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writes:Boyfriend pretended to break up with me as an April Fool's joke? Well, apparently, he said it was an April Fool's joke. Should i leave him?. I think that's a cruel joke. Reply to this Question
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reader, Kyra23  +, writes (2 April 2013):
Look I had a very similar thing in my life. My best friend last year said she wouldn't talk to me anymore as an April's fool. We were in a bad moment with your friendship vanishing...so were not friends anymore. We've been friends for 7 years!
If everything else is ok in your relationship just forgive him! Men can be really silly sometimes...but if he hurts you a regular basis tell him to go take a hike.
I hope I helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2013): If hes insensitive and drinks too much, while you are sensitive and dont like him drinking so much. Then you are incompatible. I would let him go. He doesnt sound grown up enough to be dating a woman just yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2013): ditch him. if he was 17 yeah fair enough, boys will be boys. at mid to late twenties? Pathetic and immature. Hurtful too.
if you already have an issue with his drinking and immaturity then this sounds the nail in the coffin.
never a true word spoken in jest and all that!
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (1 April 2013):
 Yeah, April Fool's jokes are supposed to be playful, not cruel. His thought was to get drunk and then pretend to break up with you via text message (disgusting anyways!) after not seeing you for a week?
I'd say he's an idiot, and you should tell him that you're through with him, and it's no joke. Most guys aren't that stupid, and it would be one thing if you both were 16, because then immaturity runs a bit more rampant. But 26 to 29 years old pulling that? Send this drunken lout of a child back to nursery school.
Break up with him...and mean it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 April 2013):
 I think it was a stupid joke
I also think behind every joke is a bit of truth
He's childish
he's immature
he was drunk
I'd not contact him again and when he does contact you act all surprised and say "oh sorry we are broken up how can I help you"
IF you want him back... (think long and hard this may be a perfect out for you from a relationships with a childish immature man who drinks to excess) then make him work for it.....
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 April 2013):
 April Fools Day isn't over…
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2013): If you want him to grow up, you need to make him face the consequences of his actions. If he wants go get drunk and break up with you for a laugh, you should make it stick. He's an insensitive little prick and until he grows into his big boy pants he's going to continue to make you miserable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2013): I havent seen him for a week, so i was already feeling sensitive before he said that. And he knows i am a sensitive person, so i don't know why he said that. He did say he was drunk though ( i hate it when he drinks ). Yes, he does have an immature sense of humour sometimes.
Do you think he really does want to break up with me , and he was actually pretending that it was a joke?. I'm so confused!. Do you think he will feel guilty about this though when he has sobered up ?.
He said all this by text message, by the way, not in person. And we were texting for a while, so he didn't say " April Fool's! " straight away.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (1 April 2013):
 I agree with OB, if you have other issues with him, it could be the last straw, if not, just take the joke and get him back by the end of the day :-)
(I suggest filling his slippers with shaving foam)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 April 2013):
 I've heard of couples telling other people they had broken up, but pretending to break up and then going "Haha just kidding" does seem a bit over the top. Honestly I don't think anyone who plays that kind of joke is boyfriend material and I also think that actually leaving over it means you were a good couple to begin with. It also depends on how long he let you suffer. If he said it then immediately went "April Fools!" That's different from letting you be miserable for an hour or two.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (1 April 2013):
 Hi
He has a warped sense of humour yes, but I would let it go,unless you have other doubts about your relationship
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 April 2013):
 That is kind of sick. Is his sense of humor always THAT immature?
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