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female
age
30-35,
*adyBabe
writes:My boyfriend enjoys sleeping with other women and swinging. Rather it be me and another girl with him or a full couple swap. At first I was alright with it, didn't put up much of a fight and probably even enjoyed it. But now it's like he's obsessed with it. I see him all the time searching for other couples or even single girls to play with. He always ask me "What do you think of this guy, babe?" I've told him I'm not interested in that anymore and the only guy I want is him. I also asked him many many times why does he like other women so much. All he said was "I don't know, I just like doing it". He even got upset saying he'll stop but I better not get upset when he yells about the house being dirty, because he has to stop what he likes and I can't even do the laundry.Is there anything I can do to stop this? I'm tired of pretending I'm alright when we meet couples just to make him happy. I'm tired of some creep touching me because he wants to sleep with his wife. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2013): He is using you as a bait to get to other women. I am sorry to say this but you have no future with this guy. For gods sake leave him and stop this nonsence before you catch a deadly disease from one of these creeps. have some self respect and don't let him to abuse you like this. you owe this to yourself.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (31 March 2013):
 You write: "Is there anything I can do to stop this?"
Yes..... tell him that his fantasy-time is over.... and YOU are moving to another address and leaving HIM to his own devices....
This was an "easy" question....
Good luck....
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (31 March 2013):
 Is he punishing you for not doing the laundry by making you sleep with men you have no interest in? Really? He's engaging in emotional blackmail.
Is there anything you can do to stop this? Um, you can say 'no' and don't cave in anymore. You're going to wind up with an unhappy boyfriend but I think that he's not salvageable as a quality life partner for you anyway.
Stop engaging in the sex with strangers and ignore him when he shouts at you. If he keeps shouting then he's an abuser, and you're best rid of him.
Really and truly, I think he's a lost cause. He's got an entitlement complex and craves variety over keeping you happy. Even if he's a perfect gentleman and a generous saint in all other aspects of your relationship, that's not good enough to force you into unwanted (and potentially risky and unsafe) sex.
Stop pretending, stop caving in, stand up for yourself, and end the unhealthy relationship sooner, rather than later.
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