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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Tissue problem when giving oral!
Q. I love pleasing my wife orally. However, there's often some tissue remnants. just small bits which is really off putting. Blokes, is this common? How do you deal with it in the moment? Ladies, how can I broach this with her?...
A. 29 September 2013: I one other option for you if you can't talk about sex with your wife. Show her that there's tissue down there. Either make sure she sees your face with the little bits of tissue or as you remove them, "accidentally" leave them on her hand or on the ... (read in full...)
Tissue problem when giving oral!
Q. I love pleasing my wife orally. However, there's often some tissue remnants. just small bits which is really off putting. Blokes, is this common? How do you deal with it in the moment? Ladies, how can I broach this with her?...
A. 29 September 2013: Being told she has a little bit of tissue on her vulva is going to kill her? Really? Is she that sensitive and that shy? How do you even manage oral if she's so freaked out about this type of stuff?
Just tell her, it's honestly not that big a deal... (read in full...)
Tissue problem when giving oral!
Q. I love pleasing my wife orally. However, there's often some tissue remnants. just small bits which is really off putting. Blokes, is this common? How do you deal with it in the moment? Ladies, how can I broach this with her?...
A. 20 June 2013: Can't you just tell her that she's leaving little bits behind? She is your wife, after all. Just smile when you mention it, so she knows you are just trying to find a happy solution.... (read in full...)
I found out that the woman I've been dating isn't a virgin as she hinted before!
Q. Background: im an atheist, also a virgin, I dont usually find virginity something necessary in a partner, but I do find it quite beautiful and special. Most of the feelings Ive built up for her in this time stem from the fact I belived (one time I ...
A. 5 June 2013: Thank you, iAmHereToHelpYou, you are correct in your assessment of my question to the OP.
So you didn't answer the basic question: do you love this shy Christian who didn't disclose her one sexual encounter right off the bat? Do you want to be with... (read in full...)
I found out that the woman I've been dating isn't a virgin as she hinted before!
Q. Background: im an atheist, also a virgin, I dont usually find virginity something necessary in a partner, but I do find it quite beautiful and special. Most of the feelings Ive built up for her in this time stem from the fact I belived (one time I ...
A. 4 June 2013: So let's boil this down to one question:
Do you love this shy Christian who has bad taste in clothes and one sexual experience or not?
Okay. Two questions. You are doling out information about the relationship and your background here, in stingy l... (read in full...)
I found out that the woman I've been dating isn't a virgin as she hinted before!
Q. Background: im an atheist, also a virgin, I dont usually find virginity something necessary in a partner, but I do find it quite beautiful and special. Most of the feelings Ive built up for her in this time stem from the fact I belived (one time I ...
A. 4 June 2013: You describe yourself as an atheist. She is a Christian.
So how do you reconcile these two very different belief systems?
That would seem to me to be more of an issue than who had sex with whom and when.
... (read in full...)
I found out that the woman I've been dating isn't a virgin as she hinted before!
Q. Background: im an atheist, also a virgin, I dont usually find virginity something necessary in a partner, but I do find it quite beautiful and special. Most of the feelings Ive built up for her in this time stem from the fact I belived (one time I ...
A. 4 June 2013: It is a bit odd that a shy, self-described Christian would choose to test a guy by going back to his apartment and have sex with him knowing he had a girlfriend in the way you describe, and at the age of 25, to boot. That doesn't ring true to me.... (read in full...)
I found out that the woman I've been dating isn't a virgin as she hinted before!
Q. Background: im an atheist, also a virgin, I dont usually find virginity something necessary in a partner, but I do find it quite beautiful and special. Most of the feelings Ive built up for her in this time stem from the fact I belived (one time I ...
A. 4 June 2013: That depends on how you define 'true love.'
You have a lot of beliefs going on here. Do you believe that you shouldn't have sex before marriage or just that you believe you want to have sex only with another partner who is also as 'ine... (read in full...)
He is very confusing! I want to know what the hell he is thinking? Does he like me is he unsure because I am still legally married?
Q. I am seperated and have been seeing the neighbor boy who is 26. I am 37. We have slept together a few times, But also he has stayed the night and just cuddled without sex. He will text me and I will text him, but sometimes he will go 3-4 weeks ...
A. 4 June 2013: I'm not saying you shouldn't have had sex with him. I'm all for people having safe, consensual sex, without blackmail or deceit.
I'm suggesting that you need to figure out what it is that YOU want and then align your life so that you can reach your... (read in full...)
I found out that the woman I've been dating isn't a virgin as she hinted before!
Q. Background: im an atheist, also a virgin, I dont usually find virginity something necessary in a partner, but I do find it quite beautiful and special. Most of the feelings Ive built up for her in this time stem from the fact I belived (one time I ...
A. 4 June 2013: How old was she when she had this consensual sex? Was she 15 and he was older?... (read in full...)
He is very confusing! I want to know what the hell he is thinking? Does he like me is he unsure because I am still legally married?
Q. I am seperated and have been seeing the neighbor boy who is 26. I am 37. We have slept together a few times, But also he has stayed the night and just cuddled without sex. He will text me and I will text him, but sometimes he will go 3-4 weeks ...
A. 4 June 2013: So remove the stated blockage, get the divorce finalized, and then see what he does.
I'm dubious about the 'not now' qualifier on the relationship question. You DO have a relationship, it's just not an official boyfriend girlfriend one. If you are ... (read in full...)
He is very confusing! I want to know what the hell he is thinking? Does he like me is he unsure because I am still legally married?
Q. I am seperated and have been seeing the neighbor boy who is 26. I am 37. We have slept together a few times, But also he has stayed the night and just cuddled without sex. He will text me and I will text him, but sometimes he will go 3-4 weeks ...
A. 4 June 2013: "He said he does not want a relationship he likes doing what he wants to do when he wants to do it, but yet there are times I feel like he is into me and maybe has changed his mind."
He has told you he doesn't want a relationship.
He's into you... (read in full...)
So my problem is my husband says I must convince her to move back. Or he is divorcing me!
Q. My problems with my 25 year old step-daughter have once again reared their ugly head. She moved in with us about a year ago and it was very difficult living with her. I wanted to sit down before she moved in and discuss, like 3 grown roommates, how ...
A. 4 June 2013: I think So Very Confused has given you excellent advice.
The key line to me in your post is this one: "He did not back me up." Even if he disagrees with you about how to deal with his daughter, he should at the very least, be partnered with you as h... (read in full...)
Do you think he's ignoring me because I refused his marriage proposal?
Q. Hello, I am going to try to keep this short. So there's this guy. November last he asked for my hand in marriage with my bro in law. i did not know the boy then. I had never seen him. However, since my parents want me to pursue my further edu...
A. 4 June 2013: I don't know much about cultures in which marriages are arranged like that, so what I say may completely miss the mark. In such a culture, I would expect that a female chasing a male may be considered to be a bit forward, and if he is at all ... (read in full...)
I found out that the woman I've been dating isn't a virgin as she hinted before!
Q. Background: im an atheist, also a virgin, I dont usually find virginity something necessary in a partner, but I do find it quite beautiful and special. Most of the feelings Ive built up for her in this time stem from the fact I belived (one time I ...
A. 4 June 2013: "I have this fear that the only way I can be a man is if I get a partner that has the same amount of experiances. It has alot to do with loosing my father and growing up with my mom and brother. I never really dated anyone past elementary school, if ... (read in full...)
Please have dinner ready by 8:30 he asks me, but can't be bothered to let me know he'll be late?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 years asked me to cook dinner for him and his brother after his soccer game. Please have it ready by 8:30 he said. So off he goes. I had to race home from errands to have it done by then. 9 pm comes along and he finally calls to ...
A. 4 June 2013: Who owns the home or do you rent jointly? You need to get your legal ducks in a row ASAP!... (read in full...)
Please have dinner ready by 8:30 he asks me, but can't be bothered to let me know he'll be late?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 years asked me to cook dinner for him and his brother after his soccer game. Please have it ready by 8:30 he said. So off he goes. I had to race home from errands to have it done by then. 9 pm comes along and he finally calls to ...
A. 4 June 2013: Oh, and while I agree with almost every point that So Very Confused makes, I wouldn't be so quick to vacate the premises if you both own the home you live in. If he's threatening to end it, then let HIM pack a bag and leave.
I think a pre-... (read in full...)
Please have dinner ready by 8:30 he asks me, but can't be bothered to let me know he'll be late?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 years asked me to cook dinner for him and his brother after his soccer game. Please have it ready by 8:30 he said. So off he goes. I had to race home from errands to have it done by then. 9 pm comes along and he finally calls to ...
A. 4 June 2013: He's threatening to break up with you because you would like an apology for his bad behavior?
I think I might take him up on that. See if that changes his attitude. If it doesn't, well, at least you won't need to put up with him any more.
And y... (read in full...)
I love my wife but am sexually frustrated!
Q. Been married for 09 years. Living in a conservative society, but independent. Sex doesn't feel great anymore. Used to be crazy like rabbits first year into marriage, but faded with time to the extent now i'm thinking about an extramarital affair ...
A. 4 June 2013: You mention porn. Read this site: http://yourbrainonporn.com It may explain a lot.
Also, you don't seem to want to take responsibility for your own actions. "A forced choice." "Not what I wanted." "My situation forced me there." All words desi... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 4 June 2013: "I know they say you shouldnt call a girl out because it gets you nowhere, but i called her out on it because i felt it wasnt fair to me that i get put on hold while she is trying to break up a marriage."
He lives apart from his wife, you refe... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 4 June 2013: Parkas in June will look odd. Try a light windbreaker and a baseball cap.
Still waiting for that one wonderful thing about this woman you've dated for 2 years.... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 4 June 2013: I'm not a big fan of cheaters.
You want us to judge her but aren't prepared to offer the full details, details I expect will embarrass you more than support your contention that she's an awful person.
You think you have caught her out in some sor... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 4 June 2013: So your evidence that they hooked up is facebook posts? And one photo?
Are you and she boyfriend and girlfriend in her eyes or not?... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 4 June 2013: Sorry for the questions, trying to understand the shift here. From 'the girl that I like' to 'the girl I've been dating exclusively for 2 years' is a big difference. Also you seem to be avoiding answering some of the questions. Which would sugg... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 4 June 2013: So did you two call each other boyfriend and girlfriend, spend your weekends together and some weeknights together? Had you introduced one another to family and friends?... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 4 June 2013: Oh and for the record, I'm not a big fan of people who cheat on their partners. If you read my previous posts you'll pick that up quickly.
What I was trying to understand is why you would want to pursue a relationship with a woman who was will... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 4 June 2013: OP, how much time have you spent in real life with this girl you like who you thought liked? This sounds like a facebook blowup.
You said you were dating her in your followup and that you've been dating for 2 years, why didn't you post that in your... (read in full...)
I love my wife but am sexually frustrated!
Q. Been married for 09 years. Living in a conservative society, but independent. Sex doesn't feel great anymore. Used to be crazy like rabbits first year into marriage, but faded with time to the extent now i'm thinking about an extramarital affair ...
A. 3 June 2013: Take some of that burning desire and apply it to improving your sex life with your wife. You sound lazy, frankly, you go to call girls because you don't want to do the hard work of creating sexual intimacy with your wife.
There are couples' retr... (read in full...)
Do you think this widow would take it well if I ask her out for a drink or a pizza?
Q. There is a widow of 2 years that i really like. We are friends and sometimes my stupidity make me over-do things with her. But i try to make her laugh and try to be as casual as possible and i think she responds well frankly. I really don't ...
A. 3 June 2013: Have your wife give her a call to invite her out for a meal. You can all enjoy one another's company and I'm sure she'd appreciate the thoughtful gesture.
If your intent is to start something with her that leads to an extramarital affair, that... (read in full...)
Friends say he just wants sex but he told me he won't mistreat me.
Q. There is a guy I have been talking to who I met through my friend for about 5 months, he's really nice and a gent at times, however yesterday me and my friend were talking and he came up in conversation and she said not to go for him (as in date) as ...
A. 3 June 2013: An acquaintance of mine dated a known player, and she had been warned by a mutual acquaintance about this guy well in advance. He's a very handsome and charming guy, who happens to be a 'bad boy' which for some reason intrigued this acquaintance.
T... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 3 June 2013: Sorry, I forgot sarcasm may not come across in posts. I was being sarcastic about her having a 'teensy weensy personality flaw.' You sound very upset and angry for her being involved with an AVAILABLE married man, which to me sounds like an ... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 3 June 2013: I'm just answering your question, will she get back to you? Nowhere did I say the word "smut."
Why are you so besotted with a "smutty" woman? Is your judgment impaired by her in some way?... (read in full...)
Who first? My Depressed Suicidal Girlfriend or My Career that havent even started yet!!!!!!
Q. Firstly, thanks for reading. Secondly, I'm lesbian, just in case....I know for some its an abomination. For those of u who reads this and actually help me out I will be forever in your debt. Okay I'm in a relationship with a beautiful woman....
A. 3 June 2013: Well, I suppose you could give her your last $5, but she doesn't really sound like she knows what to do with it besides buy a fancy coffee.
She's not smart, she's not healthy, she needs legal and psychological counseling.
Your top priority should b... (read in full...)
She's not talking to me since I called her out for seeing a married man! I did it because it was unfair for her to put me on 'hold'!
Q. A girl that i like and i thought she liked me are not talking right now over a silly argument. It turns out the argument was an excuse to put me on "punishment" because i found out she is seeing a married man with a child. the child and wife don...
A. 3 June 2013: And you want to be with her because….. ????
She's such an awesome person except for this one teensy weensy personality flaw?
She prefers this unavailable man to you. That's a pretty strong message. She's ignoring you. That's another strong m... (read in full...)
I have reached the end of my patience with my boyfriend, but I'm too much of a pushover to let him go. Help?
Q. Okay. Well where do I start? I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 5 months. I'm not going to go majorly into the backstory about how we got together, but before hand I had been in a 9 month relation...
A. 3 June 2013: You're a caring person, but it's important that you take care for YOURSELF first. There is no benefit in giving giving giving to a leech. They'll just bleed you dry. "But I NEED you!" the leech may cry. Yes, that's true, a leech needs blood to ... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 31 May 2013: He can't trust YOU? *snorting out my coffee*
Oh he's a prime jerk, very manipulative and dramatic.
Someday, you will be so relieved he's out of your life.
Block him, ASAP.
Call all your friends and family and get their support now. You're off ... (read in full...)
Tissue problem when giving oral!
Q. I love pleasing my wife orally. However, there's often some tissue remnants. just small bits which is really off putting. Blokes, is this common? How do you deal with it in the moment? Ladies, how can I broach this with her?...
A. 30 May 2013: "Babe, I think it's time to get some new knickers. The ones you are wearing leave little bits of lint on your lovely private bits. I love giving you oral but find the little linty bits distracting."
That will give her the heads up (pun inte... (read in full...)
I have reached the end of my patience with my boyfriend, but I'm too much of a pushover to let him go. Help?
Q. Okay. Well where do I start? I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 5 months. I'm not going to go majorly into the backstory about how we got together, but before hand I had been in a 9 month relation...
A. 30 May 2013: Just tell him it's over, don't stick around for the tears. It's not your job to comfort him at that point.
Tell your friends that you are about to break up with him. Tell them that in the past when you have tried to do this, all these rumors star... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of the pain he caused me, should I call him back or wait for him to call again?
Q. Hello good people So I have been writing about my unplanned pregnancy with a gut that I barely know and denied the pregnancy and left me. Well he hasn't come back yet but I'm delighted to inform you that scary as it was I am HIV negetive I'm so...
A. 30 May 2013: In one of your previous posts, you mentioned that you attend church and that the pastors were now involved in this situation.
I think you should go to your pastor, ask him for some assistance, namely, that the pastor make the call to this man to s... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 30 May 2013: So he's defending himself by suggesting that you are cheating? Nice. Very nice tactic of a guilty person.
Does he go on "lockdown" (I assume that means ignoring you) often when upset? Does he deal with problems by ignoring them and you? Does he ofte... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 29 May 2013: I thought the problem was that you couldn't decide if it was cheating or not?
Shall we get to the new problem as it is now being clarified?
It appears your current problem is that because of his bad behavior, you have lost trust in him and made... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 29 May 2013: "but he said I don't trust him and asking him to do that was a manisfestation of my lack of trust in him" … um, is he kidding? Of course you don't trust him, he got all cybersexy with another woman. The man who is supposedly a loving, committed ... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 29 May 2013: The Idiot Formerly Known As Soul Mate = TIFKASM (the first letter of each word makes the new label, you see?)
Are you together in real life or is this an online relationship?... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 29 May 2013: TIFKASM, the individual (or idiot) formerly known as Soul Mate.
... (read in full...)
Feel dizzy/faint when touch vagina?
Q. Hi. So just some background info.. I just turned 18, I'm not a virgin, I've had sex a few times but it was really painful each time so I kind of have avoided having sex since then. A couple of years ago, I tried putting in a tampon, and I pu...
A. 29 May 2013: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vasovagal_response
Read that and take it with you when you go see your doctor. You need to get that checked out. Feeling dizzy and lightheaded to the point of fainting on at least 2 occasions should be investigated, don'... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 29 May 2013: If it's a sexual interaction with another individual that is kept hidden from the loving, committed partner, yeah, that's cheating.
Are you arguing over semantics? Has he managed to move the topic of debate from "I fucked up, I had cybersex with... (read in full...)
Could we have moved too fast jumping together and is there any way to reconcile this relationship?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 months now we met at a prison that I work at. In the beginning he went behind my back and was texting his ex girlfriend knowing that it was not cool with me.so we moved passed it and have had minor ...
A. 29 May 2013: You've been dating him for less than 3 months.
In that time, the so-called 'honeymoon' period, he has texted his ex-girlfriend, refused to give you the password to his phone, hides whatever it is he's doing on his phone when you show up, had to take... (read in full...)
LDR but he is not opening his world to me. I am scared to be used. Help!
Q. I'm back again after obsessing about my LDR. And more questions to ask. The relationship is going rather well, we talk everyday, our phone conversations are great. I have visited him four times now and had an ok time. He is supposed to visit me here ...
A. 29 May 2013: Good luck to you. Thank you for the followup. I hope it all works out for you!
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Ex sent a facebook request, is there a hidden agenda or is he trying to make me more miserable?
Q. Dear Cupid My ex-bf broke up with me a month ago. As soon as dumped me he blocked me in facebook, messager, phone..... He was verbally and emotionally very abusive towards the end of the relationship i.e. for past 6 months. He called me wors...
A. 28 May 2013: Block him. Why would you want to know what an insulting, verbally and emotionally abusive man is up to? He's not up to anything good, that's pretty clear.
If he wants to apologize, he can write you a letter and mail it, including a check for the ... (read in full...)
He asked me for a FWB relationship and I don't know how to proceed from here
Q. I have a guy friend, let's call him A, whom I've known for around an year. He's nice, funny, very intelligent, respectful - basically, he's a nice catch. A month ago I started hanging out with him and a bunch of friends, all male - I'm the only f...
A. 28 May 2013: Hi, you sound deeply insecure and uncertain about your own physical beauty. For that reason, I would advise against proceeding with FWB with him.
He is handsome and charming and fit and also bold.
I fear because of your innate need for complime... (read in full...)
LDR but he is not opening his world to me. I am scared to be used. Help!
Q. I'm back again after obsessing about my LDR. And more questions to ask. The relationship is going rather well, we talk everyday, our phone conversations are great. I have visited him four times now and had an ok time. He is supposed to visit me here ...
A. 28 May 2013: I think So Very Confused has given you excellent advice, and you should follow it.
The HUGE red flag for me is that you go visit him and yet he doesn't invite you to his home. That's seriously odd. I think he is married and lives with his wife... (read in full...)
I have a live-in mother-in-law who criticizes everything I do!
Q. Hi, This is my first post. please be kind to me and excuse me for long boring passage. I have a mother in law who criticizes everything I do or say. It goes from a simple recipe to how to take care of my baby. She lives in with us. My husband...
A. 28 May 2013: You stopped eating as a form of protest? That sounds like TV drama as well.
You are an adult woman who chose to enter an arranged marriage. That's not a common form of courtship and marriage here in the US, it sounds more like India. If you are ... (read in full...)
I have a live-in mother-in-law who criticizes everything I do!
Q. Hi, This is my first post. please be kind to me and excuse me for long boring passage. I have a mother in law who criticizes everything I do or say. It goes from a simple recipe to how to take care of my baby. She lives in with us. My husband...
A. 28 May 2013: You are in the US. The ethnic outfit here IS jeans and a t-shirt. If she's from the old country, and she's watching the soaps here and the dramas, that will eventually sink in, and become normal to her. Though I think they get a bit dressed up in ... (read in full...)
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