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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Need advice on being a wife of a minister
Q. I know this is going to sound like a stupid question but I married a minister and hes not real into his ministry as of yet. Its not as settled as he would like but I need help. Ive always hated secrets and hate that he has to keep things from me ...
A. 25 February 2013: You learned more about him as you dated him, presumably? I mean, if he suddenly decided to become a minister without warning after he married you, well, then, you have something to consider.
I think maybe you aren't suited to be a minister's wife... (read in full...)
Need advice on being a wife of a minister
Q. I know this is going to sound like a stupid question but I married a minister and hes not real into his ministry as of yet. Its not as settled as he would like but I need help. Ive always hated secrets and hate that he has to keep things from me ...
A. 24 February 2013: It's like marrying a doctor or a therapist. You don't have the other people's permission to know their secrets, so he has the obligation to protect their privacy.
Would you like your doctor to tell his wife everything secret about you?
They ... (read in full...)
My LDR wants sexy pictures from me. But I have put on weight. I've tried sending him fake pictures.What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time now. He is in the marines in one state, while I am in another state. We've hung out a lot before he left, and I was pretty thin then. I have Gained some weight since ive last seen him. He asks...
A. 23 February 2013: You don't trust him to stick around if you have put on a few pounds? Sorry to hear you are feeling insecure but you're just piling on more complications than you need to by faking things.
I wouldn't send 'sexy' pictures to anyone you don't trus... (read in full...)
How should I handle this? My beloved bisexual Gf proposed that we have a threesome
Q. My beloved bisexual girlfriend proposed a threesome with a girl (or hooker) of our choice, and i told her that i used to have a wild side in the past, but not anymore, and she keeps mentioning that she wishes she met me back then, which makes it ...
A. 23 February 2013: An attraction to other men might manifest in a heterosexual woman over the the upcoming years. Being bisexual doesn't mean you have a license to cheat. It just means you are attracted to people of either gender.
If she feels a part of her sexu... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 21 February 2013: That's not a love quote. That's a "you blew it, jerk" quote. She's done with you.... (read in full...)
Agony Aunts/Uncles need to open their hearts and minds rather than judging
Q. I wrote in yesterday and got a lot of very negative and hurtful comments from so-called agony aunts on here who seemed to think they know all about my relationship when they have never met me or my girlfriend. I wrote back to defend myself but ...
A. 16 February 2013: Are you the poster whose exgirlfriend said she would contact police if you tried to contact her again?... (read in full...)
Is this online relationship over?
Q. i have an unusal situation. i met a girl online. i know many people feel on-line relationships are insane. her best friend told me "your insane, get a real girl you can see face to face, she has a man." i showed this to my on-line friend and she u...
A. 15 February 2013: Oh sorry, I just re-read your question. You wrote that you've been 'coming onto her' for the past 15 months. So she's not a 'friend,' she's an online crush.
Crushes need fuel to turn into full on relationships. Generally speaking, that means that... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 15 February 2013: I would say that your one last test shattered her trust in you. It's not really that funny to play games like that.
Your intentions don't coincide with the consequences of your actions. Your actions showed lack of consideration and care for her,... (read in full...)
My paranoia and insecurities are pushing my boyfriend away....
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, and we love each other so much, but i'm scared i will lose him, recently we've been arguing so much and it's mainly because of me and my insecurities, i always get paranoid about him looking at my ...
A. 15 February 2013: Can you explain why your friends dislike your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 15 February 2013: There aren't mixed signals here, except for your searching for small scraps of hope.
Do you have any issues with OCD at all?
Write her a note of apology but I would say you should prepare yourself to create your own closure.
What you think of as ... (read in full...)
I want to have anal sex but when the time really comes I chicken out!
Q. I keep wanting to have anal sex. Like me and my boyfriend are really up for it we both feel ready and trust each other enough. But when it actually comes down to it i stop him and tell him i'm too worried to carry on, i'm guessing this kind of ...
A. 15 February 2013: Maybe you're having dreams about it because it's on your mind. Just fantasize about it and stop trying to force the issue. You can role play it and that may help it.
If you are asking for how to get an unwilling anus to be open to receptive anal... (read in full...)
Is this online relationship over?
Q. i have an unusal situation. i met a girl online. i know many people feel on-line relationships are insane. her best friend told me "your insane, get a real girl you can see face to face, she has a man." i showed this to my on-line friend and she u...
A. 15 February 2013: You met a girl on line. What did you expect from the online friendship?
Some people are 'polite' and tell you that the relationship is over, and others just cut contact. Sounds like she's in the latter group.
Is there a reason you are so attached... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't satisfy me sexually and I feel insecure about him looking at female celebs.....
Q. Hope you chaps can help me, i got into my relationship 9 months ago and i am deeply in love with my boyfriend, we have sex fairly regularly, but when we do he nearly always stops everything as soon as he has jizzed, like that's it he just tells me ...
A. 15 February 2013: Is this you? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-paranoia-and-insecurities-are-pushing-my-boyfriend34.html
Does he have any personal issues we need to understand, as in, is he socially awkward or anxious in any way?
I'm sorry, my first thought ... (read in full...)
My paranoia and insecurities are pushing my boyfriend away....
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, and we love each other so much, but i'm scared i will lose him, recently we've been arguing so much and it's mainly because of me and my insecurities, i always get paranoid about him looking at my ...
A. 15 February 2013: Oh, and do you smoke pot or indulge in other drugs?... (read in full...)
My paranoia and insecurities are pushing my boyfriend away....
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, and we love each other so much, but i'm scared i will lose him, recently we've been arguing so much and it's mainly because of me and my insecurities, i always get paranoid about him looking at my ...
A. 15 February 2013: Have you always been insecure, or is this a new development?
How do you know your boyfriend's new best friend dislikes you?
Why is he friends with a guy who dislikes his girlfriend?
Are you physically healthy and active? Do you eat healthy food... (read in full...)
Married man at work bought me dozen roses after I told him I only liked him as friend!
Q. I've been workin at a place for about 4 years and in the past two years had a flirty relationship with a married man, nothing serious as he obviously loves his wife, but at the Xmas do he tried to make a pass at me I told him I wasn't interested in ...
A. 15 February 2013: Be clear with him.
Throw the flowers and card away.
Do NOT thank him for the flowers. Tell him that the flowers and card were completely unwelcome and inappropriate, that you have disposed of them and that you wish to have no relationship with him... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 15 February 2013: Just move on. You're overanalyzing things. She's not with you, you can't force thoughts into her head, stalking is creepy.
Move on.
Date when you are ready. If you don't think you are ready, don't date. There is no mathematical formula that you... (read in full...)
Is this online relationship over?
Q. i have an unusal situation. i met a girl online. i know many people feel on-line relationships are insane. her best friend told me "your insane, get a real girl you can see face to face, she has a man." i showed this to my on-line friend and she u...
A. 15 February 2013: Fourteen months of online chitchatting is.... 14 months of online chitchatting. It is not a promise to be your friend for life, it does not signify more than someone was willing to chitchat for a little over year, online.
Your expectations are skew... (read in full...)
Marrying my gay best friend and need some advice.
Q. I have a gay best friend and he and I have been best friends for 15 years. I am 30 and he is 33. We love each other in every possible way but sexually. He is my soul-mate and all I have ever wanted in a man. He treats me better than anyone ever has ...
A. 15 February 2013: You're selling both of yourselves short and settling for less that you deserve. It sounds to me that you feel more for him than he does for you. He is, after all, gay, and not interested in you sexually. He is a good friend, granted but that's not ... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 15 February 2013: Leaving chocolates at her door is not going to magically fix the problems your relationship has encountered.
Dramatic romantic expressions on Valentine's Day are welcome from loved ones. You don't sound like you are in her good graces and I thin... (read in full...)
How can I get her to open her heart? Its been 6 weeks since I saw her
Q. My girlfriend is giving me the cold shoulder and I've done nothing wrong. It's Valentine's Day and we should be kissing and cuddling together not being apart. I don't know how to get her to speak to me. Last time I saw her, her mum screamed at ...
A. 15 February 2013: Do you not understand that she intends to contact police if you continue to harass her? Because that is what you are doing. You are stalking and harassing her. She has said goodbye to you and as clearly as anyone could hear: "leave me alone." ... (read in full...)
My much older boyfriend gets frustrated when I ask him why he's with me
Q. My boyfriend is a lot older (he's 46 I'm 24) and I asked why he was with me. His first response was "I don't know the answer to that" later he said "because I like you". I want to know why he's with me but he just gets frustrated when I ask. I am ...
A. 14 February 2013: So he's honest and tells you when he's looking for local escorts? Really?
What you've written about him for me would be ... dump the guy. And try to figure out why you feel so insecure. But only after he's been dumped.... (read in full...)
How important is a mans height in society
Q. I have an acquaintance who is a few centimeters from being 6 feet tall and he believes he is short and worthless because of it. He brought up a lot of articles and facts about how being short is the worst thing a guy can be and that being 6 feet ...
A. 13 February 2013: If he thinks he is worthless because of his height, he has some issues that you are not going to be able to solve for him.
He is suffering from irrational thinking and low self-esteem.
It sounds as though you are too.
I have some good friends who ... (read in full...)
Why does my male friend treat me differently from his other friends?
Q. Hi everyone. Can you help me figure out why this guy seems to treat me differently from our other friends. We hang out in a group of friends. I see him checking me out all the time from across the room or looking at my butt etc. He smile...
A. 13 February 2013: He's either very shy or married. How old is he?... (read in full...)
Mooching Friends.. getting tired of it
Q. I need a bit of advice. I have these two friends (who are very close, roommates with eachother, etc). I enjoy spending time with them as they are very fun, artsy, funny but I feel like they really take advantage of people.. especially me. They don't ...
A. 13 February 2013: They guilt trip you because you allow them to.
Stop volunteering your car and your wallet.
Become very busy elsewhere. Turn off your phone and the facebook notifications as well.
"Oh you are the sweetest girl ever, I am DEVASTATED beyond belie... (read in full...)
Am I sending out the wrong signals in regards to dating?
Q. I'm a college student and hardly have any time to date. However, I'm getting to an age where all my friends are meeting great guys out of the blue and getting into serious relationships. So, needless to say, it gets frustrating and lonely not having ...
A. 13 February 2013: Why do you think you have time to be in a relationship if you "hardly have any time to date"?
Your friends have their own timelines, why do you feel that you need to apply someone else's timing to your own, especially as you start off by saying you ... (read in full...)
I found out accidentally that my friend is transgender. How can I help her?
Q. This is more of a question on friendships rather than relationships, but I didn't know where else to go to for advice. Basically tonight I done something I shouldn't have, I went on to my friends email account- totally innocently to resend an email...
A. 13 February 2013: "Hi [friend's name] I have inadvertently seen a private communication between you and the head of our year in University. I guess the previous access you allowed me before has somehow set it up so I could see some private communication that you ... (read in full...)
Desperate - wife found a pic and says she is leaving
Q. My wife and I have had a very close relationship - and we have both been known to get a little freaky regarding sex. We both use porn (me more than her), but she has never had any issues w/it at all. I recently created a "locked" folder on my pho...
A. 12 February 2013: Are you planning to do something stupid like hide a photo again? If you are really in an open and sharing relationship this would have been a non-issue. What it sounds like is a power struggle, as SVC pointed out. Who's in the right, that appears to ... (read in full...)
What is her intent? is she just comfotable with me? Or is she interested?
Q. I am very interested in this woman in one of my college courses. We seem to be very comfortable with each other, because we walk and talk with each other every night after class. Here is the problem, it came up in one of our email conversa...
A. 8 February 2013: You are 30-35? How old is she?
I'd say that what you've described is a girl who is engaging in some mild flirting but I don't see this as her clearly signaling she is going to leave her boyfriend for you.
I would not put too much energy into thi... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to tactile men but how can I stop them being too tactile, too soon?
Q. I would like to ask this to both male and females out there. I've just recently been on a date with a guy I met online. I'm a single mum and my job is 99% female so I find it difficult to meet men the normal way eg through work ,bars etc .I always s...
A. 8 February 2013: You want a tactile and passionate man, just not on the first date. I'd make that clear enough. This will weed out any guys who are looking for a more casual relationship.
I don't know what your communications are before the date but I would make... (read in full...)
Wisdom teeth problem
Q. more of a health issue than relationship, but advice is appreciated, aunts this is so not a relationship question but it's bothering me , I was fine till recently I realized my wisdom teeth was coming out I thought I didn't even have them, I went to ...
A. 8 February 2013: http://www.webmd.com/oral-health/guide/wisdom-teeth
Two of mine were impacted and so had to be removed. The others would not fit into my jaw in a way that made the other teeth remain aligned.
I was about your age and went to a dental school a... (read in full...)
Desperate - wife found a pic and says she is leaving
Q. My wife and I have had a very close relationship - and we have both been known to get a little freaky regarding sex. We both use porn (me more than her), but she has never had any issues w/it at all. I recently created a "locked" folder on my pho...
A. 6 February 2013: There's more to this for her. She's unhappy and it's not because of one picture in a phone.
If you truly want to find a solution to this, go to a counselor who may be able to help you find the reason.
I think you are not able at this time to ... (read in full...)
Desperate - wife found a pic and says she is leaving
Q. My wife and I have had a very close relationship - and we have both been known to get a little freaky regarding sex. We both use porn (me more than her), but she has never had any issues w/it at all. I recently created a "locked" folder on my pho...
A. 5 February 2013: She's not 'done with you' because of one picture in your phone. There's more to this than you're admitting to yourself. You may think you are giving 100% of the story to us but you are blocking/hiding/forgetting/can't deal with the lead in to the ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to get a house, but she won't help pay!
Q. I have questoin my wife want to get a house and ther is only one income i take care of all the bills as it IS. I tell her she need to helppáy for a house but she dont wont to help ...
A. 2 February 2013: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/married-four-years-and-she-does-not-want.html
Maybe it's time to end the marriage?
Is there some problem with telling her that you cannot buy a house? Do you find it difficult to communicate with her?
There are... (read in full...)
No marriage, no will, no life insurance and thinking of the future. Should I stick around?
Q. Last night I expressed my feelings, to my boyfriend of 5 years, about what would happen to me if he died. He is much older than me and we are not married. I was thinking about this because I had pneumonia and he had the flu and both were really ...
A. 2 February 2013: I'd leave him now. He's not your long term boyfriend. Time to find a new place to live and get out with your dignity and your bank account intact.
Sorry he's proven himself to be a poor choice but there you are. You can move on and you SHOULD move... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm going to lose my friends at home because they think my priorities are not straight.
Q. I'm in quite a predicament. I'm a student and I don't have a lot of money to spend. I live away from home and I don't have many friends in the city besides from college friends. I go out with these college friends once and sometimes twice a week for ...
A. 1 February 2013: She doesn't sound like much of a friend, to be honest. If she can't respect your financial limitations and expects you to be available whenever she decides?
Why can't you set your own schedule with her? Choose the things you want to do that you can ... (read in full...)
Did I over-react? I thought we had a connection. Maybe not? I feel he's messing with my mind!
Q. Hello I just wanted some views on my situation. I met a guy on holiday and we kept in touch. I went back to visit him and we spent lots of time together. I met his family and his friends again. When we were apart we always have arguments ov...
A. 30 January 2013: I'm sorry, but this guy expecting you to move to his country... red flag. Especially after you point out he was crap at keeping in touch? And he would argue with you and thought you were different in person?
You have to draw healthy boundaries. No o... (read in full...)
What can I do to make it easier for us both to adjust to living together? He struggles with dealing with my 3 year old daughter and I think I'm pregnant again.
Q. Hi everyone i recently moved in with my boyfriend and I am finding it extremely hard work. He is very argumentative. The least little thing i do sets him off. He is always having a go at me i feel like im walking on eggshells all of the time. W...
A. 30 January 2013: What you've just written sounds like the start of an abusive relationship to me. "Walking on eggshells" "what can I do to make it easier"
A pregnancy test will tell you if you are pregnant. Have you taken one?
You should rethink the entire c... (read in full...)
Did I over-react? I thought we had a connection. Maybe not? I feel he's messing with my mind!
Q. Hello I just wanted some views on my situation. I met a guy on holiday and we kept in touch. I went back to visit him and we spent lots of time together. I met his family and his friends again. When we were apart we always have arguments ov...
A. 30 January 2013: You're in your early 30s living in the US? Sounds like you are choosing men who aren't really available and are a challenge. Maybe you like a challenge, and the distance, on some level, as it keeps you from being in an actual viable relationship.
Y... (read in full...)
Her need to pee is really getting in the way of our sex life
Q. my girlfriend stops me in the middle of sex frequently and says she is afraid she needs to pee. i hate to say it, but it's beginning to ruin the mood, as it's hard to get into it when she's stopping all the time. now don't get me wrong, i underta...
A. 29 January 2013: Could she have a bladder infection? Get her doctor to confirm she's normal anatomically and then follow So Very Confused's advice. Or try sex in the shower.... (read in full...)
My ex is threatening me by saying that unless I get back with him, he will assassinate my character and ruin me!
Q. i am from India..i am in a major trouble. i broke up with my boyfriend because he was so manipulative and controlling. he made my life like hell.In the initial days of our relationship i gave him my gmail and facebook password.Not even in my dr...
A. 29 January 2013: You are feeling powerless, so change that. Trick him into writing the blackmail, document, document, document. Pretend you are considering getting back with him so he reveals his intentions in writing.
Destroy his credibility with your friends by s... (read in full...)
Trying to make my marriage blossom, but I can't last 5 minutes without thinking about my lover
Q. Married for 23yrs I met the love of my life who has been married 24yrs. We had an undeniable connection, and made love 24hrs after meeting. His first time and my first, since our weddings. We live in different states. I returned home and ...
A. 29 January 2013: Did you seek some counseling? You sound very dramatic without much context.
No one call tell you how long your feelings will last.
If it is this upsetting, and important to your future well-being, call in some experts.
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