How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 5 April 2014: Yep, It's a tough one. The toughest. We're doing pretty well now, better, still together . . .... (read in full...)
Suggestions needed on how to stimulate my guy??
Q. My boyfriend wants me to try new things involving foreplay. He doesn't want to have to tell me what to do because he gets the feeling like he is training me and that is just wrong. I'm fairly inexperienced and I don't know much about what stimulates ...
A. 30 June 2010: Just be inventive. Instead of asking what to do, just do something, and ask or see if he likes it. It sounds to me like he just wants you to be comfortable. Mix it up your way. There is no script, and anyone who tells you to rent porn for the script ... (read in full...)
Wedding night tips for a frightened virgin needed, please!
Q. Hi everyone! I have a bit of a problem that's kind of pathetic but is really troubling me. I'm getting married to my fiancé, who I've been with for 4 years, and we both are virgins. I'm terrified of having sex for the first time with him, because ...
A. 30 June 2010: Avoid making a fool of yourself be making your wedding night your own, not a stock narrative. Do what feels right then; sex isn't like the wedding: there is no official procedure involved, no cutting of the cake, no garter belt. Do what you want! ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 28 June 2010: Yos, thank you. I know you are correct about the choice, and your terms make sense. I won't analyze them, but I do have a question regarding what is not contained in them, what is outside of them, and the question, at least to my mind, is a question ... (read in full...)
I've finally come to appreciate how much he loves me
Q. Ive known this man for going on six years...He has always had a desire to be with me, but me being the stupid and silly person i was i totally ignored him and acted like he wasnt important and was only seen in my eyes as a friend.... Now that i look ...
A. 25 June 2010: what moos mum said, seconded. risky, don't take advantage of him; give him time to get out of his current relationship if you're going to get involved with him... (read in full...)
I'm a private person, and don't like that he's shouting to the world about our move
Q. My boyfriend and I are in the process of moving in together. We have known one another since high school, but have been together for six months. We are both in our early thirties, and he has never lived with a girlfriend before. He is the total pa...
A. 25 June 2010: See what you think: I think the answer to your question is in your question. He's never lived with a girl before - to him this is occasion for fanfare! If only I were so lucky!... (read in full...)
How to stop the sex?
Q. So, I have been with my boyfriend a year and a few months. We both weren't virgins when we met and we got close fast so we really didn't wait long to have sex. The thing is lately it seems he has been more touchy and all over me then usual and I've ...
A. 25 June 2010: Everyone has the right to take a break. If there's nothing honestly wrong, then you have nothing to lose in being honest than someone who you probably shouldn't want to be with anyway. :)... (read in full...)
How can I help support my boyfriend and rebuild his confidence?
Q. Alright so my boyfriend(23) and I(20) have been together for a while and love each other very much. We have been having sexual intercourse but have been having issues..he can't seem to keep his erection. His doctor has said that it may be a reaction ...
A. 24 June 2010: That would be rough for any young man. You sound smart. You may not be able to pacify the ego completely, but to my ears, you're doing a pretty damn good job already if you are constantly saying the things you say you are. I commend you! Continue on ... (read in full...)
How much should you forgive before giving up?
Q. My boyfriend kissed another woman, a co-worker. I never even got mad, I never yelled. I just asked him if he wanted to be with me anymore and he just said he didn't know. I cried for a week solid. He changed his story and said of course he wanted ...
A. 24 June 2010: What he called "drama" and you are also now calling "drama" is anything but. Each moment when I saw that word appear in your post, I thought to myself: "please insert the word "caring" here instead. Try it. He couldn't deal with your care, not your ... (read in full...)
I think I'm a clone now.
Q. Okay, here's the problem, my friend wont stop copying me, and the thing is i dont even think she knows shes doing it! throughout the time weve been especially close she's copied my style, my music, things i say and do. She gets the credit for thing...
A. 24 June 2010: Everyone mimics other people. This is why people who hang out together begin to sound alike. Some people are more 'original,' that is, they do less mimicking, or they get the things that they are mimicking from places that are not known to everyone ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 24 June 2010: So, I considered starting a new post because my views and questions have changed so much since this original one, but so not to litter up DC with too much of my queries, I'll just stick to this one and see if anyone has any additional thoughts. I ... (read in full...)
At 18 his father took them to a prostitute, I can't seem to get over that??
Q. Im not looking so much for an answer as advice from people who have maybe been in a similar situation. My bf and i have been together almost a year now, in that time i found out he had slept with a prostitute, before he was with me. I find this ...
A. 24 June 2010: My wife had oral sex with a complete stranger during a time when she was taking drugs from this stranger's friend, and I can't look at her the same since I found out about this. Be glad that you know so early; I had to almost beg her for the truth, ... (read in full...)
I want to have oral sex, she doesn't, what can I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months now. We have a very good sex life and I've always been (and still am) extremely attracted to her. The only problem is, she won't EVER let me go down on her. I have been trying since the day ...
A. 24 June 2010: Does she let you use the hands? Maybe that's a happy medium. She's the only one who knows the answer to your question... (read in full...)
Radical Right-Wing Romeo Drives Juliet Crazy! Help!
Q. My boyfriend is a Christian. We've been together 1 and 1/2 years. I consider myself a lapsed-catholic. He feels very strongly about his beliefs, namely he's totally against abortion and homosexuality. My sister is transgendered and in the process of ...
A. 23 June 2010: These very significant differences between the two of you will cause you a LOT of pain in the future unless you can envision yourself becoming as religious and self-righteous as he is. Honestly, it could be the way you paint him, but he sounds like ... (read in full...)
I am 15, want to be a porn star, any suggestions?
Q. i am 15 and i want to be a pornstar so bad any tips?...
A. 23 June 2010: Don't do it. You will be giving away the most valuable and intimate parts of yourself to strangers, and many, many men will want nothing to do with you when you do come to your senses and want to be together with someone. When you become a porn ... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy: how can I erase these mental images?
Q. My girlfriend and I were good friends prior to dating each other. During that time, she divulged some information to me about her sexual past that I REALLY wish she had never told me. She didn't think anything of it at the time because we were ...
A. 23 June 2010: Also, there are these:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/girlfriends-sexual-past-is-causing-trouble-for-me.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cant-get-my-girlfriends-past-sex-life.html
best of luck -... (read in full...)
Is this depth of pain after a break up normal?
Q. Dear Cupid-- I've recently been broken up with. The world doesn't feel right anymore. I can feel my heart swelling in my chest and find myself physically ill. Driving home was almost impossible. I had to pull over to the side of the road to sob ...
A. 23 June 2010: Yes, finding someone who you can confide in is so important. When I broke up with my only real long time girlfriend of the past, I acted and felt just like you, including throwing up and horrid pain and hurt in the chest. You have emotions that are ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 23 June 2010: This has nothing to do with how we choose to conduct our present sex lives. It has everything to do with me feeling like there is a gap of understanding between my wife and I; that part of her is to me, completely other, unknown, undesirable. Your ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 22 June 2010: I don't feel that I'm sacrificing my ideals, but I do feel like she has sacrificed hers. What I feel I am sacrificing is the peace of mind during sex (as well as not during it) that I used to feel with my partners when I knew that what we were doing ... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship I know I need to get out of.
Q. I am in a relationship I know I need to get out of. The problem is I don't have any where to go. I guess I've gotten comfortably miserable over the past 4years. I used to be so happy and care free, I made funny statements all the time and people ...
A. 22 June 2010: My mistake!... (read in full...)
Is this really cheating, I feel cheated in my marriage.
Q. Two friends, a man and a woman, both married in their late 40s, the marriages are sexless and in trouble. We became sexually attracted from the lack of any intimacy at home. We talk often and sex is a hot topic between us. She asked me to have sex ...
A. 22 June 2010: To my eyes, I think you need to get a divorce before you go and sleep with this person. If the children obligation is too much to handle in terms of divorce, then I guess if I were in your position, I might cheat as well, but I think you're giving ... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship I know I need to get out of.
Q. I am in a relationship I know I need to get out of. The problem is I don't have any where to go. I guess I've gotten comfortably miserable over the past 4years. I used to be so happy and care free, I made funny statements all the time and people ...
A. 22 June 2010: I agree with the mouse down there completely. Set it into motion. It sounds like you already know what to do to improve your life, to try and be happy. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I'm either going to go crazy or just die from a broken heart!
Q. I'm so lost I don't even know what to ask. I am about to go crazy because I've been so sad for so long. Loneliness, feelings of worthlessness, and sadness are destroying me and I don't have anyone to talk to. I don't want to burden my friends and ...
A. 21 June 2010: I am struck by the parallel structure of your post. There are two things at work: your want to give and receive affection, and your want to give and receive sex. I admire your ability to withhold from sex, but in a sense, it is catching up with you. ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend act like this around me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have always been very close and share a deep bond. He is very loving and sweet. He has problems of his own though. He is struggling with a bad drug addiction and is staying with his dad who is very nasty to him. He is however ...
A. 21 June 2010: Be careful with the drug thing - it isn't entirely your job to take care of him, and he has his own responsibility to get off the stuff. Unlike the other aunts though, I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting Mommy. I would go so far as to ... (read in full...)
My husband has been sending emails to an exgirlfriend on Facebook!
Q. iv been with my husband 4 years now and just a few weeks ago he got in contact with a ex girlfriend on facebook, i found emails they had been sending to each other saying they still loved each other and that he counldnt wait to see her again and ...
A. 21 June 2010: I am only going on what you have offered here, but I would advise to leave this person. This is a very bad sign. Not only did he contact her, but he has lied to you about it. Protect yourself. I wish you nothing but luck. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to want other men to find you attractive if you are in a relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I are best friends and we are very open with each other. He has told me on a few occasions that his friends think im beautiful. I am very flattered by this. The truth is although I love my boyfriend very much and would never ...
A. 21 June 2010: I'm not a woman, but this seems to be very normal. Just because your with someone doesn't mean that everyone else suddenly disappears. I wouldn't feel guilty or strange about it; as long as you are honest with yourself about your intentions, it ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 21 June 2010: Dear anon (the last one), Yes, I know it is only up to me to decide, and like you would I feel very let down and disappointed for two reasons - that she did it and then that she lied about it to protect her interest. During the last few months,... (read in full...)
Should I tell him?
Q. I'm twenty-one years old. On my spring break vacation my friends and I met this cool group of guys, including "Joe." I was also hanging out with another guy I met, "Mike." Mike was the one I was "in love" with all week. Joe was cool- I spent one of ...
A. 18 June 2010: daletom's advice is pure gold. Really. But I'd tell him just to get it off my conscience; you may have some reassuring to do, and as long as he doesn't get angry, he's worth it. (perhaps?)
Yours, Kama ... (read in full...)
What does "i need a lil space" mean in a long distance relationship
Q. my boyfriend and i have a long distance relationship and been together a month and a half things have been going so well. however tonight (6/17/10) he told me he needs a lil space, thats hes depressed and doesnt know what to do and he will talk when ...
A. 18 June 2010: Only he can give you the answer; ask him.... (read in full...)
What causes someone to become a masochist?
Q. So I have come to terms that I am a masochist. I thought that I had biastophila but I do not want to be the inflictor, but the one who it's inflicted on. Am I considered damaged if I'm like this?? I wondered if there is a connection to th...
A. 18 June 2010: Reich (who is new to me) seems fascinating, but Freud is still, to the contrary very relevant to some of us (me). I don't know anything about masochism in terms of patterns and purposes, but I even if I did, I wouldn't be able to understand what ... (read in full...)
Why is it an insult to be labeled a feminist?
Q. Why is it an insult to be labeled a feminist now? A true feminist wants equality in every aspect. Why is that so bad? A true feminist never says things like, "the world would be better if women were in charge." A feminist just wants women and men to ...
A. 17 June 2010: It's now an insult because people don't read, and they follow, like a herd of cattle, what popular western culture provides for them, which at the present time is a load of crap about the backlash of feminism, etc. People don't read. I am a ... (read in full...)
Effects of abuse?
Q. So when I was younger like 6, I had a sexual experience with a boy who was almost 14. Then I had another with a couple ppl who were like family to me. I am a pretty strong person so I delt with it silently for many years. A good friend of mine who ...
A. 17 June 2010: Therapist, seconded. Best of luck... (read in full...)
How can I make him forget about my past and focus on the present?
Q. my boyfriend is finding out all about my past relationships and what i've done. these things im not proud of at all and i honestly don't have a reason why i did the things i did. he always gets mad at me whenever he remembers something he was once ...
A. 17 June 2010: This absolutely *is* your problem (mostly your boyfriend's, but also yours, IF you love him), and I disagree with all of the other posters. The worst thing you can do is "start being a bit angry." That will just make him more hurt and angry in... (read in full...)
Am I terrible if I am secretly happy when my ex encounters a problem?
Q. Does feeling like this make me a bad person I feel so happy when my X gets a problem and feel very bad when he achieves something i hate how i feel..but its something that automatically comes about... however i dont show it to anybody that i f...
A. 17 June 2010: You are still emotionally attached to him; that's why you care at all. It's normal. Contrary to Lola though, my advice is to stop pretending that you don't care. It will in the end make it harder to actually not care. Look at it in the face.
... (read in full...)
I think losing my virginity ruined my life! Please help!
Q. i had sex for the first time, and i loved him and i thought he loved me, but i guess not he used me and its been about 7 months sence then. i wasnt ready but he talked me into it, i cry myself asleep because of him. and now i feel like a whore, and ...
A. 17 June 2010: All the ladies are right. Stop having sex until you are older. Adults are confused by and have all sorts of problems with their sex lives. Kids have even MORE problems -- all the emotions you are going through will only get worse if you continue ... (read in full...)
Am I gay or is this a fetish?
Q. i am a young lad an iv always believed i am straight ive slept with quite a few girls an never really questioned my sexuality until the last year or so. it started when i was told by a friend about his girlfriend slipping a finger up his bu...
A. 17 June 2010: You sound bi to me. The finger in the bum don't mean your bi, but the other things you describe certainly lean in that direction. Have fun be safe my man... (read in full...)
HIs fantasy freaks me out!
Q. I'm 18 and I'm having sex with a 40 year old man. We met on the Internet and met up in a hotel for the night, we stay in hotels most weekends and have for a while. its really amazing and we are both sexually attracted to each other and have amazing ...
A. 17 June 2010: It certainly is more complex than that. I hope I did an OK job of explaining what I consider to be the complexity. :)... (read in full...)
HIs fantasy freaks me out!
Q. I'm 18 and I'm having sex with a 40 year old man. We met on the Internet and met up in a hotel for the night, we stay in hotels most weekends and have for a while. its really amazing and we are both sexually attracted to each other and have amazing ...
A. 16 June 2010: West,
just a couple of respectful thoughts in response to yours:
blowjobs feel completely different than vaginal intercourse. So there is a purpose outside of being dominant: to be pleasured in a new way.
Your views are also basic in ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused and don't know what to do...
Q. Me and one of my guys friends have been hanging out alot lately. We never really have before and all my friends think it's weird. I fell down the steps at a hotel ( we where there for a trip ) and I had been sitting in the stairwell for a good 15 ...
A. 15 June 2010: Just let it play out. You guys are really young. If you're not going out with him, then your not. Don't feel guilty. Your friends should trust you if you are telling them the truth.... (read in full...)
HIs fantasy freaks me out!
Q. I'm 18 and I'm having sex with a 40 year old man. We met on the Internet and met up in a hotel for the night, we stay in hotels most weekends and have for a while. its really amazing and we are both sexually attracted to each other and have amazing ...
A. 15 June 2010: Everyone's got something to say, and all for various reasons. This is really a loaded topic. I'll tell you what I think. There is a lot of posturing and knowitallness on this site. There are a lot of lonely people feeling like they matter on this ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Thank you Miamine, thank you Tisha.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Tisha,
I am reading Yos' postings now. Thank you for your help.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 9 June 2010: She does not have a personality disorder, and she is working through this with me. I still take the majority of the blame for this. Some of what R&B has speculated does not fit at all, but a lot of it does. Gottman's four Horsemen is also hugely ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: It means to listen. To not get mad. To pay attention to. To care. To be involved with. To understand. Taking a moment to recognize that my feelings matter. Taking several moments to do that. Maybe even going out of the way to show that she doesn't ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: R&B,
Thanks for the tips about psychologists. We had gone to see a graduate student about this, but she ended up dealing more with our larger patterns of misunderstanding one another in social situations (which was on my wife's mind more than min... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Just to clarify my position R&B, I don't appeal to God or Country in order to feel very relieved by your words, but I do to Family. I just wanted you to know that. :)... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Rhythm, You also said:
"You married your wife because of your strong sexual attraction to her, you discounted the less desirable aspects of her character and decided she ticked all the boxes and you married her. As long as she has been able to grow... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: Miamine,
Don't feel like you have to do me any favors. It's alright to just say what you mean.
Ryhtemandblues2,
I don't know how to thank you enough; your words are especially valuable to me because you are a woman. In a lot of ways you are ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 6 June 2010: Gabrielle,
You may, if you still feel you would like to.
Miamine,
My wife was rejected by a couple of men in her life, one in particular, that she claims sort of set off this behavior, so you are again insightful. She says that she was so... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 4 June 2010: Star888
appreciated. peace. (!)... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 4 June 2010: Microphone check. Just testing to see if anyone has anything else to add. I appreciated your responses so much - If not, thank you. ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 2 June 2010: I realized after reading my last post that it would help people to understand what I mean by "trashy," which seems more and more to me what this is all about in some Fed up way.
Trashy = being with men (and women) whose sole interest in you is to h... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 2 June 2010: I'm still completely bogged down with work responsibilities, but really want to get back to this, if even in a short way. This evening, I am free to actually respond in full, and I am looking forward to it. These are going to be quick responses - ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: I've got work day from hell right now, but I'm really honored that people are responding - it makes me feel quite honored to have your ears, even if just for a moment. I will respond back to each of you asap. Thank you so much, all of you.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: YouWish,
I don't believe in unconditional love. All love has conditions. I see through your response that you envision me as a self loving puritan. I don't. I can answer yes to all of your questions and still feel relatively fine while admittin... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: Starmonster888, "Your respect and affection for her and her integrity is contributing to your dilemma because you can't understand why she abused it" Do you think I should *want* to understand it? That's some insightful sh**. Outside p... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: Starmonster888,
I real appreciate the initial response *and the boiled down version a lot. When you say substance, do you mean emotional or sexual, or both? What's your take? Can you have both at the same time? Is monkey face kinky sex possible... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 31 May 2010: Gabrielle,
Thanks so much. I know she doesn't want to repeat it; I trust that. For a smart man, that might be enough, but I am irrationally compelled to understand it, like (absorb?) it in a mental capacity, and answers like yours (and hers, of c... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 31 May 2010: I would still love to hear other responses too!... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 31 May 2010: Thank you anonymous. I think I've just spent so much time feeling like a failure when it comes to this that I have sort of adopted the role. In a world where nearly everyone just resorts to some tired cliche (let sleeping dogs lie, the past is the ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 30 May 2010: Dear Truth,
I suspect that you'll be surprised to find that my wife did not cheat on me; she had this experience about 1 year before we were together. I'm a pretty insecure guy, at least in the psycho-sexual way, and I have had a tough time for... (read in full...)
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