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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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If I want optimal results, should I be clean shave, have some stubble, or full beard?
Q. I know looks are only part of what women want, and other factors for attraction come into play, like how active I am, how I take care of myself, etc. But, my question here is, what should I do, facial hair wise, to get some more potential suitor...
A. 4 July 2013: Some women like moustaches, some women like beards, then there are those who hate moustaches and those who hate beards and then there are women who are indifferent one way or the other but want the man to look his best however he is.
If YOU like... (read in full...)
I have a live-in mother-in-law who criticizes everything I do!
Q. Hi, This is my first post. please be kind to me and excuse me for long boring passage. I have a mother in law who criticizes everything I do or say. It goes from a simple recipe to how to take care of my baby. She lives in with us. My husband...
A. 28 May 2013: You stopped eating as a form of protest? That sounds like TV drama as well.
You are an adult woman who chose to enter an arranged marriage. That's not a common form of courtship and marriage here in the US, it sounds more like India. If you are ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't watching porn boost his sexual drive?
Q. So my boyfriend and i have only been dating for about 5 months, when we first got together, we had a very healthy and consistent sexual relationship as well, it hasnt really been that way, lately we've had sex maybe 3 times a month, and its not ...
A. 28 May 2013: Definitely read that link that person12345 has provided. It's very eye-opening and may explain a lot about his sexual drive.
My other observation is that you say you two live together and are always with each other yet you have only been dating for ... (read in full...)
I discovered that my boyfriend sent sexual texts to other girls!
Q. Hello everyone! Recently I discovered that my boyfriend sent sexual texts to other girls. He apologized and is extremely upset so he promises never to do it again. He deleted all the girls phone numbers that were in his phone.I want to trust him but ...
A. 28 May 2013: Did he explain why he did it in the first place?
I would have a lot of trouble trusting and forgiving as well in this circumstance.
You should not be feeling pressured to forgive all at once or forget all at once. If he's pressuring you to do that ... (read in full...)
I have a live-in mother-in-law who criticizes everything I do!
Q. Hi, This is my first post. please be kind to me and excuse me for long boring passage. I have a mother in law who criticizes everything I do or say. It goes from a simple recipe to how to take care of my baby. She lives in with us. My husband...
A. 28 May 2013: You are in the US. The ethnic outfit here IS jeans and a t-shirt. If she's from the old country, and she's watching the soaps here and the dramas, that will eventually sink in, and become normal to her. Though I think they get a bit dressed up in ... (read in full...)
I always thought I was straight but recently I've been having sexual thoughts about a guy I know. Am I gay?
Q. I always thought i was straight but recently i've been having sexual thoughts about a guy i know. What do I do? Tell him? Ignore it? Am i gay? Also, i know this guy because he is one of my best friends' brother. What do i do?...
A. 28 May 2013: Are you married, in a committed relationship, dating, or otherwise involved with anyone?
Is he married, in a committed relationship, dating or otherwise involved with anyone?
Is he 'out' as gay?
Do the sexual thoughts show up as dreams or as... (read in full...)
HELP!!!! My weight is ruining my relationship
Q. I have had two children and I am now 70 pounds overweight. I'm very unhappy, angery and out of sorts with myself. I know that I need to lose weight, but after working, taking care of my dads kids and then taking care of my own kids, I find I h...
A. 28 May 2013: One more thing, be VERY careful with the plyometrics moves in the exercise videos. They can cause injuries if not done correctly. I would avoid any jumping/twisting type of motions unless you are being helped by an exercise trainer and until you ... (read in full...)
HELP!!!! My weight is ruining my relationship
Q. I have had two children and I am now 70 pounds overweight. I'm very unhappy, angery and out of sorts with myself. I know that I need to lose weight, but after working, taking care of my dads kids and then taking care of my own kids, I find I h...
A. 28 May 2013: Good for you, sounds like you are now on a healthier path.
Remember that you will have minor setbacks and bumps in the road. The key is not to let them knock you off your goals and your path. Shake them off and keep moving.
Watch young children... (read in full...)
Since this girl came into the picture its like I don't even exist!
Q. Hey everyone I've been debating whether or not I should ask for help on this problem because it's so long and confusing but I'm really confused and need help and need to get this all off my chest. I've always had a great relationship wit...
A. 27 May 2013: I went and found those links I mentioned.
You didn't tell us how your boyfriend justifies his flirting with her and if you two have discussed this situation. That would be helpful.
In the meantime, here are some links to questions similar ... (read in full...)
Since this girl came into the picture its like I don't even exist!
Q. Hey everyone I've been debating whether or not I should ask for help on this problem because it's so long and confusing but I'm really confused and need help and need to get this all off my chest. I've always had a great relationship wit...
A. 27 May 2013: I notice you say "my boyfriend and HIS friends" (emphasis added). They aren't YOUR friends, I think. I expect you may have overestimated their interest in you as a person.
I think Eyeswideopen has it right, sit back and and watch this burn out. Even... (read in full...)
Does guys keep their female friends so long so close because they really want to be just friends or because they like them?
Q. I have a friend of 5 years and I kinda like him ever since we first met. He is an amazing guy and I would love to be more than just friends, but even though we are close, and there is some tension, he never actually said he likes me or he never ...
A. 25 May 2013: My friend had girlfriends too, though I don't think they were sexually active.
If he's had girlfriends and isn't asking you out, then perhaps the sad fact is that he doesn't fancy you in that way.
... (read in full...)
Does guys keep their female friends so long so close because they really want to be just friends or because they like them?
Q. I have a friend of 5 years and I kinda like him ever since we first met. He is an amazing guy and I would love to be more than just friends, but even though we are close, and there is some tension, he never actually said he likes me or he never ...
A. 24 May 2013: I had a friend in college exactly as you describe here. He was so handsome and lovely and I was deeply attracted to him.
He had a big secret though, and I didn't learn until after graduation that he was gay. He loved me as a friend only because he w... (read in full...)
I don't know if I've had an orgasm. What does it feel like?
Q. Hey, I'm just going to get right down to what I want to ask. I just recently lost my virginity and before any of you very nice agony aunts ask if I used protection and all that. I did, that was the first thing I made sure we had, it was a whim, bu...
A. 23 May 2013: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/sexual_response_orgasm_a_users_guide:
"Orgasm is a brief -- even when it feels like longer, it usually only goes on for a handful of seconds -- peak of sexual excitement which begins during and foll... (read in full...)
He wants to get married and have children and I'm not sure yet. Do I stay and have kids or do I let him go?
Q. I have been together with a guy for two years. We live together and for the most part, things are fine. We come from different cultures and are quite different as people, but we get on well in many respects. I'm happy enough with him but he doesn't ...
A. 23 May 2013: You've put so many qualifiers into your post that it's clear this relationship is in its final stages.
I have been together with a guy for two years. We live together and for the *most* part, things are *fine*. We come from different cultures... (read in full...)
My Wedding. Does any one have any solutions? I'm just terrified of everything and everything revolving around me
Q. Hi! So I dont really know what to do for this, but I'm afraid of my wedding. I'm not afraid of commitment or anything and Im not afraid to go to other peoples weddings- just afraid of my own. I start looking at venues or dresses and just panic. ...
A. 22 May 2013: Do you have a date set?
Just elope if it's causing you this much stress, then have a reception afterwards.
Sounds like you are manufacturing your own fear, your mind is creating drama where none actually exists.
Start to observe yourself whe... (read in full...)
How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?
Q. My partner doesn't know how to sincerely apologise. He can do something wrong but he will never say sorry, let alone mean it. He will most likely get angry with me and find something to blame me for and turn it all around. My question is, how...
A. 22 May 2013: Can you say those words to him? "Apologizing isn't admitting defeat. It is merely an acknowledgement that you were wrong and then you move forward."
That does not seem to be a difficult concept to grasp.
If he's willing to work on the relation... (read in full...)
How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?
Q. My partner doesn't know how to sincerely apologise. He can do something wrong but he will never say sorry, let alone mean it. He will most likely get angry with me and find something to blame me for and turn it all around. My question is, how...
A. 22 May 2013: I go back to letting him know how his inability to acknowledge fault affects you, and what the consequences of that will be.
If you can't talk to him calmly about this without him growing angry…
Tell me what is so wonderful about him?... (read in full...)
How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?
Q. My partner doesn't know how to sincerely apologise. He can do something wrong but he will never say sorry, let alone mean it. He will most likely get angry with me and find something to blame me for and turn it all around. My question is, how...
A. 22 May 2013: What do you think might be reasons people choose not to apologize?
Off the top of my head, I get:
Stubborn
Controlling
Guilty but does not like to admit fault
Fear of showing weakness
Indifference to others' pain
Selfishness
Delusions of... (read in full...)
How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?
Q. My partner doesn't know how to sincerely apologise. He can do something wrong but he will never say sorry, let alone mean it. He will most likely get angry with me and find something to blame me for and turn it all around. My question is, how...
A. 21 May 2013: I have to go with Sageolddude's answer. That was his parents job. They should have started back when he was very little. Or perhaps they did teach it to him, he just decided to ignore the life lesson.
Either way, at this point, you can't teach him ... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 20 May 2013: Sad as it may be, it's probably best to assume that nothing is going to come of continuing to make contact with this woman. Best wishes!... (read in full...)
Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?
Q. Just feeling a bit naughty I suppose. Soon I will be going out of town to San Diego for a 4 day class and conference. My husband has declined to join me so I am thinking of sharing a hotel room and bed with a very nice attractive young gentleman in ...
A. 20 May 2013: Oh and NO ONE would get into that hot tub after that scene with BA and LL. It was just slimy! Ha!
That conference was in AZ at one of those lovely resorts with walkways around the hotel and pools and a hot tubs nestled into the hills. It was real... (read in full...)
Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?
Q. Just feeling a bit naughty I suppose. Soon I will be going out of town to San Diego for a 4 day class and conference. My husband has declined to join me so I am thinking of sharing a hotel room and bed with a very nice attractive young gentleman in ...
A. 20 May 2013: Oh wow, yeah, I have seen people do this at conferences; they get outside the 50 mile limit and think no one will notice.
Ha, oh, I do remember the previously respected and now mocked gentleman BA and the previously respected and now mocked lady... (read in full...)
He keeps promising to marry me but seven years later...nothing
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 7 years an we've even bought a house together cause we were both tired of him renting small places. My problem is he forever promises to marry me an when the time comes he become agressive. On the past 4 months I...
A. 19 May 2013: I'd consult with an attorney to see what needs to be done to keep your financial circumstances from being hurt by a breakup. I expect you or he would have to buy the other out of the other's share in the house you jointly own.
Your other opti... (read in full...)
My boyfriend maintains a friendship with a woman who has a crush on him
Q. There is this girl my boyfriend has been talking to online. I found out she has a huge crush on him and has been trying to hook up with him for weeks now. What's worse is that I found out she sent him a naked picture. I'm upset because even tho...
A. 19 May 2013: Let's see. He's been chatting with a girl online, she sent him a naked picture. You find out, you confront him, he says "Oh I don't care about her" and yet… he still continues to talk to her.
What should you do?
What I would do is break up with him... (read in full...)
I'm in a long distance relationship, but I've met someone local
Q. For the past 5 years, I've been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend of 8 years. Due to our circumstances, we'd only be together twice a year at most. It has been hard for the both of us, there were times when we'd stop talking for ...
A. 19 May 2013: I think that it's time to date women who are local now. You've only seen your girlfriend 10 times in the past 2 years? Yes, life is passing you by. And it's passing your LDR girlfriend by as well.
Time to bring dating in the the real world, don'... (read in full...)
My mother in law expects me to wait on her hand and foot just because I'm married to her son
Q. Dear Cupids I am a troubled woman. I am staying with my mother in law but I have so much bitterness and unresolved issues with her. I decided to stop calling my mum in law last month because she would harass me each time I called her and made lif...
A. 19 May 2013: If he's wealthy enough to go abroad for "some studies" for months, then he's wealthy enough to house you and his mother separately.
If it were me, I'd leave her in the house and go back to my parents' home and suggest to my husband that he eith... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex in 10 years. Will my sex drive stop if I don't have sex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in my early fourties haven't had sex in ten years of my life I was wondering will my sex drive go away if I don't hurry up and have sex.I don't use vibrators, no sex toys period I just try to keep my mind on other things like every ...
A. 19 May 2013: If you're this concerned about your sex drive and having a relationship, why don't you try to figure out why you "shy away from being in a relationship"?
So you're in your early 40s and haven't been sexually active since your early 30s? Did you have... (read in full...)
Girlfriend keeps breaking up and then saying she regrets it. What am I supposed to do?
Q. i'm having a bit of a hard time lately. i've been with my girlfriend about a year now and sometimes our ups and downs really effect me. since this is anonymous, i don't feel too bad disclosing this information, seeing as how it's very pertinent. ...
A. 19 May 2013: You're trying to be stable and reliable and dependable for a person who cannot manage the same for herself. She's got issues. Obviously you've left things out from her past, but it may be that she simply cannot be medically managed with the ... (read in full...)
At the moment, I am not ready for a threesome to happen in our relationship. My Bf would like it to happen. How long into a relationship before agreeing to it?
Q. Hi, Ok I would love some fair and informative advice here on my boyfriend wanting to have a FFM threesome. We have been going out with each other for 8 months and moved in together three months ago. At the beginning of the relationship he...
A. 19 May 2013: Oh, he's emotional about a threesome, if he said he wants to have one before he dies. How dramatic of him. The sexual bucket list. Oh, the horror of having to die before seeing your girlfriend pretend to like to have sex with another random girl. ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my parents permission to stay over at my Bf's house so I can meet his parents?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months. We met through my friend going out with his friend (kinda complicated but that's the basics). I'm 17 and he's 19. He's met my parents and he wants me to meet his, and they're really ...
A. 18 May 2013: I think EyesWideOpen had the best advice. Have his parents call your parents and talk about the arrangements. You could put them all on skype and your and your parents could meet his parents at the same time.
You may be of age to have sex in the ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my smoking and drinking could delay or event prevent getting pregnant
Q. Hi everyone, so basically what it is is that I really want a baby (so does my partner) I came off the mirena two months ago, I drink on weekends socially but quite a lot and smoke 8-10 cigarettes a day, I know that's awful to do when trying to ...
A. 17 May 2013: http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Fertility/Pages/Protectyourfertility.aspx
There is no way we can predict if you are pregnant. You will simply have to keep trying. There is lots of medical advice out there, be sure you look at medically qualified site... (read in full...)
About Intimacy with BF vs. Self...
Q. Is there any reason why I seem to get wetter when my boyfriend uses his hands on me versus my own? I can't say I think about it when it happens but I have always noticed my underwear, clothing, sheets, etc...more saturated after I climax when he is ...
A. 17 May 2013: With yourself, you know what to expect. With him, you may not be able to predict what he will do next. Anticipation is so delicious, isn't it?... (read in full...)
I have never met anyone like him and I'm really confused by him!
Q. Hi all, I posted a question a few weeks ago to determine whether or not the guy I had started seeing was intersted. I am a 36 year old, ordinarily together woman, however feel like a confused teenager at the moment. I have been kind of seein...
A. 17 May 2013: I would venture a guess. You are more into him than he is into you just yet. You're sexually active in less than a month; you may be misreading normal post-coital closeness for true intimacy.
Try this: let him initiate contact for the next few week... (read in full...)
Am I in danger of crossing the line with this older married man?
Q. We work together in the same gym. He is married. I am single. He is 15 years older than me. Our relationship in the last couple of months has become much more friendly. He always found me attractive and there was the long, lingering eye co...
A. 17 May 2013: It sounds to me as though you have some sort of love 'routine' in which you fall for men who are taken and who then string you along.
You rationalize the attraction and the excitement you get from the forbidden guy by saying you just can't help your... (read in full...)
His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?
Q. Hi, how I’m going to start this. I read some of “my boyfriend has a wife” discussion and I’m in the same situation now. We start as a friend since then all of our friends knew that his separated to his wife. He has a kid, and that is the only thing ...
A. 17 May 2013: Good luck! Don't maintain contact with him, just tell him it's over and that's all you need to do. No explanations or justifications are necessary. You owe him nothing more than the news that's it's over.
If he goes through a divorce and has the ... (read in full...)
Does this sound normal for "down there"?
Q. Hey guys, this is embarrassing but for like the last couple years its look like there was another little hole or tear under the vagina hole there or some thing and iv ignored it but today i opened it more and noticed its like 3 litle diffrent flabs ...
A. 17 May 2013: Just go to the doctor, it's probably just normal tissue formations, but we can't diagnose you over the internet.
If you're getting married and becoming sexually active, you're going to need to see the doctor any way. Get a woman doctor if it both... (read in full...)
If I want optimal results, should I be clean shave, have some stubble, or full beard?
Q. I know looks are only part of what women want, and other factors for attraction come into play, like how active I am, how I take care of myself, etc. But, my question here is, what should I do, facial hair wise, to get some more potential suitor...
A. 17 May 2013: Are you asking if your facial hair or lack thereof will make women ask you out? You mention the term "potential suitors." Generally, this type of term tends to apply to men approaching women, not so much vice versa.
If you are growing a beard or m... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my wife's sudden interest in astrology?
Q. I recently saw my wifes Internet search history on her phone and she had visited a horoscope site and specifically looked up "how to seduce a Scorpio". Sounds innocent enough, except for the fact that I am a Cancer!! Been married 19 years. Should ...
A. 16 May 2013: My internet search history is a weird and wacky list of odd sites. I look for links to answer people who ask about STDs. I look up help sites for people who are being abused. There are many topics on this site that need a little more research and I ... (read in full...)
HELP!!!! My weight is ruining my relationship
Q. I have had two children and I am now 70 pounds overweight. I'm very unhappy, angery and out of sorts with myself. I know that I need to lose weight, but after working, taking care of my dads kids and then taking care of my own kids, I find I h...
A. 15 May 2013: The boyfriend is your kids' dad, I trust?... (read in full...)
HELP!!!! My weight is ruining my relationship
Q. I have had two children and I am now 70 pounds overweight. I'm very unhappy, angery and out of sorts with myself. I know that I need to lose weight, but after working, taking care of my dads kids and then taking care of my own kids, I find I h...
A. 15 May 2013: You've got some great diet and exercise advice, so I won't add mine.
But I do have a brilliant idea for you. (*cough* she says modestly)
The moment he says, 'You're fat and need to lose weight.' Say, 'Oh, thank you darling, I appreciate the feed... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I like him without ruining our friendship?
Q. So there's this guy and he is one o my close friends ( I'll call him zack ). Ok so zack and I have been getting along much more now and I have been having feelings for him for a little while. He is super nice and some days he's really fun funny ...
A. 15 May 2013: Zack, I like you even though you are very annoying. :)
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How do I tell him I like him without ruining our friendship?
Q. So there's this guy and he is one o my close friends ( I'll call him zack ). Ok so zack and I have been getting along much more now and I have been having feelings for him for a little while. He is super nice and some days he's really fun funny ...
A. 15 May 2013: Zack, you make me blush and now you want me to tell you I like you? Can't you tell?
Zack, you're annoying me. I like you, now go away.
Zack, yes, I like you.
He knows you like him, you've been pretty obvious if he is demanding to know your answer ... (read in full...)
His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?
Q. Hi, how I’m going to start this. I read some of “my boyfriend has a wife” discussion and I’m in the same situation now. We start as a friend since then all of our friends knew that his separated to his wife. He has a kid, and that is the only thing ...
A. 14 May 2013: I would end the relationship, if it were me. Married men make lousy boyfriends. They never can join you for major holidays, you spend most nights and weekends alone. The children and wife, heck, even the family dog, come before you on his priority ... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 13 May 2013: Hi, every time you receive an answer, including the ones you post yourself, you will be notified. So you aren't missing answers, you are just being notified that you have a response, including the ones YOU post. Hope this helps clear up the ... (read in full...)
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