This man is physically and verbally abusive, what should I do, I have nowhere to go?
Q. I've been with my fiance for five years. We have a amazing three and half year old. We have a nice home, a dog a cat and three kittens. Things were good up until a year ago when he started drinking again after three years of sobriety. We had our ...
A. 5 April 2012: Wow totally and utterly messed up.
Have you got friends or family? He can't touch you if you call the cops., Its all just bluster. Cops won't let him near you.
You must get out for the sake of your child... (read in full...)
I have red hair & very fair skin, I am always the subject of jokes, do people really find this unattractive??
Q. Okay so I am cursed (or blessed depending on how you look at it) with naturally red hair and super pale skin(even if I get sunburnt it just becomes even paler) and I was wondering if people actually find this to be such a bad thing. I have had to ...
A. 5 April 2012: I think some people find it attractive and some not. I am a blonde. I am not dumb but I have to put up with dumb blonde jokes all the time. Try not to worry about it... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to find a girlfriend?
Q. I would like to know how I can get a girlfriend. I am a 36 year old male who has never had any kind of a relationship with a woman.(not even a week long fling when i was at school) I have never been in a situation where it is appropriate to g...
A. 5 April 2012: There is another guy on here asking the same thing.... exactly the same. Look at somee of the responses there maybe you will get an idea... (read in full...)
Can you tell if a guy has recently had sex?
Q. How can you tell if a man has recently had sex? I am in a relationship with someone who sometimes has a very strong odor around the tip of his penis. He also has a very reddish on his testicles sometimes? Are these signs of a man recently having ...
A. 19 May 2010: Could be an STD they are symptoms of untreated claymidia which is a very common STD but can be deverstating if left untreated. Leads to infertility... (read in full...)
Co-Workers Flirting!
Q. I was at my job and starting and about a year and a half ago I noticed what I think is two co-workers flirting with one another. One of them is married and I know the partner. If you were in a position to tell the married partner whether there was ...
A. 19 May 2010: I dont really think it is any of your business. They maybe just good friends. Stay out of it, you may end up causing problems for a couple and they are unfounded. let them sort it out themselves... (read in full...)
I'm involved a crazy love triangle!
Q. Alright this one is a tough one, so I'll try to really explain this one. I'm involved in a crazy love triangle. I have a child with a guy who has another child with another girl. She has two children ages 2 and 5. Now a couple months ago I got ...
A. 1 October 2008: Given the content of your post, i don't think my comment was out of line at all... try to think about things before you do them, its only going to confuse all the children.
Maybe just start again. If you have a house and a good job what is stop... (read in full...)
His jealousy has reached levels that scare me! What should I do?
Q. I really am at such a loss of what to do, or even what to think at this point... I have been dating a man from Italy (I am American) for a little over 6 months. We met in a way where our trust in one another needs to be strong enough to get be...
A. 1 October 2008: the reason you can not leave is because you are being emotionally abused.
You need to get out now, for goodness sake you are sleeping in a closet! it is time for you to take stock of your life. If this man really loved you he would want you to smil... (read in full...)
I'm involved a crazy love triangle!
Q. Alright this one is a tough one, so I'll try to really explain this one. I'm involved in a crazy love triangle. I have a child with a guy who has another child with another girl. She has two children ages 2 and 5. Now a couple months ago I got ...
A. 18 September 2008: ummm cuse birth control all of you!... (read in full...)
I don't understand why I've never had any luck with girls. any help would be much appreciated.
Q. I am a 17 year old, nice, charming, funny, not ugly guy who plays guitar and really tries to get a girlfriend, much less a date, but always fails. Why is this? I've tried to have a relationship with 6 different girls, but they all rejected me. ...
A. 18 September 2008: relax girls are attracted to men who are confident and not needy... your coming accross a little on the needy side here,Sorry if that is harsh. Men who we know are happy in their own skin and who dont have a heap of baggage (not saying you have ... (read in full...)
Does he want me to show a sweet side or sumthing?please help me,i don't know what to think.?
Q. hi...this guy that ive been kinda talkn to keeps botherin me in da day time and like one thirty in da mornin.we mostly text each other.he kept asking me to apologize for snapping at him.I snapped at him through a text and he keeps asking me to ...
A. 18 September 2008: I dont really understand your question here.
If you dont want to speak with him then stop TXTing him or turn your phone off.
If you don't feel you should say sorry for something then don't.
sometimes people are just annoying and that is all... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? I'm nauseous, sensitive to smell, gaining weight and have lost my appetite.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months now and recently about 3 weeks ago I started taking birth control, now about a week ago I started feeling very very nauseous all the time, all day. Also my sense of smell has been very fragile and ...
A. 18 September 2008: I think you will be ok, Its a very good chance that your body is just starting to react to the pill
If you had your period after having sex then there is a very low chance of you actually being pregnant
Go and see a doctor to be safe
Goo... (read in full...)
I caught my boyfriend looking at VERY young girls online!
Q. so here's my problem I am 22 and my boyfriend 26 have been together for almost a year and we recently moved in together. I was on the computer the other day and I saw that he had been looking at sites such as veryounggirls.com and others related....
A. 18 September 2008: x..BabyGirl..x? What on earth are you thinking?
this man has issues he likes little girls now you are telling his partner to have one?? Oh dear, Im am thinking you are either a young girl who can't quite grasp the servertiy of this situation or you ... (read in full...)
If his wife was taking care of him, he wouldn't have to lean on his female students. He isn't 'traditionally' attractive but should I flirt with him?
Q. A few months ago, I couldn't help but fall for my much older principal. Sure he isn't TRADITIONALLY attractive, but looks aren't everything. He has a big.....let's just call it a 'beaver'. I just know it. He also has a really cool voice, kind of ...
A. 18 September 2008: your just pure evil! Calling your mother a whore and wanting to break up a marriage, you need to take a good hard look at yourself and grow up... (read in full...)
I am just so outraged! Is he some kind of pervert? What should I do?
Q. I recently made a horrific discovery that is making me questioning the man I thought I loved. While helping to clean out his room, I came across a stash of some 30 or more porn magazines and several DVDs stashed away. I was shocked. He told me ...
A. 18 September 2008: um no hes normal... its only porn get over it... (read in full...)
Am I crazy or is this man a real asshole? What should I do?
Q. I am a 34 year old female. I have been in a live-in relationship for going on 3 years. He is older than myself, but I dont think that matters. Sometimes he is wonderful to be around and then other times, he acts if I dont exist. On Valentin...
A. 18 September 2008: Hi
I think you already know the answer to your question. Yes he is.
Now focus on how you are going to get yourself out of this situation, You say you have no friends? Maybe its time to reach out and make some.
do you work? Maybe you can get yo... (read in full...)
What do I do about my controlling boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years is very controlling. I have lived at his house, well his MOMs house for 3years. For the past year he has really been trying to control me. He has: * Put me on different curfew times. 11pm, 7pm, 8pm, now its 9pm. I have a cu...
A. 18 September 2008: So leave him... Move out get your own place, move in with friends... (read in full...)
Can I fix this relationship? I don't want to walk out on my family.
Q. I'm not sure what to do with my situation anymore, i am in a relationship with a 19 year old girl and i am 30, we have a 9 month old daughter, and a baby boy on the way, she also has a 2 year old son from a previous relationship. We lived together...
A. 18 September 2008: Do not marry her, Just move out and take the kids with you (if you can) or get a court order to allow you some type of custody.
This girl (not yet a grown woman) sounds like a fruit loop....
Maybe next time you should date someone who is c... (read in full...)
What do I do? My ex is 28 yrs older and doesn't want to have kids, my boyfriend is 40 and wants kids in the future.
Q. My ex bf and me have never broken up, well we split up, but he has always been there for me, helping me economically. I have a new bf since Feb, he does not know I date both, neither does my ex bf. Right now I feel dirty and desperate, I think I lo...
A. 16 September 2008: You could try and be honest and tell each of them that you just need abit of time to clear your head about things and figure out what you want.
Or
You could tell them you need to go away with work, to see an old friend or anything.
You can f... (read in full...)
What do I do? My ex is 28 yrs older and doesn't want to have kids, my boyfriend is 40 and wants kids in the future.
Q. My ex bf and me have never broken up, well we split up, but he has always been there for me, helping me economically. I have a new bf since Feb, he does not know I date both, neither does my ex bf. Right now I feel dirty and desperate, I think I lo...
A. 12 September 2008: No I dont think your a whore, I think your confused.
I suggest leave them both for awhile and focus on you, then when your head is clear make a choice.
Your still young.... you never know the perfect man may be just around the corner for you? ... (read in full...)
Was I flirting to my friend as my wife thinks?
Q. My wife has always had a problem with my friends because most of them honestly are women. It's really become a problem now in our marriage. There is one person in particular that I happen to really like (as a friend) and she's flipping out because ...
A. 12 September 2008: Buddy you are totally out of line.
If I found that on my husbands messages I would be devestated, put yourself in her shoes.
How would you feel if she was talking to another man like that???
I suggest you start paying more attention to your wi... (read in full...)
Was I flirting to my friend as my wife thinks?
Q. My wife has always had a problem with my friends because most of them honestly are women. It's really become a problem now in our marriage. There is one person in particular that I happen to really like (as a friend) and she's flipping out because ...
A. 12 September 2008: Buddy you are totally out of line.
If I found that on my husbands messages I would be devestated, put yourself in her shoes.
How would you feel if she was talking to another man like that???
I suggest you start paying more attention to your wi... (read in full...)
I cheated numerous times since my wife told me the truth about her sexual past, in hope I would feel better. I feel worse and still angry. Help!
Q. I am seriously troubled with my wifes past and am so frusterated at the idea of living the rest of my life in anger. It is really depressing. She was my first girl friend and my only other sexual experience before her was a very humiliat...
A. 31 July 2008: your not well in the head are you?
Sigh, leave her.... for one reason, she deserves a real man one who is much better at looking at things with a level of maturity and grown up understanding.
The past is past.... (read in full...)
Thrilled about a new pregnancy! What is something special that I can do for my wife?
Q. Hi all not really a question but more of an announcement! I want to tell the world but I think this is the closest I shall get! I am very excited, my beautiful goddess of a wife has just informed me we are about to have another child!! It wil...
A. 31 July 2008: Congratualations!!
I think it sounds wonderful, I wish you and your family all the best!
XXXX
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Is it a bad idea to get a tattoo of his name? He wants to get one of mine.
Q. my boyfriend and i been 2gether for 3 years and we been living 2gether for 1 of those 3 years. Anyways, we want 2 get married but dont have alot of money and have been saving for the perfect wedding but my boyfriend wants to get my name tattoed on ...
A. 21 July 2008: Bad silly silly idea.
I agree with Dioval Lestat here........30 or 40 years!... (read in full...)
My wife to be had an abortion, what do I do?
Q. Hi all, I am new here. I was googling about my problem and came here to this site and thought to post my dilemma. Ok, I know this girl for one and half months and we have had talks for hours and found that we both like each other and planned...
A. 21 July 2008: Hmmm, yes ok.
I think leave her, only because you are not mature enough to deal with this.
If your concern is about the abortion then you need to look around and learn a thing or two.
The woman was raped, you should be supportive of her if you c... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is helping his friend write a love song for his girlfriend - Am I making too big a deal of this?
Q. I'm in a really tough situation and i dont know what to do. i am in a relationship, and so is my best friend. our boyfriends are both bestfriends also and usually the four of us get along pretty great. my best friends birthday is coming up so...
A. 10 July 2008: Yep, your making too much out of this. If your BF is happy to let his friend take the credit for something than let him.
I am sure his friend has helped him out many times.
Why would you want to interfear with this? Leave it alone and focus on... (read in full...)
He's been flirting with his ex via e-mail, what do I do?
Q. i dont know what to say to my boyfriend.he is flirting with his ex-gilfriend.this what he said to her over an email. "Y is it always so hard 4 u to believe me, am i dat a lie?? Anyways, am feeling bad 4 ya hornyness, where is ur man, if u aint get...
A. 26 June 2008: Its simple.
leave him, he seems to still be hung up on his ex. You don't make love to someone to say good bye. You also don't send emails like that to an ex unless you are still involved with them.
I hope you find someone who will be better f... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant - what symptoms should I look for? And how can I keep it healthy?
Q. i have had a hard time getting pregnent. i have had many misscariages and an ectopic which caused me to lose a tube. when i was pregnent i had to get hormonal injection shots in my butt every day and even then i lost the baby. i have never made it ...
A. 24 June 2008: Its a huge change to your body and your life being pregnant. May I suggest waiting until you at least hit the 1 year mark for being clean?
Give your body time to recover and heal from all the damage that the drugs have done to it and just try not ... (read in full...)
Should the mother of my fiancee's kid back off a little?
Q. Im interested in what you have to say and your opinion.. My fiancee has a 5 yr old son to another woman from years ago, before i ever knew him. She comes in our house to talk about 'their' son, which i dont have a problem with. Its when my fiancee ...
A. 24 June 2008: Well unfortunatly you have done all you can, you have spoken to him and thats the best you can do.
He has a child with another woman so she will always be in his life, there is nothing you can do about it.
If you are secure in your relation... (read in full...)
I was stunned that the man I was so in love with would turn his back on me so quickly.
Q. I'm really having trouble getting over my past relationship. Last year a lot of things happened--my car was stolen, I had to move homes, my boyfriend got in a terrible car accident (basically unrecognizable) and I nursed him through the entire thing ...
A. 24 June 2008: Why do you want this man? He sounds like he has been horrid to you.
Ask yourself if you want him because you really love him or is it that you think you love him and with so much time and effort put into a realtionship you don't want to give up? ... (read in full...)
Is there really love at first sight?
Q. Is there realy such thing as love at first sight or is it just lust? Do men say they love you after a couple of dates just so they can sleep with you? Come on guys be honest have you ever done this?...
A. 12 June 2008: I think some boys say the L word to get you into bed yes.
I think there is also love at first sight sometimes.
having said that...
I first met my other half and couldn't stand him... thought he was arrogant and awful....
Long story short,... (read in full...)
When is the right time to give up on a long term relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months today. He is the first person I have ever had a long term relationship with and my first love. I used to think we would get married and live happily ever after. But I have been so unhappy on and off (maybe ...
A. 12 June 2008: Honestly... if you read what you just wrote to us you already know the answer...
It sounds like a bad situation you are in my dear,
You wrote " when i tell him i love him he often says things like 'hmm'in reply and quite often when i go to hug him ... (read in full...)
Is everybody lucky enough to find that special someone?
Q. I am 15, and dont have a boyfriend. I realise this is quite normal, but i still can't help feeling lonely. While my friends are all out with their fantastic boyfriends, im stuck, alone. Well anyways, i know a lot of you will say, "Your time will ...
A. 12 June 2008: Nope I don't. I believe that unfortunatly for some you never find someone... having said that they are very very rare cases and normally because they are total and utter loons.
You are still at school so you are very limited on the boys you can meet... (read in full...)
I'm very worried about this! My gf is on the pill and has been dripping with red and brown stuff...
Q. hi there i am worried and badly need help and a load of weight of me mind. bascially my girlfriend has been on the pill for about 2 to 3 weeks now and last night me and my girlfirend had sex without protection, she said it will be ok because she w...
A. 12 June 2008: She needs to go back to the doctor and talk to him about this. Its normally not safe to have unprotected sex for the first one or two months....
Really really really need to see a doctor honey.
Sometimes the pill (there are many types)are n... (read in full...)
I think my teacher is flirting with me.
Q. I KNOW THERE'S LOADS TO READ HERE - I DIDN'T PLAN ON THIS BEING SO LONG BUT I REALLY NEED ADVICE HERE AND I'D APPRECIATE IT SO MUCH IF SOME OF YOU WOULD TAKE THE TIME TO READ IT AND OFFER YOUR VIEWS. THANK YOU! This is going to sound like the ...
A. 12 June 2008: It sounds innocent, I think this man just may be a great teacher, i don't think there is more too it than that.
Good luck on your exams... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me at his birthday party! He thinks I was 'easy' in my past!
Q. I'm so hurt and angry! My bf of almost 2 years is having a birthday party tomorrow. Ok, it's not exactly a party, it's just that his friends and classmates have planned to take him clubbing tomorrow night. The thing is, this guy is so hung up...
A. 12 June 2008: How do you cope?
Sweetheart leave this man now!, He controls all aspects of your life, when you were typing your questions didn't you realise that?
You should not feel ashamed of your past. There is nothing to be ashamed of, you didn't do anything... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I have no boyfriend and am only 12.
Q. i want a baby but im only 12 years of age. im a single,im good with babys i baby sit my cosin 2. i feel like im ready, but am i. how can have a baby without a boyfreind....
A. 10 June 2008: ummmm your 12. How are you going to pay for a baby? They are very very expensive. How do you think you would be a good mother when you can't even drive/vote/drink/sign legal contracts make a good choice about schools ect?
i suggest you DO NOT have... (read in full...)
Should we wait until we're teens?
Q. There's this really cute girl at my violin class (I'm home schooled so i don't see many girls) and I'm 12 and she is 10. My friend Jason who is 30 (met online) says since she is still basically a child I should wait a few years. Do you think i ...
A. 10 June 2008: Then what is your question? What are you asking us? What is it you think you should wait for?
... (read in full...)
Should we wait until we're teens?
Q. There's this really cute girl at my violin class (I'm home schooled so i don't see many girls) and I'm 12 and she is 10. My friend Jason who is 30 (met online) says since she is still basically a child I should wait a few years. Do you think i ...
A. 10 June 2008: I hate to point this out but until you are the legal age you are both children.
Why the rush to grow up?? Enjoy your childhood....
It will just get "funner" from here on in.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Remembering our baby boy angel!!!
Q. I was wondering if anyone could help me. I had a miscarriage in january and my and my boyfriend are wanting to do something on what would have been my due date in a few weeks to remember our little boy. I am having a really hard time and the closer ...
A. 5 June 2008: I was in a similar situation a few years back, I am sorry for your pain, I understand exactly how you feel.
The simple fact is nothing is going to seem good enough, however I planted a tree and paid for a little sign at my local botanical gard... (read in full...)
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