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... Send *erinity a private message | | | *erinity's profile:I am a 32 year old female and I live in Virginia. I grew up as a military brat and I was in the Navy for 3 years, so I never really grew up in one particular area. I am open, honest and quite versitile because of my background. I have been through MANY different situations, both good and bad. I never really had anyone to talk to or to give me advice through all of the situations I've been through. So I've had to learn a lot on my own and I've learned a lot. I enjoy offering advise based on things I've learned along the way and particularly situations that I can relate to. I'm a people pleaser so I love helping people in any way that I'm able to. I especially enjoy helping teens because I know that if I had someone to explain things to me and offer me advise when I was a teen then I would have made it though a lot of situations without enduring as much pain and sorrow as I did. But they made me strong and I don't regret that part of it. If I can save one life, then I've done well. If I can help save more, then I can rest in peace when it's my time to go. God bless everyone! |
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Do women find penises attractive?
Q. Do women find penises attractive? As a guy I know I'd get easily turned on by thinking of vaginas and boobs, but do women think the same way about a man's penis?...
A. 26 October 2008: Definitely!!!... (read in full...)
I was going to meet my online date but he revoked the meeting. No sign of him since, do I move on?
Q. I have been online dating on and off for a few years and just haven't found that special chemistry. I emailed a guy from a dating site back in August and he finally replied just this month telling me his job kept him busy for that time of the year. ...
A. 18 March 2008: Good! I am so happy for you. Glad I could help!... (read in full...)
I was going to meet my online date but he revoked the meeting. No sign of him since, do I move on?
Q. I have been online dating on and off for a few years and just haven't found that special chemistry. I emailed a guy from a dating site back in August and he finally replied just this month telling me his job kept him busy for that time of the year. ...
A. 13 March 2008: Wonderful, congratulations!!! I think I recommended not giving up too soon. You go girl!... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 12 March 2008: Whoo-Hoo!!! You go girl!!! Did you try the sunflower seeds yet? They have really helped me a lot. It's a time consuming snack so it keeps me occupied. Don't give up the fight, you're winning the battle and surely you can win the war. Good luck ... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex, do I tell my fiance?
Q. I slept with my ex bf..bt i still haven't told my finance that I did. He is open minded but we come from traditional backgrounds and I don't think he will accept that..what should I do? ...
A. 11 March 2008: You shouldn't sleep with your ex bf, that's what! But now that the deed is already done, it's only fair that you tell your fiance. Let him make the decision if he wants to marry someone who has already been unfaithful to him. If it destroys your ... (read in full...)
Am I gay or is it just my hormones?
Q. Ok, I'm sorry for the length of my question... I'm really confused and don't know what to do, I sometimes think I'm gay/bi but I just don't know! I've previously liked girls from school and at the moment I like one girl an awful lot! I also know ...
A. 5 March 2008: Sweetie, this is quite common for your age. You are still in the process of trying to define who you are, so it's perfectly natural to have mixed emotions and confusing hormones. Take your time to find out who you are and what you like, there's no ... (read in full...)
Could it be over before it even began?
Q. i am just out of a three year relationship with a guy my age. a week before we split i cheated on him with a 35 yr old. i am now falling very hard for this 35yr old, we;ve spent the gist of these past two weeks together and i can count on one hand ...
A. 5 March 2008: I would say it depends on what kind of relationship you are seeking with this guy. If it's to have a long term relationship then the answer is obvious. He's made it perfectly clear that he doesn't want a committed relationship and that he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Suspicious text message. Could he be cheating?
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, I am pregnant also. He is besotted with me as I am with him. Last weekend was one of the very few times ever he went out without me, he came home at 1.42am, I know as I looked at the clock. H...
A. 5 March 2008: He very well could be cheating but witout proof it's hard to make accusations. I would just lay low for awhile and see if he acts suspicious again. I would silently keep an eye on his texting and phone calls. If he is cheating and he doesn't ... (read in full...)
I like her but I don't know what to say to her.
Q. i like this girl when im round hir i dont now what to say to hir? she is 14 in december im 15 in march do you think i am the wrong age for hir? im not very good at making Conversation and no to sure what to talk about ? im not to sure how to ask ...
A. 5 March 2008: How can you be the wrong age for her when your almost the same age? I would just tell her that you are interested in getting to know her better and see where it goes from there. Good luck sweetie!... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my friends calling me names?
Q. My family is kinda well off but my friends think that because were well off I'm spoiled and it's really hurtful to hear them talking about me behind my back and saying things that aren't true what should I do?...
A. 29 February 2008: Ignore them. They're not really friends if they put you down and talk behind your back. They're probably jealous because they don't have all the things you have, and that's nothing to be ashamed of. You should be proud that your parents have ... (read in full...)
Her not texting me back is really doing my head in!!!
Q. Hi, I met a girl on the weekend, went back to her house with my mate and her mate. We didn't do anything just watched a film and fell asleep together on the couch. I got her number and I'm always first to text. When we text she seems interest...
A. 29 February 2008: I think you've established your interest in her. Just because she doesn't respond immediately doesn' mean she's not interested. She could just be a busy person. I wouldn't constantly text her if she doesn't respond right away as that can send a ... (read in full...)
Why do some women choose 'bad boys' over 'normal' guys, as nine times out of ten, they get hurt in the end?
Q. Why do some women choose 'bad boys' over 'normal' guys, as nine times out of ten, they get hurt in the end?...
A. 29 February 2008: I can only speak from experience, but I'd say it's the excitement. "Bad boys" bring a certain level of excitement to thrill seekers. We're not thinking about the end result we are diving into the unknown. I learned the hard way, and yes, a lot of ... (read in full...)
What should I do when my boyfriend said to me that he still loves his ex girlfriend?
Q. What should I do when my boyfriend said to me that he still loves his ex girlfriend? Will I continue this commitment? please help me......
A. 29 February 2008: You should let him go. How can he love you the way you deserve to be loved if his heart belongs to her? He can't. I know it hurts but at least he was honest with you. You can't force love and you can't change it. I would walk away from this ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help give me tips to lose 30kg?
Q. I really have to lose about 30kg. I need help please. Anything that would work? I do swim and walk about 2 kilometres a day but it doesn't seem to work. Please help me. thx. xxx....
A. 29 February 2008: Diet and exercise are the obvious answers. But the secret is to find an exercise that you enjoy doing. I found Tae-Boe and kick boxing and I absolutely love it! Not only am I doing a vigerous work out but I'm relieving stress and by the time I'm ... (read in full...)
She's due out of jail soon and is claiming to have "found the Lord". She wants to come home... should I take her back?
Q. Briefly as I can: situation I am 58, ex is 42. She is in jail {6 months} and will be getting out soon. I was married 20 years 1 [15 year old daughter] left. This woman has stole credit cards, bank checks over the 20 years amounting to $100,000 ...
A. 29 February 2008: Your not stupid by any means. When we love someone so much we tend to tollerate things we wouldn't normally put up with from just anyone. I certainly wouldn't take her back right away though.
She may have found the Lord and I know from per... (read in full...)
I'm single again, but a little out of practice with dating... Help!
Q. Hi 2 all, I finished with my ex in december and i'm ready to look for someone new, but i'm not sure how brutal the dating world is nowadays, as i've been off the market for a while. Any tips or advice from anyone? Please it would help me and i ...
A. 29 February 2008: Yes, be yourself, that is #1. You want to attract men who accept you and love you for who you are and not who you think they want you to be.
#2 - Don't rush into anything, take your time. Get to know your date before you hop into the sack wit... (read in full...)
There are two sides to every story...
Q. it appears i have been written about on this site by my previous partner.first of all the facts she has written are to an extent untrue.Yes i lived with her for 2 years without a job and no i did'nt sit my fat ass on the sofa all day long or on the ...
A. 28 February 2008: You're right, there are two sides to every story but we can only respond to what the poster stated. And if you read her post you realize what she really put you down and didn't explain the issues at hand as you did. Not only that, but if your ... (read in full...)
Please help so I can stop stressing about unwanted pregnancy!
Q. Hii all, well the only way to start this is that i've managed to get myself into a right old panic atm. Thing is i had sex with my boyfriend without using a condom, stupid idea i know but i am on the contraceptive pill. I know all about th...
A. 27 February 2008: Most contaceptive pills are 99.8% effective, so if he didn't actually ejaculate inside of you, your chances of being pregnant are slim to none. I wouldn't worry so much about it. ... (read in full...)
Why would my 15 year old have open diapers inside her closet? I have not mentioned my discovery yet.
Q. Well, I was cleaning through my daughters room as usual while she was at school and I go through her closet to clean it up and all and I find a bag of diapers (open) inside her closet. I wasn't really sure what to think at the moment besides that I ...
A. 27 February 2008: Her size? Do you think she has a bladder problem that she may be to embarrassed to talk about? Could she be using them in place of maxi-pads? I would continue to monitor the diaper situation before you say anything. Maybe count them and see how ... (read in full...)
I helped him find his mother and she has separated us, what can I do?
Q. me and my fiance was together 2 and a half years and planned to get married in june 08, but he wanted to find his birth mum so i helped him do this,anyways we found her in july 07 and in novemeber 07 he went to live with her, ending our ...
A. 27 February 2008: Why does his mom hate you? You say he's afraid that she'll leave him again. So she should be happy that you helped him find her. I know some moms don't like their sons spouses because they feel like they take their "little boys" away from them. ... (read in full...)
Hmmmm.... do I believe her story? Do you???
Q. I left town for two weeks and when I came back one of our condoms was missing. She told me that her daughter's dad tried to have sex with her and she said no and he slept on the floor in the living room where I pay rent. She said she was out by ...
A. 27 February 2008: Bits and pieces may be true, but you've got to know that's not the whole truth. Out by herself (I doubt that). She probably met him for a few drinks, got drunk (yes I believe that part) and went back to your place and had sex with her ex. Whether ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I'm not allowed to go out with a boy?
Q. So I'm a 14 year old girl. Through out my whole life I've always been a very nice and shy girl. Since I'm in grade 8 now, I'm around more people, I'm even more shy. This boy in my class(13) likes me and he has asked me out a few times and I have ...
A. 26 February 2008: First of all, honesty is the best policy. You'll spend more time trying to work your way around the truth unless you just come out and say it. I used to be the same way as you. I tried not to turn down a date because I didn't want to hurt anyones ... (read in full...)
This relationship puts a great financial strain on me. Should I continue being with her?
Q. My girl friend does not make her exhusband pay child support for his 2 kids (because he is a whiny baby) he does nothing for his kids only on christmas. When they come to his house for the weekend, he does not have food for them most of the time. ...
A. 22 February 2008: Well, she should stop backing down and persue child support. It's not fair to her kids or you. I'm not saying it's worth walking away from the relationship, but she shouldn't be worrying about him whining at this point. He isn't concerned about ... (read in full...)
This relationship puts a great financial strain on me. Should I continue being with her?
Q. My girl friend does not make her exhusband pay child support for his 2 kids (because he is a whiny baby) he does nothing for his kids only on christmas. When they come to his house for the weekend, he does not have food for them most of the time. ...
A. 22 February 2008: Financially you may be in a bind for a while, yes. But is it worth giving up a woman whom you love and who you share a child with? If you are contemplaing walking away from this relationship over finances then what are you going to do when things ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him what she said or not??
Q. I was on myspace and one of my friends sent me a message that my boy friends ex had written saying that Corey (my bf) was telling her how he loved me but loved her more than me. But when I confronted him about it he just said his cousin was the one ...
A. 21 February 2008: At this point I don't think it matters if he's the one who wrote that stuff or not. Actions speak louder than words and you slept with someone else. Should you tell him? Yes, it would be the right thing to do, but are you willing to deal with the ... (read in full...)
I have never been able to open up to anyone like I can my friend but don't think I am gay. What can I do??
Q. I am 24 and mormon.......I never have been attracted to women in any way. Over the past couple months I have begun hanging out with this girl who is also mormon. We had been casual friends for about a year but then found out we had tons in commo...
A. 21 February 2008: So, I don't understand? If you don't think you're gay then what's the problem?... (read in full...)
It intimidates me that she is smarter! And she loves me although I don't see why!
Q. I don't know if there's anyone out there with this problem but my girlfriend is alot smarter than me which imtidate me alot.She went to USC and I dropped out of community college after one semester because I simply can't speak in front of a group ...
A. 21 February 2008: It seems as if you have a lack of self esteem. If you think she is so great and smart and she loves you, then that should make you feel good. You say she's smart right? So don't you think she's smart enough to know who she wants to be with and ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and have slept with a married man, now I don't know what to do.
Q. im gay and 27. i fell in love with a coloured guy and he is striagt married and has 3 kids. he is 30. we slept together and now i dont know what to do, can you please help me. i realy like this guy. ...
A. 21 February 2008: Well, I don't know if I would consider him "straight" if he had sexual intercourse with you. But he is married with 3 kids. I believe it would be best if you just cut your losses and move on. If you persue him and destroy his family you will only ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me 3 times and I can't get over it...
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me three times. Twice in the first month, and then the third time was in the third month. We've talked about it all and it's been 8 months, and I still feel bad. He's a lovely boyfriend and I know he hasn't done it since, ...
A. 20 February 2008: If you had only known eachother a couple days was a committed relationship established? Because if not, then technically that's not cheating. It's not good by any means, but it's not cheating unless there was some kind of relationship/committment ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me 3 times and I can't get over it...
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me three times. Twice in the first month, and then the third time was in the third month. We've talked about it all and it's been 8 months, and I still feel bad. He's a lovely boyfriend and I know he hasn't done it since, ...
A. 20 February 2008: It's disrespectful and degrading, why should you get over it? There are so many red flags here sweetie. First of all he knew it was a fear of yours yet he still did it, not just once or twice, but three times. 2nd of all by doing so he's ... (read in full...)
Finsh him or stay with him?
Q. right... I have been going oout with this boy for nearly 3 weeks and I really like him.But his friend, (who is my friend also), told me that my boyfriend is going to dump me if this girl fancys him. I dont know what to do, finsh him or stay with him...
A. 15 February 2008: Confront your boyfriend and ask him about it. It could be true or it could be a rumor. If you break it off with him over a rumor you will probably regret it. He may not be 100% honest with you either, so when you ask him look for signs of ... (read in full...)
Do you think I could win her over or not??
Q. Hey. Today I told the girl I like how I feel. I thought she liked me but when I told her her response was "i like you but not in that way. You're like my best friend. I mean thing change and maybe feelings change. I just want to stay freinds ...
A. 14 February 2008: Then you need to honor that by just being her friend for right now. Feelings do change and if you're there for her as a friend and not trying to push her into a relationship then it's very possible that her feelings may grow more to be more ... (read in full...)
Does she want me or not??
Q. My girl friend is very hard to understand there are times when i feel like she wants me then other times she acts like she doesn't want me around; during these times i'll try to call her and she doesn't answer me so then i stop trying. After ...
A. 14 February 2008: I think you just need to come out and tell her exactly that. Communication goes a long way. She lets you know how she feels when you don't answer the phone right? Tell her how it makes you feel when she does the same to you. And if you want her ... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill but my period has showed no signs of stopping...is this normal??
Q. Hey Aunts, Ive been put on the pill and started it on the first day of my periods last month, ive been on the pill for 3 weeks and my period still hasnt stopped and shows no signs of stopping. Is this normal?...
A. 8 February 2008: Same thing happend to me when I took the pill. I continued for almost 2 months before I stopped taking it. The doctor gave me a different kind of pill and it worked perfectly. I'd call your doctor and ask them if you can try a different brand. ... (read in full...)
Do we all have a purpose??
Q. Do we all have a purpose? I wonder how can you explain,if your life doesn't go well?I mean if its a complete disaster. Is the best way , to think, it is happening for a reason? Or that you are punished? Or what is the best way to explain downfall? ...
A. 8 February 2008: Optimistic vs. Pesimistic
It is said that we all have a purpose but I suppose it comes down to your beliefs. I think it's easier for us to accept the bad things that happen from an optimistic point of view, such as "everything happens for a re... (read in full...)
I'm stalking my ex, do I need help?
Q. Help im becoming obbsessed with going to my local pub where hoping to see my ex,and his mates i go at least once a week but im always thinking about going there, i sometimes go past the pub hoping to see my exs car, or even go and walk past his ...
A. 8 February 2008: Yeah, you need to let him go. All you're doing is prolonging your misery. I know it's hard to let someone go when you love them, but sometimes we don't have a choice. The sooner you stop looking for him the sooner you'll get over him. As they ... (read in full...)
Should he make more noise when he comes?
Q. I always need to release the sexual pleasure/tension obtained during intercourse by crying out and moaning etc. My boyfriend says nothing but sweats like mad-his only noise is a series of gasps when he orgasms.Is this normal for a man as he's only ...
A. 8 February 2008: Yes honey, it's very normal. Men aren't as vocal as us ladies when it comes to sex. ... (read in full...)
I noticed a hard lump on my vagina about the size of half a pea. Please help!
Q. Ok, I didn't notice this until today, it's pretty gross... but I have like a hard lump on my vagina about the size of half a pea. On the outside. It doesn't hurt, it's just... there. I've tried googling this but every site tells me to stop having ...
A. 7 February 2008: I agree with the others, go to the doctor and have it checked out. Sounds like it might be a cyst. I had one that grew just on the inside of my vagina years ago. The doctor found it during a routine OBGYN check up. It was not cancerous and he ... (read in full...)
Do I take the man up on his offer to ease the tension between me and my man?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years. we have a 5 month old child together a he has custody of my other daughter. He has issues with intimacy and it has taken a toll on my emotions and the way i act towards him sometimes. I ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hell no woman!!! Your married and regardless if he's not meeting your needs it's not right to look to another man to fill the voids. You need to try and work this out with your husband. Explain that his lack of intimacy is putting a strain on ... (read in full...)
Why can't I move on?
Q. My ex partner and I were together for 7 years then split up a year ago. He got a girlfriend straight away, almost too quick if you get my drift. He cheated on me twice in the relationship. I am still in love with him and he keeps phoning and texting ...
A. 6 February 2008: Look sweetie, I know it's hard to let go of someone you love, but look at it this way.... He cheated on you twice, he got into another relationship immediately after yours ended and he's phoning you and texting you and telling you that he still ... (read in full...)
I was going to meet my online date but he revoked the meeting. No sign of him since, do I move on?
Q. I have been online dating on and off for a few years and just haven't found that special chemistry. I emailed a guy from a dating site back in August and he finally replied just this month telling me his job kept him busy for that time of the year. ...
A. 31 January 2008: I would give it a little bit of time before you give up. If he really did lose his job then that could be why he's not available right now. He's probably an emotional wreck with the fear of finding a new job and loss of income and probably feeling ... (read in full...)
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