Now that I'm pregnant I'm worried my b/f doesn't find me attractive
Q. I have been with my fiance for 5 years he is 39 and I am 26 I love him so much. I am 13 weeks pregnant and I am kind of scared that I am less attractive he keeps "holding" my large stomach and it makes me feel...yuk. Also his ex wife is not letting ...
A. 23 December 2011: agree with the prev posters... his holding your tummy is a tender loving gesture. What it means is he is viewing your body in a different non sexual way.
As for the ex wife...
This is hard for me as I am fairly uncompromising over xmas mornin... (read in full...)
My b/f's ex calls every month to remind his to pay his support and its stressing us out!
Q. My boyfriend pays his child maintenance on the first of every month and he has never defaulted, pays the full amount plus extras, but the ex phones him first thing in the morning every single first day of the month, every month without fail to tell ...
A. 23 December 2011: just had another thought....
Perhaps in their prev relationship the trust was so broken down and destroyed, she can no longer trust him to do even the simplest things... Yes she knows he is paying on time, but whether she believes he will continue... (read in full...)
Does this disgust girls?
Q. Sometimes when I'm kissing a girl or holding her close, I'll start to get an erection. I know it's normal but sometimes I feel a bit embarrased. Is this disgusting for girls? Should I try to hide it? ...
A. 23 December 2011: Perfectly normal, and no I dont think any girl would be discusted by it.
If you have only just started seeing someone I wouldnt go drawing attention to it until your both ready to take the kissing a step further... I also wouldnt go shouting... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 23 December 2011: Just read this article, and SVC has just described me.
I'm naturally a shy and quite introverted person (but a bloody good actress), however I am friendly, will chat to anyone and I guess... a natural flirt.
I'm not talking about overtly se... (read in full...)
My husband said he doesn't love me. Should I just move on?
Q. have trouble in communicating with my husband..he told me he doesn't love me..but there are some ways that i feel he's just not telling me what he really feels..there are some point that i still thinks that he has another woman..but he insisted in ...
A. 23 December 2011: You cant hang onto something that isnt there in the first place.
Unless he is willing (and you are) to go to counselling and try to work out the relationship then its over.
You owe it to yourself and your children to move on and find real lo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want to talk to me about problems because it reminds him of his ex
Q. Hi Aunts, I was talking to my boyfriend of 2 and a bit years about a problem I was having with my Dad. He said he didn't want to talk about it, and it took me a while to work out why. First I thought it was something I had done, but I managed to...
A. 23 December 2011: absoloutly he is being unfair and unreasonable. YOU are NOT his EX.
You have every right to express your worries with your partner, and he should be understanding and supportive.
To be honest this is a red flag to me, and I would be asking ... (read in full...)
My b/f's ex calls every month to remind his to pay his support and its stressing us out!
Q. My boyfriend pays his child maintenance on the first of every month and he has never defaulted, pays the full amount plus extras, but the ex phones him first thing in the morning every single first day of the month, every month without fail to tell ...
A. 23 December 2011: lol ive just read through all the replies, and It seems my suggestion has already been said, hope it works OP x... (read in full...)
My b/f's ex calls every month to remind his to pay his support and its stressing us out!
Q. My boyfriend pays his child maintenance on the first of every month and he has never defaulted, pays the full amount plus extras, but the ex phones him first thing in the morning every single first day of the month, every month without fail to tell ...
A. 23 December 2011: personally i think the easiest thing would be for him to wake up early, pay the money and text her BEFORE she has a chance to remind him.... problem solved.
Perhaps the household bills are due out around the time he pays and if he pays later in... (read in full...)
Pet names to call your boyfriend?
Q. Hey girls....what are some good cute pet names that you call your boyfriend? And also..what's a good birthday gift for a guy? ...
A. 23 December 2011: pet names are a personal thing so thats hard to answer.
With regards to a present, Its hard to suggest without knowing more about him.
Age?
hobbies?
price range?
has he hinted about anything?
What I do suggest is that you steer clear o... (read in full...)
10 year relationship being ruined by my inability to feel anything during sex
Q. Hi, Please help me - I'm a 30 year old healthy woman in a 10 year relationship that is being ruined by my inability to feel anything during intercourse. I can orgasm fine by clitoral stimulation and I have no issues with sex such as lack of experien...
A. 23 December 2011: ok
As has already been stated the vast majority of women do not orgasm through penetration.
Most women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.
However most women can "feel" their guy inside them (or fingers or toys). For most women... (read in full...)
Should I just tell him to eat more pineapple? How do I tell him his semen tastes horrible?
Q. It's mostly just way too salty. The taste is still in my mouth, and this is hours later! I dont want to hurt my boyfriend's pride, but I dont really want to have to feel like I'm drowning at the beach (How romantic) or something. I heard pine...
A. 23 December 2011: hmm
every man tastes different, and that taste will also change with regards to their diet, excercise, and how often they have ejaculated.
Some foods make semen taste strongly, garlic, dairy and meat are big culprits, and your right fruit does... (read in full...)
Should I trust him or leave him?
Q. Hello, i need some advice fast. Where to start. A boy who's family and my family are very close to moved away a few years ago i saw the boy when i was 7 and so was he, then recently they moved back to our town he moved to our school i was the...
A. 23 December 2011: regardless of your age...
WHY did you think you could trust him?
You caught him and a (not much of a) friend sexting.... and you took him back.
You then dont trust him at all as you keep snooping and checking his messages... and you catc... (read in full...)
I have a texting relationship with a guy and his mom passed away. What should I do?
Q. So, there is this guy that I used to text like 24/7. He would text me occasionaly over the next couple of months afterwards but not so much recently. Well anyway, his mom passed away a couple days ago and I need help as to what I should say to him. ...
A. 23 December 2011: I would go
Who is "looking after" him right now? has he a big family?
If you think it would be appreciated, pop over with a nice meal that they can re-heat, or offer to come over and help around the house etc.
x... (read in full...)
I'm not over him and I don't know what to do
Q. Ughh, I feel like I'm asking questions all the time now! Sorry. Anyway. A couple weeks ago me and my boyfriend broke up ya know, and well, I kind of miss him. People keep saying no commitment, just have fun and date, which is all fine and dandy I ...
A. 23 December 2011: hiya hun
you have only been single for a couple of weeks!!! If you had real feelings for this guy then they dont go away overnight.
Take some time out, cut as much contact with him as is possible, ask your friends to stop giving you updat... (read in full...)
I have a texting relationship with a guy and his mom passed away. What should I do?
Q. So, there is this guy that I used to text like 24/7. He would text me occasionaly over the next couple of months afterwards but not so much recently. Well anyway, his mom passed away a couple days ago and I need help as to what I should say to him. ...
A. 23 December 2011: IF there is anyway of speaking to him face to face, then do so. If not then a telephone call would be better.
If you have to text then you need to say what you would say face to face.
"I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. If there is anythin... (read in full...)
My Gf wants to start going to the gym but I am worried I wont find her physically attractive if she loses weight, Please help!
Q. My GF was started is thinking about going to the gym with her sister because she invited her to go. I love her very much and I would never leave her and stand by her no matter what, but her going to the gym scares me a bit and i have a few questions ...
A. 23 December 2011: there are times, like now when I am soooooo glad to live in a country with a working national health service.
Anyhow, you asked about the links between obesity and cancer.
Since 2001 studies have been linking a higher incidence of certain... (read in full...)
Social outings, my boyfriend, and his ex
Q. Hi Hope u can help as I just need advice as I am in a very new situation! My fella and I have been together nearly 6 months. He loves me as I do him. However, he has 2 wonderful children (who I haven't met yet) and I understand that he has reg...
A. 22 December 2011: It all depends on their history, the age of the children and the type of parents they are.
My children visit their dad, he takes them to cornwall to visit family for a couple of weeks a year and on various day trips... thats all fine with me. All ... (read in full...)
How do I get up enough courage to ask this girl out?
Q. How do i get up the courage to ask out a girl Ive never spoken to in real life? Ask her online and just ask her out so we can talk face to face :S please help :/...
A. 22 December 2011: ahhh well as you both attend the same school this is alot simpler.
Find some mutual friends... invite them all along for bowling/ice skating/darts/synchronised knitting (e.g invite them all to do some sort of activity that everyone has to get invo... (read in full...)
Birthday call from my ex (part 2). Is his reason more obvious?
Q. Basically, me and my ex remained friends after we broke up. I wasn't so inclined with the idea so much and right now, I completely regret it. I don't understand half of the things he says or whether if he actually means it. Last night we were ta...
A. 21 December 2011: ok in essense...
he is still in love with you.
However because you didnt immediatly reply with a similar confession he is now trying to distance himself from the comment.
Its very hard to stay friends with an ex your still in love with, ... (read in full...)
My Gf wants to start going to the gym but I am worried I wont find her physically attractive if she loses weight, Please help!
Q. My GF was started is thinking about going to the gym with her sister because she invited her to go. I love her very much and I would never leave her and stand by her no matter what, but her going to the gym scares me a bit and i have a few questions ...
A. 21 December 2011: her bmi is around 32, and her ideal bmi would be 20-25ish... so she needs to lose around 3 stone or 42lbs to be in the healthy range.
If she loses 100lbs she would be underweight and at risk of other health conditions.... (read in full...)
How do I help my wife find her next husband?
Q. I have decided my wife deserves a new husband. I cannot give what she feels will make her happy. She and I have discussed this subject at length and I am simply not the man for the "job". She does not know I have reached this conclusion but I ...
A. 21 December 2011: ok IVe come back to this after more thought.
OP perhaps you could answer this for me.
Why would someone who feels they are terrible at their "job" as husband and father feel that they are the person most qualified to choose the very thing they ... (read in full...)
When I'm horny, I make very poor decisions!
Q. Alright so im just going to say this. When I am horny i make very poor decisions. This girl I dated for awhile turned out to be crazy. Like faking a pregnancy crazy...anyway I dont want anything to do with her but when Im in the mood I think of ...
A. 21 December 2011: delete her number from your phone would be a start!
Erase all forms of contact with her, and if that involves changing your number then do it!
That way you wont be tempted to get in touch with crazy baby lady.... seriously no matter how gorge... (read in full...)
Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights?
Q. Sometimes the mother wants an abortion and the father wants her to have the baby. Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights? A Post in here made me think of this question. Would like to hear peoples opinions...
A. 21 December 2011: is that with wings or without cerberus? :P
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I'm not sure I can manage to go to the funeral!
Q. Its my cousins funeral on Friday, he was 19 and had been suffering with cancer for 18 months. We were so close and im crying my eyes out writing this. My mum really wants me to go to the funeral but I dont know if i can bear it. Any tips or help ...
A. 21 December 2011: Hiya hunny
I am so pleased you managed to attend and got to say your farewell's with everyone who loved him too.
HUGS xxx... (read in full...)
I am so in love and really want to start a life with my Bf, but we are still rather young. Am I being irrational? Should I tell him how seriously I feel for him?
Q. In the midst of a joking conversation, my boyfriend (22) and I (21) of six months somehow got on to the subject of children and I joked that because of one of his dorky, but lovely and endearing traits (Star Wars obsession) we shouldnt procreate, ...
A. 21 December 2011: I think he has given you all the signals to express your mutual agreement of this being a long term relationship with a possibility of a lovely lifelong future together.
I wouldnt go proposing, just wait until your having another similar conversa... (read in full...)
Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights?
Q. Sometimes the mother wants an abortion and the father wants her to have the baby. Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights? A Post in here made me think of this question. Would like to hear peoples opinions...
A. 21 December 2011: just been looking further into the case i mentioned. It seems that the overriding factor for not allowing the embryos to be used was the fact that if they had... other uses for peoples embryos could be done without consent.
The use of embryos ... (read in full...)
Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights?
Q. Sometimes the mother wants an abortion and the father wants her to have the baby. Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights? A Post in here made me think of this question. Would like to hear peoples opinions...
A. 21 December 2011: Hi caringguy
I think we may be talking about different cases, as the one I am referring to was definatly about embryos already created, not sperm. However the reasons for the denial of the case may remain the same.
... (read in full...)
Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights?
Q. Sometimes the mother wants an abortion and the father wants her to have the baby. Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights? A Post in here made me think of this question. Would like to hear peoples opinions...
A. 21 December 2011: A very emotive subject and a proper can of worms youve opened Rainorfire!... I'll just grab some popcorn ;-)
I'm afraid I fully believe that a woman has a right to choose what happens to her body. This includes whether or not she chooses to grow ... (read in full...)
How do I help my wife find her next husband?
Q. I have decided my wife deserves a new husband. I cannot give what she feels will make her happy. She and I have discussed this subject at length and I am simply not the man for the "job". She does not know I have reached this conclusion but I ...
A. 21 December 2011: ahhhh ok thankyou for coming back.
I am SO SO pleased that your motives arent about some sort of financial arrangement.
However, why do you consider your wife to be unhappy?
Why would it be up to you to help her find another husband?
She ... (read in full...)
Should he come over to my sister's place at all, given how awkward his last visit was?
Q. Okay, so I've been dating a wonderful man for almost a year and a half now. He's 24 and I'm 21, and we get along really well and are still quite happy with one another. The only problem with him is that he is incredibly socially awkward, and ...
A. 21 December 2011: agree with chalice that he sounds borderline aspie or high functioning autism (I think if he doesnt fit within one group they are often given the diagnosis of pdd-nos - which means non specific autism apergers like traits).
Either way regardle... (read in full...)
Is sarcasm a bad trait?
Q. Is sarcasm a bad trait to have? Do guys not like sarcasm? Not bad sarcasm just a mild if-you-ask-a-stupid-?-I'll-give-a-sarcastic-answer kind of sarcasm. Im just wondering because thts a really big trait of mine .. :P...
A. 21 December 2011: sarcasm has its place.
I have a very dry sense of humour so sarcasm features heavily. However there are times, places and situations where it is not appropriate.
Mocking someone who has a genuine query is not acceptable (for example in class... (read in full...)
Why cant my ex just forgive me for cheating on him? I regret my actions yet he's stubborn as hell
Q. I know it's long, hope someone wants to read it though.. I really want to get back with my ex boyfriend who I had 5 years ago (at this time i was 15 and he was 19). He was my first love and I was his, we had a wonderful relationship and...
A. 21 December 2011: he is acting this way because he really doesnt have any positive feelings towards you anymore.
Your broke his trust and hurt him very badly. THEN you literally stalked him.... none of these are signs for a healthy relationship. Yes he has feelings... (read in full...)
Which woman should I choose?
Q. I recently had a response from match.com. And shes been interested in me for 2 weeks before we started talking. This is before i got back together with my girlfriend of 5 months. Before her mom was diagnosed with cancer. She has no kids and neve...
A. 21 December 2011: Why do you need someone to fall back on?
You know, its perfectly OK to be single!!
Anyhoo, with regards to choosing between your love interests that really is up to you.
You need to examine why things went wrong with your girlfriend in ... (read in full...)
I want to reconcile with my ex-boyfriend..how do I go about doing this?
Q. I need some advice. I am 21 and my now ex boyfriend is 24. He has graduated and I have another 6 months. My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me over the weekend. It wasn't too much of a shock, as it was something I had considered myself. His ...
A. 21 December 2011: I think the problem here is that he really doesnt have much free time, and whilst you say you understand this, you have also been on his case about spending more time together.
His decision to finish things wasnt a new idea to you... you had thou... (read in full...)
Nice? Or interested? I can't tell!
Q. I met a guy 6 months ago we hit it off really well. He hugged me first day we met we hang out together he talked with me more than his friends. I catch him starring and he hugged me again this time held me closer his hands around my waist. Now ...
A. 21 December 2011: I think its probably a bit of both. Currently your lives have gone down different paths, to the point that trying to maintain any sort of romantic relationship is almost impossible.
I suggest you finish your internship, and he finishes his curr... (read in full...)
How do I help my wife find her next husband?
Q. I have decided my wife deserves a new husband. I cannot give what she feels will make her happy. She and I have discussed this subject at length and I am simply not the man for the "job". She does not know I have reached this conclusion but I ...
A. 21 December 2011: wow!!!
When you walk out the door, you have no right to meddle in what you leave behind.
Why does he need to be a "more than adequate step father"? The children have a father - YOU!. Of course you want whoever he is to be good with the kids, b... (read in full...)
How do I set people up with each other?
Q. Ok so have 2 friends that have asked me to set them up, cause there the only single ppl left in there friend circal. They go to different schools and I think they would be good together! How do I set them up? ...
A. 21 December 2011: STOP!
Just because they are the last two (currently) single people in your social circle does NOT mean that they are a good match.
If and WHEN things go wrong, you will be getting blamed by them both. This could lead the your whole social cir... (read in full...)
How do I get up enough courage to ask this girl out?
Q. How do i get up the courage to ask out a girl Ive never spoken to in real life? Ask her online and just ask her out so we can talk face to face :S please help :/...
A. 21 December 2011: I wouldnt be asking her for a date yet.
Does she attend your school or social club?
Its just that online friendships often dont go as well in real life until you really get to know that person.
So..
Why dont you invite her to meet you ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any input as to what I could get engraved on the cover of the photo album that I would like to gift my mom?
Q. My mum always goes on about how when she's old she'll look back and other than us kids, she'll have nothing to show for her life. But really she has a hell of a lot! So for christmas I thought I would get her a photo album and then fill it with ...
A. 21 December 2011: To our wonderful mum
1991-2011
20 years in the life of a family... (read in full...)
Can I believe my boyfriend when he says he is not gay?
Q. My bf looked at transvestites online in the past.I asked him openly if he was bi and he said no.I said that i don't care what he did before me, and that if he tried something i would understand him 100%.That we all have the right to have fantasies, ...
A. 21 December 2011: whhhhooooaaaahhhh
why does a man looking at a transvestite mean he is gay.
A transvestite is NOT an indication of sexual orientation!
A transvestite is a man who enjoyes wearing womens clothes.
A man who enjoys cross-dressing can do so ... (read in full...)
My Gf wants to start going to the gym but I am worried I wont find her physically attractive if she loses weight, Please help!
Q. My GF was started is thinking about going to the gym with her sister because she invited her to go. I love her very much and I would never leave her and stand by her no matter what, but her going to the gym scares me a bit and i have a few questions ...
A. 20 December 2011: being specific
1 - no. Weight loss happens throughout the body. Despite the myth there is no way to target weight loss. What she can do is target muscle "gain". By working out her pectorals she will be building the muscles behind the breast t... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I can manage to go to the funeral!
Q. Its my cousins funeral on Friday, he was 19 and had been suffering with cancer for 18 months. We were so close and im crying my eyes out writing this. My mum really wants me to go to the funeral but I dont know if i can bear it. Any tips or help ...
A. 12 December 2011: hiya hun
I am so sorry for your loss. Cancer is such an evil devestating disease.
Funerals are about your chance to say goodbye, and celebrate the amazing person your cousin was.
I know your distraught at the moment, and have every reason to... (read in full...)
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