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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My married friend's husband keeps calling me! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I first wrote for help here 3 years ago with the same problem and it is still going on. My friends husband used to ring me over and over again late at night begging me to talk to him or ring him back. Sometimes he would text. This...
A. 23 April 2013: I hope everything is going well for you and the drama has ended. You should be able to breathe freely and not have this weight of the big secret hanging around your neck any longer. I hope he has finally ended his blackmail campaign for good. Sorry ... (read in full...)
Awkward moment when her grandmother called me by my girlfriend's ex's name!
Q. So I am at my girlfriends parents house an meeting them for the first time. During this time everything is going well an we talk and really get to know one another. I also meet the grandparents an everything is also seeming going really well. ...
A. 2 April 2013: You're going to break up with your girlfriend because her grandmother had a slip of the tongue? Really?
You must be feeling very on edge in the relationship if this is enough to send you spiraling into anger and blaming your girlfriend for her gran... (read in full...)
He says he's had way hotter girlfriends than me???
Q. My boyfriend told me that he's had way hotter girlfriends than me, but he still tells me he thinks I'm beautiful/gorgeous on the inside and also on the outside and he loves me more then anything and that I don't even compare to his previous ex gfs.. ...
A. 2 April 2013: I think in clumsy guy talk he was trying to pay you a compliment. As in, he could have conventional, ho-hum, run-of-the-mill, ordinary sexy out of a bottle and tanning salon type of girl but that he thinks you are amazing and gorgeous without ... (read in full...)
Help for ex wives of transvestites/cross dressers?
Q. Hi My husband of 30 years told me one day out of the blue that he had been cross dressing since childhood and that now he wanted to become a woman. Cutting a long story short, we got divorced and now he is happily in another relationship wit...
A. 2 April 2013: I don't know if this group will help exes of crossdressers but it certainly helps those who were with transgendered spouses: http://www.straightspouse.org/home.php
I hope you find the comfort you need. You're already making strides towards that by a... (read in full...)
Confused by all the mixed messages from this girl
Q. Hello Cupid I am perusing a girl since February. we went out few times and hanged out. Well, when we talk in person she is showing she is interested yet when I text her, she seems otherwise. In person, we have fun and I make her laugh an...
A. 2 April 2013: Do you ask her out, or just text her?
Offer to take her out after her exam and treat her to dinner or drinks or something nice.
If she says 'no' then she's not interested.
Texts are a low-energy way to communicate and don't show much of a commitm... (read in full...)
Are my good intentions possibly hurting her in a way I didn't intend? Do I need to step back and let her do these things instead?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a year now and everything has been great. We are able to discuss any issues that come up calmly - something she was never able to do in previous relationships. Due to a rather unscrupulous ex of hers she has been ...
A. 2 April 2013: Sorry, forgot to add, she may be taking your cleaning of her space as an implied criticism of her. As in, because you vacuumed the place, she wasn't keeping it clean enough. The cleaning, while it is a lovely and caring gesture, may inadvertently ... (read in full...)
He's confused me. Should I be concerned? He tells me he likes me, but he doesn't really act much on it.
Q. I met this guy through friends years ago but he lived in a different state. He recently moved to my town and we connected through facebook and started going out on dates. The first time we went out he tried to kiss me but I backed away and ...
A. 2 April 2013: Let's review. You are 26-29, looking for a dating partner, but when the date tried to kiss you, you refused him both times. He then backed off because he senses you don't want to be kissed.
You don't initiate contact, you wait around for him to cont... (read in full...)
Are my good intentions possibly hurting her in a way I didn't intend? Do I need to step back and let her do these things instead?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a year now and everything has been great. We are able to discuss any issues that come up calmly - something she was never able to do in previous relationships. Due to a rather unscrupulous ex of hers she has been ...
A. 2 April 2013: Skip cleaning her house, but keep it up with the dinner preparation. She may just feel a bit invaded in her space if you are tidying the undies in the drawer. That may change with time, if you two continue getting closer.... (read in full...)
What can be done to get her to want me again? And why is she not discouraging her ex from reaching out to her?
Q. My GF and I been dating for 2 years. She's had a very "liberal" sexual past. Threesomes, group sex, other women, etc. We started off very hot and heavy. And after a few months, she moved in late last year. I've noticed over the past few months t...
A. 2 April 2013: Have you sat her down and talked about the change in sex drive after you two moved in together? I think some people think the sex frequency should continue at the same rate ad infinitum, where in others, there's a feeling that the honeymoon period ... (read in full...)
She seems to have lost interest in me!
Q. I met the most wonderful girl on a dating site - intelligent, articulate, humble, kind - and we've been communicating online for more than two months now. We bonded together over a series of uncanny coincidences and shared interests. We al...
A. 2 April 2013: Yes, why would the gender matter, if you are asexual? You didn't mention that in the original question. It adds a complication, of course, but may explain why you aren't out looking for romantic partners in real life.
I found some resources for you:... (read in full...)
She thinks that the guy has to make all the effort
Q. so i've been with my girlfriend for 4 months and we have a long distance relationship and its a strong one but the problem is that i have put so much effort to make it work and she has only put a few and she believes that in all relationships the ...
A. 1 April 2013: Good luck to you. If you think you are being bull-shitted, lol, you probably are! Be an upright guy and you'll be fine.... (read in full...)
She thinks that the guy has to make all the effort
Q. so i've been with my girlfriend for 4 months and we have a long distance relationship and its a strong one but the problem is that i have put so much effort to make it work and she has only put a few and she believes that in all relationships the ...
A. 1 April 2013: As one of the aunts here says, stop rowing the relationship boat and see what happens.
She's old enough to learn new things. There are princesses and then there are Princesses. You don't want to be stuck with a high-maintenance girlfriend, espe... (read in full...)
The elephant in the room: is he my boyfriend?
Q. I met a guy on a dating website and we have been dating for 2 months. We speak to each other everyday and say goodnight before bed. We sleep at each other's houses and have sex twice a week. He seems very loyal and committed in his actions and has ...
A. 1 April 2013: Do you go out on dates, like having dinner, then seeing a film or other outings? Or is this more a physical relationship, sleeping over and having sex?
I like YouWish's answer.
"Hey, I want to introduce you to some of my friends, and am wonderin... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend completely over his ex?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six months. He is 30 and I'm 29, and we started living together about a month ago. It was around this time when he first told me he loved me too. Things are going really well. We get along great and are very sex...
A. 1 April 2013: Have you pointed out to him what you have written here, that he wasn't over his exes when he started on a new relationship? And that it makes you wonder why he's remaining friends with her on facebook? I mean, why is he? Why keep the contact going?... (read in full...)
Why Does My Ex Have Hostile Feelings Towards Me?
Q. My BF broke up with me months ago on Halloween. Even though HE ended it, he is the one who is hostile. We just cannot seem to ever reach peace. He would contact me and it always starts good and nice, then ends really dramatic. We'll have good ...
A. 1 April 2013: Sometimes people who feel guilt take it out on the person they feel guilty about. Who knows? He sounds really awful. I would let the blocks stand and if he contacts you again, don't respond.
You don't owe him anything at all. Time to draw your boun... (read in full...)
She thinks that the guy has to make all the effort
Q. so i've been with my girlfriend for 4 months and we have a long distance relationship and its a strong one but the problem is that i have put so much effort to make it work and she has only put a few and she believes that in all relationships the ...
A. 1 April 2013: Sometimes people have to learn in real life how things work. Just because somebody closes their eyes and wishes really really hard, doesn't make it happen.
I think maybe you could just stop doing 100% of the work, drop it to 50%. If she likes you ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy not to come everytime?
Q. My bf and I lost our virginity together, he never came the first time. After a year he still doesn't occasionally. And it seems like it takes lots of effort to come. He admitted an addiction to porn halfway into our relationship, and he's let that ...
A. 1 April 2013: There's a great website here http://yourbrainonporn.com which explains what is happening to young men who OD on the internet porn thing.
They basically desensitize themselves to anything but more and more images flashed on the screen. I would give... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 1 April 2013: Ah, I think you may be overanalyzing things, seeing signals in innocuous chitchat.
Did you make contact with her after your big falling out, or did she message you first?
Are social anxiety or Asperger's somethings you currently have?
If you wa... (read in full...)
Moving out for the 1st time, and in with boyfriend! Need reassurance/ advice!
Q. Aunts and Uncles, I’m getting ready to “fly the nest” as a 25 year old woman with a BFA in Illustration. I have enough money saved up to last me 6 months should I fall on hard times. I have been semi-guaranteed at least part time in the city to w...
A. 1 April 2013: Why can't you look for a new job before you move? Take a week off work, stay at the boyfriend's place and do a really diligent job hunt? Obviously, you will have done your homework beforehand and have interviews lined up and all that…
Try that firs... (read in full...)
Let this April Fools joke slide? Or break up with him?
Q. Boyfriend pretended to break up with me as an April Fool's joke? Well, apparently, he said it was an April Fool's joke. Should i leave him?. I think that's a cruel joke....
A. 1 April 2013: April Fools Day isn't over…... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 1 April 2013: Are you speaking in person, or is this all on line?
An 'xo' could mean 'kiss hug' or it could just mean a virtual platonic air kiss like two 'ladies who lunch' might do when they meet at the restaurant.
... (read in full...)
So I met a girl online, was I pretty stupid putting the "friend" thing on a dating site?
Q. I am a single dad with two boys, I decided to have a try at one of the main dating sites, and a girl started messaging me, said she liked what I said on the profile. However, one of the things I wrote on there was that if I couldnt find a lover I ...
A. 1 April 2013: As person12345 pointed out, the 'friend zone' doesn't exist. There's not a magic holding pen for men on whom the dating jury is 'out.' The 'friend zone' is a concept created by men who want to blame the girl for being rejected by her.
So as long... (read in full...)
I want to know how to ask my boyfriend to be STD tested!
Q. has anyone ever asked their fiance/significant other to get as STD test? how did you manage to do that? Everytime I want to bring it up, it feels so weird so I don't. However I'm a virgin, and he is not by a long shot, and we were talking about how ...
A. 1 April 2013: If he's had sex since he's been tested, time for a retest. Peculiar he thinks he doesn't need any medical exam, and is relying on the women to do all the work? Hm.
Be brave. Woman up and take care of your own health, okay? Don't rely on his word... (read in full...)
My married friend's husband keeps calling me! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I first wrote for help here 3 years ago with the same problem and it is still going on. My friends husband used to ring me over and over again late at night begging me to talk to him or ring him back. Sometimes he would text. This...
A. 1 April 2013: At this point, I would get law enforcement involved. This has been going on for 3 years and he persists in harassing you, despite being told point blank to stop?
Maybe a nice chat with a Bobby will alter his behavior.
Or, this is probably what I w... (read in full...)
She seems to have lost interest in me!
Q. I met the most wonderful girl on a dating site - intelligent, articulate, humble, kind - and we've been communicating online for more than two months now. We bonded together over a series of uncanny coincidences and shared interests. We al...
A. 1 April 2013: My guess is she got bored and wandered off to the next guy.
She could have a mental illness. She could be married looking for people to chat to.
You may be trying to get too close too soon to a person you don't know in real life.
She could be a b... (read in full...)
I want to know how to ask my boyfriend to be STD tested!
Q. has anyone ever asked their fiance/significant other to get as STD test? how did you manage to do that? Everytime I want to bring it up, it feels so weird so I don't. However I'm a virgin, and he is not by a long shot, and we were talking about how ...
A. 1 April 2013: "Hey, Jude, don't be afraid…"
oops, sorry, I'll start again,
"Hey, Jude, we are getting closer and I expect there will be some more physical intimacy in the future. So the thing is, because you have been sexually active in the past with other gi... (read in full...)
Me and my best guy friend almost kissed last week!
Q. Me and my guy bestfriend almost kissed last week. I don't know what to do. Im starting to fall for him and idk what to do. He askked me who do i like. I tolod him i like you a little bit nd then i asked him who do u like? and he said no1. Im ...
A. 31 March 2013: He may not want to admit he likes you. I think the best thing to do is to let him chase you a bit, if he wants to try another kiss, he'll have to show you he likes you, just a little bit!
... (read in full...)
What are the chances he'll come back home?
Q. Need advice please..sorry it's a bit long but l prefer to explain fully..... my husband and l have been married 14 years this year, back in 2007 he had an emotional affair with a woman who was supposed to be my best friend..(all 3 of us worked t...
A. 31 March 2013: She hasn't badgered him to stay with her. He's decided that all on his own.
He has to take part in saving the marriage, he is not. He knows you will be there for him no matter what.
Maybe it's time to shake his certainty that you will never ev... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys sleeping with other women and swinging and I'm tired of some creep touching me because my B/f wants to sleep with his wife
Q. My boyfriend enjoys sleeping with other women and swinging. Rather it be me and another girl with him or a full couple swap. At first I was alright with it, didn't put up much of a fight and probably even enjoyed it. But now it's like he's obsessed ...
A. 31 March 2013: Is he punishing you for not doing the laundry by making you sleep with men you have no interest in? Really? He's engaging in emotional blackmail.
Is there anything you can do to stop this? Um, you can say 'no' and don't cave in anymore. You're goin... (read in full...)
Spice up sex life with some stranger role play - or is this asking for trouble later?
Q. Hi Aunts, I could use some opinions/advice! Here's the short: My fiance and I are getting married in 8 months, and we have a great relationship. We've been together almost 3 years, live together most of it and our sex life has diminished th...
A. 30 March 2013: Wait, you want to try to pretend to be a stranger and think he won't notice?
If you want to role-play, I think one of the key rules is that you discuss the concept first before putting it into action.
Why can't you find a way to talk to him abou... (read in full...)
Should I back down in the face of my Gf mother refusal to have me in her home?
Q. Hi in light of my previous question I posted over a month ago I would like to ask if I’m right in thinking to stick to my guns . Basically My Gf Mother will not let me in the house because over 2 months ago my gf and I argued over something p...
A. 29 March 2013: What did you say?
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How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip?
Q. I've been waitressing at a restaurant for a few months. I've noticed that certain regulars don't leave tip regardless of service. And of course there are occasional customers that don't tip at all. How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip? ...
A. 29 March 2013: In some circumstances, tips ARE wages. They pay less than the minimum wage because tips are expected to make up the larger portion of the pay.
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How can I make him realize the amount of distance his lying is putting between us?
Q. I have been with my husband for 19yrs. We have had our plights and problems. I left him about 5 yrs ago, for about 2 years, over a problem he covered up with a mountain of lies and betrayals. I continue to work with forgive and forget issues. He ...
A. 28 March 2013: What is he lying about? Porn? An affair? Maybe if you bring the issues into the light of your world, you'll be able to make some healthy choices for yourself.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife I want to watch her have sex with other men?
Q. Behind The Green Door I want to watch my wife have sex with other men. And I don't know how to tell her. It's a Turn On I would love to experience. How can I tell her to bring home the boys and men?...
A. 28 March 2013: Buy a life-like mask, hang a big mirror in your bedroom and start with that.
I'm assuming you don't have great sexual communication with your wife?
Have you tried talking about your fantasy with her at all?... (read in full...)
How can I make him realize the amount of distance his lying is putting between us?
Q. I have been with my husband for 19yrs. We have had our plights and problems. I left him about 5 yrs ago, for about 2 years, over a problem he covered up with a mountain of lies and betrayals. I continue to work with forgive and forget issues. He ...
A. 28 March 2013: You are 36-40? You have another lifetime ahead with a new person possible for yourself.
Can you imagine a relationship based on real trust? Not this anxiety and emotional upheaval, concern and sorrow that you face everyday…. what a weight will be l... (read in full...)
Not totally sure if I am friendzoned or still have chance or even missed my chance.
Q. Hi, so I'm trying to get some help with my situation because I am quite confused. This might be a little long too so I apologize. Little backstory: I've met this girl in college about 2 years ago. She's since graduated and I am little less than...
A. 28 March 2013: It sounds to me like she spent a lot of time texting/messaging you when she had the time.
Now she's busy in NYC and has other distractions, so you have fallen lower in her priority list.
It's pretty common to feel a bit unanchored after graduati... (read in full...)
Is it the wrong time to be marrying with dating sites in the background?
Q. I am getting married in June. Two years ago I found her to be going on dating sites. First she lied about it, and then admitted she did it for a joke. I caught her doing it again and I left that time. We got back after she begged me and promised she ...
A. 28 March 2013: Don't you think it is? I would put the wedding on hold for now.
She promised she wouldn't do it again. She did. She doesn't seem to understand that what she is doing is wrong, or she doesn't care or is so out there that she's clueless.
Why w... (read in full...)
Please help! How should I act with my friend now that he has said we should just be friends.
Q. Hi, I need some help as im not sure what way i should be acting with a certain fella. Im usually a push over so im not sure if im entitled to be angry in this situation or not. So please read and tell me how i should act now with this person. ...
A. 28 March 2013: Hi, he's not cheating on you with his girlfriend. He was cheating on his girlfriend with you.
You're not in love with him, he's decided it's time he stopped feeding whatever off label relationship you were developing. So why do you need to try 'eve... (read in full...)
Dealing with my wife's past...need help
Q. I’ve been married for 6 months now and I have been with my wife for 1 ½ years. We are both Christians, but we met while we were in our previous marriages. I found out early in the relationship that she had an affair about 9 years earlier with a ...
A. 28 March 2013: You have what is called retroactive jealousy, and it appears to be related to OCD. Intrusive thoughts and images and fantasies which have been fed through intensive questioning and obsessive thoughts.
I have an article with some links that may be o... (read in full...)
Why do women treat nice guys badly?
Q. hi, to all you women who say you want to meet a nice guy, but when you do, you treat him like sh.t, but a bad guy comes around you fall madly in love, you all say thats not true, but think about it,a nice guy you know what hes going to say, what hes ...
A. 28 March 2013: Hey, I'm with a nice guy, the flowers, holding hands, being romantic (not all the time, but enough) is what I have.
This is a sweeping generalization question and it's basically a rant against the women who have rejected you for so many years, if y... (read in full...)
What do I do about this ring intended for my ex?
Q. Hey all, I have what I think is an unusual question. For Christmas 2012 I bought my then girlfriend a ring. Not an engagement ring, but a little bit of an expensive ring that has a heart made out of rubies filled in with diamonds. Well her and I ...
A. 28 March 2013: There are so many people out there who could use some help; return it to the shop where you purchased it and donate the money to a wonderful charity that is significant to you both. Then let it go……... (read in full...)
How do I tell my sex-buddy I don't want to sleep with him anymore?
Q. How do i tell my sex-buddy i dont want to sleep with him anymore? I live in a different city for university and when i come back we always meet up for drinks/cinema or we'l wobble back to each others houses after nights out. We've been sleeping to...
A. 27 March 2013: And I would skip the cinema date for the time being, until you get your feet back under you and feel less wobbly. Cut back on the booze, it hurts you in so many ways.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my sex-buddy I don't want to sleep with him anymore?
Q. How do i tell my sex-buddy i dont want to sleep with him anymore? I live in a different city for university and when i come back we always meet up for drinks/cinema or we'l wobble back to each others houses after nights out. We've been sleeping to...
A. 27 March 2013: "Hey, while I have enjoyed our time together for the past few years, it's time for me to move on. I feel this is holding me back from some personal growth I need to do. I know you care about me as a friend and will support my decision. So it's back ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 24 March 2013: I don't know why it would make her uncomfortable. Why would you persist in asking for tips you don't need when she has made it plain it bothers her?... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 18 March 2013: Here are some options:
-She feels she can't be honest with you about your datability
-She has talked about dating with you in the past and has given you all her tips
-She feels uncomfortable because you are 22-25 and she may think you don't need h... (read in full...)
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