Nice restaurants, drugs and wild sex..not a great way to start!
Q. I had been seeing this guy I met in a bar for a couple of months. Our relationship had been about excess, nice restaurants, drugs and wild sex (we slept together on the first night.) At first he pursued me but then it seemed like he slightly made ...
A. 20 December 2009: Sounds like it was fun for a while. I can absolutely see the entertainment value for both of you.
I think you are no longer at the age where these kinds of relationships work for you anymore. Take this experience as a learning lesson and start fo... (read in full...)
Did I completely blow it with him?
Q. Hi everyone. My last day of college was this past tuesday. I graduated with my BA, complete siked I decided to go out for drinks with my friends. Well I didn't eat at all and i got really drunk. There was this guy there that i have had a crush on ...
A. 20 December 2009: Ohh dont sweat it! As long as you didn't do something that leaves you with a permanent reminder of your drunken night of debauchery your just living as you should at this time.
If this one stays or goes its no big deal. Enjoy life!! ... (read in full...)
My b/f expects me to pay 50% of his mortgage with no guanantees for me
Q. I am just new to living with my boyfriend in a house that he owns. Recently while discussing contributions towards household expenses he told me that he expects me to pay half his mortgage and that he is not interested in putting me on the title. He ...
A. 17 December 2009: If there is not a solid future for you in this relationship I cant see why you would want to live with him.
Taking on shared financial responsibility in a relationship is absolutely normal when there is definite commitment. With out a solid fo... (read in full...)
Does cheating empower women?
Q. Is infidelity in the male/female relationship immoral or empowering for the women? Religion can be a factor in the answer if needed....
A. 16 December 2009: Any form of attention is empowering to a narcissist.
Are you sufficiently entertained now?... (read in full...)
I texted my wife's sister and she's no longer talking to me!
Q. i have this sexually fantasy of doing it with my wife's only and youngest sister. she's not pretty. dark, thin, small breasted and all but i am really turned on when i think of having sex with her. i texted her anonymously but she's very bright she ...
A. 15 December 2009: I think you need a time out.
No more phone privileges either.
Go sit in the corner for a while and think about what you have done young man.
Treating you in an age appropriate manor seems the most appropriate in your case because any "a... (read in full...)
What are "bang bang" shoes?
Q. What are "bang bang" shoes as in that n-dubz song where she says "you left me standing in my bang-bang shoes" And where can I get some? lol x...
A. 15 December 2009: I thought "bang-bang shoes" were invented by that guy who concealed explosives in his shoes and tried to board a 747.
He was a real trend setter I guess.
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I get a sinking feeling when I realise it will never happen again
Q. My husband is circumsized, and lately I've found myself CRAVING sex with an uncircumcised man. I've been with both cut and uncut men before, and hands-down I've found sex with uncut men to be more pleasurable. My husband knows that I've been with ...
A. 15 December 2009: If I had to guess I would say that the OP associates an uncut penis with a previous lover who pleasured her in a way her husband does not. Call me unkind, but there doesn't seem to be a more logical explanation here.
If my assumption is right th... (read in full...)
Do I stay away till he figures things out?
Q. I need help! I have been broken up with commitment phobic boyfriend for almost 7 months. We were together 2 1/2 years. We got together with my daughter yesterday, he is still trying to figure out his issues of confusion. My daughter enjoys the time ...
A. 14 December 2009: Its understandable how you confused me and Q. He and I were cut from the same cloth I think.
Despite the similarities you can always tell us apart because I am the good looking one.
hehehe... (read in full...)
Do I stay away till he figures things out?
Q. I need help! I have been broken up with commitment phobic boyfriend for almost 7 months. We were together 2 1/2 years. We got together with my daughter yesterday, he is still trying to figure out his issues of confusion. My daughter enjoys the time ...
A. 13 December 2009: Great follow up,
I know the life of being a single parent and doing it all on your own too. Making good decisions in the area of relationships is a little different for people in our situation I believe. There are only a few departments of life ... (read in full...)
Do I stay away till he figures things out?
Q. I need help! I have been broken up with commitment phobic boyfriend for almost 7 months. We were together 2 1/2 years. We got together with my daughter yesterday, he is still trying to figure out his issues of confusion. My daughter enjoys the time ...
A. 13 December 2009: It has been interesting seeing the female responses to this. Don't get me wrong here, I agree that this guy is just way too wishy washy. Many men wouldn't tolerate it from a woman either.
Here is the point I would like to make and I am sure I w... (read in full...)
Your average sized guy...
Q. How are us average sized guys meant to reconcile the fact that the average sized girl can take more than 50% volume of dick that we have? Our goal is to give maximum sexual pleasure, and in almost all cases, bigger is better (up to a point) (don...
A. 13 December 2009: On the serious side:
The wise a learned men here have put it to you right. Gotta know that you can give the them the great "O" basically. You can do this with your tongue or your dick or your clever hands (better if you can do all three) but in the ... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 12 December 2009: Well it is over only if you want it to be. My "small point" is that you are the one in control of the choices you make and the relationships you have.
Do not let the simplicity with which I proposed my previous reply be misconstrued as an easy ... (read in full...)
Planning on losing my virginity tomorrow; can we have sex twice in the same day? Will it be better second time round?
Q. Hey all, I have a girlfriend of 16 months and 10 days. We are both virgins and we decided to do it tomorrow. I have been reading posts here and I know the first is not very good. But if we want to have sex again the same day ,is it possible? Wil...
A. 10 December 2009: I think its great that you have waited. That is one of the best things to improve the quality of your first experience in my opinion. Many folks including myself made the mistake of being foolish and impulsive. So consider yourself in a positive ... (read in full...)
He cheated and yet I'm in love with him still
Q. i am sixteen years old. in love. yea i know. i'm an idiot right? don't know what i'm talking about. believe me when i say i do. i fall hard for this boy. lost the vcard to him. LOVE him. he cheated on me...with my best friend. and with a french ...
A. 10 December 2009: Being in love will distort your good judgment at 16 or any other age for that matter. Don't think for a second that us "so called adults" have not done similar things. That is a big reason why DC is here in the first place if you think about it. ... (read in full...)
My wife suddenly won't allow me to have sex with my girlfriend!
Q. [Moderator note: question edited for clarity] Me, my wife, and my girlfriend have been involved for a while. My wife has allowed this because 1) she was my ex fiance and 2)I have an over active sex drive that would make a porn star blush. My wife ...
A. 9 December 2009: On the serious side:
3-7 times a week? That doesn't really seem like a high libido to me at all (rather normal IMO). Maybe you need to step back and consider the quality not the quantity of your sex life. It seems to me that your wife may feel you ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "drunk dick"?
Q. I recently had sex with this guy and he was drunk... I did things with him sexually before and he could always "finish" even when I gave him a handjob ... but he couldnt when we had sex and it brought down my ego... he said it was beacuse he was ...
A. 8 December 2009: Its real. Drinking decreases inhibition but it also decreases ability to sense things overall. Pretty simple concept if you think about it.
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Why would my husband suddenly stop wanting sex?
Q. What are the reasons ,when a highly sexual husband suddenly stops wanting sex, and when he tries it he is losing his erections? I mean one day to the next... With no signs for any change. Just suddenly ,like bang. And its over. He went limp at the ...
A. 8 December 2009: Sounds more mental than physical to me as well. No doubt some physical issues play a part but the whole hot and cold thing sounds mental to me.
I think that there needs to be some good heart to heart between you guys. He may not even understa... (read in full...)
Angry about the double standards of sex
Q. Ok, I don't want to be polemic here, but I'm really shocked and angry with the double standard. You see, my boyfriend suffers with retroactive jealousy, even though I wasn't a slut (I was a virgin when we met, granted, I was just 17 so it was normal ...
A. 8 December 2009: Many very good points here. Quiet Echo laid out an excellent biological basis for the male female imbalance in sexual conduct.
I frankly do not see the reality in where he comes off as RJ here. Your conduct is not any where near the kind of thing... (read in full...)
Sex... doggy style!
Q. Hi, my new bf wants to have sex doggy style and he keeps asking me. I haven't done it like that before (it just never appealed to me and my last bf preferred other positions) but my new bf seems to really want it. I told him i didnt like that pos...
A. 8 December 2009: I think doggy is great personally. It does lack the intimacy of being able to kiss and fondle that missionary provides but for sheer penetration and wild abandon value it is a definite winner.
You can also reach under and rub yourself while he... (read in full...)
Why does he keep on breaking up with me and coming back within weeks?
Q. i have had the same boyfriend for a yr and half. he has broken up w/ four times!!! and returns w/ in weeks ....anyone can tell me why??? ...
A. 7 December 2009: We can only speculate until you give us more information.
What were the things that he said when there was a breakup?
Why did you feel he was worth being with aging?
You will have to put in more detail here if you really want some accurat... (read in full...)
My husband and best friend text daily M-F, should I be worried?
Q. I just found out that my husband and my best friend have been communicating via text message pretty much everyday Mon. - Fri.. I knew they texted a lot and I am O.K. with that. Sometimes he'll come home and tell me what they texted about that day, ...
A. 7 December 2009: 200 times a month is sounding a bit weird to me honestly. I agree with previous folks about the connection that they have as being an emotional bond that exceeds friendship. We are talking an average of 6 texts per day. Does he text you that often?? ... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly stop contact with me after being so polite and so nice?
Q. Hello, I have been seeing a man I met through a dating site, we clicked right away because we have the same goals. He treated me with respect and always sent greetings to my parents. He was actually talking about marriage after 8 days of dating. He ...
A. 7 December 2009: Sounds rather mentally unstable to me. I would steer very clear of this guy and avoid all contact. Im sure you feel torn right now but I think you will see in time that you were lucky to get out early. ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with losing my virginity to the wrong guy? Dumb dumb dumb!
Q. lost my virginity last night - still feel like a virgin. It hurt and it was completely with the wrong guy - i remember crying after nad just wanting a cuddle - he feel a sleep and i was left in the darkness thinking about what i had allowed. I was ...
A. 7 December 2009: I had a crappy first time too. It is not uncommon and you should not feel alone in this at all. Very few people I know had a really special first experience.
The good news is that you will not have any trouble figuring out what you will not do a... (read in full...)
My husband and best friend text daily M-F, should I be worried?
Q. I just found out that my husband and my best friend have been communicating via text message pretty much everyday Mon. - Fri.. I knew they texted a lot and I am O.K. with that. Sometimes he'll come home and tell me what they texted about that day, ...
A. 7 December 2009: The content of the texts is key here, but assuming it is all benign (which is what I am hearing) here is my 2 cents.
Having female friends is a wonderful thing. I think many men miss this opportunity because they either only want sex or they sim... (read in full...)
Do wonderful relationships just "happen" or do they take work
Q. Just curious on what your take is on this, because I've heard two different camps. A lot of people on this site say relationships take work and you need to work at it to keep it in good order; then there are other people who say that when you're in ...
A. 7 December 2009: I don't think there can be any comparing to other peoples relationships.
There could be struggles we never see in a seemingly perfect relationship or conversely the couples that appear to be at odds may actually be quite content with each oth... (read in full...)
Do wonderful relationships just "happen" or do they take work
Q. Just curious on what your take is on this, because I've heard two different camps. A lot of people on this site say relationships take work and you need to work at it to keep it in good order; then there are other people who say that when you're in ...
A. 7 December 2009: There will be good times and bad in any relationship. The question is not even if the love is there. Love is a strong foundation for sure but I believe it is far more than love alone. The question is can you have faith in another human being...can ... (read in full...)
I love my son, I love my ex but I have to chose between them!
Q. I had recently started seeing my ex boyfriend again after being broken up for almost a year. Things seemed to be going okay . My teenage son who has never liked him, recently did something terrible to try to cause problems for us. I won't get into ...
A. 6 December 2009: Well it could mean that you ex was out of line but you did not give us the circumstances. It might also mean that your son needs some discipline.
I have observed that many single mothers of boys do not give them proper discipline and as a result t... (read in full...)
I want to seduce my 16 yo son's friend
Q. I am a 45 year old with 2 kids a 16 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. My son has a friend who is always at our house. He's very cute. Whenever my son isn't around we flirt with each other. Yesterday I bent down to put a pan in the cabinet and my ...
A. 6 December 2009: I was seduced when I was a young man by a cougar like this. Wish I had the sense to stay away. I was clueless, there was no chemistry other than hormones, and it just was a shitty first experience.
I thought it was really cool for a while bu... (read in full...)
I love my son, I love my ex but I have to chose between them!
Q. I had recently started seeing my ex boyfriend again after being broken up for almost a year. Things seemed to be going okay . My teenage son who has never liked him, recently did something terrible to try to cause problems for us. I won't get into ...
A. 5 December 2009: There are a few unknowns here still...
How old is your son? If he is almost 18 then maybe you can wait on moving in until your son goes to college or the military or just wings it on his own.
What did your son do to disrupt your relationshi... (read in full...)
Is he dangerous or harmless?
Q. I have an online friend that is 40 years old and i'm 15. We met in a game. He plays around 7 hours per day in this game. At the beginning he spent a lot of his time with me and all our conversations were game related. He usually made me feel ...
A. 5 December 2009: Can I get a collective "ewwwwww"??
This guy is not right and needs to get a life.
You should drop all contact.
... (read in full...)
She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!
Q. Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...
A. 5 December 2009: I agree with the other folks who suspect that she is dangling you by a string and probably other guys too. She just sounds like the type to me, but I could be wrong. While this might be emotionally beyond you at the moment, try to simplify what is... (read in full...)
Men's Opinion Wanted! Advice on how to blow his mind
Q. My boyfriend is coming back after being gone almost a month. I'd like to suprise him by doing something that will totally blow his mind! I'm in desperate need of a mans opinion! What is it you've always wanted your girl to do for you? I need sexy, ...
A. 5 December 2009: Leave him a trail of love notes that lead him to the bedroom. Be bare naked and waiting for him when he opens the door. When he walks in tell him not to talk and just go crazy on him. Give him a BJ to start but make it last a while. From there you ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated and left me twice, and I have a GF who is hurt because I'm still married... what should I do??
Q. Please I need help (tears). I'm shaking and crying writing this letter. Reader....Please take time to read this if you can. I have been married for 16 years. My wife is very controlling and is very jealous of me. A few years ago I was into modeling. ...
A. 5 December 2009: Pray for less drama.
Ditch the ex.
Keep it simple dude!
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My theory is that all men exaggerate, so most women have no idea what size penis they are having sex with.
Q. may seem like an odd post. My girlfriend keeps going on and on about how massive my penis is. but its not its average. its 6" long and 5.4" girth. She says it all the time and if she holds it in two hands she laughs and says god its massive. ...
A. 4 December 2009: Its not my experience that men exaggerate but I have heard women claim I was large when I know I am about average.
I think when you are a skilled and assertive lover they are not being preoccupied with size as much as they are being impresse... (read in full...)
What unusual name to do you have for your privates... and how did you get it?
Q. Mine is petercheese. My girlfriend years ago gave me it. The first time she gave me head she said it squrted out like a can of ez cheese. So she called it peter cheese. ...
A. 4 December 2009: After careful consideration my cock has decided he wants to be called...
"The Heat Seeking Moisture Missle"
Its rather funny how that almost made him sound intelligent isn't it? ... (read in full...)
Should I go with my husband to view his dead friend?
Q. My hubby's friend died and his viewing is tonight. He hasn't asked me directly to go with him, but when I ask him if he wants me to go, he says "I dont care, you can go if you want. What should I do?...
A. 4 December 2009: Going to the viewing is just one part of the support you will need to give him. If he was close to his friend this experience will affect him considerably.
Stand at his side and comfort him without smothering him. Ask him to talk when he seems op... (read in full...)
Do I still have feelings for my husband... or am I just sad?
Q. Help! I need advice, my soon to be ex husband seems to be getting such an easy life of it, while i sit here stewing. we split up a couple of years ago after near ten years of physical, mental and sexual abuse and i feel so lonely while he seems to ...
A. 4 December 2009: It is strange how you can miss something so dysfunctional but it does happen. I know that from experience.
My feeling is that there is a certain security in having a relationship that many people crave. This says nothing of the quality, just the... (read in full...)
He said I'm too vocal in bed!!! I'm totally shocked by this revelation.
Q. Last night my boyfriend casually mentioned to me that I'm too vocal in bed. I'd never thought about it before and hadn't realised I was particulaly loud. The way he said it was very patronising and embarrassed me greatly, it has really knocked my ...
A. 4 December 2009: Hmmm, he could keep some ear plugs next to the bed. Or even better, give him a bottle of KY and tell him to have a nice quiet evening to himself.
... (read in full...)
It's been a long time since I felt "love that shakes you to the core" and I want that!
Q. I am 29, met a guy, 35 years old, online and we talked on the phone and emailed for a month then decided to meet. On the first date I did not feel any attraction to him but we had a great chat and he even drove me around the city do to my errands. ...
A. 4 December 2009: I like the butterflies! Gotta have them in my opinion.
That being said, a solid future can not be built on butterflies. Now how do you think I figured that little gem of wisdom out?
I will admit that I have never tried to be with a woman tha... (read in full...)
I'm married and in love with a younger co-worker. What should I do?
Q. Hi All, I'm a 30yr old Married man for 1 year now, but have been in the current relationship for 10 years. After a very long engagement we finally got married, not because we didn't want to, it was just a money thing. We have 2 kids. One form ...
A. 24 November 2009: Good man!
Glad you are taking action. You are doing way better than most.
PM me for an update when you get a chance.
Good-on-ya mate!... (read in full...)
I'm married and in love with a younger co-worker. What should I do?
Q. Hi All, I'm a 30yr old Married man for 1 year now, but have been in the current relationship for 10 years. After a very long engagement we finally got married, not because we didn't want to, it was just a money thing. We have 2 kids. One form ...
A. 17 November 2009: Trapped or not trapped, Penny or no Penny, drunk or stone cold sober...none of that tail chasing is going to cure what is ailing you.
You are fundamentally discontent.
All the intellectualizing and remorse does not cloak the basic fact that ... (read in full...)
What unusual name to do you have for your privates... and how did you get it?
Q. Mine is petercheese. My girlfriend years ago gave me it. The first time she gave me head she said it squrted out like a can of ez cheese. So she called it peter cheese. ...
A. 14 November 2009: I am thankfully at an age now where my cock is only a 49% shareholder of all mergers and acquisitions.
After a couple hostile take overs resulting in gross mis-treatment of my two very loyal union workers there is hope that a better treatmen... (read in full...)
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