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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My best friend knows I'm gay, doesn't like gays but likes me. He's my crush!
Q. I am in love with my straight friend He is an older married man that I have worked with for 13 years and we have become best friends, I am in my late 30s and he is about 20 years older than me but from how great of a guy he is and the fact that he...
A. 7 March 2013: Well, I guess you know now he doesn't hate gays, that he is in fact bisexual and willing to cheat on his wife. Please do her a favor, use condoms for oral and anal sex.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to reduce my sex drive?
Q. Hello, I have a sex question. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two months now, im 18 hes 25. And Lately he says all ive wnated to do is have sex, and i have. Im consantly "horny" when im around him, and when im not with him i thinkg a...
A. 9 January 2013: Have you told him what works for you? If you have and he ignores it, I'd dump him. If he has shown no interest in seeing that you are happy with your sex life, I doubt he's teachable that way. He's not worth the time, frankly.
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Is there anything I can do to reduce my sex drive?
Q. Hello, I have a sex question. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two months now, im 18 hes 25. And Lately he says all ive wnated to do is have sex, and i have. Im consantly "horny" when im around him, and when im not with him i thinkg a...
A. 8 January 2013: Tell him that "ladies come first," the next time you see him and see if that doesn't help the situation.
If he can't work with you to make sure YOU enjoy the sex too, then maybe the entire relationship should be reconsidered. Balance and shar... (read in full...)
Should I leave my BF of 6 years for someone I've known for 2 months?
Q. Hi all, My boyfriend of 6 years recently asked if it's ok if his sister could stay with us for a few weeks until she finds a place in the city.. His sister is a model, she's a gorgeous woman and is currently working with the top fashion companie...
A. 8 January 2013: I think you should take a break from the relationship with the longterm boyfriend. Despite the length of the relationship, it's obviously on shaky ground if you are interacting this way with someone else. I'd say it's a sign you want to be out of ... (read in full...)
Is my friend a jerk for making this disrespectful comment about his African American lover?
Q. This older guy who I am friends with, told me that if he ever got married in the future, he would never tell his wife that he had a sexual relationship with an African American woman because, she would look down on him and so would the entire ...
A. 8 January 2013: Oh, and if he continues to pressure her for a continued "friendship" then he IS a jerk. ... (read in full...)
Is my friend a jerk for making this disrespectful comment about his African American lover?
Q. This older guy who I am friends with, told me that if he ever got married in the future, he would never tell his wife that he had a sexual relationship with an African American woman because, she would look down on him and so would the entire ...
A. 8 January 2013: I'd say your friend did the right thing for herself. I hope you're not considering engaging in a sexual relationship with this college professor too, if you expect more than 'friendship' from him.
Why are you putting yourself in the middle of some... (read in full...)
Worried I cant get pregnant when I'm older, help?
Q. Had unprotected sex on 4 different occasions since I lost my virginity, I was really worried I'd get pregnant but I've just got my period like normal... Now I'm really worried that one day when I want kids I won't be able to have them?? Is there so...
A. 8 January 2013: No one here can diagnose you or suggest if you are infertile or not. Don't take silly chances. This means, don't have unprotected sex if you don't wish to become pregnant and don't ask non-medical strangers on the internet whether or not you have a ... (read in full...)
What is the key to happiness? Is it a sum of everything, or something specific (such as love)?
Q. They say you "can't find a home in the arms of a man", I suppose meaning that a man can't provide you happiness or be 'the big thing' of your life. I just wonder, what is the key to happiness if it isn't love (as in a relationship)? I...
A. 7 January 2013: http://www.actionforhappiness.org/10-keys-to-happier-living
This website has some concrete ways for people to pursue happiness. Have a look and let us know what you think.... (read in full...)
What is the key to happiness? Is it a sum of everything, or something specific (such as love)?
Q. They say you "can't find a home in the arms of a man", I suppose meaning that a man can't provide you happiness or be 'the big thing' of your life. I just wonder, what is the key to happiness if it isn't love (as in a relationship)? I...
A. 7 January 2013: The key to being happy is to be thankful for all your blessings. Reflect on the saying, "this too shall pass." Good times and bad times come and go. Your consciousness is a gift. Be present in the moment. ... (read in full...)
Lack of experience and concern about my size is holding me back from forming relationships.
Q. I am a virgin and I am interested in sex and relationships but I am afraid because I am in experienced and i have a small penis. The internet forums I have been on I have seen women talk about not being able to stay with otherwise great guys who...
A. 7 January 2013: There are literally millions of men on the planet with a penis your size. They are enjoying sex and intimacy with women or men, depending on their sexual orientation. They are not allowing negative thoughts to derail their lives.
You have a heal... (read in full...)
If we are to be together he expects me to make sacrifices for him
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in the middle of a dilemma. My ex-boyfriend and I have maintained contact on and off for three years. He now lives just a state over from me, which brings us a little closer and has asked (since relocating) if I'd come to visit hi...
A. 6 January 2013: Why did he leave after moving to be with you? You said you broke up due to the distance, but if he moved, then the distance wasn't the issue?
If he was willing to move for you, why is it that you don't feel comfortable making the move for him?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 4 January 2013: Frankly, I think you should end the relationship. He's controlling, demanding and demeans you. Being forced to apologize over and over again for something that happened once, between you and another consenting adult, is frankly ridiculous.
H... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is upset about what I did in a past relationship....
Q. My bf is upset about what I did in a past relationship I am with my current bf for about a year and a half now, going on two years. We met in college and have a great relationship. My bf and I recently went back home to my family for the T...
A. 4 January 2013: You say in your original post that you have a 'great relationship.' But now it sounds as though you don't trust him or his motivations. Do you two lack clear communication skills? Do you not trust him when he tells you something?
... (read in full...)
My best friend knows I'm gay, doesn't like gays but likes me. He's my crush!
Q. I am in love with my straight friend He is an older married man that I have worked with for 13 years and we have become best friends, I am in my late 30s and he is about 20 years older than me but from how great of a guy he is and the fact that he...
A. 21 December 2012: Okay, I'm working to understand this. You've just told your best friend, someone you've known for 13 years that you are gay? And it sounds as though this was a surprise to him? If you were such great friends and so close, wouldn't he know that ... (read in full...)
Taking a break, help?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Due to some things that have happened in 2012 (stress, people like our parents interfering, jobs, deaths in my family, and life in general), he has decided that we are going to take a break, ...
A. 21 December 2012: Your age shows as 13-15, is that correct? It matters a bit, if you were 30-35 and posted this question, I'd have a different answer.
Sorry to hear about your losses. It happens at any age, no one is immune, as you know.
I would suggest that you... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to get married anymore and he says he meant his proposal "at the time"
Q. I will try and keep this brief...... My boyfriend ask me to marry him over a year ago, however whenever i try to talk about the wedding he says that he doesn't want to get married and he meant the proposal " at the time"!! He has met all my...
A. 21 December 2012: I think So Very Confused has it right. You do not have a wedding planned AND he says he doesn't want to get married. He says he meant the proposal at the time? That means he does not honor his proposal. You are not officially engaged.
If you want... (read in full...)
How do you raise your self-esteem as a teenager?
Q. I'm not necessarily a young teenager, but I'm 19. I've always had low self esteem and confidence, which I've always been content with because I guess that's just a part of my life and who I am. But I kind of wish I knew the building blocks ...
A. 21 December 2012: Do you wake up early or late? When you wake up, does your mind start racing thinking of all the things you dread today? Do you lie there and pull the sheets back over your bed?
Or do you spring out of bed with fun thoughts about all the great thin... (read in full...)
Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models?
Q. Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models? I feel like I'm helpless, my ex made me feel like this. We were on about glamour modelling, he said something like do you think you could be one, ...
A. 20 December 2012: I'll give you REAL women with REAL disabilities and amazing presence: http://therawbeautyproject.com/index.html
Here's a woman with a wonderful take on life: http://melissabxoxo.blogspot.com/2012/12/disability-dish-how-one-project-helped.html... (read in full...)
I'm an uncircumcised virgin. My penis swells after masturbation and it has me a little concerned.
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A. 20 December 2012: You could run your symptoms through the symptom checker at webmd.com. This is a medical question and should be answered by a qualified practitioner.... (read in full...)
I need help I don't know what to do
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A. 20 December 2012: Are you being treated for your depression?
How old is he? How old are you?
Do your parents know about your boyfriend?
Why do you think you are going out him when the circumstances surrounding the whole relationship seem to suggest it's not ver... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is upset about what I did in a past relationship....
Q. My bf is upset about what I did in a past relationship I am with my current bf for about a year and a half now, going on two years. We met in college and have a great relationship. My bf and I recently went back home to my family for the T...
A. 20 December 2012: Hi, you added me on your friend list, so is that a message that you want me to comment on this question?
A couple of observations. A lot of things just seem to "happen." You happen to hang out with your friends and the subject of previous exot... (read in full...)
A boy is going to ask me out on a date, but my parents don't want me to date till I'm 16. Should I lie to them?
Q. So I am 14 and will be 15 in about 2 months, anyways there is this guy I really like and he is going to ask me out on Friday (my friends ruined the suprise) I am really happy about this but the thing is I would have to hide the relationship from my ...
A. 20 December 2012: How old is he? And how well do you know his parents?
You're like, a little over a year from being able to date without hiding anything.
I would go out on a limb and suggest that you tell your mom and dad, when this guy asks you out on a date, "M... (read in full...)
Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models?
Q. Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models? I feel like I'm helpless, my ex made me feel like this. We were on about glamour modelling, he said something like do you think you could be one, ...
A. 19 December 2012: Why are you still giving credence or weight to what your ex said? He said he was a realist, why can't you label him as being a jerk?
You're feeding your own negative image of yourself. Why?... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend only sees me when he has nothing better to do!
Q. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. The problem is it seems like he only sees me when he has nothing better to do. I cannot get him to agree to do anything at the weekends because he wants to wait to see what else is happening, plus ...
A. 19 December 2012: If that other question is you, then your relationship is probably over. I'd start thinking about how to end it cleanly and line up all your supporters, your friends and family, to get over the split. It sounds like you spend such a small amount of ... (read in full...)
Her parents are staying with us over Christmas, but I've found she is having sexual conversations with strangers on the internet! Should I confront her now, or wait until her parents have gone? I'm really disgusted and thinking about leaving...
Q. My girlfriends parents are due from overseas to visit and stay over christmas. It will be the third time I have met them and we get on great. I have now discovered my girlfriend is having relationships and sexual conversations with strangers over ...
A. 19 December 2012: Deal with it now. They're not there yet, and perhaps she could go to them for Christmas and save them a trip. Presumably they are in their 60s or even 70s?
You know what you know and it's silly to pretend you don't.
Think about your options ... (read in full...)
Will my friends ever accept us as a couple and stop the snide remarks?
Q. Just over a year ago I was in an 'open' relationship with my now ex-girlfriend. We both saw whoever we wanted to no questions asked. It worked for about 2 years Last December I started seeing a girl who was a friend of both of ours and our group of...
A. 19 December 2012: Have you said those words to them?
"I felt you were my friend and supported my choices in life. I have no desire to be in an open relationship any more and have committed to this woman. We are going to be parents soon and I would like to have your... (read in full...)
Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models?
Q. Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models? I feel like I'm helpless, my ex made me feel like this. We were on about glamour modelling, he said something like do you think you could be one, ...
A. 19 December 2012: I'm a lot older than most glamour models and porn stars. I don't give a thought to what they look like. They are irrelevant to my life and my sense of self worth.
You feel small because you are allowing some odd standard of self-worth to dete... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is 50% happy with me but I don't satisfy him sexually like his ex did. Should I have a threesome with them to make him happy?
Q. I purposed an idea to my boyfriend a couple of days ago. The idea having a threesome with him and his ex. Sounds bizarre, good thing I slept on it and really thought about how it will impact the relationship and everyone involved lives. Question ...
A. 19 December 2012: I'd just break up with him. Why be with a man who isn't 100% in love with you?
The rest is just mental gymnastics on how to manage his level of unhappiness by sacrificing your principles. It will also add a whole new area of worry.
End it.
A y... (read in full...)
Ex was peeing while talking to me?
Q. Ex bf of many years talking to on the phone often. he has now married. the other night i was talking to hime on the phone and he was taking a leak while he was talking to me. Is this a way some married guys get off?? or does he just feel comfortable ...
A. 18 December 2012: I object to being on the phone with someone while they urinate or defecate. It's kind of a personal waste expulsion time, don't you think? I think it shows his level of class. Extremely LOW. Why are you still talking to him? Do you like low class ... (read in full...)
First date and he wants to kiss me. Not sure how I feel about it?
Q. am 17 and on saturday am going to my first ever date this guy is older than me his 22 and we going to the cinema. he wants to kiss me and I have never kissed a guy before (any advice will be appreciated) I dont know what to do especially with ...
A. 15 December 2012: Does he know this is your first date and your first kiss? I hope so.
If not, be sure to tell him and don't worry too much about the mechanics.
Kissing is lovely.
For your first kiss, tell him you don't want tongues.
Just close your eyes and ve... (read in full...)
LDR but I want to have sex! What do I do?
Q. I have a boyfriend,i truly love him and he luvs me too,we are both virgins and we're planing to spend our life together...the problem is that we are in a long distant relation,recently i started feeling very horny,cant keep ma mind off sex,i really ...
A. 15 December 2012: Go meet him or have him come visit you? If you're planning to spend your life with him then seeing him in person probably is your top priority.
If there's no possibility of you ever meeting him in person for years then maybe you might reco... (read in full...)
Could his actions be saying he is into me?
Q. Is he into me? This man in general does come across as a grumpy so and so but he is lovely! He usually throws things at me, i sit two desks in front of him. Or he purposely trys to scare me, problem being i will smack his arm when he does so. ...
A. 15 December 2012: It adds up to all of you sounding like a classroom of elementary school students.
Throwing things, giggling, hiding behind things and making eyes at one another sounds like you've all got some growing up to do.
... (read in full...)
What will I do if he ends up in Jail? What I should do right now given the situation?
Q. To start off with, I'm a nineteen year old girl dating a nineteen year old male. We've been dating a little more than ten months now. There has never really been a fight between the two of us either, we get along quite well. Anyways, like all rela...
A. 13 December 2012: This guy isn't taking responsibility for his actions and is blaming other people. When you get that sort of response, tied with criminal charges and frankly stupid behavior, it's a pretty good sign the guy is a loser.
Honestly, you've been dati... (read in full...)
Best Friends that have turned into something else, without willingness to commit..
Q. Sorry this is somewhat lengthy, but I am in desperate need of good advice so I want you to know as much as possible. Thanks in advance!! My best friend and I have been basically dating for 7 months. As in we had sex regularly, went on dates, h...
A. 12 December 2012: Honestly, she sounds like a drama queen and is missing her posse. You have put far more meaning into this than she has and no amount of attempted emotional blackmail on your part is going to suddenly make her mature.
She wakes up in the morning and ... (read in full...)
Best Friends that have turned into something else, without willingness to commit..
Q. Sorry this is somewhat lengthy, but I am in desperate need of good advice so I want you to know as much as possible. Thanks in advance!! My best friend and I have been basically dating for 7 months. As in we had sex regularly, went on dates, h...
A. 12 December 2012: So the relationship is less than a year old and you've had a pregnancy and abortion to deal with.
Interesting choice of words. One man might say, "I got her pregnant." You said, "recently being unintentionally impregnated(by me)." What, did you not ... (read in full...)
Best Friends that have turned into something else, without willingness to commit..
Q. Sorry this is somewhat lengthy, but I am in desperate need of good advice so I want you to know as much as possible. Thanks in advance!! My best friend and I have been basically dating for 7 months. As in we had sex regularly, went on dates, h...
A. 12 December 2012: How long have you been best friends, by the way?... (read in full...)
Is there a disease that gets worse when you have sex?
Q. Is there such a disease that gets worse when you have sex and therefore the doctor will be able to tell whether you're having sex or not?...
A. 12 December 2012: Are you worried about a disease or being found out that you are sexually active? A principled doctor will not reveal anything about your medical situation to anyone, unless you are underage? Or have some sort of health issue that would require ... (read in full...)
Best Friends that have turned into something else, without willingness to commit..
Q. Sorry this is somewhat lengthy, but I am in desperate need of good advice so I want you to know as much as possible. Thanks in advance!! My best friend and I have been basically dating for 7 months. As in we had sex regularly, went on dates, h...
A. 12 December 2012: To "comfort one another?" Are you in some sort of sad situation?... (read in full...)
Best Friends that have turned into something else, without willingness to commit..
Q. Sorry this is somewhat lengthy, but I am in desperate need of good advice so I want you to know as much as possible. Thanks in advance!! My best friend and I have been basically dating for 7 months. As in we had sex regularly, went on dates, h...
A. 12 December 2012: You told her you would always be there no matter what. So you've basically trained her that you will be there as a 'friend'... She's trained you too... are you aware of how?
You're holding out hope that she will wake up and realize she and you shou... (read in full...)
My bf wants pics of me should I send them?
Q. Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind...
A. 11 December 2012: If he's your age his parents have every right to go through his phone, especially if they are paying for it. ... (read in full...)
How can I get closure with husband weeping around about lost young lover?
Q. How to get closure when husband's young EA lover keeps him hanging on? I recently found out my husband, 58, of 30 years, had been having an emotional affair for the last 18 months with a young female friend, 28, who already has a live in boyfrien...
A. 11 December 2012: Oh brother. Escort him to the door, go find a great lawyer and get on with the next chapter of your life ASAP.
YOU make your closure. I expect the lawyer will have some very pertinent advice for you. Go make that call, today.... (read in full...)
He says he's using porn to remind himself of me
Q. My ex boyfriend and i fell out over his porn use. He claimed he looked at women who look like me to recreate the joy he had from the night before, he was a virgin and claimed it left him buzzing. However he didn't say he often used to it to think ...
A. 11 December 2012: Why are you trying to figure out what he's thinking? You dumped him. This is all a big waste of time, to decipher his motives. I get the sense that no matter what he said, you've lost trust in him, so why spend so much time analyzing exactly how ... (read in full...)
My bf wants pics of me should I send them?
Q. Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind...
A. 11 December 2012: Don't even take the pictures. It's a disaster waiting to happen. Sorry you are feeling nagged but it's really good to know you are reading the answers and taking the time to respond to the aunts here.
This is one thing you'll be able to look back... (read in full...)
Best Friends that have turned into something else, without willingness to commit..
Q. Sorry this is somewhat lengthy, but I am in desperate need of good advice so I want you to know as much as possible. Thanks in advance!! My best friend and I have been basically dating for 7 months. As in we had sex regularly, went on dates, h...
A. 11 December 2012: If she wanted to be your girlfriend, she'd be your girlfriend. Her mistake was entering into a sexual relationship with you which gave you the idea that you would be something more than friends.
She wants to keep her dating options open. You want... (read in full...)
My bf wants pics of me should I send them?
Q. Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind...
A. 10 December 2012: Yes, technically, is IS bad if you show him and not send them. Save yourself a LOT of heartbreak and don't even go there. All he needs is 2 minutes alone with your phone and your images are out there in digital sharing land and will never be erased ... (read in full...)
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