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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 1 April 2013: Ah, I think you may be overanalyzing things, seeing signals in innocuous chitchat.
Did you make contact with her after your big falling out, or did she message you first?
Are social anxiety or Asperger's somethings you currently have?
If you wa... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 1 April 2013: Are you speaking in person, or is this all on line?
An 'xo' could mean 'kiss hug' or it could just mean a virtual platonic air kiss like two 'ladies who lunch' might do when they meet at the restaurant.
... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 24 March 2013: I don't know why it would make her uncomfortable. Why would you persist in asking for tips you don't need when she has made it plain it bothers her?... (read in full...)
My American wife has accused me of getting married for a Green Card, what should I do now?
Q. 6 months ago , I got married to US citizen in Pakistan. We met through dating site and after four months she came to Pakistan to marry me. After honeymoon,once she got back to US, she filled Spouse Visa Petition for me. One month ago, we had a ...
A. 19 March 2013: Not much of what she's been doing sounds rational. I'd assume she's gone off the rails and work to end the marriage yourself. If she's not cooperating, seek some qualified legal assistance to dissolve the marriage so you are free to marry again if ... (read in full...)
My American wife has accused me of getting married for a Green Card, what should I do now?
Q. 6 months ago , I got married to US citizen in Pakistan. We met through dating site and after four months she came to Pakistan to marry me. After honeymoon,once she got back to US, she filled Spouse Visa Petition for me. One month ago, we had a ...
A. 19 March 2013: I'm still curious as to which one of you slept with someone else. "She is such a unreasonable woman that when people marry for a Green Card they don't pick up fight with wife or husband even if they sleep with other people there as they have no real ... (read in full...)
Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 19 March 2013: If you can't cancel the venue and caterer, have the party, not the wedding. Change the flowers and don't wear the white dress.
I read your first post here. You wrote: "Everyone is telling me to postpone the wedding." Everyone is telling you to post... (read in full...)
I love him and can see him in my future but he can't?
Q. Those who aren't a Chrisitan please dont reply! I met my bf at a christmas party at church. We are both christian but he is a bit more christian then I am (which isnt an issue). His family did everything together at church and mine really didn...
A. 19 March 2013: It has more to do with him, than with you. He's the one with the small mind. Don't worry about what it was about you that caused him to lose interest. You are fine as you are. Don't change your interests based on his implied criticism of them, okay?... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being upset my girlfriend didn't prepare ahead of time to make time to see me before she goes away?
Q. general question. would you guys be frustrated if your girlfriend/boyfriend was going out of town for a week and you had planned in advance to spend the night before together, but it took them FOREVER to finally come over? my girlfriend has k...
A. 19 March 2013: Good luck with resolving the varying expectations and habits! TCK often hate goodbyes and do everything they can to avoid them… just sayin'. I hope it all works out for you.
And get some sleep, for heaven's sake. ;)
... (read in full...)
My American wife has accused me of getting married for a Green Card, what should I do now?
Q. 6 months ago , I got married to US citizen in Pakistan. We met through dating site and after four months she came to Pakistan to marry me. After honeymoon,once she got back to US, she filled Spouse Visa Petition for me. One month ago, we had a ...
A. 19 March 2013: Yes, she does sound unstable, perhaps there is an undiagnosed mental disorder such as Bipolar Personality Disorder or other similar condition.
If you know her sisters, perhaps you can reach out to them and ask them to intercede on your behalf.
As... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy with the lack of support from my g/f. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hey guys, My father is suffering from some serious medical issues that came up suddenly and there is a chance that he may not ever come out the same again. He is in the hospital and has been for a month, and we're not sure how long he'll be th...
A. 19 March 2013: Here are the resources listed in the AMA link:
Eldercare Locator
(a national directory of community services) (800) 677-1116
www.eldercare.gov
Family Caregiver Alliance
(415) 434-3388
www.caregiver.org
Medicare Hotline
(800) 633-4227
www... (read in full...)
What to do? I love her, I just don't want to spend the rest of my life with her. And I don't want to hurt her!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 18 months. We have had an amazing relationship, the best relationship I've ever had, but I do not feel that she is "the one". I don't truly believe there is a "one", but no matter what way I spell it out i...
A. 19 March 2013: The sooner she enters the break up mourning period, the sooner she will be out of it.
You are being self-indulgent and cowardly. Time to man up. Put on the long trousers, be honest and start living your life with integrity. The rest is just wah wah ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy with the lack of support from my g/f. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hey guys, My father is suffering from some serious medical issues that came up suddenly and there is a chance that he may not ever come out the same again. He is in the hospital and has been for a month, and we're not sure how long he'll be th...
A. 19 March 2013: You have no siblings? If you do, it's time they step up into the caretaker role that you have shouldered for a while. They may not be able to do it in person, but they should be able to act as phone support for you and sit in on conference calls ... (read in full...)
What is the difference between loving and being in love?
Q. I am curious to have others view on this. What is the difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone? ...
A. 19 March 2013: I love my mother, father, siblings, nieces and nephews, close friends, cousins, in-laws (most of them ;) ). I am in love with my husband. ... (read in full...)
How can I meet girls that are into girls?
Q. So I've been bicurious for a while, but despite knowing there are plenty of lesbian/bi girls out there, I never seem to meet any. The only ones I ever notice are because they are kissing in public or holding hands (aka taken.) And I don't like the ...
A. 19 March 2013: Go to the GLBT club meetings on your college campus. You have to be willing to be 'outed' of course. At the worst, bigoted friends will reveal themselves. At the best, you can have great discussions with people who love and care about you and they ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being upset my girlfriend didn't prepare ahead of time to make time to see me before she goes away?
Q. general question. would you guys be frustrated if your girlfriend/boyfriend was going out of town for a week and you had planned in advance to spend the night before together, but it took them FOREVER to finally come over? my girlfriend has k...
A. 19 March 2013: Is she a third culture kid? If she is, she will know what I mean. :)... (read in full...)
Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 18 March 2013: Good luck with the counseling, but I would say that you should still postpone the wedding for at least a year.
Check the cancellation policy on your contracts with the caterer and the venue. It would be wiser to cancel now if there is a 30-day or o... (read in full...)
My American wife has accused me of getting married for a Green Card, what should I do now?
Q. 6 months ago , I got married to US citizen in Pakistan. We met through dating site and after four months she came to Pakistan to marry me. After honeymoon,once she got back to US, she filled Spouse Visa Petition for me. One month ago, we had a ...
A. 18 March 2013: "A little argument" which culminates in requesting a divorce? Must have been a hell of a little argument. Which one of you slept with another person?
You don't know her, talked on line for 4 months and then she came to marry you in Pakistan and ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being upset my girlfriend didn't prepare ahead of time to make time to see me before she goes away?
Q. general question. would you guys be frustrated if your girlfriend/boyfriend was going out of town for a week and you had planned in advance to spend the night before together, but it took them FOREVER to finally come over? my girlfriend has k...
A. 18 March 2013: If this is an ongoing issue that she chooses not to address, I think you may want to decide if you can tolerate this level of inconsistency. I think So Very Confused has a point about no longer making plans with her. That may prompt a lifestyle ... (read in full...)
I was told my coworker was married but he adamantly says he's been single for 6 months.
Q. So I recently started a new job and instantly became attracted to one of my co workers, we spoke he said he was single and asked me out. I got speaking to one of the girls and she told me he was married. I then told him I wasn't interested as he...
A. 18 March 2013: If it were me, I'd wait until the ink on the divorce decree is dry. He's been separated for 6 months, isn't it time he gets on with it?
You don't know much about him, the job is new, I'd keep it low-key and let him resolve it. For all you know, he m... (read in full...)
How do I manage getting myself ready for a party after a long day trip! Help!
Q. I need help badly! I have a crush on a 17 yr old and I was planning on going to a party he's going to be at this Saturday but my trip to France got cancelled and has been moved to the same day as the party. I have to go to the trip because its ...
A. 18 March 2013: Skip straightening your hair. I know, I know, that's a big deal but there are great hairdos like loose, curly waves caught up in a casual bun to the back or side of the nape of the neck that look great.
Pack some wipes to sweep off the road dirt... (read in full...)
Guy friend keeps staring at me - does he like me?
Q. I'm at university, and I met this guy through mutual friends before we broke up for Christmas last year. I've noticed he's always staring at me (to the point that it's embarrassing), but, when I talk to him, it seems awkward sometimes although he's ...
A. 18 March 2013: I'd say he likes the look of you, but does that mean he likes you enough to ask you out? Why not mime "call me!" with your thumb and pinkie finger extended like you are holding a phone to your ear, the next time you catch him blatantly staring at ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about our cuddling while we slept in the same bed?
Q. I have a friend that I have known for 3 years we almost dated once, but chose to be friends and its made our friendship pretty strong. The other night I was visiting him at his house and he told me I could sleep over if I want. I made the choice to ...
A. 18 March 2013: You liked it and want more? I wouldn't mention it. Be bright and upbeat and flirt a little. See what happens.
Cuddling is nice, it might mean something, it might just be a cuddle.
Enjoy the closeness, if it made you happy.
You don't sound all gu... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable? If so, how do I get over this jealousy?
Q. I'm at the end of my ropes and I need this jealousy to be gone. I am going crazy! I have never been jealous before so it's aggravating to me when I get jealous over little things. At first I thought my boyfriend was hiding something from me. He ...
A. 18 March 2013: Why did you 'take a break' from the relationship a few months ago? That's usually a sign of impending disaster. You referred to putting him through stuff? What's that about?
Was the break the result of your wanting him not to maintain contact with... (read in full...)
Is this salvageable? Did I mess it up?
Q. Hi. I'm a bit of an awkward, weird guy, and I've been looking for love for quite some time (Ive only been in 1 LTR 4 years ago, and in the interim its only been sporadic hookups), except I always manage to f*ck it up somehow! Here's the latest, ...
A. 18 March 2013: Sounds like you've got some work to do, then. Is there some reason being aware of your proclivities to tank your chances isn't enough to keep you from doing them again?
Try counting to 5 or 10 before saying something you know will kill your chan... (read in full...)
I love him and can see him in my future but he can't?
Q. Those who aren't a Chrisitan please dont reply! I met my bf at a christmas party at church. We are both christian but he is a bit more christian then I am (which isnt an issue). His family did everything together at church and mine really didn...
A. 18 March 2013: I think the mistake here is assuming he is mature, just because he has some strong views on how the world works or should work. That's a fairly typical attitude of a young man (or woman, for that matter) that he's figured the world out.
I think you ... (read in full...)
Is he in love with me or am I being played
Q. About 9 month ago I met a boy, I fell for him straight away but he is no my bet friend. I told him a few months back that I liked him, to which he replied "I don't like you in that way", so I kind of learnt to see him more of a friend and see other ...
A. 18 March 2013: The statement that he's operating on is "I don't see you as a girlfriend." If he wanted to date you, don't you think he would have asked you out by now?
I agree with So Very Confused, call him on it. ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 18 March 2013: Here are some options:
-She feels she can't be honest with you about your datability
-She has talked about dating with you in the past and has given you all her tips
-She feels uncomfortable because you are 22-25 and she may think you don't need h... (read in full...)
Is this salvageable? Did I mess it up?
Q. Hi. I'm a bit of an awkward, weird guy, and I've been looking for love for quite some time (Ive only been in 1 LTR 4 years ago, and in the interim its only been sporadic hookups), except I always manage to f*ck it up somehow! Here's the latest, ...
A. 18 March 2013: So you defended yourself against being dumped by your date by acting like a boor so you basically dumped her?
Why are you allowing your defense mechanisms to tank your chances with a girl you really like? Were you so badly scarred by the last expe... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about our cuddling while we slept in the same bed?
Q. I have a friend that I have known for 3 years we almost dated once, but chose to be friends and its made our friendship pretty strong. The other night I was visiting him at his house and he told me I could sleep over if I want. I made the choice to ...
A. 18 March 2013: I have to ask, what is your expected outcome from the situation? Do you want to stay friends, platonic, with no cuddling ever? Do you want some cuddling from time to time because you have not been touched by another man?
Do you have to talk to him ... (read in full...)
Spends his money on gifts for himself before my Birthday and then he is broke
Q. I know it is wrong to have expectations of one's spouse. I am a big believer in the philosophy that our expectations determine our own happiness. I am trying to work on myself when it comes to this concept and even my therapist agrees with me that ...
A. 18 March 2013: "I see. I'd prefer a smart stuffed animal over a stupid one, given the choice."
or "It would make me happy to have a kind, well-meaning token from you that helps me celebrate my birthday. If you can't, well, I guess that is what it is. Love you ... (read in full...)
Am I slow to develop? Because I have no desire to sleep around and l would much rather have a relationship.
Q. I am maturing at a very slow pace. I have never kissed a girl and i don't drink or go out. I know people younger than me who are engaging in sexual behaviour and it makes me feel like a child despite being older. I know who I am and I am working...
A. 18 March 2013: Why would you let someone else set the pace for your own life? Perhaps you just need to broaden your friendships to other people, if you feel like the outsider.
Ignore the media and Hollywood stories and all that nonsense; they sell drama not rele... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my ex whom I dated for only about four months
Q. This is going to sound pathetic but I can't stop thinking about my ex whom i only dated for about four months. We broke up 8 months ago. He drug the relationship out for about a month before the split, and right after we broke up I cut contact with ...
A. 18 March 2013: I'd start to observe your obsessing over him. What I mean is, just become aware of your thinking patterns surrounding him.
Ask yourself, when you start to obsess, "okay, here I go, why did I choose this time and place to start to think about him ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being upset my girlfriend didn't prepare ahead of time to make time to see me before she goes away?
Q. general question. would you guys be frustrated if your girlfriend/boyfriend was going out of town for a week and you had planned in advance to spend the night before together, but it took them FOREVER to finally come over? my girlfriend has k...
A. 18 March 2013: Maybe she's not an organized person?
You want to take it personally, that's your choice, but I expect she wasn't deliberately slighting you.
I know where she is, I'm a notorious last minute packer as well, I wait till the last possible minute. ... (read in full...)
Is there the slightest chance that my deployed exboyfriend with a pregnant ex will contact me or want to get back with me?
Q. 4 years ago I met this guy who I really liked, sadly we lost contact and even though I use to think about him loads i accepted it wasn't meant to be. 3 months ago I had a friend request from him on Facebook, I accepted and we got chatting. I went t...
A. 18 March 2013: The story doesn't hold out much hope for a happy ending. At the very least, he has an ex with whom he has a child.
The falling deeply madly in love in just a few months after leaving the ex, sounds to me like you were a rebound, sorry. If she'... (read in full...)
Is it mean to ask my friend for this guy's number?
Q. I have a friend who i've been close with for about a year now. But i have always had feelings for him. And i'm also pretty sure he's got the same feelings for me. I never told him this because there are a lot of complicated reasons that makes it ...
A. 18 March 2013: If you can't be with the friend for whatever mysterious reason, presumably your friend is fully aware of the problems as well. So if there's no chance ever ever ever in the entire world for you to be together, then I think it's fine to ask him for ... (read in full...)
Is this salvageable? Did I mess it up?
Q. Hi. I'm a bit of an awkward, weird guy, and I've been looking for love for quite some time (Ive only been in 1 LTR 4 years ago, and in the interim its only been sporadic hookups), except I always manage to f*ck it up somehow! Here's the latest, ...
A. 18 March 2013: Would you date you?
I mean, would you continue to date a girl who refused to do what you wanted, who expected you to pay for everything and who then refused a kiss?
Ummmm, no, right?
So you basically revealed all your weirdness to her and she ... (read in full...)
Why was he lying? I am so confused and heartbroken!
Q. heyy ...i need your advise please i know my story will be long but if u have the patience please read it ...thank you. so i was in a relationship with this guy for a year. in the relationship there was passion extreme love...but there wasnt trust fr...
A. 18 March 2013: Sounds like you were the victim of a con artist. I would say he's lying simply to hide the fact that he isn't who he portrays.
I would gather up any mementos you have of him, conduct a little ritual and bury or burn them, so you can start fres... (read in full...)
Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 18 March 2013: I read your previous questions.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/the-man-im-supposed-to-marry-in-2.html is one of them.
Nearly a month ago, you found out about his cheating. He continues to lie and hope you will tolerate it.
What, besides writ... (read in full...)
Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 18 March 2013: Why are you proceeding with wedding plans? He continues to lie, I don't know about what, but obviously, it's a big problem.
Take back control of your life. If you feel you have to proceed with the wedding, it's apparent you feel trapped and stuc... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has bipolar disorder and his behavior is very disturbing and violent...and I might be pregnant with his child!
Q. My boyfriend and I had an argument last night. I feel bad , because he had cooked us a meal. We didnt get to eat the meal together. He has bipolar disorder, and i cant handle it when he is too hyper. He was very hyper yesterday, and had had a bit of ...
A. 16 March 2013: Did you tell your mother about the abuse he inflicted on you?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has bipolar disorder and his behavior is very disturbing and violent...and I might be pregnant with his child!
Q. My boyfriend and I had an argument last night. I feel bad , because he had cooked us a meal. We didnt get to eat the meal together. He has bipolar disorder, and i cant handle it when he is too hyper. He was very hyper yesterday, and had had a bit of ...
A. 16 March 2013: One more point to make. Love isn't going to fix him. Your devotion and time and help are not going to fix him. He needs treatment, it sounds like he needs really serious medications and it'll take time to stabilize him, if he can be stabilized.
D... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has bipolar disorder and his behavior is very disturbing and violent...and I might be pregnant with his child!
Q. My boyfriend and I had an argument last night. I feel bad , because he had cooked us a meal. We didnt get to eat the meal together. He has bipolar disorder, and i cant handle it when he is too hyper. He was very hyper yesterday, and had had a bit of ...
A. 16 March 2013: Get away from him now. Just imagine what sort of rage an unplanned pregnancy could provoke. Do NOT tell him.
You'll know in short order if you are or are not pregnant. This shouldn't be factoring into your planning to get away from him ASAP.
You a... (read in full...)
Things were getting serious -- until her ex FWB introduced himself
Q. Dear Cupid I have been dating a great women for three years and we are making plans to buy a house move in with each other and open joint savings and cheque accounts. We have been open with each other and neither of us have any skeletons in our ...
A. 16 March 2013: Maybe Amanda has a creepy stalker? I mean, the guy has pictures ready to go on his iPhone? Really? I have an iPhone and the oldest pictures on it date back about a year. Eventually the phone memory capacity is reached and you can't take any more ... (read in full...)
Is this age difference too much?
Q. What is the biggest age gap relationship you have known of? I am 26 years old and massively attracted to a 45 year old man. I can't help it it's getting me down, my family wouldn't approve....
A. 16 March 2013: Definitely wait until he is divorced and not living in the marital home any longer before starting a relationship with him. There are hundreds if not thousands of stories from the women who are waiting for their married man to leave his wife… it's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has bipolar disorder and his behavior is very disturbing and violent...and I might be pregnant with his child!
Q. My boyfriend and I had an argument last night. I feel bad , because he had cooked us a meal. We didnt get to eat the meal together. He has bipolar disorder, and i cant handle it when he is too hyper. He was very hyper yesterday, and had had a bit of ...
A. 16 March 2013: I would leave him for now. If he gets help for his medical condition, which is treatable, and gets it under control for at least 6 months, then you could consider reconciling with him. But as for now, he sounds too unstable and dangerous for you to ... (read in full...)
How can I move things along with this young teacher?
Q. we recently got a new teacher to our school, he's young around 23/24 and I'm 18. He doesn't take any of my classes but I really like him. When I'm in the corridor he always smiles and 'gives me the eye', even my best friend whom I never mentioned ...
A. 16 March 2013: I guess you have decided that your crush is more important than his career? How about you wait a year or two and then see if you still feel the same way.... (read in full...)
Is my husband bisexual?
Q. I recently found out my husband cheated on me through the casual encounters section of craigslist. He met with three people. The first was a transsexual prostitute, he paid for this person to give him oral sex. The second person he met with was a ...
A. 15 March 2013: Well, he's certainly willing to cheat on you. I would say that a man having sexual encounters with other men isn't strictly heterosexual, as the definition of that word reads.
Your husband has some history which sounds as though he was sexually abus... (read in full...)
Is this age difference too much?
Q. What is the biggest age gap relationship you have known of? I am 26 years old and massively attracted to a 45 year old man. I can't help it it's getting me down, my family wouldn't approve....
A. 15 March 2013: Is he attracted back or is this a one-sided crush?
I know of Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall. She was 26 and he was 89, according to the wikipedia article.
There are many age gap relationships. Is he single? Is he available? Has he told ... (read in full...)
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