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writes:Roughly, about a year ago, my older brother found a litter of puppies with their mother somewhere in the park. He just up and bought one of the dogs home without even asking our mother for permission. He said he carried it home because it seemed like the toughest puppy in the littler and he liked that.His initial plan was to toughen it up so it could be a watch dog, but that didn’t work out.My brother doesn’t work so he isn’t able to get all the requirements this puppy needs. Long story short he got bored of it and pretty much doesn’t pay it much attention anymore. He’s says it is too greedy. I had a dog that went missing two weeks before he brought the puppy home. We never found him unfortunately, but I was a bit glad, because taking care of a dog is crazy. Food, attention, cleaning. I couldn’t afford it much less to find the time do it. So yes, sad to say I was a bit a happy the dog vanished.The dog is older now, I guess it still might be a puppy but this is what ticks me off. I took good care of my dog that I brought home. There were days I had no lunch at school just so I could buy it dog food, or shampoo or even treats. Now my mother keeps hounding ME to feed the dog and not my brother.Almost every day she asks me if the dog was fed. It doesn’t bother me that she might want me to feed the dog every now and then because my brother clearly doesn’t care anymore. It’s just how she says it to me that bugs me. You’d think I was the one who owns it. When I ask her why she doesn’t terrorize my brother she says it’s because he doesn’t care.So does that mean I should be blamed for the dog's ill treatment?I approached him the other day and told him to feed his dog and stop having Mom cuss at ME and he said well since you play with it I figured you would feed it.I almost went psycho on him. WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN?When I had my dog I didn’t depend on anyone to take care of it. I knew it was my responsibility so I did what I had to do. If anybody else wanted to give it food , sure no problem but it wasn’t their job. I play with the dog because nobody else does. I know dogs are like children and they need attention. Am I being treated fairly here? Or is this just wrong? My mother feeds it most of the time but blames me when it doesn’t eat and it isn’t my dog. I don’t get it.Am I in the wrong here? Reply to this Question
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reader, BiteMe +, writes (9 May 2013):
BiteMe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the responses! Everyone has mentioned giving the dog away at some point but it also poses some benefits like protection and company. I love animals but it's clear I'm not the best pet owner in the world, there are bound to be people willing to go the extra mile when it comes to there pets. But, I do try to always be a better pet owner with every new pet I get. However, as I've grown, I realise owning a pet is no joke, it's hard work so I'll give it a break for now.
The first time my dog vanished I went crazy posting flying all over the neighborhood with a $60 as the reward money. He has vanished a number of times and comes back days later. He just didn't bother this time I guess.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 May 2013):
 I have a link for you to locate a no-kill shelter. Take the dog to one near your home (call first) and surrender the dog, so that a suitable home can be found for it as soon as possible.
You and your family are not appropriate owners for a dog. As someone who is aged 22-25, you sound much much younger than that.
So go to this website: http://www.nokillnetwork.org and find a safe haven for the dog today.
Good luck.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (7 May 2013):
 No this isnt fair, but you really should stop thinking about yourself for a second and think about the dog.
Your brother is a moron (sorry but who takes a dog away from its mother leaving the rest of them to probably die there in the park?) - but you are just going to have to accept that he's an idiot and there is nothing you can do to change him.
What you can do is try and put this situation right by finding this poor innocent animal a good home where he is wanted and will be loved. Clearly no-one in your house wants this dog and it is being mis-treated, and if you do not want to keep the dog then take it to an animal shelter where he will have a chance of getting re-homed.
And I would suggest that you never have animals in your house again, you are not the kind of family that are capable of looking after animals and to be happy that a family pet has gone missing is just awful - if my dog went missing I'd be gutted for months, if not years, I love her to bits and couldnt imagine life without her. If you do not feel that way about your animals then you should not have them, full stop.
Take the dog away, as soon as you can, to an animal shelter or animal charity who can help this poor dog and give him a chance of happiness. Forget about whose dog it is and whether your brother would be annoyed or not, the dog's welfare has to come first now and you need to be the responsible one seen as the rest of your family are incapable of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): OP it's not a matter of fairness here, for the record on technical level and the way you and your family view dogs as property to be owned then yeah it's unfair.
In your position I wouldn't give a crap. If the brother doesn't like the dog then he can fuck off really and I'd take ownership of that dog as my family.
I was a dog breeder but have stopped breeding as my male had to have the snip and don't want to breed with someone else's dog and share ownership, plus I haven't been able to find another owner with the same breed who breeds for health and not cosmetic reasons.
Those dogs are my family, when my mother had dogs they too were family and we she couldn't afford to keep those dogs I stepped up and paid for them, no bother.
You see you say dogs are like children yet your family treat them like toys. Bicker about who feeds it and your brother is a nasty piece of shit in the way he treats it too. One of those people who thinks it's cool to take responsibility for a life but then dump it when it doesn't suit him.
OP find a better home for the dog, one where it'll be cherished and treated like a part of the family and not just a chore.
I'd happily skip a meal if I had to in order to feed my dogs. They're my family, and I've made them my pack for the rest of their or my life. I'd give up everything to keep them safe, happy and well fed.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 May 2013):
 I think that, before and beyond worryng about whose fault's is, you should immediately worry about finding another accomodation for the dog, in a dog friendly house where it can count on being fed every day punctually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): I feel awful for the poor dog who's caught in the entire mess for no fault of his. Your irresponsible brother had no business to separate the pup from the mother and bring him home just because he wanted to! That is just not right! And if he did, it should be entirely his responsibility to take care of it. Seeing that he doesnt and the onus is on you now, what you can and should do is, to get the entire family to sit down and have a talk about growing up and assuming some responsibility for an animal which your brother brought home. The dig didnt just wander in, he was brought to your house and like it or not, he is everyone's responsibility now.
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