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writes:Why don't girls like me? Is there something wrong?Girls don't like me at all.Everywhere I go. Gym, college, work.I'd meet a bunch of girls and just one will be friends with me and the rest would just look at me funny and not talk to me at all. But they'd talk and be nice to each other and everyone but me.I don't know what it is. Today I was talking to a lady and I told her my problem and she said I'm posh, glamorous and very different and that is why girls never like me. Cause I always look good.I don't understand. I can never be jealous of someone and I'm actually a very nice sweet girl.Guys like me though. They watch me and say I'm very mysterious and different. and when I tell them my problem they tell me to ignore the girls too.I don't think I'm better than anyone. Off course I'm nice to everyone I meet but girls never like me. Ladies and women do though. Is just girls.Do anyone of you experience this too?
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (15 May 2013):
Groups of people have a tendency to display herd behavior and act negatively towards someone who doesn't fit in.
An extreme case of herd behavior is when the group starts rioting.
It's also a fact that women can be very jealous. So if you combine this then this very much explains it all.
You say that when you meet a bunch of girls just one will be friends. Well, that may not be too bad. You can't expect them all to be friends with you, that's not going to happen, not even close.
So I would just keep on trying and cherish the ones who will want to be friends with you.
Do you have any hobbies? What about volunteering?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2013): I am 27 and have the exact same problem and the only thing I have been able to put it down to is jealousy to be honest. Not so much of my looks or anything like that I don't think, it's more that I am quite inwardly confident and I have my life together (good job, flat, etc). I actually had a conversation with a girl I knew once about it and she said she thought I believed I was better than everyone else. When I asked her why she thought that, she said it was because I had everything going for me so obviously I must love myself. When I asked her what about my actions made her think that, she couldn't answer. So that basically comes down to her projecting her issues with me on to me as if they were mine. It's hard and it upsets me sometimes too, but I think you have to learn to ignore these people as it is them that have the problem, not you. I also think (and this might not be a popular thing to say) that here in the UK people are much less likely to be happy for someone else when they do well. I lived abroad for 2 years when I was younger and I didn't have nearly as much trouble with petty jealousy as I do at home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2013): I have the same problem but as long as I know who I am it really doesn't matter.Maybe they wish they were you:)
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 May 2013):
 No, not really. I'm generally pretty interested in people's stories and listen well. Or at least I think I listen well. Anyway, I go from the assumption that there's something I have in common with everyone I meet and then I try to find out what that is.
The good news is that as you are in the 22-25 year age bracket, you don't need to worry about being friends with "girls." You can be friends with women, as that is the category you fall into now as well! :)
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