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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My girlfriend told me details of her bad sexual experience and now I feel angry and jealous. How do I get over this?
Q. I need your realtionship advice about this I feel like I am a bad boyfriend. This might be long sorry for it Recently my girlfriend and I started to try have sex. Ofcourse it is too painful for her so wer are just trying right now. I am not rushing ...
A. 3 November 2014: Your girl friend suffers from vaginismus. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-we-take-things-to-the-next.html
She also appears to have an appalling lack of common sense and tact.
You have just started to experience the unhappiness of retroact... (read in full...)
He won't make a move beyond staring, Does he fancy me?
Q. I have known this man for over three years, for over two years we would talk to each other all the time, mainly by text and email, in the last year it has stopped. This is where it gets confusing, we work together and whenever we are in the same...
A. 3 November 2014: He's your manager? This has personal and professional disaster written all over it!
Back off. Find another job. Then you can ask him out.
I expect he's hoping to hang on to his job without sexual harassment charges being leveled against him.
Yo... (read in full...)
I would be leaving my wife of 12 years for her, so I need to know if she wants me too
Q. First time I have done something like this online but there is no one else i can speak to about this. I am married with a child and 2 step kids, I love my wife but I don't know if I am still in love with her. I met a girl in her 20s a couple months ...
A. 3 November 2014: Just end your marriage. You are ready to leave your wife for a crush, all you need is the right little signal. So get yourself free of that unwanted wife and you can date anyone you want!
Just an FYI, it has been known to happen, that young wome... (read in full...)
How do I accept that I'm in a sexless relationship?
Q. It bothers me when my guy watches porn and gets himself off. Why? Because he will do it just before I get home, right after I leave, when he thinks I'm sleeping and I am always ready and willing. In the last 5 months we have had sex 5 times. I've ...
A. 30 October 2014: The medical issues sound very significant here. Perhaps his way of coping is to go off into his mental man cave, while yours is to seek solace in physical contact and closeness with him?
I think you should see a therapist either together or as an i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to try a position I don't and won't take no for an answer!
Q. *contains sexual content* hey there aunts and uncles, Ok so im in a happy loving relationship me andy partner are very sexually experimental .. outdoors .. toys .. role play ... dress up .. he has had 2 previous partners one at age 14 an...
A. 30 October 2014: Did he get the message, loud and clear? Have you successfully set your boundaries?... (read in full...)
I get creepy vibes from my teacher like he's a creepy sociopath
Q. I think my teacher is kinda cute but I get weird vibes from him. Some of the things he says lately have been really...off and I think he knows I have the hots for him. Once he stood by my table and said I know this is the time your bladders get full ...
A. 25 October 2014: You are 22-25? Really?... (read in full...)
If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...
A. 24 October 2014: And here are your side effects in your own words: "I feel jealous and insecure even though I am a very attractive and confident woman who does have the total package. I want to trust him but I am afraid I just cannot. And I am making myself worry ... (read in full...)
If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...
A. 24 October 2014: Ok OP, the similarities are just so striking. The same tone, the same circumstances, etc.
Well, take a read through those posts as they may help you gather the strength to leave the toxic relationship.
It's like asking your doctor for help with you... (read in full...)
If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...
A. 24 October 2014: You pursued a married man, the relationship was a ridiculous drama from the get-go and you are still pfaffing around trying to rationalize things.
You got what you signed up for. An affair with a married man generally ends with the married man with... (read in full...)
If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...
A. 24 October 2014: It wouldn't happen to be this guy, would it? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/married-man-dumped-me-and-i-am-feeling.html
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to try a position I don't and won't take no for an answer!
Q. *contains sexual content* hey there aunts and uncles, Ok so im in a happy loving relationship me andy partner are very sexually experimental .. outdoors .. toys .. role play ... dress up .. he has had 2 previous partners one at age 14 an...
A. 24 October 2014: "Hey, John, my bucket list has a new item: I will only have sex with a man who respects and honors my boundaries. Where does that leave you? Right now, you are not on the keeper list. If you bring up anal sex again, we are over. Seriously. Over. ... (read in full...)
As an adult do you discuss your sex life with your parents?
Q. As adults, do you discuss any of the details of your sex life with either (or both) of your parents? Is it normal for a parent to want to know about your sex life? I am 23 years old. I recently started dating a new guy exclusively a few weeks ago,...
A. 22 October 2014: Maybe she'll get more comfortable as the relationship progresses. She's only met him once and maybe she saw or felt something that concerned her.
Perhaps this is her clumsy way of trying to get you to bring him around so they can get to know him ... (read in full...)
Is she interested in me at all or just being nice? Or is she msybe unsure of her or my feelings, or where we are at?
Q. A girl I really like. We work for the same company but not together. A long time ago, the word got out I liked her. She was getting back with a bf so rejected me. I don't know if they're still together. At work I was pleasant if I saw her but ou...
A. 22 October 2014: Hi Barry, I'm hoping you had a great time on your date! Any update?... (read in full...)
How do I accept that I'm in a sexless relationship?
Q. It bothers me when my guy watches porn and gets himself off. Why? Because he will do it just before I get home, right after I leave, when he thinks I'm sleeping and I am always ready and willing. In the last 5 months we have had sex 5 times. I've ...
A. 22 October 2014: You could practice meditation and mindfulness to learn to let go of the frustration and continue masturbating without him.
Another option is to ask him to open the relationship so you can take a lover to satisfy your sexual needs, though your expe... (read in full...)
Is it okay for my girlfriend to sleep in another guy's bed?
Q. I just recently started dating someone new and she has had a lot of friends that are guys most of which state she's hooked up with or has had sex with in the past two weeks ago she slept over at her friends house which was a guy in the same bed and ...
A. 22 October 2014: She doesn't understand why her sharing a bed with a man who is not her boyfriend because she's too drunk to drive might be upsetting to the boyfriend. Then she gets the man who is not her boyfriend on a speakerphone and he gets to accuse you of ... (read in full...)
Can dating profiles be cloned over multiple sites or is my boyfriend lying?
Q. Hi all, So I have been going out with my boyfriend for 18 months and we met on a dating site. 2 months into our relationship I found he was still logging in to pof the site we met on and my only dating site I joined. He said that can't be right he...
A. 20 October 2014: I had the same thought as Ciar. Don't go anywhere with this guy without telling someone where you are and certainly not without access to your phone.
Just end it, OP, he's a sleaze and a cheat.... (read in full...)
Why is my SO using It's Complicated as his FB status?
Q. I have been involved with a man for a year and a half. We stay at each other's place a lot. We are in a loving relationship. This is embarrassing to admit, because we are both in our forties, but his Facebook status bothers me. He leaves i...
A. 19 October 2014: Ah, so he has a 30-plus year track record of no full commitment to any woman. You obviously are drawing some conclusions. Does he practice divorce law?
If you are looking for commitment then after a year and a half he knows if you are what he's... (read in full...)
Why is my SO using It's Complicated as his FB status?
Q. I have been involved with a man for a year and a half. We stay at each other's place a lot. We are in a loving relationship. This is embarrassing to admit, because we are both in our forties, but his Facebook status bothers me. He leaves i...
A. 19 October 2014: Is this the only problem in the relationship? Does he have a different sense of humor? A cynical outlook on life?
Thank you for clarifying. I can see how this would make you uncomfortable.... (read in full...)
Why is my SO using It's Complicated as his FB status?
Q. I have been involved with a man for a year and a half. We stay at each other's place a lot. We are in a loving relationship. This is embarrassing to admit, because we are both in our forties, but his Facebook status bothers me. He leaves i...
A. 19 October 2014: "Before meeting this man decided not to put anything for status until I married." This is confusing. Are you married to someone else? Please clarify.
If you are single, maybe he thinks it's complicated until you move in together. I would exlore the ... (read in full...)
Early 20s and having sexual issues. Why does this keep happening?
Q. Hello all. I'm a college student in my early 20s and I really need some help. For quite some time, I've been having some troubles with my sex drive/virility in general. Whenever I'm able to get an erection, it is almost always at "half-mast", s...
A. 17 October 2014: Based on your followup, definitely see your doctor! Best wishes!... (read in full...)
What do I do about my nitpicking fiance?
Q. I moved in with my fiancé. I am finding out that he is a nitpicker. He tells me how to cook or what I should do with this or that recipe. He was the first one to ever complain about a recipe that I have cooked for years and years that everyon...
A. 17 October 2014: You've been dealing with this for over a year and haven't found a way to talk about this with him?
First of all, have you considered finding a bigger place so that you each have your own office? Or take an unused room in the house and separate the ... (read in full...)
Is this normal for friends with benefits? Or is this leading to maybe more?
Q. Aunts and uncles.. This I'd a question about how friends with benefits should act. I'm super confused, as I've only had one other before this one. So.. Here it goes. Me and a guy we'll call Matt, recently started hooking up about a week and...
A. 17 October 2014: Okay, you are FWB with a guy you met 5 weeks ago through your ex? The same ex who lives across the street and choked you? You've been having sex with him for about 10 or 11 days and you want to know if this is going somewhere already?
Whoa, woma... (read in full...)
Passive Agressive: What should I do, and how shoudl I react and respond to his behaviour?
Q. How to deal with passive aggresive boyfriend? We've just get back from breakup and now he treats passive aggressive. He texted me yesterday I reply and he left it there didn't text back. But after 3 days he treated me this way, I don't show that ...
A. 17 October 2014: Do you see each other at all or is this a relationship based on texting?... (read in full...)
I'm confused by what my ex's intentions are?
Q. Hi I am just writing for some kind of advice as I am confused by the way my ex is contacting me. To cut a long story short we had been friends since school after he joined the army. A few years later we got back in touch we ended up texting ...
A. 17 October 2014: Based on all the history, or lack of history really, that you have with him, indicates his intentions are the same as they have been all along. Ever since the regrettable taxi home with his friend thing. He's keeping you in sight on the periphery of ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and not happy with the demands my boyfriend is making of me
Q. I am pregnant and due feb. I havent been with the dad for long.. the baby was defo a surprise. Heres my problems - I have moved in with my new partner just a mth ago.. he wont let me bring my cat which ive had for 9 yrs he wont let me ...
A. 17 October 2014: It doesn't sound normal to me.
You've moved in with a man you barely know because you fell pregnant.
Now you're learning that he is controlling and says nasty things when drunk.
You're on bed rest? It must be a high risk pregnancy already for ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my LDR husband that he should have limitations on contact with other women?
Q. Hello everyone ;) Hello i have long distance love affair. He lives in iceland and i live in the uk. Were been 5 years known each other he came here back and forth just to see me and then now Recently i visited there and got married. We decide...
A. 17 October 2014: I'm sorry, are you saying you are upset because your new husband has been being kind to his tenant and her child? You wish him to stop being so nice?
But you married him because you knew he was the one. So you accepted him as he is, then you bega... (read in full...)
Do I walk away? I'm torn!
Q. Hi everyone... I realy need objective advice, here. OK (((*deep breath*))) it's a bit of a long story... Been dating a guy for 6 months during which time I discoverred he had an alcohol problem. (Yikes) I supported him but then one night he ran away ...
A. 17 October 2014: Are you his girlfriend or his nurse?
I'd ask him what he meant by saying to you "If you want to leave, you must."
If he relapses or kills himself that's his problem and it is not your responsibility to be his therapist/counselor/mentor.
If I were... (read in full...)
Early 20s and having sexual issues. Why does this keep happening?
Q. Hello all. I'm a college student in my early 20s and I really need some help. For quite some time, I've been having some troubles with my sex drive/virility in general. Whenever I'm able to get an erection, it is almost always at "half-mast", s...
A. 17 October 2014: Sounds like you should see a doctor. It's one thing to have 'performance anxiety' but you describe not having erections when you used to, either through visual stimulation or the involuntary nocturnal stuff. That sounds like a medical issue to me.
I... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him but has no notion to set a date?
Q. So I got engaged August 11th of this year. We are together two years . He told me the day we got engaged we will set a date 2 weeks after so I got excited and thought he really wanted this. I had my hopes built up but instead he got my mind busy ...
A. 17 October 2014: Maybe he has bills that need sorting that he hasn't mentioned to you?
Do you have a venue picked out? That's often one of the things that need to be booked well in advance. I'd go over there, learn about the options and what things may cost, if you ... (read in full...)
Will he ever forgive me for the way I broke up with him?
Q. I just ended a pretty horrible 2 and a half year relationship. There is no justification but I did it through text message. Each time we talked on the phone prior to break up it would start and I would say that I wanted to break up and then he ...
A. 17 October 2014: Why on earth would you stay on a call long enough to be ground down and kept in a relationship you want out of? I would have just hung up on him.
I doubt he's given up as you appear very easy to manipulate.
Shout hosannahs and do little happy da... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly brush me off?
Q. A question mostly to men: Why would a man show interest in a woman only to complete ignore her all of a sudden and not even look at her or say hi when he sees her, when the last time he saw her he insinuated otherwise? He does know I am in a r...
A. 17 October 2014: You know, this may not be about you at all. I'm dealing with some family medical issues and it's taking all my time and energy. I'm sure I've inadvertently ignored friends while I'm on the phone or waiting for a call or even just sitting lost in ... (read in full...)
Huge crush, but now she has resigned. Why!?! What the hell is wrong with me? Have I let my lunatic ego take control?
Q. Turning 50 is not fun. My loving wife after 25 years of marriage tells me time has been kind to me and she still calls me sexy. I adore her. She is as lovely as the day I first saw her. I have always been somewhat shy. I never considered mysel...
A. 17 October 2014: I enjoyed reading WhenCowsAttack's post, it was amusing and made a great point. Here's a post I found that may give you food for thought: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-a-crush-destroyed-my-marriage.html
I wonder if you need to have your horm... (read in full...)
Was a wrong to contact a women to see if her baby was my boyfriends ?
Q. I recently found out that a few months before my boyfriend met me he had an affair with a married women . I found old text messages he still had on his iPhone with nude pics they sent each other. he admitted he slept with her but didn't know she was ...
A. 17 October 2014: I see you did post a follow up. I found this question http://www.dearcupid.org/question/boyfriend-used-craigslist-for-sex-hook-ups-but.html which sounds like the one you mentioned in that post.
Please go get yourself tested if you have not done... (read in full...)
Was a wrong to contact a women to see if her baby was my boyfriends ?
Q. I recently found out that a few months before my boyfriend met me he had an affair with a married women . I found old text messages he still had on his iPhone with nude pics they sent each other. he admitted he slept with her but didn't know she was ...
A. 17 October 2014: I think wanting to know if he had a baby with the very young woman he had an affair with is reasonable. When you found this response "I asked when the last time he was with her to get a time frame and he said he didn't know that it wasn't his and to ... (read in full...)
As an adult do you discuss your sex life with your parents?
Q. As adults, do you discuss any of the details of your sex life with either (or both) of your parents? Is it normal for a parent to want to know about your sex life? I am 23 years old. I recently started dating a new guy exclusively a few weeks ago,...
A. 16 October 2014: I can't imagine hearing about the details about my parents' sex life. That's not information I need to know. There's a boundary there that shouldn't be crossed.
Your mother assumes you will share details as you are 'friends' as well as parent and ... (read in full...)
We love making out with each other, so do we have a unique friendship?
Q. So i have this unique situation with my friend, but I've came to terms to it but I would like some input and some advice on how odd this situation is.. So I met this girl at a party 6 months ago and from the first moment we met in about a couple o...
A. 16 October 2014: Unless her boyfriend knows she's making out with you, you are her boytoy thing on the side. It's not a unique friendship, she's cheating on him.
Lots of people are cheaters and wind up having their little secret on the side. Normally it's some... (read in full...)
Our friendship became troubled after he got a girlfriend. What should I do from here?
Q. More of a friendship problem. I had a really good friend, for about five years. Then he got a girlfriend (I have a long term boyfriend). Our friendship was always based on banter and being cheeky to each other. As soon as he gets a girlfriend, he ...
A. 16 October 2014: You might have thought he was a good friend. He thought you were a girl he could get cheeky with and banter with but was not interested in dating. He has enough sense to realize the new girlfriend won't like the new boyfriend indulging in cheeky ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats me like one of his kids!
Q. (Mod note: please explain why you don't have a job or why you are not actively seeking employment as that is the first thing the aunts will ask you.) "I am a carer of 35hrs a weeks lookin after my son with the autism " My boyfriend treats like ...
A. 16 October 2014: Hi zevazoe, have you had a chance to gather your thoughts on this relationship all in one place? You've posted a number of questions about this same individual and your circumstances, and it does sound as though you are in over your head and need ... (read in full...)
Why is he contacting me again?
Q. I met my ex on a dating site about a year ago....we dated for about 4 months and broke up at the beginning of this year because he kept doting over another woman and I became tired of hearing about her. Since then, I have seen him back on the same...
A. 16 October 2014: Can you tell at what time the messages were sent? Maybe he'd been drinking and his filters were down and he was having a bit of a laugh?
Or he has a new girlfriend and she's trying to see if you are still a threat?
Just block him and don't bother t... (read in full...)
How can I get him to understand that we not in the same place sexually, so that I can put an end to my affair?
Q. I'm only interested in advice, not judgement. If you don't have anything constructive to say, you should not even bother responding. My husband and I been married for 8 years, and have a 5 year old. We were together for 2 years before that. ...
A. 16 October 2014: "How can I get my husband to understand that we not in the same place sexually, so that I can put an end to my affair? I've tried talking and suggesting counseling, and he will not for it."
He knows you are not in the same place sexually. That... (read in full...)
He gave me herpes and doesn't know he has it
Q. I've met a guy on tinder and been dating him for 5months and have just found out he's given me genital herpes, however he is unaware that he has it. He told me he got tested for STDs and came back clear however they don't routinely test for ...
A. 16 October 2014: "Derek, I just saw my doctor and have learned that I now have genital herpes. Unfortunately, the only one who could have given it to me is you. I'm sorry to have to tell you this and it is very uncomfortable but it has to be dealt with. Our ... (read in full...)
Is she interested in me at all or just being nice? Or is she msybe unsure of her or my feelings, or where we are at?
Q. A girl I really like. We work for the same company but not together. A long time ago, the word got out I liked her. She was getting back with a bf so rejected me. I don't know if they're still together. At work I was pleasant if I saw her but ou...
A. 12 October 2014: Good luck and have a great time on your date!... (read in full...)
Is she interested in me at all or just being nice? Or is she msybe unsure of her or my feelings, or where we are at?
Q. A girl I really like. We work for the same company but not together. A long time ago, the word got out I liked her. She was getting back with a bf so rejected me. I don't know if they're still together. At work I was pleasant if I saw her but ou...
A. 11 October 2014: She's not interested, Barry. Reading your past poets about her, she's just trying to keep things light and bright and smooth so you can work together.
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