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writes:Alright. I've just returned from being out of town for two weeks. In the time that I was gone my boyfriend accidently broke my computer, so I've been using his laptop. Anyway, I know it's sort of an invasion of privacy, but when I typed into the address bar, a bunch of redtube urls from his history came up. Curious, I decided to look in his browsing history. Porn doesn't really bother me, but I found links to live cam shows.. I'm not really sure how to react. I feel upset knowing he was watching, and interacting with, other women online while I was gone... How would you feel in that situation? I'm just curious.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (4 May 2013):
 Okay, I clicked on redtube (GROSS!). There's an automatic pop-up advertising a live sex cam. That does NOT mean he's paying to have someone live do that.
Yeah, the only thing that's definite is that he's watching porn on redtube. The pop-ups for live cam are there to get him to pay for some live cam show Evidence of paying or having an account, many visits and clear browsing of the site hosting the live sex chats.
That's how redtube offers free porn -- by pop-ups, ads, and those gross videos on the side that lead to premium porn sites. I highly doubt he's interacting, but the way to find out is to look at his site history. But I'm seriously thinking the only websites that pop up are the ads that show up with every initial visit to redtube.
I need to stick ice picks in my eyes now, or watch Pride and Prejudice or something. :P
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (30 April 2013):
 The third answerer made a great point to consider. It's true that by visiting some websites, usually shady ones or porn ones, those web cam advertisements will pop up as separate windows which create a space in the browser's history.
Anyway, the best advice is to make it know to your boo that live cams shows extended beyond what you're comfortable with him viewing. He may not consider it cheating like you do.
I promise you, if he is watching those shows, that he's not making a connection with any of the cam girls; he's not going to fall in love with them. It's not about that. Most guys just view it as what it is: live porn. But still, you need to let him know that you don't like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2013): Live cam shows on a computer can be considered to be cheating by many people especially if there is a agreement not to engage in such where people are already in a relationship with each other. Speaking for myself and my girlfriend we both agree not to engage in on line porn of any kind. Before she goes away for a long period of time we try to squeeze in as my intimate sessions as we can even if it means taking a vacation day from work to be with each other. There are pics of both of us around our apartment and if need be and more than likely I will masturbate to her pictures. Yes she knows about it. and so would she if I went away. We Skype or talk to each other while away. We don't text though. You didn't say if you communicated to your boyfriend while you were away for the two weeks. My girlfriend just was looking over my shoulder and saying that you might want to have a talk with your boyfriend and why you don't like live cam sex on the computer. Try to find a solution to help curb his wandering sexual longings..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2013): Those links can appear even if he did not visit the website. Advertisements (both on a porn webpage, and pop up or pop under ads) for these sites WILL leave a cookie behind. Often this cookie will leave a URL in the address bar even if it was never clicked on.
The only way to know for certain if he visited a live page is to check the number of times he has visited the url, and look at the list of urls he visited and WHEN the page was viewed in his history settings.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 April 2013):
 Me, I consider that type of interaction to be cheating.
Why didn't he just interact with you while you were away? Very, very disappointing that he's gone beyond watching porn to chatting with naked women doing sexual acts.
~waves wand~ *poof!* Tada! He's now the EX-boyfriend!
Whew, I feel better already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2013): I would be upset and it would bother me, but I've been in your situation before....especially if he is a younger guy, he's still going to look at it behind your back even if you ask him to stop....they always do.
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