Is it odd that a strong personality like this guy I had a fling with, wanted the woman to take charge romantically/sexually?
Q. I had a fling with a guy (all we wanted from each other) which was around a month long. It was something out of character for me, but I really liked him, so what the heck. Only live once. What was odd was that his bedroom personality and real wor...
A. 30 December 2011: Some men enjoy the submissive role in bed when they're intimate.
The problem is your definition of "intimate". To me intimate means a lot more than just the sex. If he's still reserved about his feelings towards you or anything, its possible... (read in full...)
Do all women taste the same?
Q. Hey everyone :) Im abit confused...me and my boyfriend got on the subject last night about givin each other oral. He said that a i tasted amazing :) which is good for both of us because we do enjoy it alot. But my question is... Do all woman tast...
A. 30 December 2011: As a man I can tell you women taste different. Diet can change the taste a little bit, but all the women I've gone down on have tasted different.
That's okay, it doesn't matter because when you're giving pleasure to someone, the taste is secondar... (read in full...)
PLEASE! I need an outsider's perspective about this relationship.
Q. I had a bf almost a year ago whom I had broken up with because I found out he was cheating on me. This had hurt me so severely I was depressed for months, had nightmares and developed a phobia on certain things and places. For some reason, my ...
A. 30 October 2011: Kudos to you. I am so happy you finally found happiness.... (read in full...)
Lost love contacted me after 10 years, I love him, but we're both in relationships
Q. my ex-boyfriend got a hold of me a few months ago.he tells me he loves me and i sitll love him too.we broke up ten years ago and lost contact.i moved out of state.he recently found me on facebook and we have been talking over the phone and texting. ...
A. 25 December 2010: This one's a really sad situation. You didn't mention the reasons why you broke up with the ex boyfriend.
Honestly, it sounds like if you go ahead with this, if he wants you badly enough, he should get a divorce. Then you and he have to decide h... (read in full...)
My strategy failed: I lied to my bf saying I was pregant to try to get him back. Would telling him I miscarried work?
Q. OK; soo i Have an ex boyfriend and i am still in love with him... i would love to know how to get him back ? he is my very first love, but i think i made a mistake. Because i lied to him and told him i was pregnant, just to see if he would come back ...
A. 25 December 2010: Yeah I'd say you used the dirtiest, lowest trick in the world to get your guy back.
Any relationship based on lies is doomed to fail miserably.
Please let him go. Be honest with him. Don't trap him. Its not fair what you're doing and deep d... (read in full...)
How do you know if he loves you?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about two months. He told me that he's never felt this way about anybody before that it actually scares him how much he likes me. He calls me almost everyday, tells me I'm beautiful and that he cant believe I'm ...
A. 25 December 2010: He probably has some deep feelings for you.
Are you upset that he is more into you than you are into him?
What you wrote says he's deeply bonded to you, and wants to please you in anyway possible. That's love.
Are you holding back because... (read in full...)
I like him but I'm really not sure where the relationship can go
Q. I met this guy sometime back online. But, he lives out of town. We went out twice and then he went back home. The second time he was here I told him I didn't see us together but after a few weeks I started missing him. So, we continued to chat via ...
A. 25 December 2010: Long distance relationships do work, but are very hard.
Ask him what he would do to be with you more often, and ask yourself what you would do to be with him more often.
I can understand the distance. I don't know how far away he is from you d... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend the monster wants to try again!
Q. I don't know what is right or wrong anymore about love. My exbf was a monster. He ripped my heart out and taunted and did vicious things to me for entire year after he dumped me. I went all the way down hill and hibernated but he still found ways to ...
A. 25 December 2010: You can't change the past. What's done is done. Whatever will be will be.
The only thing you can do is move on. I used to believe in 2nd chances. I had someone do the exact same thing to me. She dumped me and didn't even do it to my face. Just an ... (read in full...)
How do you break a relationship that isn't honest to start with?
Q. I've been in an open relationship with someone for almost 3 months but I've been treating it as if it was a real relationship. I know open relationships are shallow and I really hate them but she didn't want a real one. The worse thing is that I ...
A. 25 December 2010: Just tell her its not working for you because you have deeper feelings for her than she does for you.
There's no reason why it would make much of a difference to her.
It does make a difference to you. But ask yourself why you find yourself so... (read in full...)
Since I told him I have herpes he won't contact me...
Q. Hi everyone i went to the gum clinc and found i had herpes i got treated and told my partner of 3 and half years to get treated at clinc. When i told him i had it he looked at me like he hated me and was disgusted, i walked out crying and he hasnt ...
A. 25 October 2010: Reading your follow up all I can say is I feel terrible for you.
HSV2 is not the end of the world. It can be controlled and if you stay healthy, and it goes dormant it may never resurface again.
As far as your ex-boyfriend/par... (read in full...)
Since I told him I have herpes he won't contact me...
Q. Hi everyone i went to the gum clinc and found i had herpes i got treated and told my partner of 3 and half years to get treated at clinc. When i told him i had it he looked at me like he hated me and was disgusted, i walked out crying and he hasnt ...
A. 24 October 2010: Is this oral herpes, like cold sores? Or is this genital herpes?
People do have cold sores, and that's not uncommon.
Herpes itself strikes 1 out of 7 or 8 people worldwide.
And the next question is, do you know where you got it from? Was it ... (read in full...)
Pregnant with my abusive partner's 2nd child and find out he is married
Q. I am pregnant and have a 9 month old with my fiance. He is emotionally and mentally abusive, gives me hell, won't help around the house, etc most of the time. Although he has his sweet days... he blames his anguish on his job ( he is a corrections ...
A. 18 October 2010: If you don't have transportation, contact the local battered womens' shelter and have them send someone out to get you.... (read in full...)
I am so angry he cheated on somebody with me!
Q. So i invited this guy from my college round for a party, by the end of the night it was just me and him, we spoke for ages and felt closer to him, which later led on to the most amazing sex i've ever had. a couple of nights after i went to talk to ...
A. 18 October 2010: You think women get used like this? Men do to.
Bottom line here is, you didn't know he was "seeing" someone. More to the point, he may not be seeing anyone in particular.
It sounds to me like you got a nice hookup, but that's all it was.
P... (read in full...)
Pregnant with my abusive partner's 2nd child and find out he is married
Q. I am pregnant and have a 9 month old with my fiance. He is emotionally and mentally abusive, gives me hell, won't help around the house, etc most of the time. Although he has his sweet days... he blames his anguish on his job ( he is a corrections ...
A. 18 October 2010: Take the child, find a battered womens' shelter, file for child support, and serve the papers on him at his wife's home.
Then leave town.... (read in full...)
We've been on a break for three weeks and I hate it
Q. So this is the first time I've ever done anything like this so bare with me. I've loved the idea of love for as long as I can remember. So my story is I met this girl that I feel in love with about 4-5 months ago. We dated for almost 2 months and ...
A. 18 October 2010: You're overthinking this way out of proportion.
You've only known her for a short while. Though you may think you're in love with her, it sounds more like a combination of loneliness and depression that drags you down.
Let me say this much, i... (read in full...)
I thought he might be controlling, but I'm having trouble letting go
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 6 years, we recently broke up. When we first started I was in the process of a divorse. He used to be really mean to me, called me names, accused me of sleeping with my ex or anyone else for that matter. We had a ...
A. 26 August 2010: The man you're describing is extraordinarily insecure with himself.
If you really love him, he needs to fix his issues. One of them is trust. He's holding back on something.
You two should be able to communicate all of your feelings towards... (read in full...)
Being ignored?
Q. I am a female...who is on a dating site...I get more attention than I can handle...and guys are literally proposing online...I am not sure why ...but they do....I met this one man....that out of them ALL I felt I clicked with....we talked a ...
A. 26 August 2010: Online dating is a pandora's box. You can find a prince charming or you can find a toad.
Unless and until you meet him in a public place, and get to know him in person, and can build trust in a normal, slow paced way; you will be disappoi... (read in full...)
Stepchild Dilema
Q. My 20 year old son from a prior marriage asked to live with my husband and I for a short time as he unexpectedly landed a job near our house and the commute from his home was too long. My son had 2 days notice before starting so the notice to me ...
A. 26 August 2010: You should never be forced to choose between children and husband.
From what you've written your son respected your husband's wishes and moved back out.
I am confused here though. If your husband puts your marriage first, including being ... (read in full...)
So how many men are honestly happy with their spouses chest?
Q. So how many men are honestly happy with their spouses chest? Honestly and anonomously?! I'm 31 years old, in-shape, but not a runway model. I'm 5'8", and 145 lbs, and have a 36D/DD bust, and I have no kids. My breasts have always been large for m...
A. 26 August 2010: How you see yourself is not necessarily how he sees you.
If he loves you, he isn't going to care if your breasts are 36DD or 36A. You're the woman he married.
He probably thinks of you, or sees you, as you were when he first met you. And pro... (read in full...)
No One Likes My Husband
Q. Help! My husband and I have separated after 10 years of marriage due to the way he treated/rejected my adult child. We are working on our relationship, however, I have just been made aware that no one in my family likes him at all and has only ...
A. 26 August 2010: I've been in the situation your husband is in. It may be OCD or its likely he didn't feel welcome, only tolerated.
Adult children have a way of taking out their frustrations and anger on someone who's new to their parent, and being over protecti... (read in full...)
I lied and told her I was involved when I'm not but I don't want her to hurt me again!
Q. I just need a reality check here, to make sure I'm not being an idiot. A year ago I started an affair with a woman. We were both married at the time. Shortly after we met, my wife and I decided to separate, and I kept seeing this other woman. She...
A. 20 July 2010: I will honestly tell you if she left or split up with you before, and then you broke it off. The answer is she's just not available except for the two of you to enjoy a mutual, user-usee relationship.
Frankly, if she really loved you, she would fi... (read in full...)
What has changed with online dating?
Q. Besides becoming more popular, has online dating changed somehow over the last 3 years? I've done the online dating thing on and off for a few years and if I was interested in my dates had about a 25% success ratio, meaning multiple dates, ...
A. 10 July 2010: The ratio of men to women is 20:1. So there are 19 other guys competing for every 1 gal who's advertising on the net.
Add to that the pros and webcammers who are gold-digging for cash, and it complicates things tremendously.
You have to s... (read in full...)
Is he secretly holding a grudge, or is he really over what I've done?
Q. I have been with my partner for three years now, and in that time he has been perfect. He is loyal, respectful, loving and kind. However, I myself havent not been an angel. Although I didn't do anything obviously wrong I have sometimes crossed the ...
A. 10 July 2010: Define "inappropriate contact". Is this to mean you had sexual chats with strange men over the internet?
Some men are secure enough to realize that you're going to stray and they know you'll still tough it out with them. Perhaps you keep doing th... (read in full...)
Is there anything romantic about having sex with a prostitute?
Q. I'm not going to lie. I have made love to prostitutes before. I have tried to be gentle with them (women of course). But I want to know...is there anything romantic or beautiful about making love to prostitutes? I need to get it off my conscience. I ...
A. 10 July 2010: I suppose if you enjoy her company, it may be romantic to you.
As for the woman, she sees you as a customer.
Sometimes sex workers do get attached to some customers. But its not the same thing.
I'd say you're having great sex because you pa... (read in full...)
Should I leave my wife for the love of my life?
Q. I have been married for almost 25 years now, other than sex , we have never had much of a relationship, We could drive across country and speak very little to each other. She is deeply in love with me. We have four children but only one is left at ...
A. 10 July 2010: If you are certain you could split up your marriage amicably.
I do not see how your wife is so dependent upon you that she could not in any way survive without you.
If you died would your wife die?
Now to the more important part. It seems... (read in full...)
My husband wants to end our marriage because I don't want to join his religion, what can I do?
Q. Hi everyone I am a 22yrs married woman and also have a 5yr old son!!!!my problem is my hussy is muslim and i started liking the islam way.... than after sometime i wanna to become muslim, but then I changed my mind! but my hussy said he will end the ...
A. 4 July 2010: Obviously he's fallen out of love with you and in love with Islam. Just get a divorce and find someone else who is not so brainwashed as to believe that YOU must believe in whatever he's just adopted as his new faith.
I've seen this happen w... (read in full...)
Stay Married or Separate - Stepdaughter issues
Q. I am in my second marriage now for 7 years as of February 2010. I am contemplating separation due to my stepdaughter and I don't feel as if I love my wife. My stepdaughter is 22 now. I came into her life when she was 15 and I sort of knew that this ...
A. 4 July 2010: I can see you're still suffering because of the step daughter.
Sadly, some children have an attitude of entitlement. That is they're entitled to free room, board, food, clothes, cars, and all of it at the expense of parents and step-par... (read in full...)
Why is my father cheating on my mother?
Q. I'm devastated at my father. I'm 26 yrs old and stay with my parents. My parents r both physicians and married almost 28 yrs. My father has been known to cheat with countless women but stiLl takes care Of home. I don't know why my mother stays in ...
A. 4 July 2010: Money, position, wealth are neither a good substitute for sexual attraction or frankly sexuality.
Its very possible that your parents do love each other, but your mom long ago considered your dad to be sexually faithful and simply relies on him a... (read in full...)
Can detox medication work as birth control?
Q. Hi i have a question, the past 3 days i have been taking detox medication to detox my body and last night i had unprotected sex but he didnt cum inside of me, i work up and took my regular detox medication, will the detox medication prevent me from ...
A. 4 July 2010: Probably not. Quite frankly if I were you I'd go over to a local pharmacy and get "Plan B" if its not too late.... (read in full...)
Could her friends be wrong? Am I right for her?
Q. I recently dated a woman who is also dating another man. Mutual friends of her and the other man set them up. I asked her to explain her current situation because i was unsure why after 3 months she would be dating someone in addition to him. She ...
A. 4 July 2010: I'll throw my 2 cents worth into this.
If she's dating two men at once, one man is going to get dumped. There's no issue here. She might cake-eat for awhile, but its obvious you know about the other man, but he may or may not know about you.
... (read in full...)
Stupid or just plan silly in love?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am hurt. I recently reconnected with my high school crush. He indicated strongly that he is interested in me. I feel same way about him. However we do not live in the same town. He lives in a smaller town. I recently learnt ...
A. 2 June 2010: He's a philanderer and is telling you whatever he thinks you want to hear so he can get into your panties.
Basically, he will never make you happy; the relationship appears to be a dead-end; and he is obviously committed to this other nameless... (read in full...)
She went from warm to cold in 48 hours..what happened?
Q. Right guys, this will be long, been seeing a girl now for 6 weeks or so, everything was going great. We really clicked, loads in common, she kept saying we should go here and do this go here and do that, which i was cool with. I did the same and...
A. 25 April 2010: The human heart is fickle to be sure.
Your lady friend does not know what she wants in her life. And though she likes being around you, and probably saw potential in you, she's too scared to go forward right now.
This could be due to a number ... (read in full...)
Are all men just about sex?
Q. Ok so he's a teacher while I was his student before and we're in love. And we have already agreed to wait until the right time comes. I just want to know if this guy also looks for sex like most of the other men do? I can't say because he acts ...
A. 2 April 2010: No its not all about sex. Some men do love their women, and they want to form a bond that they hope will last. The sex is important to everyone, men and women. Sometimes its not as important to both at the same time.
But let's face it. If there we... (read in full...)
Men & affairs--what's it really all about?
Q. Do men who have affairs really enjoy having another woman or does it all become a bit of a chore keeping everything secret? Plus do these men just latch on to anyone who'll have them - or is there always an attraction there?...
A. 2 April 2010: Men and women have affairs for all sorts of reasons.
The chances are that one in every 2 marriages will experience an affair from either the wife or the husband (or possibly both).
Some of the reasons people have affairs:
1 - They feel u... (read in full...)
My partner seems confused, he wants to break it off then he doesn't. Help!
Q. hi, where to start, Been with my partner only a short period of time but in that time things have been really good, we have met each others families, friends and all get on very well. Every couple has a moment and we had one at 6 months and worke...
A. 31 March 2010: I would suggest you hold of contact. Let him miss you, not the other way around. This may help him edge closer to a decision and whether to commit to you, or at the very least open himself to you so you can at least decide if he's worth the ... (read in full...)
My partner seems confused, he wants to break it off then he doesn't. Help!
Q. hi, where to start, Been with my partner only a short period of time but in that time things have been really good, we have met each others families, friends and all get on very well. Every couple has a moment and we had one at 6 months and worke...
A. 30 March 2010: He's a waffler. He waxes and wanes philosophic on the issue. He doesn't know his own heart.
You seem to have your heart in the right place which makes this a sad situation for you. His inability to know where his heart is, makes him a prime ca... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 18 February 2010: Kaarde,
I have to say she's just using you. I don't think I could tolerate someone rotating in and out of my life like this. I don't see why you're letting her do this to you.
I've been through this with a woman I love deeply and all she has ... (read in full...)
I want a divorce, my wife is pregnant and I'm having an affair with our neighbour....help!
Q. I am 32 yrs old and have been married for 4 yrs. A year ago we moved to a new town and my wife and I drifted apart. She befriended our neighbours and became close friends with the lady. We would often go to dinners there and I met their now 19 yr ...
A. 25 January 2010: I would also suggest that perhaps you should get DNA testing done both with the wife's impending pregnancy (amnio) and the 19 yo girlfriend.
Just saying ....... (read in full...)
How can someone take advantage of a person who showed complete loyalty?
Q. My question is how can someone take advantage of someone who has shown true loyalty and love towards them and they trample all over you like a doormat? We had been dating for about 4 months, initially things were really good. Then I would say ...
A. 24 January 2010: Some people cannot see that they are on the rebound and so they become emotional vampires.
He is still on the rebound. He was abandoned by a girlfriend and you came by and picked him up off the ground.
Now that he's getting steady on his fe... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman, please help?
Q. My husband recently left me for another woman. We were married for 16 years and he met her at work. I just wondered if anyone else has had that happen to them? and how did it turn out? how long did it take the hurt to go? ...
A. 24 January 2010: This is unfortunately quite a common occurrence these days.
I don't know if there are any children involved, but you have to understand that whatever reasons he had for the affair, they have resulted in him moving on with his life with another ... (read in full...)
I want a divorce, my wife is pregnant and I'm having an affair with our neighbour....help!
Q. I am 32 yrs old and have been married for 4 yrs. A year ago we moved to a new town and my wife and I drifted apart. She befriended our neighbours and became close friends with the lady. We would often go to dinners there and I met their now 19 yr ...
A. 24 January 2010: Wow! That's a keg of dynamite and you're tied to it.
With the wife. Well she lied to you about being on the pill, and she got pregnant by you. What I don't understand is why have sex with your wife if you wanted a divorce and you wanted to split... (read in full...)
PLEASE! I need an outsider's perspective about this relationship.
Q. I had a bf almost a year ago whom I had broken up with because I found out he was cheating on me. This had hurt me so severely I was depressed for months, had nightmares and developed a phobia on certain things and places. For some reason, my ...
A. 12 January 2010: The answer to your question about what to do is simple. You need to cut contact with him and move on with your life.
... (read in full...)
PLEASE! I need an outsider's perspective about this relationship.
Q. I had a bf almost a year ago whom I had broken up with because I found out he was cheating on me. This had hurt me so severely I was depressed for months, had nightmares and developed a phobia on certain things and places. For some reason, my ...
A. 11 January 2010: As the man says, "Not a winner, kid."
This is a man who has no clue who he is inside, and is simply going to philander.
Inasmuch as you like him, or possibly even love him; he's just not right for you.
People like him are full of self-dec... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 6 December 2009: Duce00 has a point to well a small point.
If you can tolerate her rotating in and out of your life, and waiting in the bull pen for your time at the bat, then I suppose that's okay.
But if I suspect you are more into monogamous relationships, t... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 3 December 2009: q1605 has a point there. Its possible she's got someone else dangling on a string, or maybe several men.
If you're in one day and out the other, it comes to mind first of all she doesn't really love you. More importantly though, for your own sani... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 29 November 2009: Wow! She sounds like she's running some kind of time table.
She doesn't know what she wants, and it may be a long time before she figures it out.
Your decision to walk and cut her loose is probably the best.
After a few more times of her ru... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 21 November 2009: The only thing that concerns me is that she's still visiting the online dating site.
That's creepy. If she's got you then what? Is she looking for more options?
Would she feel all comfy if you were on the same online dating site hitting on ... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 18 November 2009: Its one of those things. Maybe she saw what she was losing? Maybe she didn't know what she had?
It could also be she's cake-eating. That is dangling you on the end of a string while going out and having the time of her life.
In either event my ... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 9 October 2009: Well pretty much what you've updated here tells me the same thing I saw before. She's regressed to her teenage years. She wants to be popular, a high school drama queen, etc.
I'd say she's still very immature for her age. What you're in love wit... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 5 October 2009: Finances, kids and fantasy lives all get in the way of a really good relationship.
She says she's 16 inside, which tells me that she's far too concerned about herself, and perhaps her children to be that into you right now.
However, she ... (read in full...)
Stay Married or Separate - Stepdaughter issues
Q. I am in my second marriage now for 7 years as of February 2010. I am contemplating separation due to my stepdaughter and I don't feel as if I love my wife. My stepdaughter is 22 now. I came into her life when she was 15 and I sort of knew that this ...
A. 24 September 2009: Looking at this rationally, this is going to take a great deal of work not on your part, not on your wife's part but your step-daughter's part.
It seems to me that your step-daughter has formed, in her mind, a hatred towards you which no one will... (read in full...)
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