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8 June 2008: I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
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Ideas for bedroom fun that doesn't involve intercourse?
Q. Recently when my man and I are messing around, he asks "what do you want me to do to you?"... I've come up with a couple replies but I need more!!! * Sidenote were trying to postpone intercourse until later on in the relationship so thats kinda o...
A. 16 July 2009: me and the love of my life are waiting till marriege to have sex so we have come up with a few ways to keep it interesting. for example a few nights back she hand cuffed me to the bed and had me watch while she did things to herself.
what ... (read in full...)
Trusting that your partner loves your body!
Q. I just wanted to share something that happened to me recently because I know it's something a lot of my friends wanted to hear about so I thought some of the girls out there would too! Okay, I've never been 100% comfortable with my body, less so ...
A. 4 July 2009: Thats the problem, people are to hard on them selves when it comes to there looks. Something that i dont think a lot of women realize is that all men like something differant. There is someone out there that will find you attractive, even when ... (read in full...)
Help for my friend!
Q. Just a quick question I would like some advice on, its actually about a friend of mine. Him and this girl that he was friends with for a while maybe a year ended up dating for a few months and it was maybe 3 or 4 months. In that relationship they ...
A. 1 May 2009: If it was a clean breakup then there shouldnt be any hard feelings about him getting to know her friend better.... (read in full...)
I am confused, depressed, frustrated, devastated, sick of my life! What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I'm 15 but I got the problems of an old woman with 10 children. I wanna ask you for help to solve at least some of these problems. 1- I love a boy and we go to the same school but we never talked before and we don't know each ...
A. 18 April 2009: Just be strong and be yourself. its not easy to get over shyness but if you can i think it could solve a couple of your problems. Be brave and just talk to WB.... (read in full...)
Fallen head over heels for a girl I can never be with!
Q. I don't know where to begin. Im in my 20s and currently studying. I never really had a childhood or even anything during my teens. I've spent my entire life alone and isolated. However rescently my life is beginning to pick up. I made the most am...
A. 15 April 2009: Have you ever seen the movie "Boys and Girls" The guy in that movie was in the same situation as you. The fact of the matter is that if you dont want to hurt then you either have to get her to be your girlfriend or you have to not spend as much time ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex being so nice to me when I broke it off with him?
Q. Why would a guy i split up with about 8 months ago, and who constantly tells me he cant forgive me and has moved on, continue calling me every so often, text me, help me financially (apparently for my kid's sake) when i am really stuck for cash? ...
A. 15 April 2009: Its been 8 months, thats enough time for him to get over it and start being your friend again. Its a completely normal thing to do.... (read in full...)
Still waiting for my first kiss!
Q. I'm 15 turning 16 in May. I have never had my first kiss not even a peck. I've had 1 bf before.The fact that i haven't been kissed has always made me insecure, but lately i've felt terrible. What's wrong with me? I feel so ugly and unwanted. My ex ...
A. 15 April 2009: I didnt get my first kiss until i was 16 so i know how you feel. unloved, undesired, and unattractive. it hurts to think that know one will ever find you attactivebut there is hope. There is someone out there for everyone, you just have to be ... (read in full...)
My fiance likes to wear my daughter's underwear!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend/fiance for a year now and we live together along with my 15 yr old daughter and his 15 yr old son.. about 4 months into our relationship I did a load of laundry for him and found a pair of womens underware in his ...
A. 15 April 2009: i believe that he would never do anything to your daughter, but its still really creepy. I would have gotten out of there as soon as i seen the bag and pictures.... (read in full...)
Feeling insecure about my bf watching porn, would us watching it together help?
Q. I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 4 months now and we've been together for about a year. I had always assumed that he watched porn, and I've never had any issues with it because I know most people do (myself included). Although I've ...
A. 15 April 2009: i dont think watching it together would help. I think its a little odd that you didnt have a problem with him watching porn befor but now that he admitted to it you do. Also him watching porn isnt whats makeing him cum so quickly, it would have the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has made me anorexic and still wants me to lose weight, what can I do?
Q. I got with my bf when I was 11 years old and since I turned 13 he started controling my life. I am now 15 and he is nerly 18 and when I was 13 he told me I was fat and told me I had to loose weight. I weighed 8 st 2 at the time and he wanted me to ...
A. 15 April 2009: I think you already know what everyone here will have to say. You should never be in a relationship that causes you harm. I know you have been with him for a long time and you probably really love him but are you sure he loves you back if he would ... (read in full...)
My best friend is trying to steal my man!
Q. i liked this guy before that me and my friend were gonna meet up with and i showed her a picture of him and she was like oo hes nice i hope you two get together. When we were out she was getting in the middle of us dancing and kept whispering things ...
A. 15 April 2009: Well first off, if you believe you can trust your man then you dont have a major issue but if what she is doing is makeing you uncomfortable then you need to let her know, and if she continues then you have no choice but to not hang out with her ... (read in full...)
How can I heat things up? Help
Q. my guy and i have been together for 2 years and a half now . we love each other so much have sex almost 3 times a week sometimes more . but i feel that our sex life is starting to be boring , same old same old. we have a little foreplay in the begi...
A. 15 April 2009: i agree with satindesire, but dont fake the enthusiasm, we can tell.... well some of us can.... (read in full...)
I would like to have my parents' blessing, but how do I tell them about this relationship?
Q. I come from a very religious family (my father is a pastor) I am a youth pastor. Just a little over a year ago a young girl joined our church she was married to a very abusive man and had a 1 yr old son and was pregnancy. I helped her leave her ...
A. 13 April 2009: well i think first you should get that divorcee finalized. Im a Christian so i can see why some would disapprove but i think that as long as she is actually divorced then your doing the right thing and you shouldn't be too worried. They might have ... (read in full...)
How can I heat things up? Help
Q. my guy and i have been together for 2 years and a half now . we love each other so much have sex almost 3 times a week sometimes more . but i feel that our sex life is starting to be boring , same old same old. we have a little foreplay in the begi...
A. 13 April 2009: Well first off if you give it more time between having sex then it would be more exciting. but if your not the patient type there are all kinds of other things you can do. costumes, new clothes, toys, or even just a change in attitude. oh a chan... (read in full...)
How do I find more independence when my boyfriend is away?
Q. My boyfriend of nearly a year and half has gone away for a week, and i miss him terribly. I've found myself doing nothing, just feeling sorry for myself. How do i create more independence in my relationship, and stop myself feeling so bad when...
A. 13 April 2009: Go out with your friends, or read a book, or get a hobby.
just find something that you enjoy that takes up time.... (read in full...)
What is she thinking? It's really confusing me!
Q. Hi there. I recently split with my ex of 3 years 2 weeks ago. I am 27 she is 22. It was her decision but we had a long talk and decided it was for the best as we just seem to have "grown apart". However i was in fact devastated by this and spen...
A. 13 April 2009: you have 2 options, 1 try and get her back or 2 break off all communications with her. You need to talk to her and find out how she really feels, and what she really wants. If she still wants you then just try hard to have the relationship that you ... (read in full...)
Saw my husband's profile on a porn dating site!!
Q. I am in dire need of an answer so I thought I would ask here. My husband loves to be fisted and he's wanted me to buy a strap on forever... just yesterday I sat at his desk and he had left up his history... I found he has an account with ...
A. 12 April 2009: he could be telling the truth but he could also be lying. if this isnt the first time youv felt like you couldnt trust him then mabey you cant but if he has always been trustful befor then this occasion can be over looked. but if something happens ... (read in full...)
Being in love versus having a crush!
Q. Can I have someone tell me the difference between being in love and having a crush?...
A. 11 April 2009: well love takes time for one thing, like in almost any case of love at fist site, its just a crush. love also takes endurance. for example if a person you have a crush on is all of a sudden a totle jerk to you then the feeling will go away. but if s... (read in full...)
Virginity, boys, love, lust and lost!
Q. Well I feel like I can't get someone. People say I'm pretty but I'm not and I know and they know. I don't know what to do because I feel like burying my head. I'm still a virgin at 17 and my ex already lost his. I feel like it's a competition but ...
A. 11 April 2009: a break up is never easy, it would be best for you to avoid him for a while so that you can let go of these old feelings. first you need time to heal and then move on. just stay positive, theres someone out there for everyone.
also if it makes you ... (read in full...)
My fiance may be in love with a 16 year old?
Q. Back in Nov. My fiance and I had some issues. We play an online game. The game is mostly populated by young teens. Well he started to spend alot of time in game with a girl who I found out was 15. He was spending so much time with her that he was ...
A. 11 April 2009: well first let me tell you that you probably wont get a lot of responses for your question due to its length. now on to my advice. you love him right? and he loves youright? then dont let things get in the way of that, you need to free your mind and ... (read in full...)
I get pushed out of the picture so she can be with her girlfriends
Q. I'm so freaking sick of my girlfriend pushing me off to do something else with her friend. What makes it lousy is her "friend" isn't much of one and uses her constantly. My girlfriend even knows that herself. Yet she still crawls up her butt ...
A. 11 April 2009: you need to talk to her and tell her you need her to be there for you, and that when you make plans to see her its not right for her to bail on you like that. now i get the feeling youv already told her most of that right? but you need to tell her ... (read in full...)
Should I continue liking her, or will I just get more hurt?
Q. Basically, there's this girl called Js, I've really liked her for about 3 and a half years now, we've been with each other on and off due to various petty reasons. More recently I realised how much she does mean to me, I need not explain myself, as ...
A. 3 April 2009: get out while you can and stay out. on again off again relatuionships are not healthy and you should just try and get out befor it becomes any more difficult.... (read in full...)
Either way I don't want to hurt my friends feelings
Q. Dear Cupid. There's a guy I like and we are friends but I don't know how he feels. A girl I know also likes him but whenever they're together she's all over him, like literally hanging off him, but he doesn't seem to be showing any interest in her....
A. 3 April 2009: if you dont think he likes her then it shouldnt be too long befor he breaks up with her, but it wouldnt be right to try and steal him away.... (read in full...)
I have a new boyfriend, but can't get over my ex. I'm so confused and don't know what to do!
Q. I'm 15, and I dated my ex for almost 8 months. He would ignore me on and off for a few months. Sometimes we would go up to a week without even talking, and I'd cry and feel depressed over it. He was with his guy friends a lot more than ...
A. 3 April 2009: you have to take a break between relationships, otherwise you will be emotionally divided. you have to give yourself time to get your emotions together.... (read in full...)
How can I forget somebody I love but the relationship is going nowhere?
Q. Hello...I am married woman with 1 kid. Before, I am too much in love with my husband, to much to the point of giving up most of my dreams just for the sake of marrying him.Just to know in the end that he was not in love with me but with his first ...
A. 3 April 2009: cheating is wrong so i would suggest you not persue this "forbidden relationship" any further. If things between you and your husband are ever going to work then you have to be near him, you either have to go back home or get him to come to where ... (read in full...)
Is there a rule of thumb as to the number of dates you need to go on before having sex?
Q. I have a friend who we started dating. We just had our first date it was fun. We were friends for a while before dating. I think she is cute and would like sex with her. Typically is there a number of dates to go on before talking, thinking about, ...
A. 5 March 2009: generally i tell people an amount of time rather then a number of dates. since youv known her for awhile i would suggest dateing for about a mounth befor bringing it up, that way she wont think your just after sex.... (read in full...)
I lost trust in him because of this email message... am I overreacting?
Q. Okay, well ive been in a relationship for 1 year and 6 months. And about two days ago i was out with my boyfriend and since he is able to access his email account from his phone i decided to send a picture to my email from his phone, and when i was ...
A. 20 February 2009: well if he said he will stop talking to her then i think those pictures mean she was flirting with him. the picture of her face is normal to give to a friend but not a picture in a short dress. but if he was that willing to put her out of his life ... (read in full...)
She just won't listen to us... her boyfriend is cheating on her!
Q. ok, my cousin's bf was cheating on her and has been cheating on her for a long time he broke up with her on sunday to go out with another girl, my cousin says she will always believe anything i say over him but i told her today the he had been ...
A. 19 February 2009: he broke up with her right? so it dousnt matter now. but incase i misread that, then you should get proof of him cheating.... (read in full...)
I lost trust in him because of this email message... am I overreacting?
Q. Okay, well ive been in a relationship for 1 year and 6 months. And about two days ago i was out with my boyfriend and since he is able to access his email account from his phone i decided to send a picture to my email from his phone, and when i was ...
A. 19 February 2009: what did the picture look like? depending on how it looks could depend on what it means. but either way, you are going to have a hard time trusting him now, so you need to decide if you want to try and fix this or if its not worth the trouble.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I felt ignored by him even though we are not dating?
Q. There's this guy who is very attracted to me and he I know he likes me at least he likes to flirt and all. He left for vacation and came back yesterday. He called me as soon as he arrived to the airport. I said I'm going to pick you up, I'm with...
A. 19 February 2009: i dont think you should say anything, i mean he called you as soon as he got in so thats gatta count for something right? and he was eyeing you.... (read in full...)
I get the feeling that she wants a life I can't provide.
Q. I am in mymid twenties living with a woman that i love dearly and her son of 4. we have been together for 2 years but i get the feeling that she is seeking a life that i can not provide. i am not sure if this is reaction to the idea of settling down ...
A. 19 February 2009: some people only need love, so love her to the best of your abilitys. thats the best you can do.... (read in full...)
Is this punishment over-the-top for the "crime"?
Q. Hi! First off, I'd like to say that Im only asking for opinions and I want to know if im not overreacting! Ok, well my brother wrestles for the wrestling team and me being his sister, decides to take on wrestling stats so I would be at every sing...
A. 19 February 2009: the coches were wrong, but theres nothing you can do. he would be better at another school.... (read in full...)
She does not enjoy sex any more...
Q. I am 30 years old and she is 28. We met 2 years ago and she was my first time. Always valued the fact of being virgin until I was going to meet the right one. In the last months her sex drive dropped and we basically are having sex not more then ...
A. 19 February 2009: just hold her, just hold her and comfort her and ask her how shes doing. dont bring up sex, just try and be there for her and let her unload all her problems. then when shes not feeling stressed any more she will start to feel the passion again.... (read in full...)
I am feeling very hurt, upset and anxious and don't know what to do.
Q. Help. I met a guy over the internet who lives in NSW. I live in Perth. We seemed to get along really well. He then started sending me pics of his lower private parts and wanted to know what I was wearing etc and wanted intimate pics of me. At first ...
A. 19 February 2009: just leave him, i think you already feel like its not going to work, and most long distance relationships dont work. you would be better off ending it and finding someone closer to home.... (read in full...)
Is it a huge turn-on for men if your girlfriend catches you off guard and wants sex?!?
Q. Is it a huge turn-on for men if your girlfriend catches you off guard and wants sex?!? I'm asking because my bf of almost a month keeps asking for sex, but I'm not ready just yet. I'm getting there though. And I think catching him off guard wo...
A. 19 February 2009: i think that would be hot. like on valentines day, me and my girl were makeing out and then all of a sudden she unzipped her top and took off her bra. i was plesantly surprised. so i would say you should tell him you will have sex with him in a ... (read in full...)
I'm think I've fallen out of love with my husband, HELP
Q. Ok, here's the deal. I have been married for 8 years since right off high school. My husband is such a great guy, but he has his faults. When we started the relationship, he made it very clear hat he could not promise to be in a faithful ...
A. 19 February 2009: cheating is wrong, so if your planing on doing anything with anyother man then you need to break it off with your husband first, its just the right thing to do. or you can try and patch things up. these are your options.... (read in full...)
I want a relationship based on love and not pleasure. How can I let her know that?
Q. Okay I met this girl I really like 3 months ago and we started dating a month ago but she has a very awful past.. Her ex boyfriende was horrible with her and he used to beat her up and finally they had a kid together. The last time I saw her was 3 ...
A. 19 February 2009: keep going out with her, and be a good guy. show her you care, but dont be possesive. and wait for awhile to have sex.... (read in full...)
Is it worth losing my family and friends in order to achieve my dreams?
Q. I'm 20, female and from a traditional muslim family. I was abused in more ways then one, everyone thinks I'm useless. I completed my A levels, got into uni but my parents didn't let me go. I have no indepedence, no job, no money, no life and have ...
A. 19 February 2009: i completely agree with eocalla. follow you dreams. later in life your ganna wish you had.... (read in full...)
How can I sound more intelligent when I'm talking to him?
Q. I feel kinda dumb around the guy I like, he uses all these big words, I wanna open up a thesaurus and build my own vocabulary so I can sound witty and smart, is that bad? Is he right for me if he's smarter than me? It's so attractive to me and I ...
A. 19 February 2009: if it bothers you , then sure build your vocabulary. but if he likes you, then it really wont matter. everyone is smarter about something, it happens, so dont let it stop you from building a relationship.... (read in full...)
He's going into the marines, should I end it now or wait till he leaves?
Q. I'm in a realtionship that's not that serious yet, but he is going to the marines in a few months and we aren't going to continue this. So should I just end it now, or contiue with him until he leaves, and break up with him then?...
A. 19 February 2009: You should end it now, the last thing you want is for him to be lonely and heart broken when he goes.... (read in full...)
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