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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I don`t want to cheat but I`d like some affection from my friend
Q. Ok heres the dilema, I'm married and have 2 kids. Years ago I met a guy who totally blew my world away, we only saw each other for a short time and were never intimate sexually. I had to break it off because my ex wanted me back in my life and ...
A. 11 July 2013: If your husband's okay with it, then go for it! If you can't tell him, then it's cheating.
If your husband is a great dad but a lousy husband, why not set him free to find someone else to be a husband to and let him be a great parent.
Are you aski... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sexted at least two guys right after we broke up. We're now back together but I don't know if I can trust her.
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over 4 years now. We are 23 years old and were friends before we dated, she is my best friend.... However recently i went through a bout of depression and checked out of the relationship for...
A. 10 July 2013: You went through a bout of depression and checked out of the relationship. So maybe in her head, you two had not been a couple for 6 months or even longer. Maybe the breakup was just a formality, she'd checked out of the relationship just as you ... (read in full...)
She has pain during sex but refuses to see the doctor!
Q. I been with my girlfriend for 6months. Our relationship is great. We doesn't like to have sex everyday, but it's okay, when we do she gets pains down below after 10mins and I always have to stop as she claims to feel diZy and in pain and it ends ...
A. 10 July 2013: And to add to SVC's post, if she's not really aroused and ready, her vagina will not have done the usual expanding and lengthening that accompanies sexual arousal. http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/sexual-response-cycle
Which will make... (read in full...)
Should I continue this long distance relationship or try to cut it off to avoid heartbreak?
Q. About five years ago I met a guy, along with a handful of other people from all over the world, while playing an online game. I've kept in good contact with many of these people throughout the years. This guy in particular has been a great fri...
A. 10 July 2013: Hi, I think So Very Confused has given you some really good advice.
Here's mine: if you are living in the future, as in, "when I meet Paul and we finally learn if we are good together or not," then you are spending your mental energy on a fant... (read in full...)
He sent me a critique of our night together!
Q. Dear Cupid, Okay this is embarrassing.. I started to see a guy, very smart, kind and fun to be around. Last night was the 1st we had sex. I am a bit shy by nature but quite open minded sexually. Anyway the sex I thought was quite good, and when I...
A. 10 July 2013: Are you still embarrassed or have the aunts here managed to get you to see that he is a ridiculous individual? :)... (read in full...)
How do I tell him nicely that won’t be taking things any further?
Q. So I went on a date with his guy and I don’t know how to tell him I don’t want to peruse a relationship with him. We met in a bar exchanged numbers and he asked me out on a date. We meet up and everything is fine but about an hour into the date, he...
A. 10 July 2013: So how are things going, did you manage to do what you needed to do?... (read in full...)
We've been together a week and now he wants to have sex! I don't know what to do!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a week now, he is asking me for sex ,we are both 14, i dont know what to do can you help me? x ...
A. 10 July 2013: Hi Jordii, did you read any of our responses? Just wondering if you had and had taken the time to think about them.... (read in full...)
My bf told me to give him the ultimatum in August, but now one of my friends has confessed his feelings for me. Help?
Q. Hi guys I would like advice please as you have all been really helpful to me in the past. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years now. Those of you who have seen my past posts will remember I have been divorced for 7 and a half years...
A. 10 July 2013: And don't pack your bags to visit him this weekend.
Make other plans, and go have fun.
Read that book over the weekend and you'll be in a new place by this time next week.
... (read in full...)
My bf told me to give him the ultimatum in August, but now one of my friends has confessed his feelings for me. Help?
Q. Hi guys I would like advice please as you have all been really helpful to me in the past. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years now. Those of you who have seen my past posts will remember I have been divorced for 7 and a half years...
A. 10 July 2013: Hi there, thanks for your question. I looked back at your old questions and saw a very telling quote from nearly 2 years ago: (August 2011) on
"Hi guys. I thought i would update u all with the goings on in my relationship. We still see each othe... (read in full...)
How do I make her love me?
Q. i am in class 10th and love a girl who is a year younger than me.. The problem is that she hates me a lot. Once i had proposed her but she said no with a reason that she thinks me as her brother.... I can't take big steps because it's school days so ...
A. 10 July 2013: I have found that the best way to make yourself attractive to a teenaged girl is to make her friends think you are the best thing since sliced bread (or naan?). Spend less time on her and focus on her closest friends. In fact, ignore her a bit and ... (read in full...)
Why would he throw away 7 years and me for that mess?
Q. I'm hoping for someone to enlighten me on why my ex fiancé would dump me and marry someone who resembles his ex wife. My ex was married to an alcoholic like himself for 14 yrs. It was a very abusive marriage to say the least. When we met he was ...
A. 10 July 2013: He's an active alcoholic looking for someone to drink with, you weren't enough of an enabler for him, so he found someone who doesn't give him a hard time about his alcohol abuse.
If he's been an alcoholic for many years, then some of his cogn... (read in full...)
Should I tell him off for giving my friend herpes?
Q. My friend had sex with this guy she hardly knew (we're on holiday) and firstly he stole her headphones and totally avoided her, but now she has got ulcers on her tonsils and it looks like herpes. Plus she has all the other symptoms like muscle ...
A. 10 July 2013: And not to put too fine a point on it, but she is the one who chose to have sex with him. She assumed the risk by having sex with a guy she didn't know very well… I think it's up to her to deal with her medical issues and how to notify her sexual ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him off for giving my friend herpes?
Q. My friend had sex with this guy she hardly knew (we're on holiday) and firstly he stole her headphones and totally avoided her, but now she has got ulcers on her tonsils and it looks like herpes. Plus she has all the other symptoms like muscle ...
A. 10 July 2013: Is this the guy who said that the way you sing could cause a man to fall in love with you?
He's a player and jerk, sorry to hear that, but what do you hope to accomplish? He already knows he's a player and a jerk (and a thief).
She needs to see a... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 10 July 2013: I did some searching using the search feature here at DC. You've been ramping up to this for some time. I don't really think you want advice, to be honest. You want the attention. Part of that histrionic personality disorder thing.
http:... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 10 July 2013: OP, with all due respect, you are rewriting your own history.
"I have gone on. I have been happy. I have not paid any attention to him in any way for the past while." The 'past while' has been one month.
Going back to that older post: "I could re... (read in full...)
I'm married and friend now wants to have sex. What do I do?
Q. Hi I am actually from Pakistan but now living in Australia with my husband and 4 years old son.My husband works and I am a housewife.We r really a happy small family.Here I met with a guy when I first came.I lost my way and my husband was not with ...
A. 10 July 2013: What do you do now? You no longer spend any time alone with this person. You have allowed him to cross boundaries that you should have set. Lip kissing and hugging is over the line, to me, it's not appropriate and should never have happened.
T... (read in full...)
I finally told my girlfriend about all the concerns I've been holding back. Was I an idiot? Should I have just kept my mouth shut and carried on?
Q. My Long-term GF Leah and I have split up, at least for a while. We've been together just over 7 years now, had a couple of bumps down the road, but nothing we couldn't overcome. I met her in college the opposite side of the country where I'...
A. 10 July 2013: No, you should have addressed your concerns as they came up, one by one, rather than saving them for one big emotional dump on her. Granted, she's avoided dealing with things you've wanted to discuss in the past, and you've given her a pass because ... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 9 July 2013: Hey, I found this post on webmd:
Histrionic Personality Disorder
Histrionic personality disorder is a mental condition that is characterized by excessive emotional reactions, attention-seeking behavior, and personal drama. These features usually ... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 9 July 2013: Honest truth? I have NEVER been involved with a married man. I have been propositioned by several, both when I was single and when I was involved and married. It's not difficult to figure out that getting involved with a married man is a recipe for ... (read in full...)
We've been together a week and now he wants to have sex! I don't know what to do!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a week now, he is asking me for sex ,we are both 14, i dont know what to do can you help me? x ...
A. 9 July 2013: I would tell him that you asked your dad what he thought about it and your dad told you that you should wait for one full year before sex, and that includes blow-jobs and hand-jobs too. Tell him your dad said he was a your boyfriend's age once too ... (read in full...)
His new wife is trying to dominate me
Q. Sorry if I make mistakes typing, its on my phone and Im useless!Me and my ex share custody of our two daughters who are 7 and 9. I was with him for 8 years and he met his partner and got married within 8 months of us splitting up. He cheated pn me ...
A. 9 July 2013: I would be sure to document EVERY text from him/her, take screen shots, save every message.
I would insist that all contact be by voice contact on the phone, no more texting whatsoever between you, so that you are certain you are speaking with him ... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 9 July 2013: I agree with YouWish, why are you here? This all sounds more like someone on a stage hoping for an audience. You do need professional help.
I found a syndrome which may describe your condition: http... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: Excuse me, but wasn't this rock bottom? "Now total despair. And aloneness. Feeling sad and hopeless. Used and like scum. I know nobody will have any kind words for me. I do not deserve them. I helped a pig cheat on his wife."
How many rock bott... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: You will do what you will do. Your pain when it's over and he's back with his wife will be no doubt similar to what you experienced when you first wrote this post.
Maybe having that same pain over and over again is your way of numbing yourself to t... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: Because you choose to be stuck on this one. You like it, on some level. This is all within your control.
So do you want help to end it or are you looking for justifications to continue?... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: "So many other men are waiting to date me"
Why not choose a balm instead?... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: Do you realize you are adding to your own hard times? As in laying on more problems and drama?... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: And it isn't hard to ignore, if you set your mind to it. I think you like the frisson of attraction. And I do think you have a very short memory.... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: Oh, I have no doubt he's attractive. That doesn't make him a good prospect. That just makes him attractive, with high sexual energy and a good line that you have fallen for.
He goes home to his wife every night.
Have you taken a moment to read wha... (read in full...)
Does this message mean I'm dumped? Help!
Q. Me and my bf have been arguing ALOT and we had a huge row because he has no time too see me this morning he said 'Right now I am screaming at my phone because I can't put into text what I want to say in retaliation and so it doesn't ruin your day, I ...
A. 8 July 2013: You need to call on one of your friends to be your go-to person when you feel you have to text him.
It's part of getting control of your actions. You may not be able to control how you feel but you certainly can control how you act. Part of grow... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: Oh, and because you haven't stapled that note to his tie. THAT would make him leave you alone, in a heartbeat.... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: Because he can see if he says the right things you'll go for the drama and the sex.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him nicely that won’t be taking things any further?
Q. So I went on a date with his guy and I don’t know how to tell him I don’t want to peruse a relationship with him. We met in a bar exchanged numbers and he asked me out on a date. We meet up and everything is fine but about an hour into the date, he...
A. 8 July 2013: And you might be doing womanhood and him a huge favor by letting him know he came on far too strong. Just saying.
One of the reasons you feel so uncomfortable is because what you have to do feels 'mean.' It isn't mean to be honest about your feel... (read in full...)
I thought he was the one, now I'm not so sure
Q. Hey guys i really need your help. I thought i loved my boyfriend more than ive ever loved anyone in my life. i know im only 19 but i thought it was different this time. i saw our future together and looked forward to a happy perfect life after we ...
A. 8 July 2013: Why not just let the month pass by and watch yourself experience the feelings you are having? Is there some rush on this?
The age you are, where you are, the experiences you are having, all are in transition. You are maturing and experiencing new ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him nicely that won’t be taking things any further?
Q. So I went on a date with his guy and I don’t know how to tell him I don’t want to peruse a relationship with him. We met in a bar exchanged numbers and he asked me out on a date. We meet up and everything is fine but about an hour into the date, he...
A. 8 July 2013: 'Hey, Brian, thanks for messaging me, I guess I need to tell you that dating isn't going to be happening between us any longer. If you want to know why, it's because you came on too hot and too heavy and made me uncomfortable and it's put me off ... (read in full...)
What is he playing at with that line?
Q. Last night I was singing, and this guy was saying, 'you do realise you have the power to make men fall in love with you? Well you just have'. Later he came back to my place and slept with my flatmate. What's he playing at?...
A. 8 July 2013: Maybe he was looking to get laid? And he did, so one of his lines worked on someone, in this case, your flatmate.
Maybe he meant 'love' in the platonic sense of the word, rather than the sexual or romantic type of 'love.'
Did you fancy him for ... (read in full...)
I need alimony money from my husband. How does that work?
Q. my husband s filing for a divorce. There is no money in the house and we dont have any other assets together but i want him to give me alimony. i just want to know what is going to be on the divorce papers? Is it going to have question on how much ...
A. 8 July 2013: Sabeen, if your husband has filed for divorce then he has seen an attorney. You need to find one as well. Your attorney can then help guide you through the process and help you navigate the waters here.
Drop everything else you are doing and find... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: Isn't he still the pig who cheated on his wife?
You get sucked up into some little fantasy world, and feed the drama.
I rather like AuntyEm's advice to staple a note to his tie.
Do you have short-term memory loss or other mental health disor... (read in full...)
Does it matter that I'm not that physically attracted to him?
Q. hi. Im just looking for advice on dating someone ur not sexually attracted to?! iv met this lovely man, his nearly 17 yrs older than me but that isn't a problem for us. we get on rather well and i feel ifwe get together as an actual couple he would ...
A. 8 July 2013: Do you find him physically unappealing? Or are you just trying to wrap your head around the fact that he's different from your normal type?
Why not date a few more times and see if there is any inkling of attraction developing inside you. Pay your... (read in full...)
Haven't heard from him in two weeks -- what do I do?
Q. So my boyfriend hasn't been texting me in over 2 weeks. The last thing I heard from him was that he was in the hospital with a lot of pain. The hospital is on base so I can't enter. I don't know what to do! Should I just wait?...
A. 8 July 2013: Why don't you call his parents, one of his siblings or one of his friends in the service? Presumably one of them would know what is happening with him. You could call the hospital to see about sending flowers to him to let him know you are thinking ... (read in full...)
He sent me a critique of our night together!
Q. Dear Cupid, Okay this is embarrassing.. I started to see a guy, very smart, kind and fun to be around. Last night was the 1st we had sex. I am a bit shy by nature but quite open minded sexually. Anyway the sex I thought was quite good, and when I...
A. 8 July 2013: "Dear John,
"Thank you for your critique of our night together. As you have initiated this type of analysis, I am going to take this and run with it.
"Critiquing your critique, I have to say that writing a critique in the first place is a very poo... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 4 July 2013: "If you shut the door, why are you trying to open it again?"
Um, to be crude about it, because his balls are full of semen and he is tired of using his hand, and he knows how to get this woman's knickers off. It doesn't take much to get this part... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 26 June 2013: Having now read your first thread, I would add this advice: you knew that this would end badly. Why are you so surprised?
You put yourself smack in the middle of the drama. You created the drama. Now you are feeding off the negative energy, on some... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 26 June 2013: Hi, I have seen people in this situation before. Generally it's the man who is more senior and whose job is less at risk. Either the woman gets mentally strong enough to deal with it or she winds up leaving.
You are 36-40 so presumably you have some... (read in full...)
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