It's sad that this is going to really hurt some poor girl who is oblivious to all of this, but if it were me, and I were dating a scum bag, I'd rather ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for coming onto her?
Q. I apologize for the length of this in advance! So i had a rough day today. Got cursed out by some old guy on the road who nearly killed me and i almost went bat shit on him. I didn't know old people could be so foul. Later i went to the mall to b...
A. 8 April 2016: She was working. She could have been told by her manager to make more of an effort with customer service etc.
Maybe that's her way of chatting to people?
I wouldn't worry about it.... (read in full...)
What should I do so he could leave me alone without hurting his feelings?
Q. My ex and I broke up about a week or 2 ago because he felt as though we weren't "compatible". I ve been coping with it and I honestly don t want to talk to him nor see him because it makes getting over him easier. Ever since we broke up he s been ...
A. 8 April 2016: I wouldn't worry about him, he's the one that decided to end your relationship. You have to think of YOU now. He doesn't really matter anymore.
Just delete and block him. You don't even need to say anything. No contact is the only way forward!... (read in full...)
Used to flirt with him non-stop. Should I tell him I like him?
Q. I've used to flirt with this guy, a lot. Nonstop flirtation, texting, talking, etc...One day he asked my brother: what do you think about we as a family? I did not see that one coming, and I thought that he finally would take a step.. But ...
A. 6 April 2016: Just simply message him and ask him how he is! Nothing desperate about that! Just keep the conversation going, until you feel like it's the perfect point to say I like you.
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I gave him an ultimatum, but am wondering if I’m being an idiot for giving him a last chance!
Q. Me and my current partner have been together for nearly a year now. i moved from manchester, fifty miles to be with him. we live together, our sex life is great, everything is going smoothly. we've discussed our future, kids, marriage etc. Howeve...
A. 5 April 2016: If he does it again? Of course he will! How many chances are you going to give this idiot?
Watching porn is one thing, but messaging other women and telling them they're beautiful and that he wants to meet them? No. He does NOT respect you, and... (read in full...)
We have great sexual chemistry but there are red flags all over. Should I continue or leave him?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 weeks. We are both young I'm 20 he is 21. I'm in university and he has a part time job. We have amazing sexual chemistry and he is a very considerate and affectionate guy, a "good guy. But he has broken some ...
A. 4 April 2016: Well all your 'red flags' seem to be money related. He works part time, the money he has isn't going to be great is it?
What you'll find with making a plan for the future is that it very rarely goes the way you want it to. I'm 24, I don't real... (read in full...)
My dad is having an affair! Will it last?
Q. My dad is having an affair with the tennant that lives in our house that we rent. She is literally the scum of the earth (this is not an opinion). She is possibly on job-seekers allowance, claiming benefits, she's never owned her own house ever, all ...
A. 4 April 2016: I find it offensive that you call this woman 'scum of the earth' because she's claiming benefits, has never owned her own home, has used furniture. I really do hope you ment it's because of her drinking and other things you made that comment.
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Should I respond to my ex? Do you think I would look like a fool if I did? Or should I leave it and just delete his number?
Q. 3 days ago, my ex boyfriend texted me out of the blue and asked if I wanted to meet up for lunch and catch up. I decided to ignore the text completely, but honestly it has been on my mind constantly ever since. I think the reason this is botherin...
A. 4 April 2016: Do NOT reply to him!!! It doesn't matter why he's contacted you again. He's either looking to worm his way back into your life because things are going south with this woman, OR he feels guilty about how he treated you.
Either way, he does NOT... (read in full...)
I think the love has faded and that he does not find me attractive any more. Plus there are issues of him looking at women. That should I do about all this?
Q. Hi guys.. I've just come back from a weekend break with my bf of 2 years but it's the first time I've felt completely broke at the thought that maybe our love has faded. We have been arguing alot recently about things such as his need for checking...
A. 3 April 2016: You need to get a grip and CALM DOWN! Good god, why on earth are you pushing him away?! After 2 years together, things are never as wild as they once were. It's part of a long term relationship. And him going on stag parties is NOTHING to do... (read in full...)
Should I text him to rekindle what we had? Or should I leave it?
Q. I met a wonderful guy off Tinder at the end of January, we had been texting constantly for 6 weeks and have been on 4 dates and we kissed on dates 3 and 4. All the dates went really well and he even said that he had a great time. After the 4th ...
A. 2 April 2016: 2 weeks?! Forget about him! If a guy is interested, he will respond and make the effort.
Tinder is a bit of a mixed bag, with a reputation for meeting people for one night stands. I know some people have met their boyfriends/girlfriends on ther... (read in full...)
How do I ask my Mom for the package I ordered? It's a vibrator
Q. Okay I've been thinking about sex a lot and often. At my school and area it's not hard to hook up and I'm not like that,so I bought two bullet vibrators. My mom ordered a mouse pad for her computer and lucky me they came on the same day.... She got ...
A. 2 April 2016: Just ask her if anything came in the post for you. If she asks what it is, just say it's private...because it is. If she's the sort of mother that would hound you to find out what it is, just make something up that's believeable. ... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake when I decided to let him go? Broke up last night
Q. i really don't know how to express myself still i will try. Its been 2 years since i am dating my boyfriend. Both of us are in our late twenties and this is the 2nd relationship for both of us. We started dating in 2014 before that we were ...
A. 1 April 2016: No, you didn't make a mistake. It's going to be hard, as break ups are, but it would be harder to stay with him with such doubt in your mind.
And he doesn't love you as much as you love him? His loss! You deserve someone who loves you desp... (read in full...)
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