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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 20 May 2013: Sad as it may be, it's probably best to assume that nothing is going to come of continuing to make contact with this woman. Best wishes!... (read in full...)
His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?
Q. Hi, how I’m going to start this. I read some of “my boyfriend has a wife” discussion and I’m in the same situation now. We start as a friend since then all of our friends knew that his separated to his wife. He has a kid, and that is the only thing ...
A. 17 May 2013: Good luck! Don't maintain contact with him, just tell him it's over and that's all you need to do. No explanations or justifications are necessary. You owe him nothing more than the news that's it's over.
If he goes through a divorce and has the ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I like him without ruining our friendship?
Q. So there's this guy and he is one o my close friends ( I'll call him zack ). Ok so zack and I have been getting along much more now and I have been having feelings for him for a little while. He is super nice and some days he's really fun funny ...
A. 15 May 2013: Zack, I like you even though you are very annoying. :)
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How do I tell him I like him without ruining our friendship?
Q. So there's this guy and he is one o my close friends ( I'll call him zack ). Ok so zack and I have been getting along much more now and I have been having feelings for him for a little while. He is super nice and some days he's really fun funny ...
A. 15 May 2013: Zack, you make me blush and now you want me to tell you I like you? Can't you tell?
Zack, you're annoying me. I like you, now go away.
Zack, yes, I like you.
He knows you like him, you've been pretty obvious if he is demanding to know your answer ... (read in full...)
What are your views on no sex before marriage?
Q. I am Christian but nondenominational and I honestly can't decide whether I should wait till marriage and the most committed relationship possible to have sex or have fun, play the field and get experienced with boyfriends at college. I would love to ...
A. 15 May 2013: --I honestly can't decide whether I should wait till marriage and the most committed relationship possible to have sex or have fun, play the field and get experienced with boyfriends at college. --
Why not split the difference, find a guy you migh... (read in full...)
I'm a nice girl -- why don't other girls ever like me?
Q. Why don't girls like me? Is there something wrong? Girls don't like me at all. Everywhere I go. Gym, college, work. I'd meet a bunch of girls and just one will be friends with me and the rest would just look at me funny and not talk ...
A. 15 May 2013: No, not really. I'm generally pretty interested in people's stories and listen well. Or at least I think I listen well. Anyway, I go from the assumption that there's something I have in common with everyone I meet and then I try to find out what ... (read in full...)
My FWB is sick of me and called me a whore! Did I do anything wrong to deserve to be treated this way?
Q. Dear Cupid I am in on and off FWB with my best friend. I fell in love with him but he says he likes me but no love word. Long story short, he bacame very abusive (physically and emotionally) lately. I couldnt even hold a decent conversation ...
A. 14 May 2013: Sorry, I remembered that he's your 'best friend,' and so you have to find a new one. Perhaps you could reconnect with some girlfriends and do some bonding with them; girlfriends are great at boosting you when you feel low, just ask them for support!... (read in full...)
I wasn't sure if he only wanted me for sex. Was I right to reject him?
Q. My friend at college had a huge dorm party last week and there was a lot of alcohol involved. Long story short, I had drunk quite a bit when one of her friends whom I didn't know hit on me. We ended up making out and kissing, but he was really ...
A. 14 May 2013: No, you weren't too harsh on him. It was a good call, he was aggressive and pushy while drunk and sulky when sober.
Him accusing you of 'friendzoning' him while he was drunk was a way to try to guilt you into going back to his place. It's pret... (read in full...)
His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?
Q. Hi, how I’m going to start this. I read some of “my boyfriend has a wife” discussion and I’m in the same situation now. We start as a friend since then all of our friends knew that his separated to his wife. He has a kid, and that is the only thing ...
A. 14 May 2013: I would end the relationship, if it were me. Married men make lousy boyfriends. They never can join you for major holidays, you spend most nights and weekends alone. The children and wife, heck, even the family dog, come before you on his priority ... (read in full...)
My FWB is sick of me and called me a whore! Did I do anything wrong to deserve to be treated this way?
Q. Dear Cupid I am in on and off FWB with my best friend. I fell in love with him but he says he likes me but no love word. Long story short, he bacame very abusive (physically and emotionally) lately. I couldnt even hold a decent conversation ...
A. 14 May 2013: I think CindyCares' answer is brilliant. You've just had an 'aha!' moment, if you are awake enough to pay attention.
I would leave the relationship in the "OFF" position and do not enter into FWB with guys you feel more than F for. You want a real... (read in full...)
My boyfriend runs hot and cold.....is he a narcissist?
Q. Well my bf this notorious habit of being extra vigil about his phone and email and need lots of female attention too. He runs hot and cold and I am rarely sure what he is thinking now . I first thought its me and I have some jealousy issues....
A. 14 May 2013: Hi Ruchi, your instincts are telling you something is "off" with your boyfriend, as in there is something not quite right, something that doesn't feel good about your relationship. I would listen to your instincts.
Guys who tell their new girl... (read in full...)
How do I keep my old friends as I evolve?
Q. Just to clarify first of all, I don't think there's a problem with being geeky at all. When I started college, I was the sort of girl who played video games regularly, read loads of fantasy and sci-fi novels, listened to alternative rock and whatnot ...
A. 13 May 2013: They think you are moving on from them and their (immature) way of dealing with it is to exclude you, ignore you, mock you or insult you.
Do you really need to be close with a group of judgmental control freaks, geeks or no? Do they add posi... (read in full...)
Sister and husband had an affair, and I am expected to act all happy at family gatherings!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'd married my first love for more than 10 years. we have one college daughter. Few years ago, I found out he cheated with my younger sister. I filed for a divorce, but never left our house beacause he was begging, crying ...
A. 13 May 2013: Do your parents know your sister slept with your husband?... (read in full...)
Can I breakup with my boyfriend a week before his birthday?
Q. I met my boyfriend on holiday almost 1 year ago. He lives about 300 miles form me so we only really see each other for a weekend once a month. He comes to see me mostly and I have went to his twice (he is 20 and I am 18). We have spoken every day ...
A. 13 May 2013: Break up with him now. The sooner he can start the moving on process, the better. You're just faking it now, that's not fair to him or to you.
Don't let his reaction be the emotional blackmail that keeps you stuck in a relationship you have no inte... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 13 May 2013: Hi, every time you receive an answer, including the ones you post yourself, you will be notified. So you aren't missing answers, you are just being notified that you have a response, including the ones YOU post. Hope this helps clear up the ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about oral sex unprotected from 4 years ago?
Q. I am here to ask about the effectivenes of HIV home test such as OraQuick, as well as the rist of Oral sex when it comes to HIV. The reason why I am asking is because I literally just took one OraQuick test, followed the instructions to the T and ...
A. 11 May 2013: There's also HPV to consider; apparently oral cancer rates are soaring due to transmission of HPV via unprotected oral sex. In the US, I understand it's considered a bit of an epidemic.
You could look at the website of the test's manufacturer for ... (read in full...)
He has wanted to do phone sex with me almost from the beginning. Now he wants sex face to face. How to discourage him?
Q. I am a student. I have met a boy via facebook 5 months ago..and we started talking by phone as he wanted my number for helping me in my near exam as he was from the same stream as mine and was my senior. In the meantime my ex- boyfriend broke ...
A. 8 May 2013: No, no, NO, NO, NOOOOOooOooooooo! Shout that in his ear, on the phone. No means NO. It is not the start of a negotiation.
Stop having phone sex. If he starts, hang up immediately.
He will soon leave you alone.
You have become attached to ... (read in full...)
Should I be the one who is blamed for my brother's dog not being fed?
Q. Roughly, about a year ago, my older brother found a litter of puppies with their mother somewhere in the park. He just up and bought one of the dogs home without even asking our mother for permission. He said he carried it home because it seem...
A. 7 May 2013: I have a link for you to locate a no-kill shelter. Take the dog to one near your home (call first) and surrender the dog, so that a suitable home can be found for it as soon as possible.
You and your family are not appropriate owners for a dog. As s... (read in full...)
Does the number of people you sleep with have any effect on you later in life?
Q. I am just wondering if the number of people you sleep with has any psychological or emotional effect on you later. I am not talking 3 or 4 partners. I mean, like, say 50 partners. My best bud is dating seriously a girl who has slept around qui...
A. 7 May 2013: One of my good friends had a lot of partners prior to getting married. She's been head-over-heels in love with her husband and has been for over 20 years. They have 2 gorgeous children who are both heading off to college this fall. She's gorgeous. ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my instinct regarding this Medium and let it give me comfort, or am I being ripped off?
Q. I'm hoping all you good people can help me. I was very close to my nan who dies last year and I haven't really gotten over her loss yet. As a result i've been seeing a medium for the last few week who charges around £30 per sitting. My Boyfriend i...
A. 1 May 2013: Everyone dies because their heart stops beating.
Virtually every one has financial worries.
She is good at reading your body language and you want so desperately to believe that she can connect you with your nan.
I think that you can connect with... (read in full...)
I still haven't talked to him about us being in a relationship, it's just like we chill and have sex. So my question for you guys, should I talk to him about how I feel?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a few months now. And the first time we officially chilled was on Christmas day. When we chilled, we did have sex. But before we chilled, it wasn't established what either of us were looking foe (like a ...
A. 1 May 2013: YouWish wrote: "I say take it a step further and TELL him what you want. 6 years doesn't make him some father figure that has authority over whether you become a relationship or not. YOU decide if you want to take things a step further. If he ... (read in full...)
Could I fall in love with someone who is always abroad?
Q. I have recently started doing online dating. I was just quite tired of trying to meet nice guys in clubs because it doesn't seem to be happening for me. A lot of guys were just plain sleazy and boring on the website, but I have started talking ...
A. 1 May 2013: Okay, let's review.
You've know him online for a week.
He's charming, easy to talk to.
He travels away for 4 months and then is back for 2 months.
He is a pilot.
(Where the heck does he fly? Most of the world is accessible within 24 hours of f... (read in full...)
I still haven't talked to him about us being in a relationship, it's just like we chill and have sex. So my question for you guys, should I talk to him about how I feel?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a few months now. And the first time we officially chilled was on Christmas day. When we chilled, we did have sex. But before we chilled, it wasn't established what either of us were looking foe (like a ...
A. 1 May 2013: Chilling, is that the new word for having sex as friends?
Here's my question for you. Just because you are younger than he is, do you think that means you can't ask for what you want? Do you think that you are the one without power or say in this... (read in full...)
Why don't I want someone who actually wants me?
Q. Hi, I'm 21 years old and ever since I was 18, I've only had 2 serious relationships. My first relationship was abusive and controlling, my second relationship involved drugs and alcohol. My first abusive boyfriend left me for another girl and...
A. 1 May 2013: "I kind of want to break it off and be just friends but I'm really scared of breaking his heart. He would not understand if I just wanted to be friends and I would not want to be tooo honest about how I don't have those ''feelings'' :( It's sad that ... (read in full...)
Why don't I want someone who actually wants me?
Q. Hi, I'm 21 years old and ever since I was 18, I've only had 2 serious relationships. My first relationship was abusive and controlling, my second relationship involved drugs and alcohol. My first abusive boyfriend left me for another girl and...
A. 1 May 2013: Why do you have to love him after only 9 days of dating? That seems a bit harsh, to judge yourself and the relationship based on that.
You're fresh off two pretty screwed up relationships, why are you trying to find "THE ONE"? Why not just enjo... (read in full...)
We are going to hang out at his apartment, alone, and I'm as nervous as all get out!
Q. I have been talking to this guy for two months now and thisnSunday we are suppose to hang out at his apartment, alone, while his roommates are at work. We've hung out before just not THIS alone. And well, clearly I'm nervous as all get out. He is ...
A. 1 May 2013: And as I think about this from his perspective, he's lined you up to 'hang out' which means he's going to go for whatever sex acts you are willing to perform.
I'd mess with his head. On Sunday, when you are supposed to be going to his place, mess... (read in full...)
We are going to hang out at his apartment, alone, and I'm as nervous as all get out!
Q. I have been talking to this guy for two months now and thisnSunday we are suppose to hang out at his apartment, alone, while his roommates are at work. We've hung out before just not THIS alone. And well, clearly I'm nervous as all get out. He is ...
A. 1 May 2013: You're nervous as all get out because you've been flirting with him. Have the conversations turned sexy, you know, all sexual, "what I'd do to you" and "what I want you to do to me?"
I think your gut is telling you that going to his apartment, when... (read in full...)
It's getting harder to resist my urges!
Q. Hi all I'm a 28 y.old guy and I've been in a good relationship with my 24 year old gf for more then a year now. We love each other, and spend all our spare time together. It is important to mention that I find her very attractive, yet, I can't sto...
A. 1 May 2013: Why don't you want to leave her? Be specific.
If you are getting urges that are increasing every day, then that's a sign you aren't settled and ready to be in a committed relationship.
I think most men see attractive women and can apprecia... (read in full...)
I feel I missed out, I've only ever been with my wife!
Q. I married 20 yrs I know all my wife's sex partners. We went to high school I've even know what they did because she told me year 20yrs ago. I have seen her have sex with one at a party. I cant get it out of my head its driving me crazy . I have ...
A. 1 May 2013: This sounds like retroactive jealousy. There are lots of posts on here discussing that, it seems to be an OCD type situation (you said you couldn't get it out of your head), if this has just started bothering you after 20 years, then it really does ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend out of my house? I'm sick of her lies and her cheating...
Q. I have been dating a girl for almost two years. She has constantly lied and told me she was not talking to guys. She talks to guys that don't help her I help her financially and emotionally, and I have taken care of her when she is sick or car ...
A. 1 May 2013: Document all her activities. You can share that documentation with her family so they can figure out how to help her.
You earn enough to hire an attorney. Go do so, to protect your assets.
It would be safest to remove her from the home in one day;... (read in full...)
Planning to adopt a child and want to give them a name
Q. I'm a single woman and I'm starting the adoption process. Being a single parent doesn't bother me because I don't need a man to complete me and I was raised by a single father and I always knew I was loved unconditionally - I didn't need a mum ...
A. 30 April 2013: I don't have any experience with adoption or with changing a child's name. I did rescue a dog and changed his name, but I think that's a very different scenario.
If you are starting the adoption process, why not ask the people who work with adop... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this girl and my strong dislike for her?
Q. Hey guys. How do you deal with people you really dislike? Basically, there is a girl who is the girlfriend of a friend of mine. Not only does she always cheat on him and treat him really badly, but she also knows my boyfriend, and she is always al...
A. 30 April 2013: Give us an example, OP, we can run a little role play for you.
"Awwwww, poor poor Sally, feeling bad about yourself again? Have to pick on people to feel better? Well, if life is that rough, I'm sure you need some sort of outlet for your rage and ... (read in full...)
Why do I get hiccups all the time and what can I do about them?
Q. Though this one is not related with relationship etc, but this is a situation i am currently going through. Problem I am facing right now is that, I get too much of hiccups, sometimes continuously for many hours and after every 5 minutes or so co...
A. 30 April 2013: You doctor checked you out? Go see him if you haven't.
This is from the webmd site on hiccups:---------
Hiccups that last longer than 48 hours are called persistent hiccups. Hiccups that last longer than a month are called intractable hiccups.... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my mother!
Q. Ok well, this is pushing me to the limit I can't handle this any more I think there is some thing wrong with my mom. She wakes up at 330am every morning because she makes coffee right next to my room because the kitchen is next to my room, so ...
A. 30 April 2013: Invest in a really good set of earplugs, you can buy a temporary pair at the drugstore.
If there is another room to move into for the next 2 weeks, go there, or sleep on the couch. You could always move to a hotel or motel or a friend's couch or s... (read in full...)
I feel too ugly to be a bride!
Q. I don't want to sound conceited or like I'm being an attention seeker but I'm due to get married in 1 year and i feel as though I'm too ugly to be a bride. I hate having my photo taken and I even discussed with my fiancé about not having a ...
A. 30 April 2013: Here's a peek at the writer of that last blog I posted: http://melissabxoxo.blogspot.com/p/about-me.html She's got a disability that affects her appearance and doesn't let it stop her from anything. I love her.
... (read in full...)
I feel too ugly to be a bride!
Q. I don't want to sound conceited or like I'm being an attention seeker but I'm due to get married in 1 year and i feel as though I'm too ugly to be a bride. I hate having my photo taken and I even discussed with my fiancé about not having a ...
A. 30 April 2013: And THIS woman is just amazing: http://www.melissabxoxo.blogspot.com
... (read in full...)
I feel too ugly to be a bride!
Q. I don't want to sound conceited or like I'm being an attention seeker but I'm due to get married in 1 year and i feel as though I'm too ugly to be a bride. I hate having my photo taken and I even discussed with my fiancé about not having a ...
A. 30 April 2013: It's not a video, it was an article. It's so cool, I LOVE this woman!
http://jezebel.com/5946643/reddit-users-attempt-to-shame-sikh-woman-get-righteously-schooled
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I feel too ugly to be a bride!
Q. I don't want to sound conceited or like I'm being an attention seeker but I'm due to get married in 1 year and i feel as though I'm too ugly to be a bride. I hate having my photo taken and I even discussed with my fiancé about not having a ...
A. 30 April 2013: Plan a candlelight ceremony and choose a dark venue for your reception. Ask for no flash photography and you'll be good to go.
You were chosen by your guy to be his bride, why would you make him look bad in front of his family and friends by refu... (read in full...)
Why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger?
Q. i need help understanding something. why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger? and i dont mean just a few year either. im talking 20 years or more. and why would anyone want someone that much older? i have read all ...
A. 29 April 2013: For heaven's sake, get a really good lawyer if you haven't already. If you have been supporting him, financially or otherwise, during the marriage then your contributions need to be taken into account.
Don't get mad, stop dwelling on the who and ... (read in full...)
I found links to live cam shows on his computer! How would you feel about that?
Q. Alright. I've just returned from being out of town for two weeks. In the time that I was gone my boyfriend accidently broke my computer, so I've been using his laptop. Anyway, I know it's sort of an invasion of privacy, but when I typed into the...
A. 29 April 2013: Me, I consider that type of interaction to be cheating.
Why didn't he just interact with you while you were away? Very, very disappointing that he's gone beyond watching porn to chatting with naked women doing sexual acts.
~waves wand~ *poof!* ... (read in full...)
I kept waiting for him to leave his g/f but he never really did so I ended things. Did I do the right thing?
Q. I'm confused that I already made a mistake as he asked me to wait for him to breakup with girlfriend of 6 years he told me they are in verge of breaking up but I didnt do it. I just stoped waiting and said goodbye a month ago. I've waited for him to ...
A. 29 April 2013: Absolutely you did the right thing. He's kept you hanging long enough, you were brave to end it, and you'll feel so much better about this after you get over the initial shock at the end of the contact with him. It's a little period of mourning and ... (read in full...)
Need advice! Is he genuinely interested or just wants sex or some action?
Q. This a guy I met at a party who's going to the same school as me next year, and we started talking on facebook. We would talk for 3~7 hours a night and we have really entertaining conversations. I can't tell what his intentions are, and I'd really ...
A. 29 April 2013: You're just talking on facebook? He hasn't asked for your number. He gets sexual in the conversations. He just wants to hang out, not actually go out on a date.
I think you've hit on it, he just wants some action. He puts in some time chatting on f... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 29 April 2013: More specifically, if you are sexually adventurous, how did you come to choose this non-adventurous man to be your husband? Is this an arranged marriage? If you are a modern, sexually liberated woman, why would you agree to such an outdated ... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?
Q. I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...
A. 29 April 2013: Zippy gave an excellent followup to you. I don't have much to add, just a few thoughts.
You are spending too much time alone and online. You are living in your head, not in the real world.
Get out and meet people. Not with the intention of creating... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 29 April 2013: So why did you get married?... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 29 April 2013: Have you discussed your urges with your husband?... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?
Q. I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...
A. 29 April 2013: Do you have friends you hang out with at all? I mean, somebody you can call up and go out to see a movie with?
I think you so terrified of being judged because you don't have a lot of peer-to-peer experiences in a social setting.
You make some pre... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 23 April 2013: Why did you get married if you feel so sexually oppressed by being faithful?... (read in full...)
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