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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I've been defriended on facebook and don't know what to do about it!
Q. I am not sure what's happened. Between yesterday and today the only thing that's changed is I texted a group text "Hey guys, are you going to the party?" No response. Then today I find myself defriended by a person I had a connection with. Sure...
A. 19 June 2014: And just to be clear, I didn't write that piece about friends coming into your life. I have heard it many times and for some reason your question pulled it out of my memory banks. I tried to find the author but obviously didn't get very far in my ... (read in full...)
I've been defriended on facebook and don't know what to do about it!
Q. I am not sure what's happened. Between yesterday and today the only thing that's changed is I texted a group text "Hey guys, are you going to the party?" No response. Then today I find myself defriended by a person I had a connection with. Sure...
A. 19 June 2014: Ah, yes, the wondering why the change would be a bit of a puzzle. How about this idea, contemplate how this situation right here right now will feel in a year's time. Then in five years time.
Does that change your perception of it at all?
I thi... (read in full...)
I've been defriended on facebook and don't know what to do about it!
Q. I am not sure what's happened. Between yesterday and today the only thing that's changed is I texted a group text "Hey guys, are you going to the party?" No response. Then today I find myself defriended by a person I had a connection with. Sure...
A. 19 June 2014: "People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person...
"When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
The... (read in full...)
I've been faking it for a year and don't know how to tell him, so I'm thinking about breaking up with him so I don't have to explain!
Q. Hi. I need help! Background info: 25 years old, up until very recently I thought that I was incapable of orgasm, I thought maybe something was wrong with me because I've never orgasmed during sex, figured out that I'm pretty normal and can only ...
A. 19 June 2014: Well, he'll either end it because you've been lying for a year or you'll end it because you've been lying for a year, so what the hell do you have to lose by being some kind of honest here?
Maybe a gradual retraining.
Stop faking the one-minu... (read in full...)
I feel like we're just having sex for him
Q. Hello! I feel really awkward about this, but I need answers before I go insane. I started dating my best friend, we've been together 8 months, before I started dating him I had a craaazy sex drive, always have had. By anyones standards, th...
A. 19 June 2014: Have you tried showing him how you reach orgasm so he knows?
When you say 'sex' do you mean penis-in-vagina intercourse? Because if that is what you mean then you should also know that the majority of women do not reach orgasm through inte... (read in full...)
Was the choice I made cowardly or sensible?
Q. A few nights ago, I took my girlfriend out to eat. It was about 1:30 in the morning when we left home, and yes there are restaurants open at that time. I've never personally been to the place but my friend recommend it with high praise. We were on ...
A. 19 June 2014: And buy that GPS or download an app on your smartphone or whatever you need to do so you don't have to stop the car on dark streets to read directions you are struggling to understand. There's no need to do that with the technology we have at our ... (read in full...)
Borderline Personality Disorder, I feel like he's always angry at me but he's not.
Q. Dear cupid, My boyfriend of a little over a year has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. He's seen psychologists since he was 10, anger management, therapy, medication, etc. (he's in his twenties now). Maybe I was afraid, ...
A. 19 June 2014: Can you please clarify what he's doing to manage his disorder?
You say "He's seen psychologists since he was 10, anger management, therapy, medication, etc. (he's in his twenties now)." but what is he doing right now, this month, this week, this... (read in full...)
Am I being a petty girlfriend?
Q. So I'm in a relationship with another woman and we both have our own places. When I stay over at her place I bring my own towels but not toiletries. If I see she's out I go buy her some. Newayz I noticed she uses the same towel for days at her own ...
A. 19 June 2014: I like Honeypie's idea about asking her to run a load of towels. :)... (read in full...)
Why would he say, "in another life, we would have been inseparable"?
Q. Can someone help me understand? I'm just getting to know this guy and our relationship is growing by the day. But he said something really odd and I couldn't reply except say "oh ok" because I didn't really understand. He said "I think in another...
A. 19 June 2014: So is he single or married? That would have a lot of bearing on the comment he'd made.
In reading the other aunt's answers I realized I'd made the assumption that you two were starting the dating process as single people.
If this guy is married,... (read in full...)
Am I being a petty girlfriend?
Q. So I'm in a relationship with another woman and we both have our own places. When I stay over at her place I bring my own towels but not toiletries. If I see she's out I go buy her some. Newayz I noticed she uses the same towel for days at her own ...
A. 19 June 2014: "Babe, I've noticed that you use a lot more towels over at my place than when we are at yours. Is there something wrong with my towels? Do you just like to use a fresh towel every time you are in the bathroom? I want you to be comfortable and just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is insisting I go meet his parents and sister this weekend even though his mam said not to!
Q. Ive been seeing my boyfriend since august. Been official since december. I live in the north of england as does he, but is from the midlands. I know we havent been together too long but its going really well and i really think its guna last and i ...
A. 18 June 2014: Go. His mam sounds like she may have some memory issues, if she can't remember the phone call and still misses his ex of over 2 years ago.
He has to make sure his dad and sister know you are coming, I would be very worried that the memory issu... (read in full...)
Why would he say, "in another life, we would have been inseparable"?
Q. Can someone help me understand? I'm just getting to know this guy and our relationship is growing by the day. But he said something really odd and I couldn't reply except say "oh ok" because I didn't really understand. He said "I think in another...
A. 18 June 2014: It's okay to ask followup questions when you don't understand.
"I'm sorry, I don't understand what you mean?"
"Could you elaborate on that?"
It's a useful skill and puts the onus of clarifying on the person making the confusing statement, r... (read in full...)
Why don't people put their relationship status on facebook?
Q. What is the reason people don't put their relationship status on facebook? I've noticed some people don't when it's obvious they have a girlfriend because of their pics and statuses. ...
A. 18 June 2014: Some people can't be bothered filling in all their personal data into social networking sites. They're not trying to be difficult or confusing. They just don't see it as a priority.... (read in full...)
Was the choice I made cowardly or sensible?
Q. A few nights ago, I took my girlfriend out to eat. It was about 1:30 in the morning when we left home, and yes there are restaurants open at that time. I've never personally been to the place but my friend recommend it with high praise. We were on ...
A. 18 June 2014: You did what you instinctively felt needed doing. I think your reaction was entirely normal and would be a common reaction. Her instinctive reaction was laughter. You're old enough to remember the show M*A*S*H, right? So remember that some people ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her without offending her about her wiping issue?
Q. Hi I just started dating a new girl . The sex is great and we both oral fixated me giving and her getting . There is one problem she wants her anus licked which I usually enjoy doing but there is a problem with this she has a wiping problem back ...
A. 18 June 2014: "Babe, I want to make you happy but one thing has to happen because it's fecal matter down there and I don't want any issues with that. So if you want that special treat from me, please ensure you are spotless as can be. Then I can accommodate your ... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up should I still ask her to go on a trip we had planned?
Q. My ex and I broke up a month ago (I'm trying to convince her to take me back) we had plans to travel and visit my sister next week. It's an 8 hour drive and we were going to spend a week there. Should I ask her to still come with me since it would ...
A. 18 June 2014: I read your followup to the other thread.
How does going on three day drinking binges affect parenting? You are not the child's parent figure if you don't show up for duty.
If I were her, I would remove you from the picture until you got your shi... (read in full...)
My ex is on a dating website already. Does that mean he never cared?
Q. I just broke up with my ex after nearly two years and he's on a dating site now, does it mean he never cared? It was a 'break' and shortly after a 'break up'. Too many arguments and such however for the most part we were really happy, enjoyed e...
A. 18 June 2014: I expect it means he's a practical man and has moved on.
You broke up with him after he instigated a break? Then he was checking out of the relationship before you were. It doesn't mean he didn't care for you. It just means that he's started the ... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up should I still ask her to go on a trip we had planned?
Q. My ex and I broke up a month ago (I'm trying to convince her to take me back) we had plans to travel and visit my sister next week. It's an 8 hour drive and we were going to spend a week there. Should I ask her to still come with me since it would ...
A. 18 June 2014: Is the child you mention yours by DNA and/or official adoption? Or is that her child by an ex, and the one you became close to before you began partying again?
This is an important distinction.
Again, you moved in after a month, which isn't ve... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up should I still ask her to go on a trip we had planned?
Q. My ex and I broke up a month ago (I'm trying to convince her to take me back) we had plans to travel and visit my sister next week. It's an 8 hour drive and we were going to spend a week there. Should I ask her to still come with me since it would ...
A. 18 June 2014: Are you speaking to one another?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-there-any-way-to-convince-my-ex.html
Are you really ready to work on things? Or are you just feeling kind of crappy about the baby and want to apologize?
Maybe followup on ... (read in full...)
He's choosing his head over his heart but still wants to be friends. What should I do?
Q. Hello, I recently told a long time friend I had feelings for him, he admitted he also had feelings for me but his best friend was trying to set him up with a girl named carly. He started talking to carly who he then started having feelings for too. ...
A. 17 June 2014: I would stop talking with him 24/7. I would say 'yes sure we can be friends' if that makes you feel better about what's going to happen next... which is that you start to cut him out of your life. You can do it all at once but something about the ... (read in full...)
How can I accept being ugly?
Q. How can I accept being ugly? I'm too old to be wondering this. But I'm ugly, as a kid I felt awkward about my appearance and high school was hell with all the bullying. There are things I can change, like lose a little weight, take care of my ...
A. 17 June 2014: You need a massive change of perspective and attitude. I doubt any words any of us write will do that for you. But I do have a few suggestions of things for you to experience and read which may get the point across in a very visceral way.
So for ... (read in full...)
What is Appropriate/Inappropriate behavior for a relationship??
Q. I feel very confused about my current situation with my long term boyfriend, and am looking for some outside advice... We have been dating for a long time. Several years ago, I found out that that he was chatting with girls online, having c...
A. 17 June 2014: Well, you could always test the theory that sex chats and cybersex are not cheating by trying them out yourself. Be sure to hide it and wait for him to find out by hiding your phone. Make sure you have taken surreptitious crotch shots of his ... (read in full...)
Before I visit a doctor does anyone have any idea what this could be?
Q. About two months ago I had sex and the lips of my vagina swoll up really bad. It was unfortable and it burned to pee. I haven't had sex since then. Then a little while after that I woke up and one side was swolen (I think I might have been playing ...
A. 17 June 2014: You might think that having sex is your step into being an adult but you know what? The real sign of being all grown up is to know when it's time to act like an adult....
This is an important moment for you... One that may set the tone for how you ... (read in full...)
Men: What do you think of breast implants?
Q. I just got silicone breast implants and I think they are going to be great. A great improvement over my asymmetrical southbound breasts. Quite large on my rather small frame, but nothing that would draw stares or look like a porn star. Just a ...
A. 16 June 2014: Trust me, I know all about body changes post 50. :)
If you're not insecure and are happy with the way you look, who cares if there are a few men out there who might not like silicone? Why assume the worst about the men you will meet? Assume the best... (read in full...)
Men: What do you think of breast implants?
Q. I just got silicone breast implants and I think they are going to be great. A great improvement over my asymmetrical southbound breasts. Quite large on my rather small frame, but nothing that would draw stares or look like a porn star. Just a ...
A. 16 June 2014: Then you will be just fine! No worries about if they are a good idea for you or not. Were you feeling insecure about it?... (read in full...)
Men: What do you think of breast implants?
Q. I just got silicone breast implants and I think they are going to be great. A great improvement over my asymmetrical southbound breasts. Quite large on my rather small frame, but nothing that would draw stares or look like a porn star. Just a ...
A. 15 June 2014: And just to add, if you are happy and healthy and feel good about yourself, that will be what you attract. The breast implants may filter out some dating candidates, but what matters most will be your own attitude.
... (read in full...)
Men: What do you think of breast implants?
Q. I just got silicone breast implants and I think they are going to be great. A great improvement over my asymmetrical southbound breasts. Quite large on my rather small frame, but nothing that would draw stares or look like a porn star. Just a ...
A. 15 June 2014: What an odd question, I googled 800cc silicone breast implants and apparently they are the largest silicone implants available. Any larger and you have to do saline implants apparently. So you have basically the XL version of breast implants. I ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't like me then why act that way?
Q. I have known Andy for 3.5 yrs. He asked me if I had a crush on him in 2013 and I said no...he said he was relieved and was like "FRIENDS :D" saying he does have a flirtatious personality, he's trying to work on it and he's just being friendly. ...
A. 15 June 2014: Don't waste time trying to figure out what his words could mean. To cut to the heart of the matter: if he liked you "in that way" he'd ask you out. He hasn't.
The rest of it sounds like goofy teenage inexplicable behavior on your and his part... (read in full...)
Catholic man marrying atheist woman. Catholic church, civil ceremony or compromise?
Q. I am a catholic. My fiance is an atheist. We have been together for nearly 4 years and love each other very much. I want to get married in a catholic church and she wants a civil ceremony. We have stalled with wedding plans because we just don't ...
A. 14 June 2014: Hi Ziggy, if you have any followup, as you wrote "any help is much appreciated," please message me so that we can get it posted for you.
I will start a thread for the aunts who wish to debate the topic separately. If any aunts wonder where thei... (read in full...)
I want to go to my boyfriend's mother's wedding but my OCD puts me off the pets in her house, what do I do?
Q. It is my boyfriend's mother's wedding and I am invited to go. If I go, I would need to stay at her house. She lives in another country. There are no hotels or even transportation around, not to mention it is one of the more expensive countries in ...
A. 13 June 2014: Aw, friends of ours had a lovely little Vietnamese pot-bellied pig. They got him after their beloved chinchilla died. The chinchilla did destroy all the carpets in the house though....
Anyway, if you will never be able to stay in his mother's hous... (read in full...)
My gay friend is cheating on his boyfriend. How can I deal with this situation?
Q. Around four years ago me and 3 friends from school created a gmail account dedicated exclusively to school things. Presentations, home works, things like that, we all had the password to that account and whenever we wanted to store important ...
A. 13 June 2014: Here's what I would do. Send a group message to the people who have access to the account (strange that no one has changed the password.)
"Hey guys, I logged into our old account from school to find on old presentation. Holy cow, the amount of spam... (read in full...)
My gay friend is cheating on his boyfriend. How can I deal with this situation?
Q. Around four years ago me and 3 friends from school created a gmail account dedicated exclusively to school things. Presentations, home works, things like that, we all had the password to that account and whenever we wanted to store important ...
A. 13 June 2014: You didn't do anything wrong. It was a shared account and he must have assumed you stopped using it.
As for what he's using it for? You may not be privy to their private choices. A gay friend of mine is in a committed relationship but it is an open... (read in full...)
Catholic man marrying atheist woman. Catholic church, civil ceremony or compromise?
Q. I am a catholic. My fiance is an atheist. We have been together for nearly 4 years and love each other very much. I want to get married in a catholic church and she wants a civil ceremony. We have stalled with wedding plans because we just don't ...
A. 13 June 2014: It might help if our original poster actually did a followup and gave more information about their respective levels of commitment to Catholicism and atheism. Surprising that this hasn't come up before in a four year relationship. Haven't you ... (read in full...)
Does she feel undervalued?
Q. My wife spent many years in Africa married to a european landowner. They appeared rich and she didn't need to work, everything was carried out by domestic servants. More importantly she was the queen bee of her very large social circle. Then the ...
A. 13 June 2014: Can you explain what it was about her that made you marry her? You don't mention love, so was there another reason?... (read in full...)
Does she feel undervalued?
Q. My wife spent many years in Africa married to a european landowner. They appeared rich and she didn't need to work, everything was carried out by domestic servants. More importantly she was the queen bee of her very large social circle. Then the ...
A. 13 June 2014: Then you will have to put that proverbial oxygen mask on yourself first.
I have seen people go through odd behavioral things. Sometimes there is actually a physical reason, such as cancer, primary or from another area in the body. Sometimes ther... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is refusing to get an STI test
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship although we have been friends for many years. We are trying to figure out if we want to move to the same country and make a go of things and will plan to spend a month together soon. My problem ...
A. 12 June 2014: "Too bad you are having a panic attack about a perfectly reasonable request. I guess that you just want to continue being long distance friends. I'm not moving anywhere or doing anything sexual with a man who has a childish tantrum about doing a ... (read in full...)
My vagina doesn't look so nice
Q. Hey guys I don't want him to see my vagina when i was younger i shaved it and i got shaving pimples and i got dark pimple spot and it doesn't look so nice ... what can i do ????...
A. 12 June 2014: It's my understanding that when a man who is attracted to a woman is in her presence while she is naked finds that all his blood leaves his brain and moves to another area. This leaves him incapable of critical thinking.
In other words, he's goin... (read in full...)
Does she feel undervalued?
Q. My wife spent many years in Africa married to a european landowner. They appeared rich and she didn't need to work, everything was carried out by domestic servants. More importantly she was the queen bee of her very large social circle. Then the ...
A. 12 June 2014: Let's review.
She had a pretty decent life.
Then, her husband died. She found out she was penniless. She had to move far away from her friends. She had to move in with and take charity from her daughter.
Just ONE of those is considered a... (read in full...)
We've been together for four years but he's still active on the dating site he joined behind my back!
Q. My boyfriend and I are in our early fifties and been together for almost four years. Our relationship is mostly see each other on weekends.We had an erratic relationship most of the first three years, and had broken up last year on new year's eve ...
A. 12 June 2014: Walk away. He's still using the dating service? He's looking for other women. I think he has some idea that he's a playboy type and feels entitled to the attentions of women who are NOT his girlfriend of 4 years.
You're young, early fifties is the ... (read in full...)
How the HELL do I talk dirty? Please guide me. lol
Q. For the love of God - I can NOT talk dirty to save my life. Actually, I'm 32 and never talked dirty to anyone. Now, here's the weird thing. I can "sext" my boyfriend (of 4 years) some of the nastiest shit ever was but I can't say anything when we're ...
A. 10 June 2014: And you wrote "I do things for him nobody else ever has, such as positions and being freaky, however, he gets off extremely good to dirty talk. One of his ex's talked dirty to him a long time ago, like 8 years ago, and he revealed in the beginning ... (read in full...)
How the HELL do I talk dirty? Please guide me. lol
Q. For the love of God - I can NOT talk dirty to save my life. Actually, I'm 32 and never talked dirty to anyone. Now, here's the weird thing. I can "sext" my boyfriend (of 4 years) some of the nastiest shit ever was but I can't say anything when we're ...
A. 10 June 2014: And just to point out that you say this is sexually balanced. You wrote: "He keeps wanting me to try but I can't, no matter what. I can't even "fake it". I literally freeze dead in my tracks. Sometimes I get turned off during sex when he starts ... (read in full...)
How the HELL do I talk dirty? Please guide me. lol
Q. For the love of God - I can NOT talk dirty to save my life. Actually, I'm 32 and never talked dirty to anyone. Now, here's the weird thing. I can "sext" my boyfriend (of 4 years) some of the nastiest shit ever was but I can't say anything when we're ...
A. 10 June 2014: So just start reading your texts out loud.
Practice in front of the mirror.
Just to remind everyone that we do have young readers on here and we are not a porn site.
If you are over-thinking as you said then perhaps practice methods of keeping y... (read in full...)
How the HELL do I talk dirty? Please guide me. lol
Q. For the love of God - I can NOT talk dirty to save my life. Actually, I'm 32 and never talked dirty to anyone. Now, here's the weird thing. I can "sext" my boyfriend (of 4 years) some of the nastiest shit ever was but I can't say anything when we're ...
A. 10 June 2014: I would stop stressing and do what comes naturally to you. If it isn't dirty talk then no worries. If he absolutely requires dirty talk then you could put on some sound track of porn and lip sync (and you just need to be close enough-ish, no need to ... (read in full...)
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