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Gaga for Lady Gaga!
Q. My husband has become completely obsessed with Lady GaGa. I mean obsessed!! On the computer are hundreds of pictures and files about her, and even emails arranging to meet with her! We barely have sex anymore, because he feels I'm not enough ...
A. 9 July 2009: Resident faker, closed... (read in full...)
Found a video tape of my husband and my best friend's husband having sex, where do I go from here?
Q. I came home from work last night to find a video tape by the side of the sofa with a note attached from my husband saying "Hope you enjoy this and missing you loads. John* xx". My husband was away on business at the time when this happened. I p...
A. 12 June 2009: Resident faker, closed.... (read in full...)
We passed 100,000 questions published on DearCupid
Q. Today is another milestone in DearCupid history: Over 100,000 questions (100,020 as I write this) have been published! Wow. Thanks to the aunts, the moderators and everyone who shares their problem. As always any ideas on how to improve the s...
A. 6 May 2009: Otherstarfish: Over 1.1 million (1,138,208 to be excact!) unique visitors have been on the site over the past 30 days according to Google Analytics.
Satin: Most folks nowadays are on dynamic IPs so they change each time they visit the site or ... (read in full...)
My husband was raped by his boss!
Q. I'm 31, my husband is 33 and we've been married for 4 years now. My husband works in management for a local distribution company. On Tuesday he came home from work, early in the morning after doing 3 day negotiations with a client, and said...
A. 10 January 2009: This is DearCupid's resident faker back again after a long absence. To the original poster, create and account and PM me some of your questions crack me up.... (read in full...)
My love for him burns bright.
Q. I've been in love with the same guy for about a year a half. At one point in time he liked me, and a lot, but he also liked another girl. He chose her over me, and I still don't know why to this day. But they broke up after six months, and I ...
A. 11 November 2008: test... (read in full...)
I'm my ex will fall in love with his gf and I'll lose him for good!
Q. I want him back I have been with my ex for 6 years and I have recently found out that he was seeing another girl for a couple of weeks. I was devastated, I really thought we would have a great life together. He said that he was not sure how thin...
A. 2 July 2008: test... (read in full...)
SITE VIDEO: April 2008 video from Andrew
Q. Been a while since we had a video update. Anyone interested in being able to post their replies to the site as YouTube videos??...
A. 25 April 2008: Phil probably a bit of both lol.
A.... (read in full...)
Questions about the olympic Games! Why is there so much trouble?
Q. Hello, I see all the things on TV with the olympic tourch but I dont really understand what the protests are for. What did China do that was wrong and why are people doing this? Why didnt people want China to have the Olympics? Sorry if this is a st...
A. 18 April 2008: In fact I'll answer. Some people want to protest their point of view which is that China violates human rights. It's a good opportunity for those people to get publicity. Others disagree.... (read in full...)
Questions about the olympic Games! Why is there so much trouble?
Q. Hello, I see all the things on TV with the olympic tourch but I dont really understand what the protests are for. What did China do that was wrong and why are people doing this? Why didnt people want China to have the Olympics? Sorry if this is a st...
A. 18 April 2008: We'll start again.... (read in full...)
I just had a baby but could I be pregnant AGAIN?!
Q. I just had a baby a month and a half ago and I had sex for the first time 6 days ago and continued all weekend but we used a condom. I know this is alot of detail but at one time we used the same condom for 2 to 4 hours and for the past 3 days I ...
A. 17 April 2008: Before everyone gets hysterical I've corrected the DOB this user entered it incorrectly. When questions "seem" fake there is sometimes an innocent explanation.... (read in full...)
Are these indecent materials on his computer? Does he have a fetish?
Q. My husband has in his computer pictures and clips that are indecent and perhaps illegal. For instance he has dozens of pictures of women wearing bras and panties with a few hairs escaping from one or both sides of the panties and posing before men ...
A. 15 April 2008: From our resident pube fetish question-asker. Closed.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over half a million visitors in March!
Q. I'm pleased to say that according to Google Analytics, March 08 was the busiest month ever for Dear Cupid! We had 519,747 unique visitors (i.e. people!) visit the site from 1st March 08 to 31st March 08 inclusive. Over HALF A MILLION people.... ...
A. 2 April 2008: Hey have you been spying on me, Waz?? lol
Andrew... (read in full...)
He wants a colostomy bag. He said it'd be his "man bag" and that it was trendy!
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 28, and last week he said to me he wanted a colostomy bag. He said it'd be his "man bag" and that it was trendy. I took it with a pinch of salt. However, he always does make an effort to look good, and is always very nice...
A. 18 February 2008: (yawn) from our resident faker, closed.... (read in full...)
Site News: We hit another milestone :-)
Q. For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...
A. 13 February 2008: Andy00, interesting point but not quite accurate because answers per question is trending steadily upwards (stat on the homepage) so on average each question is getting more answers, not less! :-)
There's always room for improvement though a... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to sleep with a male prostitute to get pregnant!
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 26, and we've been married for 3 years now. We have a good lifestyle and our sex life is good. My husband is a very nice person, well-liked and popular and doesn't get jealous when I'm with other guys or on girls' nights ou...
A. 7 January 2008: From our resident faker, closed.... (read in full...)
Is God the reason my answers aren't being posted?
Q. I don't understand. I've responded with reasonable answers to reasonable questions on this site and my answers are not being posted. Has anyone else had that problem? I've responded to some questions that are very meaningful to me becuase I've ...
A. 3 January 2008: Looking at your answers the vast majority have been approved, a few are pending at the moment but that just means they are waiting a moderator to approve them (same as with all answers)
I personally don't moderate answers it's down to the team of ... (read in full...)
I've found pornographic pics of my 16 yr old sister on the internet! What shall I do?
Q. ive found pictures of my sister on the internet. She is with different lads having sex, anal, bondage etc. she is only 16!! should i tell her or our parents or just ignore it?...
A. 28 December 2007: Not true, closed.... (read in full...)
My husband is in love with fast food. How do I get him back?
Q. Dear cupid, this problem is hard for me to solve and embarrassing too, but i really need your help. i'm 28 and my husband is 33. we've been married for 4 years and have a young son. over the past few months my husband's become obsessed with fa...
A. 28 December 2007: From our resident faker. Closed.... (read in full...)
New feature: Keyword + phrases links
Q. Hi There are over 40,000 questions here on dearcupid and some absolute gems in amongst them. Problem is it has been hard to make associations between similar questions in order to get the most out of the site. So, I've introduced a new feat...
A. 13 December 2007: update - the questions on the "your questions" page are now also linked to related ones
Andrew... (read in full...)
New feature: Keyword + phrases links
Q. Hi There are over 40,000 questions here on dearcupid and some absolute gems in amongst them. Problem is it has been hard to make associations between similar questions in order to get the most out of the site. So, I've introduced a new feat...
A. 13 December 2007: Thanks for the feedback everyone :-)
I keep adding new phrases to match and have done some other tweaks so I'm pretty happy with it now. I'll leave this sticky'd for another day or so to see if anyone else has feedback! Please let me know!... (read in full...)
New feature: Keyword + phrases links
Q. Hi There are over 40,000 questions here on dearcupid and some absolute gems in amongst them. Problem is it has been hard to make associations between similar questions in order to get the most out of the site. So, I've introduced a new feat...
A. 12 December 2007: Thanks for the feedback so far :-)
I should also add that the phrases that are matched are manually added by myself (but then matched across all questions). SO, if you see any questions that deal with common topics and you think a phrase should b... (read in full...)
New feature: Keyword + phrases links
Q. Hi There are over 40,000 questions here on dearcupid and some absolute gems in amongst them. Problem is it has been hard to make associations between similar questions in order to get the most out of the site. So, I've introduced a new feat...
A. 12 December 2007: Another example
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-make-my-husband-last-longer-during.html... (read in full...)
New feature: Keyword + phrases links
Q. Hi There are over 40,000 questions here on dearcupid and some absolute gems in amongst them. Problem is it has been hard to make associations between similar questions in order to get the most out of the site. So, I've introduced a new feat...
A. 12 December 2007: For an example, check out this question
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/the-contacts-are-very-infrequent-he-also-refused.html... (read in full...)
A group of bullies took photos of my son in underwear and put them in the Internet! Teachers don't seem interested to help. What can I do for my child?
Q. Earlier this week my 15-year-old son came home from school in tears saying that everyone had seen pictures of him in his underwear on the Internet. He claims a group of boys pretended to be showing off their mobile phones to one another, but wer...
A. 10 November 2007: From our resident faker. Closed.... (read in full...)
My husband wears my bikinis to dinner parties and shows porn fils at kids birthday parties. Should I divorce him?
Q. Hiya, I'm 30 and have been married for 5 years. I'm sorry if this is really long but I want to get it off my chest, so to speak. In the past few months my husband's done some behaviour that's been embarrassing and in some cases, worrying. Abou...
A. 9 October 2007: This is by our resident faker I usually junk them but boy they really went to town here, 10/10 for imagination and effort so I'll just close to new answers!... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 7 October 2007: Hi Penta
That's a bug in the linking code I use. I'll take a look at it again to see if I can figure out how to improve it... if anyone is a regular expressions wizard please let me know!!!
Andrew... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 2 October 2007: Hi Penta
Having been involved with online communities/forums for many years... I decided not to allow retrospective editing of posts on dearcupid. It can cause more problems than it fixes. So, it's a decision rather than a missing feature ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 2 October 2007: Hi Penta
The order problem isn't solve-able because either you or the anon answerer (who went thru moderation) would be out of order.
Order is date written rather than date published, even if date published the anon answerer would then be ou... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 2 October 2007: Each answer will be assigned to a number e.g. this might be 50146 so if you want to refer to another answer, rather than saying something like "to female anon answer below" you could say "to 50145" so people would know who you are referring to.
... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 2 October 2007: Penta
Good point
I'll add a search through a specific aunt's questions, this month.
(ps. you can now browse all your answers as per my previous announcement)
Andrew... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 2 October 2007: Penta - there is no elegant solution to the order thing because someone will end up in the wrong place.
I'm tempted to put ID numbers next to the answer so people can refer to those (which will never change)
Regarding ratings. No one person ca... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 2 October 2007: Ok I made another update, you now see all questions answered on your column page as requested by Frank (and many others)... there is a widget to use to scroll through the pages.
Any problems please PM me.
Andrew... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 2 October 2007: What I've done so far:
* Users can now suggest their own title when asking.
* Stina, I've fixed the problem in the management section which allowed two people to login. As I suspected there was a difference in timeouts so I've corrected t... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 2 October 2007: Drastic - ok I see what you mean!
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SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 1 October 2007: Another batch :-)
1. Stina, I'm working on getting more mods but it takes time to recruit them and if I get too many in one go it's hard to manage. I hope things will be better by xmas!
The mod area should alert people not to login when there... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 1 October 2007: Ok I've un-sticked here are more followups to the feedback :-) Great work, guys. One more post from me to come.
1. Frank, ages are always present unless the user joined the site before age was a mandatory sign-up question... if asking anonymou... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 30 September 2007: Just a quick note on self-harm / suicide.
We will never accept such questions because as Irish points out, we are not professionals and this is not the right forum for people with serious, potentially life threating problems to get help... ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 28 September 2007: My feedback on your feedback (from bottom going up)
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Female, anon. Approval times vary depending on how active our mods are on the site. Sundays I guess people are doing other things. I'm always looking for mods but not everyone is suit... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 27 September 2007: Some good feedback here folks, please keep it coming. I'll be keeping the question sticky'd over the weekend and do a response to everyone's points before de-stickying.
Andrew... (read in full...)
Do teen girl masturbate as often as teen boys?
Q. hi, do teenage girls masturbate as often as teenage boys?...
A. 30 August 2007: To the question asker. You'll find that in each email you get there's a link to stop further emails.... (read in full...)
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