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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My girlfriend gives her phone number out to other guys and texts them!
Q. My Girlfriend and I have been dating for about two months now. I dont talk to any other girls but she talks to other guys. what pissed me off to get mad at her and write this was she said something like "why wont this guy leave me alone, I dont want ...
A. 10 September 2013: Sorry your ex has a problem with honesty and alcohol. It's a deadly combination.
You may not ever understand her mind but don't assume all girls are like her. Good luck with your new friend. I just posted on your new question. Go slow, okay? You'... (read in full...)
On average, will a guy 55 or older find it harder to ejaculate a second time, during the same session?
Q. I'm curious to know whether on average, an older guy, 55 years or so, will find it a lot more difficult to ejaculate again, after he's come once? He does get hard very quickly again, but he says there's not much feeling, so even with stimulat...
A. 4 March 2013: Here's a guide which should help him learn that the delay in being able to ejaculate has nothing to do with stimulation but is simply the body's necessary recovery phase. ... (read in full...)
Met ex at a beach and received flowers. Are we meant to be?
Q. My ex saw me driving along as i was on my way to the beach. Then he turned around and found me at the beach and asked if I wanted to go for a walk. It was really nice, and I was going surfing, so he went back home and got his board and we were both ...
A. 3 March 2013: Did he get therapy or counseling for his controlling and jealous ways? I would be worried too about the coincidence of the flowers and showing up unexpectedly.
I'd call him and make it very clear that you are not back together again. Read it from... (read in full...)
On average, will a guy 55 or older find it harder to ejaculate a second time, during the same session?
Q. I'm curious to know whether on average, an older guy, 55 years or so, will find it a lot more difficult to ejaculate again, after he's come once? He does get hard very quickly again, but he says there's not much feeling, so even with stimulat...
A. 3 March 2013: It's called the refractory period, it can be shorter in younger men and apparently gets longer as men age.
Don't feel "awful," it's natural.
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Does this hug mean she likes me or is she playing games with my heart?
Q. So long story short (because this story is really long), 2 years ago we liked eachother a lot but she stopped liking me cuz I was ypung and really immature. So recently I tried to talk to her because I'm way more mature now, and I really like her. ...
A. 3 March 2013: Ah, then she has said "no" to you. She's not interested in dating you, if she said she was busy and did not suggest different plans.
You can keep on talking to her but don't let her get under your skin right now. Make her work for your atte... (read in full...)
I like this guy but think he has a girlfriend. How can I get over him?
Q. How could I have been so stupid:( I actually thought he liked me.? He'd watch me all the time and look away as soon as I look at him. Always friendly and chatty to everyone else but me. He'd stare into my eyes and I actually thought th...
A. 3 March 2013: Go ahead and throw a pity party. Put on the saddest break up music and maudlin movies and just WALLOW in it, for an entire evening. Write down all your fantasies about him and what could have been. Draw a picture of him and you and the children you ... (read in full...)
Suddenly he's started drinking and he's not like the Bf I know. How can I stop him drinking and getting out of control?
Q. Hello, I need help with my boyfriend. Let me please explain Few days ago he went to the club with his friends and he texted me that time and spammed me with kisses. He told me he got drunk with his friends that some girls gave him alcohol and his ...
A. 3 March 2013: How long have you been together? More information about the relationship would help.... (read in full...)
Suddenly he's started drinking and he's not like the Bf I know. How can I stop him drinking and getting out of control?
Q. Hello, I need help with my boyfriend. Let me please explain Few days ago he went to the club with his friends and he texted me that time and spammed me with kisses. He told me he got drunk with his friends that some girls gave him alcohol and his ...
A. 3 March 2013: He doesn't sound completely perfect. You are blaming the alcohol for his choice of friends?... (read in full...)
Does this hug mean she likes me or is she playing games with my heart?
Q. So long story short (because this story is really long), 2 years ago we liked eachother a lot but she stopped liking me cuz I was ypung and really immature. So recently I tried to talk to her because I'm way more mature now, and I really like her. ...
A. 3 March 2013: Why don't you ask her out? If she says "no" then you'll see that the hug was a friendly gesture, not meaning "I want you back in my life as a love interest." If she says "yes" then you can start demonstrating that you have matured.
So the next time... (read in full...)
Can you please suggest some advice on productive and positive things I can do to deal with how I'm feeling about this betrayal?
Q. I posted a few months ago when I found out that the girl I'd spent three years talking to on the phone had sent me photos of someone who wasn't her. In the end, I kept digging, and found that things went a lot deeper. I ended things, but things w...
A. 3 March 2013: You are allowing your thoughts to define you. Next time a thought about her floats up into your consciousness, take a part of your mind to watch yourself thinking about her. "That's interesting, here she's popped into my brain again. I wonder why. I ... (read in full...)
What does she mean by, "her feelings are just futile to me"?
Q. 2 months ago I broke up with this girl, it's a complicated story of why we broke up and what happened. It didn't end well to say the least, but that's because of bad consideration on my part. Well, last night my friend saw her out and spoke to...
A. 3 March 2013: It means she doesn't trust you any longer and that trying to fix things isn't going to work. The trust is gone.... (read in full...)
Suddenly he's started drinking and he's not like the Bf I know. How can I stop him drinking and getting out of control?
Q. Hello, I need help with my boyfriend. Let me please explain Few days ago he went to the club with his friends and he texted me that time and spammed me with kisses. He told me he got drunk with his friends that some girls gave him alcohol and his ...
A. 3 March 2013: So you are in love with an alcoholic, it seems. I would suggest you do your research, if you truly want to stay with him, and the best place to do that is with people who are in your situation. http://www.al-anon.org
Many years ago, a close frie... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
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Met a hot guy who unfortunately has a girlfriend!
Q. About 4 weeks ago I met a guy on the train. We kept glancing at each other the whole train ride and I thought to myself “I will never get a chance to speak to this guy” lol! Anyways we had to transfer on another train due to a problem so as I was ...
A. 2 March 2013: It sounds like you got a great ego boost from him and enjoyed the fantasy-building imaginings of what could be. Now why do you feel so badly about yourself that you'd tolerate being hit on by a guy who is basically a cheater?... (read in full...)
Should I get the morning after pill? Or am I just being silly?
Q. I had sex on Wednsday night, I'm almost 100% certain we used a condom but I cant be certain as we had both been drinking. My period started today but I'm still worrying about being pregnant although the chances are really slim . I'm thinking of ...
A. 2 March 2013: Go talk to the chemist, the effectiveness wears off as time goes by, so go NOW.... (read in full...)
I don't think other girls have this much body hair?
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl and I don't know what's wrong with me. I have dark hair on my lower back and my bottom. I also have hair on my stomach, a little bit on my chest and dark hair on my arms. Is this normal? I have always been like this but I've ...
A. 2 March 2013: My vote is to get yourself checked out by the doctor. Don't shave or do the hair removal thing before you see her (or him, can't be sexist, now, can we?) and follow the instructions for whatever bloodwork might be needed.
It sounds like a lot of h... (read in full...)
My married crush says he's divorcing his wife for me. Should I leave my fiance or wait and see what happens?
Q. I have had a crush on this guy since I was 8 years old (I just turned 36) A couple of years ago we reconnected and started conversating early on I admitted to him the crush I still have on him. We started chatting for hours a day sharing everything ...
A. 2 March 2013: If you are not in love with your fiancé enough not to cheat on him (when's the wedding?) then let him go. At the very least you will be rid of the guy you can't fully commit to, at the very best, you'll be ready when the new boyfriend arrives to ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend have a crush on his buddies wife?
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A. 2 March 2013: Your intuition told you something was going on. From what you've written, you had some good grounds to suspect that. Why do you think that's crazy?
The relationship is over, is there some reason you are still working on trying to justify a warr... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend so much even though the relationship is hurting me in so many ways
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A. 2 March 2013: You don't know who to speak to, well I have a link for you. http://www.womensaid.org.uk/
He sounds dreadful, you are not wrong to wish for help and I hope that you get off those eggshells soon.
Go get the practical, local help you need now. If ... (read in full...)
I've been dreaming of this woman since 1974. Should I look for her?
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A. 2 March 2013: "Is this a pathology?" Well, most people don't have brain tumors that need surgery. If you are experiencing thoughts that are so problematic and confusing, I think you should go see your doctor.
As for Tessie, well, the whole situation sounds as t... (read in full...)
Could he still love me after this time?
Q. A boy proposed to me in high school, i loved him secretly but i told no thinking he already have some girlfriend, after school i got married n have two childrens now, secretly i still love that boy each day, we met on fb after 8 years i told him tht ...
A. 1 March 2013: You didn't trust him then, you don't trust him now. You have a family.... what do you expect from a guy you don't trust?
I think I would assign him to the history books and not worry too much about how he will fit into the future, because I don'... (read in full...)
Broke up with bf.. but now he's being mean?
Q. Ok - I broke up with my ex almost 2 weeks ago and have been NC since. I broke it off, because he was distant and not giving me enough attention, and gave me the impression he wanted out of the relationship but wanted me to end it... so I did. He's ...
A. 1 March 2013: Who knows? He sounds passive-aggressive. I'd tell your brother not to give you any of the updates and seriously enforce NC.
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I'm terrified of telling my parents that I'm gay so I stay away but I miss them and want their understanding!
Q. i'm a 29 year old lesbian. i've been out of the closet since i was 18 and am nowhere remotely ashamed of my sexuality and who i am. i never feel the need to hide who i am and what my sexual orientation is. if people ask, i always tell them the ...
A. 1 March 2013: Okay. You've been out of the closet, sort of, for 11 years. You're basically in the closet with your parents. You haven't been to see them for 2 years? You think they might not have a clue as to why? All your other friends and I expect your other ... (read in full...)
My bipolar boyfriend keeps disappearing!
Q. My boyfriend has bipolar disorder. I know that causes mood changes. Every time he gets paid ( he is on disability benefits ), he disappears. It's usually for about three or four days. Sometimes, he texts and calls me during that time, but sometimes ...
A. 28 February 2013: He sounds very manipulative and self-centered.
First off, buy a pregnancy test kit and find out if you are pregnant or not.
You can't fix his problem for him, and no amount of your being patient and understanding and helpful is going to solve th... (read in full...)
My father isn't going to be happy when he finds out how I've been spending my money!
Q. A aunt was supposed to stop by to change my bed (long story). I wasn't at home, so when I got there I noticed she had cleaned my room. Though I appreciate the gesture (even tho i didn't ask her for it), she moved everything around. Including bank ...
A. 28 February 2013: So it's your money, why do you need to account to your father for how you spend it?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gives her phone number out to other guys and texts them!
Q. My Girlfriend and I have been dating for about two months now. I dont talk to any other girls but she talks to other guys. what pissed me off to get mad at her and write this was she said something like "why wont this guy leave me alone, I dont want ...
A. 28 February 2013: Some people put their phone information on social networking sites like facebook, and if their account isn't set to private settings, other people can see that information.
Is there some reason you can't calmly ask her about how these guys get her ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he might reject me because of my body!
Q. I have this guy that I have been chatting with online for awhile now and he has become almost like a boyfriend of sorts. We don't refer to each other as such but the conversations that we have give the impression of two people that really like each ...
A. 28 February 2013: I would be honest with him now. Tell him about your past abuse and the body issues you have. It's going to be evident when you meet and you may as well prepare him for the reality of your situation.
There's a big red flag here for me. You are beco... (read in full...)
My father isn't going to be happy when he finds out how I've been spending my money!
Q. A aunt was supposed to stop by to change my bed (long story). I wasn't at home, so when I got there I noticed she had cleaned my room. Though I appreciate the gesture (even tho i didn't ask her for it), she moved everything around. Including bank ...
A. 28 February 2013: You have $10 in your checking account, and they charge $27 a month in fees? You are about to be overdrawn. And you gave your boyfriend $200 in gifts? Wouldn't a sensible boyfriend know that you have limited funds and that you should not be ... (read in full...)
I don't like him but I don't want to hurt him by breaking up
Q. ok so i been dating this boy for 2 weeks and i feel so embarrssed like everyone says im to pretty for him and that he is ugly and stuff and i just feel sad and im not attracted to him either and he is in love with me and im afraid if i break up with ...
A. 28 February 2013: Tell him your mother told you you aren't allowed to date yet. My mother gave me this 'out' and it was very helpful. That way, you can stay friends with him, as that seems to be important to you.
I wouldn't worry too much about dating just yet, as i... (read in full...)
How do you deal with constipation caused by too much time together?
Q. Hi =] I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half months now and things between us are going great =] However I do have an unusual problem and wondered if anyone else had experienced this. I know it's not very pleasant, but I get constip...
A. 28 February 2013: Get up early, go for a brisk walk and stop at the local coffee shop and go there.
Don't eat the junk food. Eat your usual stuff. Let him eat the junk food.
I think the most important thing is to keep your usual timing. As you seem freaked out by g... (read in full...)
He's ten years older , but says he's willing to wait until I'm ready to lose my virginity. What should I do?
Q. I am 17 and still a virgin me and my boyfriend have been dating for three months. He is 27 and already he has a daughter. He says he will wait for me until I'm ready to lose my virginity with him. I'm quite ready,but since he is experienced im kin...
A. 27 February 2013: Have you had a chance to read the answers to your question? There are plenty of sites out there that provide clinical information on what to expect in a first-time sexual encounter. You can even search the site here: ... (read in full...)
He's ten years older , but says he's willing to wait until I'm ready to lose my virginity. What should I do?
Q. I am 17 and still a virgin me and my boyfriend have been dating for three months. He is 27 and already he has a daughter. He says he will wait for me until I'm ready to lose my virginity with him. I'm quite ready,but since he is experienced im kin...
A. 27 February 2013: I have to ask, what advice did your mother give you in this situation?... (read in full...)
He's kicked me and threatened to hit me. Will he improve? Is this relationship worth saving?
Q. I am in a committed relationship since 3 years and 7 months. The first 3 years we were in a LDR. Now we both stay in the same city. My bf sometimes behaves very badly with me because he feels that I control his life. I said its nothing like tha...
A. 27 February 2013: An extremely loyal man who beat you so badly that he had to be physically restrained?
Oh dear.
I'm fearful for your safety.
No society is violence free. However, we do have the option to choose to avoid people whom we know for a fact are prone to... (read in full...)
Married friend is mad at me because I told him I won't get messed up with a married guy.
Q. Hi everyone. I will make a long story short. I am friends with a married guy. We work together. We are attracted to each other but have not crossed the line. Recently I opened up to him that I was involved with a guy who was married once and...
A. 27 February 2013: I have re-read the question and the answers here. I think that YouWish has it right.
You have been flirting with a married guy. You like the drama.
Why is he acting like this? Because you gave him the idea that he only had to do a bit more flirting... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 27 February 2013: Your best friend in the entire world and you are not friendly with his wife? Hm. So you don't like his wife?... (read in full...)
Married friend is mad at me because I told him I won't get messed up with a married guy.
Q. Hi everyone. I will make a long story short. I am friends with a married guy. We work together. We are attracted to each other but have not crossed the line. Recently I opened up to him that I was involved with a guy who was married once and...
A. 26 February 2013: Children throw tantrums when they are told they cannot have that cookie. It sounds as though he has the maturity of a small child, throwing a tantrum. I would treat him as though he were a child. Be firm, consistent and do not allow his emotional ... (read in full...)
He's kicked me and threatened to hit me. Will he improve? Is this relationship worth saving?
Q. I am in a committed relationship since 3 years and 7 months. The first 3 years we were in a LDR. Now we both stay in the same city. My bf sometimes behaves very badly with me because he feels that I control his life. I said its nothing like tha...
A. 26 February 2013: "I want to change him with my love." Alas, the sad truth is that you can't change him. HE has to want to change. Beating you up, kicking you and having to be pulled off you by his housemates does not indicate a man who has any control over his ... (read in full...)
He's kicked me and threatened to hit me. Will he improve? Is this relationship worth saving?
Q. I am in a committed relationship since 3 years and 7 months. The first 3 years we were in a LDR. Now we both stay in the same city. My bf sometimes behaves very badly with me because he feels that I control his life. I said its nothing like tha...
A. 26 February 2013: Cut him out of your life now. He's a violent man and you should never be in his presence again. Value yourself more and protect yourself, okay? He is a loser. So lose him.... (read in full...)
What girls mean when they say and how to work on to show how good I am?
Q. hi little about me : (not boasting) I am confident, easy to approach and Like jokes and talented. I play sports (four currently at campus) , write , and down to earth and honest. Helpful and kind with people. I have lots of other hobbies to...
A. 25 February 2013: She does not sound interested. I think the best tactic is to ignore her completely (don't look at her, even if she is looking at you) and be usual self with all your friends and admirers. She will start a conversation with you if she is interested ... (read in full...)
Why won't my amazing, lovely wife have sex with me with the lights on?
Q. My wife is amazing in bed,even after 20+ years together,3 kids I still think she has a fantastic figure,the only problem is she still won't have sex with light on,let me me see her naked or have sex in daytime,I keep telling she's got a lovely ...
A. 25 February 2013: Try lighting a single candle next time. Throw some rose petals on the bed and tell her you want to romance her. Then, the next time you are in bed again, light two candles, then three, then four. Eventually, you'll have enough light.
My guess is t... (read in full...)
My world is crumbling around me. Are there any strategies that could help me deal with all this?
Q. I have a problem. Basically the world is crumbling beneath my feet. I have studies at Uni to finish, I'm in my last week of my internship and everything is going to hell. I really need some advice or at least a listening ear. This is my situation...
A. 25 February 2013: As you put up a flag that doesn't represent the country you are in, it is more difficult to help. I'm going to assume you are in Europe somewhere. Go to the counseling office at your University and ask for immediate help. Like, TODAY.
Have them cont... (read in full...)
Need advice on being a wife of a minister
Q. I know this is going to sound like a stupid question but I married a minister and hes not real into his ministry as of yet. Its not as settled as he would like but I need help. Ive always hated secrets and hate that he has to keep things from me ...
A. 25 February 2013: You learned more about him as you dated him, presumably? I mean, if he suddenly decided to become a minister without warning after he married you, well, then, you have something to consider.
I think maybe you aren't suited to be a minister's wife... (read in full...)
Need advice on being a wife of a minister
Q. I know this is going to sound like a stupid question but I married a minister and hes not real into his ministry as of yet. Its not as settled as he would like but I need help. Ive always hated secrets and hate that he has to keep things from me ...
A. 24 February 2013: It's like marrying a doctor or a therapist. You don't have the other people's permission to know their secrets, so he has the obligation to protect their privacy.
Would you like your doctor to tell his wife everything secret about you?
They ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 15 November 2011: Dark heart, thanks for posting on my article! Good stuff! I didn't need to add the 40 minutes thing because you have provided it. That's a real eye-opener, going to my previous comment on the iron/oven timing for sexual response.
I guess I shou... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 15 November 2011: Odds, thanks for posting on my article! Woot! "The problem for me occurred when the women did not communicate what they wanted on any particular night - slow and tender or rough and passionate - perhaps they didn't even know, but I was usually stil... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 13 November 2011: I had to look up "motorboating" too. Ah, that poor guy, I wonder when someone will break it to him that he is not firing on all his cylinders, lol.
Well, to answer your question, charliesdevil, what I observed in myself was less wishful thin... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Thanks, Mia, I appreciate it!... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: HippyChick, it's nice to hear that you have had no problems in the sexual arena, I do hope you stay at your peak for the rest of your life! I certainly wasn't trying to insult you or women who were fortunate enough to be sexual naturals. I did ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Olderthandirt, Abella, thanks for reading! OTD, your comment is exactly why I put this together. I think men and women spend a lot of time trying to apply their own particular logic to the opposite sex's thinking process, our filters are somewhat ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: @Cupid Boy, ah, that conversation would be in a primer on dating, this one article was designed to help men understand what might be going on in a woman's mind during sex. Of course it deals in generalizations, just as your answer dealt in ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Thank you, person12345! I appreciate the review. Add your insights and thoughts too, please.... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Thank you, charliesdevil! I decided to compile some posts I've written into one bigger one, as I was planning to answer a post about sex today. It dawned on me that I had covered the topic before and went back to find it. So I put together a ... (read in full...)
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