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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 29 April 2013: More specifically, if you are sexually adventurous, how did you come to choose this non-adventurous man to be your husband? Is this an arranged marriage? If you are a modern, sexually liberated woman, why would you agree to such an outdated ... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?
Q. I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...
A. 29 April 2013: Zippy gave an excellent followup to you. I don't have much to add, just a few thoughts.
You are spending too much time alone and online. You are living in your head, not in the real world.
Get out and meet people. Not with the intention of creating... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 29 April 2013: So why did you get married?... (read in full...)
I know I deserve way better than this! What do I do about this marriage?
Q. Ok here is the situation at hand, my husband, I just don't know anymore with him, on 4/27/13 I was having bad chest pains and I was thinking about going to the er, he wouldn't even go with me, he said that all my anxiety attacks are coming from me, ...
A. 29 April 2013: Remy, if you are feeling tired and week and are having chest pains, GET TO A DOCTOR ASAP!
Your husband may be a disrespectful idiot but you need to take care of your health. Ignoring cardiac signs like you have may be a huge problem. Doctor! Now!... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 29 April 2013: Have you discussed your urges with your husband?... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?
Q. I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...
A. 29 April 2013: Do you have friends you hang out with at all? I mean, somebody you can call up and go out to see a movie with?
I think you so terrified of being judged because you don't have a lot of peer-to-peer experiences in a social setting.
You make some pre... (read in full...)
When did the term "nice guy" start to have a negative meaning?
Q. Quite often, that term is usually not viewed as a compliment (at least amongst many guys). Has this always had a dual meaning?...
A. 26 April 2013: There's a great discussion of it here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nice_guy
I think it all depends on who is using the label and to whom it is being applied.
My grandmother calling someone a "nice guy" meant that he would shovel her walk whe... (read in full...)
Do the good guy's ever win back the one they love, from the bad boy?
Q. Hi, girl's. My question is after women break's up with a good guy, she's been seeing for a little while, because her ex, the bad boy want's her back, the one who treated her bad, he cheated on her , hit her, just a bad guy all around. They alwa...
A. 26 April 2013: She sounds like a woman in an abusive relationship. I think it's really difficult for someone who has never been in that situation to understand how a woman could accept that sort of behavior from the man who is supposed to love her and take care ... (read in full...)
Settling down? Or just sex?
Q. i am a seventeen year old girl who is looking to start dating a twenty two year old. i dont know what he wants in our relationship: to settle down or just sex? he often tells me how attractive he thinks i am and that seems to be all he talks about. ...
A. 26 April 2013: What do you two have in common? If all he talks about is how attractive you are, don't you get a bit bored with him? I mean, that's a fairly monotonous conversation.
"You are so damn good looking. Wow, I can't believe how great you look toda... (read in full...)
When did the term "nice guy" start to have a negative meaning?
Q. Quite often, that term is usually not viewed as a compliment (at least amongst many guys). Has this always had a dual meaning?...
A. 25 April 2013: It's like saying "she has a good personality" when describing a blind date. "She's a nice girl."
What comes to mind then?... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave? She issued me with an ultimatum: The bachelor party or her
Q. My girlfriend(who I live with) and I have been at odds everyday for the last week. My friend has a wedding coming this weekend, and their bachelor party on Friday night. So she has made an effort to fight with me everyday. But to cut to the chase...
A. 25 April 2013: Ah, the dreaded stripper at the bachelor party. Look, there are very few women who like the idea that their beloved is going to watch, in person, another woman's naked tatas bouncing up and down, in close proximity and I am confident that virtually ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to pursue a relationship with me?
Q. I used to be "building a relationship" with this game named "James". I liked him a lot in the beginning, but over a few months of me waiting to be in a relationship, I found him less and less attractive with everything he did. He always asks me for ...
A. 25 April 2013: Ted and James are like brothers, that's enough to disqualify Ted from further consideration. Sounds like the perfect time to drop the entire set of losers. Good riddance. Take care of yourself and don't put yourself into dangerous situations any ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to experiment with a woman?
Q. I've been in a relationship for seven months and it's been great for the most part. He recently told me that he thinks every woman should have a sexual experience with another woman, especially if they're in college like myself. He doesn't want to ...
A. 25 April 2013: Your boyfriend is a funny funny guy. Funny as in weird, not funny as in haha. I think he's begun grooming you for a threesome. The rest is just simply nonsense.
Good news is that you have only wasted seven months on this guy. Bad news is that's seve... (read in full...)
He's separted from his wife but still legally married . We've been dating but now he wants a break. What should I do?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, this may be long so I apologize in advance. I have found myself in a situation I can't really talk to anyone about, except all of you. For seven months now I have been in a relationship with a gentleman who is separat...
A. 25 April 2013: You gave a married man your virginity after only seven months? A guy who has four children? You have to keep it all secret?
So basically, you gave what you think is your most precious gift to some old fat married guy who is hiding you from ever... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has told me he has lost interest in me. So should I care about his wish for me to be more "rough?"
Q. So recently my boyfriend has told me he has lost interest in me. He also commented to me saying he wants me to be rough. Since I am soft I don't know how to become rough. He doesn't mean to be rough while having sex but he means for me to have a r...
A. 25 April 2013: "This isn't working for us any more. You have lost interest and want me to be 'rough.' I don't know how to do that. I've even had to resort to ask people online for help.
If what drew you to me in the first place is no longer attractive to you and ... (read in full...)
Any reason as to why he's being like this? Or is it that he's just too busy?
Q. Around 3 months ago, I went to the pub for a few drinks with a few friends. One of them I had previously met before and had tried flirting with me but i wasn't interested. I ended up getting slightly drunk and he walked me home and ended up kissi...
A. 25 April 2013: What does "quite off" mean, exactly? Is he ignoring you or distancing himself? Maybe he is.
As we are not mind readers nor are we prescient, here are some guesses:
he met someone else
he's really busy at work
someone in his family is dying ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has told me he has lost interest in me. So should I care about his wish for me to be more "rough?"
Q. So recently my boyfriend has told me he has lost interest in me. He also commented to me saying he wants me to be rough. Since I am soft I don't know how to become rough. He doesn't mean to be rough while having sex but he means for me to have a r...
A. 25 April 2013: He's not a good match for you, sorry. You are soft and don't know how to be rough. Frankly, it's a ridiculous request. He should be ashamed for even saying those words to you.
I think it's time to admit that you aren't all that compatible and hone... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and my parents are strict. I want to get birth control but if I do my parents will judge me. What should I do?
Q. Okay I'm 18, and with having strict parents i sometimes feel like they don't understand me. Ever since i started dating my boyfriend i feel like he is the only one here for me. We have been together for almost a year now and we have started ...
A. 25 April 2013: Okay, you are 18 and living in the US. See your doctor, if you are in the cadre of people who cannot afford medical insurance or medical care, go to plannedparenthood.org to find a low cost clinic near you.
Your body does not change because you had ... (read in full...)
How does my friend interpret my smiley use?
Q. Hello. I have a good online contact that I generally interact with, every day. My inquiry is very important to get insight on. When I talk with my friend, I put the :) smiley for anything I answer. One time, he asked me to read some old li...
A. 25 April 2013: You are making your question clearer, thank you! :)
I have family and friends and I love them a lot. :D
I wish people around the world would realize that it's better to be nice than to be mean. I don't like mean people. :P
I've been a good girl fo... (read in full...)
How can I be more approachable to guys?
Q. I'm curious on what sort of personality, traits, appearance, etc makes a girl seem approachable to a guy... Perhaps if I was more approachable I would have an easier time finding guys to date! So, in your opinion and experience... what m...
A. 24 April 2013: This is such a broad question. Not all guys like the same thing. Are you into BMX bike-riding extreme sports kinda guys or do you like Wall Street brokers or do you like the guys who hang out at Moe's on the Simpsons?
Broadly, I would say:
being... (read in full...)
How does my friend interpret my smiley use?
Q. Hello. I have a good online contact that I generally interact with, every day. My inquiry is very important to get insight on. When I talk with my friend, I put the :) smiley for anything I answer. One time, he asked me to read some old li...
A. 24 April 2013: I guess this question depends on who your online contact is. If it's a girl or boy your age, s/he's merely adopting your use of icons in order to show you that she sees you using them and is using them back as a friendly gesture.
If it's an olde... (read in full...)
How can I get him to pursue a relationship with me?
Q. I used to be "building a relationship" with this game named "James". I liked him a lot in the beginning, but over a few months of me waiting to be in a relationship, I found him less and less attractive with everything he did. He always asks me for ...
A. 24 April 2013: Then I would highly recommend you go here: http://www.thehotline.org and tell them that you are afraid of James and need help with ending the relationship.
Did you read this? Here is your game plan to get out:
During this part of separati... (read in full...)
Interracial dating question: is he the one with issues or is it me?
Q. I was on an interacial dating site as a black female born and bred in england and was approached by a white man stating he was interested, i asked the question, why interacial dating?, he replied "during the last 50 years english girls have lost ...
A. 24 April 2013: Are you upset that he assumed you weren't English? Are you upset that he assumed that because you were black that you were feminine?
I'm not clear exactly what is upsetting you, other than he sounds a bit stodgy and makes sweeping gene... (read in full...)
How can I get him to pursue a relationship with me?
Q. I used to be "building a relationship" with this game named "James". I liked him a lot in the beginning, but over a few months of me waiting to be in a relationship, I found him less and less attractive with everything he did. He always asks me for ...
A. 24 April 2013: "Ted and James are like brothers, and I don't think he wants to betray him. Ted thinks me and James are together, or something like that. I tell Ted that my thing with James isn't going anywhere, but I don't think he believes me."
They are like brot... (read in full...)
Jealous that my FWB had sex with someone else
Q. So there's this guy....we've been having sex lately and I REALLY like it. I mean I know he doesn't care about me like emotionally and I dont care about him like that either. But the sex is really good.....until I found out the next day he had sex ...
A. 24 April 2013: You care enough to get jealous. Maybe you aren't as cool and detached about it as you seem to think you are.
You now know that he is sexually active with other sexually active people. One of the things the people who advise on safe sex say is that... (read in full...)
I can't trust my guardian! She tells everyone everything I say!
Q. Hey everybody My guardian is really getting on my nerves... She always tell me to tell her stuff that bothers me but when I do she tells her whole family... It's hard for me to talk to her but when I try to, she doesn't keep it between the two of u...
A. 24 April 2013: "I don't feel comfortable sharing things that bother me because when I do, it seems other people find out about it. The 9 year old, your family, everyone knows my private thoughts.
"Thank you for trying to help but I prefer to keep things to myse... (read in full...)
Need help dealing with my 14 year old!
Q. I need help on something...My husband passed away about 4 1/2 years ago, and I was left with 3 young children (9, 6 and 5). I ended up, out of fear of being alone, dating really fast. I got into a 3 year relationship that was not good. He was ...
A. 24 April 2013: What is she screaming at you about? Is it general rage?
Why don't you go to family counseling without her?
It sounds as though you are taking on feeling bad for everyone else. You feel bad for your daughter, and she screams at you to make sure you... (read in full...)
My married friend's husband keeps calling me! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I first wrote for help here 3 years ago with the same problem and it is still going on. My friends husband used to ring me over and over again late at night begging me to talk to him or ring him back. Sometimes he would text. This...
A. 23 April 2013: I hope everything is going well for you and the drama has ended. You should be able to breathe freely and not have this weight of the big secret hanging around your neck any longer. I hope he has finally ended his blackmail campaign for good. Sorry ... (read in full...)
Does colleague's behaviour suggest he is interested or is it just professional courtesy?
Q. I met this guy for the first time through work a few months ago. Initially, I wasn’t attracted to him. I found him to be arrogant and annoying. Over the months, he’s grown on me. I have noticed that he craves attention. And he sulks when I talk to ...
A. 23 April 2013: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-this-guy-worth-pining-over.html
So what else is going on (or NOT going on) in your life that is causing you to develop a potentially career-ruining schoolgirl crush on an infuriating and arrogant man who seem... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 23 April 2013: Why did you get married if you feel so sexually oppressed by being faithful?... (read in full...)
How can I get him to pursue a relationship with me?
Q. I used to be "building a relationship" with this game named "James". I liked him a lot in the beginning, but over a few months of me waiting to be in a relationship, I found him less and less attractive with everything he did. He always asks me for ...
A. 23 April 2013: Do you feel threatened by James? Do you fear for your safety if you end this "thing" you have with him?
You've known him for a while. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-smokes-weed-is-jobless-and-homeless-but.html
If his nickname is psycho, ... (read in full...)
When is it right for a teenager to start having sex?
Q. if a boy tell u to do your school work and then call him and u and this boy been together long and u is 15 year old girl should u have sex with your boyfriend ?...
A. 23 April 2013: No, you shouldn't have sex as a 15 year old girl. You are not ready if you have to ask strangers on the internet.
Say NO, I'M NOT READY if he keeps asking. If he persists, and you are not ready, break up with him.
You are still maturing and grow... (read in full...)
Does colleague's behaviour suggest he is interested or is it just professional courtesy?
Q. I met this guy for the first time through work a few months ago. Initially, I wasn’t attracted to him. I found him to be arrogant and annoying. Over the months, he’s grown on me. I have noticed that he craves attention. And he sulks when I talk to ...
A. 22 April 2013: He sounds socially awkward. Maybe he doesn't know how to behave in person and can handle emails just fine because there's no non-verbal body language to have to decipher.
Is he married, by any chance?... (read in full...)
If missing somebody is a sin, I confess I am seriously guilty.....
Q. If missing somebody is a sin, i confess i am seriously guilty. Missing him is so heavy and weight me down. 15 days already, he only left me some words by messages that " i am busy with my work and will talk with you asap." I do not know how...
A. 22 April 2013: How long have you known him? How much time have you spent together in real life? I don't mean online.
If he hasn't made contact in over 2 weeks, well, he's either incredibly busy or he has someone else.
I think if you had a relationship, it's per... (read in full...)
Not sure whether this will lead to more than a friend? or just a one night stand!
Q. Dear All So here it goes, I have a colleague at my work place that I truly am attracted to him and wouldn't mind being in a relationship with him. He lately been flirting with me sexually, his been touching my waist when he has the opportunit...
A. 22 April 2013: He has told you he isn't looking for a relationship. "If it happens, it happens" is code for "I'm not going to make an effort." Basically, he likes flirting with you but he's let himself off the hook for a relationship by telling you his priority is ... (read in full...)
I'm not going to try anything whilst he is still going with her but I was wondering if he might have feelings for me?
Q. ok so I have this friend, M, who has a girlfriend and I'm not going to try anything whilst he is still going out with her but I was wondering if he might have feeling for me. We were kind of close two years ago but then I thought he didnt like me so ...
A. 22 April 2013: It sounds like he thinks you are nice to talk to and flirt with a bit. If he wanted you to be his girlfriend, well, he has a girlfriend already, so he must want HER to be his girlfriend.
I would keep things very platonic with him and look to othe... (read in full...)
How can I get him to pursue a relationship with me?
Q. I used to be "building a relationship" with this game named "James". I liked him a lot in the beginning, but over a few months of me waiting to be in a relationship, I found him less and less attractive with everything he did. He always asks me for ...
A. 22 April 2013: James isn't a boyfriend, he's a mooch, a leech. Just stop providing him the cash and the freebie tattoos and I expect he'll move on to the next girl. Is there some reason you can't simply tell him you aren't into him any more and want to end the ... (read in full...)
Is my man ignoring me because he doesn't want to be with me?
Q. About 3 days ago I was texting my boyfriend from Florida, where I was on vacation. We have been together just about a month now but fell in love immediately, he has introduced me to his family and his daughter and I as planning on having him meet my ...
A. 22 April 2013: Maybe his phone died, he had an accident and he's in the hospital? Why can't you just call him and ask what's happened?
You've been in Florida and presumably you are home now. Why not go over to his place and have a talk with him?
Maybe this was... (read in full...)
Am I being played? I gave my last husband excuses for his behaviour, I don't want to do it again.
Q. I have had two disasterous marriages with men who treated me badly. I have three lovely children all under 11 I work full time and recently bought my own house. I do want a loving meaningful relationship I am fourty and work from home on my own. I ...
A. 22 April 2013: Three months into a relationship is too soon to be playing house and having your ex have to pick up his children on Saturday at another house.
I would bide my time, not be free childcare and do as he says, not make plans, just enjoy each day. Soun... (read in full...)
Why is he suddenly MIA on me?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about two months. He's moving out of state after graduation, about a month from now, so we've been keeping it casual. He seems to really like me, texting all day everyday and he calls me most nights of the week to talk ...
A. 22 April 2013: Are you not permitted to have feelings in this relationship? You called it "casual," is that another way of saying "friends with benefits"?
Maybe he realizes that the end of the relationship is coming up as he'll be moving in a month, and he's deci... (read in full...)
Does my Muslim boyfriend love me or is he using me?
Q. I am a catholic woman and have been seeing my muslim boyfirend for over a year now,i am very happy with him,he is originally from Yemen but from the age of ten had lived in cuba, he has been in britain for nearly 4 yrs now, he is still waiting to ...
A. 22 April 2013: http://muslimmarriagecontract.org/registration.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8493660.stm
http://civillawclinic.ahmeys.com/recognition-of-nikah.html
http://www.muslimsocietyofleeds.org.uk/legally_married.html
I don't think the nikah is legally... (read in full...)
I feel tired after I have climaxed three times. Yet is it fair that girlfriends have called me a sex addict for wanting more?
Q. Hi am 27 years old and something is disturbing me when am having sex with a lady after ejaculating i still feel horny and i can continue having sex without having to rest upto the 3rd round that is when i have a refractory period or feel tired.And ...
A. 22 April 2013: What are you doing besides penis in vagina intercourse to keep her aroused and turned on? At some point, she will have her own orgasm (we hope you make sure she does) and just like you, she needs a rest.
You have a refractory period; so will she.... (read in full...)
My married friend's husband keeps calling me! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I first wrote for help here 3 years ago with the same problem and it is still going on. My friends husband used to ring me over and over again late at night begging me to talk to him or ring him back. Sometimes he would text. This...
A. 1 April 2013: At this point, I would get law enforcement involved. This has been going on for 3 years and he persists in harassing you, despite being told point blank to stop?
Maybe a nice chat with a Bobby will alter his behavior.
Or, this is probably what I w... (read in full...)
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