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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Can these online friends ever forgive me for making out I was someone else? I had good intentions but got out of my depth.
Q. well how do i start this. well im a girl and in this one chat room thing my friend(dont know her in real life) i had pretended i'm a boy and her friends and her think im a boy.(i decided to play a male role just because i wanted to see how it was ...
A. 19 September 2012: There are secrets you keep because there's something so private that you just don't want to share.
Then there are secrets you keep because you've done something foolish or dangerous or mean.
Part of growing up is developing good judgment. Trust me... (read in full...)
He won't officially end it if that's what he wants? What to do? I feel stuck!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. My Bf of 18 months moved recently ( not too far away) and he has been seeing me less and less. We had an argument and he left for two weeks, then came back breifly and I had it out with him then when I called him the next ...
A. 18 September 2012: Ah, yes, no doubt he's doing a bit of easing his guilt by suggesting that you can continue being friends. If you must reply, I would suggest you simply say, "I'll let you know when I'm ready to be friends. For now, don't contact me at all, I'll call ... (read in full...)
I helped pay for 2 friend's lunches and they haven't paid me back. Are they mooches or an I gullible?
Q. I feel pretty dumb but hear me out. This classmate of mine and I were out to lunch on campus. She forgot her wallet so I insisted on buying her coffee and a soup from the salad bar. It wasn't that expensive but that's not the point. She seemed ...
A. 18 September 2012: I would simply stop trying to save people from themselves. Learn the art of silence. You can listen with compassion but it doesn't mean you need to open up your wallet to people who are perfectly capable of taking care of their own meal needs.
S... (read in full...)
Why am I still single?
Q. I really need some help on this one. This torments me to no end and I can’t for the life of me figure this out. For some reason I get no interest from women. I’m 26 and I’ve still yet to have a romantic relationship. Women are either content ...
A. 18 September 2012: Confidence comes from past success. You can't have success until you experience failure. I think you are avoiding experiencing failure.
You keep saying "attract a woman." Do you actually ask them out on a date? Or do you chat with them hoping that... (read in full...)
Can these online friends ever forgive me for making out I was someone else? I had good intentions but got out of my depth.
Q. well how do i start this. well im a girl and in this one chat room thing my friend(dont know her in real life) i had pretended i'm a boy and her friends and her think im a boy.(i decided to play a male role just because i wanted to see how it was ...
A. 17 September 2012: So why do you think your mother would overreact? Would it be because you are online chatting with strangers?
Did you ever hear about the girl who was misled by a fake account set up by the mother of one of her 'friends'? This may have happened befo... (read in full...)
I am moving in with my female friend who I have deep feelings for. What can I expect to happen in this arrangement?
Q. Hey guys, I just got invited to move in with a good female friend of mine of 4 years (Which I have accepted). The thing is that I have had deep feelings for her a long time but she has said many times that nothing would ever happen between u...
A. 17 September 2012: I think it's a bad idea too. What if she starts dating someone and you get to watch all the lovey-dovey stuff new couples get up to? It would be very painful to watch, I think.
If you want to date her and she's said "no" in no uncertain terms, igno... (read in full...)
My husband is lazy and I no longer feel compatible. How do I get him to understand it's over?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years. We have three children (age 13, 11 and 10). Our 10 year-old is a special needs child with autism. Before my husband and I got married we talked about a future in which I would work and he would take ...
A. 17 September 2012: I'd echo what SVC suggested, about finding counseling. I'd also suggest that you think about him as having a medical condition, such as depression. Get him to the doctors, have him evaluated and see if there is therapy available to him to become ... (read in full...)
I already have trust issues. What do I do with this big lie of omission from my girlfriend?
Q. I am a middle aged man with trust issues. I have been dating a woman for over a year and the relationship has a lot of promise. When we started dating she told me that her last relationship ended "a couple of months ago" and "it was no big deal". ...
A. 17 September 2012: An awful aspect of this situation is that she's basically harassing this guy into losing his job. She's guilty of creating an environment of hostility based on lack of sexual/romantic access to this guy (doesn't matter who broke up with whom or ... (read in full...)
I helped pay for 2 friend's lunches and they haven't paid me back. Are they mooches or an I gullible?
Q. I feel pretty dumb but hear me out. This classmate of mine and I were out to lunch on campus. She forgot her wallet so I insisted on buying her coffee and a soup from the salad bar. It wasn't that expensive but that's not the point. She seemed ...
A. 17 September 2012: It sounds like you are a people-pleaser. "I insisted on buying her coffee and a soup from the salad bar" and "I felt bad and offered him cash." So you ARE comfortable talking about money, just not in a way that would make you the one needing it.
S... (read in full...)
Why am I still single?
Q. I really need some help on this one. This torments me to no end and I can’t for the life of me figure this out. For some reason I get no interest from women. I’m 26 and I’ve still yet to have a romantic relationship. Women are either content ...
A. 17 September 2012: You have to go after them. You don't wait for them to meet you halfway. Rent "Crazy, Stupid, Love" for some onscreen pointers for picking up women. The tutorial Ryan Gosling's character gives to Steve Carrell's character is hilarious. And in many ... (read in full...)
My husband has been having an affair for 12 of the 14 years we have been married. I don't know if I should end the marriage.
Q. I am married for 14 years and has two kids. My husband is cheating on me for 12 years with different women. I got the chance to talk to one of his other women would you believe we just talk and didnt had a fight! They broke up because I have all the ...
A. 17 September 2012: Your kids deserve a mother who is treated well and not like a clueless idiot, as your husband is treating you.
If you want absolute proof that he's cheating, hire a private investigator, have him followed and you can present that report to him when... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys a sexual act that causes me a lot of pain, I ask him not to but he threatens and does it anyway.
Q. I have a boyfriend who is really into a certain sexual act. I wont divulge too much because of the ages of some on this site. That being said, due to his size, this act is extremely painful and I don't like it. The problem is, he does like it, re...
A. 17 September 2012: You can't leave an abuser? Because that is precisely what he is.
Scream your head off the next time he tries it and maybe a concerned neighbor will call the police so he can deal with what should be the consequences of his actions.
A night in... (read in full...)
After breaking up I went to therapy and he decided he is willing to try again but not making any promises. Should I be hopeful about this?
Q. Ex boyfriend agreed to give it a try. Is there any hope? We are in our ealy 30s, both divorced once, dated seriously for 14 months. We broke up on Labor day. He said he loves and cares about me very much, but he's not in love with me. After b...
A. 17 September 2012: Sorry, just saw your followup, it didn't show that you had posted a new answer in my "followups" page.
I would say that you are over thinking things right now. You are worrying about things that may or may not happen. You are trying to live in the ... (read in full...)
Can these online friends ever forgive me for making out I was someone else? I had good intentions but got out of my depth.
Q. well how do i start this. well im a girl and in this one chat room thing my friend(dont know her in real life) i had pretended i'm a boy and her friends and her think im a boy.(i decided to play a male role just because i wanted to see how it was ...
A. 17 September 2012: Talk to your parents about your dilemma and they will help you through this, it sounds like you are a bright girl with a lot of imagination and I'm sure they want the best for you. Help them help you by being honest with them, okay?... (read in full...)
How can I tell my parents that when I finish university I want to take up the guitar professionally? They will have to pay $40,000 a year for me to do so.....
Q. Hi, this isn't a relationship question but I'd really like some outside opinions on this problem. I am currently attending university, studying criminology and going into my 3rd year. However back when I started 1st year I had started to play ...
A. 17 September 2012: Play guitar a LOT now. Practice using youtube videos, play with friends, go find coffee houses and places to play. You need to have a lot of playing time under your belt so that you can actually become good. There's an interesting book, ... (read in full...)
Can these online friends ever forgive me for making out I was someone else? I had good intentions but got out of my depth.
Q. well how do i start this. well im a girl and in this one chat room thing my friend(dont know her in real life) i had pretended i'm a boy and her friends and her think im a boy.(i decided to play a male role just because i wanted to see how it was ...
A. 17 September 2012: And if you read Aunty BimBim and Abella's advice, that's the best strategy to deal with it. Delete the account, spend time in real life and do not go back there for a while. You do leave footprints of all kinds when you go to sites and it's simply ... (read in full...)
Can these online friends ever forgive me for making out I was someone else? I had good intentions but got out of my depth.
Q. well how do i start this. well im a girl and in this one chat room thing my friend(dont know her in real life) i had pretended i'm a boy and her friends and her think im a boy.(i decided to play a male role just because i wanted to see how it was ...
A. 17 September 2012: So what did your parents advise on this?
My guess is that you've withheld the information about your online account and the whole drama surrounding your 'roleplaying.'... (read in full...)
How do you deal with your boyfriend having female friends when there are trust issues?
Q. How do you deal with your bf/fiance/husband having female friends or being friends w female co workers, when there have been trust issues in the past (although hes never physically cheated) i told him he needs to be honest and he doesnt want to ...
A. 17 September 2012: How do you deal with a guy who doesn't want boundaries but sets them for you? Is there any question here? You tell him to go away and be thankful you are free from a controlling man's nonsense.
... (read in full...)
Should I let my brother fail?
Q. Its so bad i dont even know where to start. My younger brother who s 12 years old (in 6th grade) is not serious about his school work. All he does is play (toys) with his friends the whole day, eat then go to bed knowing that tomorrow he has to ...
A. 17 September 2012: Since it sounds like you've talked to his teachers, I'd go talk to them all again, and let them know how much you are worried about your brother and how you'd like to help him. I'd talk to the school counselor about how worried you are about him. ... (read in full...)
Can these online friends ever forgive me for making out I was someone else? I had good intentions but got out of my depth.
Q. well how do i start this. well im a girl and in this one chat room thing my friend(dont know her in real life) i had pretended i'm a boy and her friends and her think im a boy.(i decided to play a male role just because i wanted to see how it was ...
A. 17 September 2012: You're trying to do things to make people happy or you are justifying why you don't want to have to leave.
You lied to a lot of people, you pretended you were something you were not. Some have forgiven you. Some will not.
It's time to move on and s... (read in full...)
My marriage is crumbling and I don't think my husband loves my daughter
Q. Currently, I have just survived cancer treatment. Going through chemo and radiation was torture but also made me appreciate life so much more and to not worry so much about problems because, life is more important. So, during my treatment, when I ...
A. 17 September 2012: If he hid his abusive controlling nature from you during your courtship, you are not obligated to go through life with him. Even more importantly, you should not expose your daughter to this type of control and abuse, no matter what your initial ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time with using Twitter as a way of communicating with my boyfriend.
Q. I'm have a hard time with using Twitter as a way of communicating with my boyfriend. We see each other often, text, call and email, but also use Twitter as the majority of our circle of friends use it. Most of the time I really enjoy using it, ...
A. 17 September 2012: What if he had an online life on Twitter and you never saw anything he was doing there? It's my understanding that most of the Twitter stuff is public. You can private message people, I guess, but how does that differ from email, or facebook or any ... (read in full...)
He won't officially end it if that's what he wants? What to do? I feel stuck!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. My Bf of 18 months moved recently ( not too far away) and he has been seeing me less and less. We had an argument and he left for two weeks, then came back breifly and I had it out with him then when I called him the next ...
A. 17 September 2012: You haven't messed up. You deserve a real answer and have simply asked for one.
Why do you think you need to put up with the hot/cold behavior without an explanation?... (read in full...)
Do steroids affect relations with others?
Q. I want to know if any of you have had a friendship or relationship with any man whose done steroids? What mood changes did they experience? How did you deal with them? Etc thanks for any input....
A. 17 September 2012: I only have one friend who is with a body-builder, sorry, he's a former body-builder. He now looks like a bit of a slob, he couldn't sustain it. He's depressed and she's miserable.
The rest of the women I know didn't go for body builders. They tend... (read in full...)
Should I leave or stay?
Q. I got married to guy 15 years older than me at the age of 23. I have two kids from a previous relationship. I didn't get married for love it was not like a security blanket for the shake of the kids. I didn’t ask him to marry me he kinda insisted we ...
A. 16 September 2012: It sounds like your luck is bad enough staying with him. Time for a fresh start if there is no hope of him being a faithful husband. He sounds abusive and is trying to isolate you from your friends.
Tell me again why you stay?
What is best for your... (read in full...)
He won't officially end it if that's what he wants? What to do? I feel stuck!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. My Bf of 18 months moved recently ( not too far away) and he has been seeing me less and less. We had an argument and he left for two weeks, then came back breifly and I had it out with him then when I called him the next ...
A. 16 September 2012: I had an LDR that wound up in a similar situation, I told him I needed an answer from him and would wait until he gave me one.
I then called a male friend for support and he told me that I was basically handing over all my power to the guy. He said... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: Ah, just read your followup. So your own hormones are making the contraceptive decisions for you? Getting carried away and all that? Yet you get paranoid about getting pregnant.... hm.
Funny, we had a bunch of posts recently from someone on cera... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: Is he your first sexual partner? I ask because sometimes people who are new to sexual activity are trying to live up to some imaginary ideal and your comment about being 'cool' about this tells me you are trying to deal with this all yourself.
C... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: And by 'looking cool' about this, you mean pretending you are okay with having sex without a condom, um, stop pretending.
Either he wears a condom during intercourse starting NOW, or there's no intercourse starting NOW, no discussion.
You HAVE to ... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: So he's been very sexually active yet never wore condoms. ;/ Has he been checked out by a doctor for STIs before you go without them?
I'm serious, if he has HPV or herpes or other viruses, that's a real issue for you.... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: One more thought for him, ask him to refrain from masturbating for a week and see if he can't manage to sustain an erection after a week of no penile stimulation even despite the condom. My bet is he'll have no issues then. ;)... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: Well, if they make him go flaccid then maybe you two are having too much sex and he can't sustain it? You said you've started quite an active sexual relationship.
My theory on this is that he's simply not used to the sensations with a barrier of l... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 16 September 2012: Good points, there, So Very Conused (SVC), sometimes the question asked hides a deeper question. I guess I want to know if "Invincible" is still looking for a way to end the relationship? Do you want to be with her or do you want to end it and move ... (read in full...)
What's in the head of a twenty-year-olds showing interest in me? I'm in my late thirties.
Q. This is the second time in a year when a woman much younger shows interest in me - paying me compliments, buying me drinks, wanting to hang around, etc. I don't think I am that attractive physically, so this is not about wanting one-night stands. ...
A. 16 September 2012: It sounds to me as though you were being tested for some reason. Maybe your motives weren't truly trusted?
Or maybe they don't have all that much imagination and assume you are a cool guy who likes hanging out with them with no expectations, so they... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable since I discovered that my boyfriend has an interest in very young girls!
Q. So, straight to the point. I looked at my boyfriends phone before and in his picture album there were naked pictures of this girl he had sexual relationship with, which I get, it's old and all but you shouldn't have them while you are in a new ...
A. 16 September 2012: Your boyfriend is going to wind up in jail if he is making or downloading images of children in a sexualized context.
You don't need to confront him again, you need to separate from him immediately and discuss it with the attorney you are going to h... (read in full...)
Can I take cerazette now? Help me please.
Q. Ive recently started quite a active sexual relationship with my boyfriend. He can't wear condoms, which i'm not completely bothered about, as there is other contraception available. I am in the process of going on the implant (implanon) but i am cur...
A. 16 September 2012: He "can't" wear condoms? Why not?
Here's another barrier method for you to consider, the female condom: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/female-condom-4223.htm They are advised for use as a barrier contraceptive if ther... (read in full...)
Should I stay at his house?
Q. Dear cupids, I am faced with a challenge. I made up my mind to spend my school holiday this december with my boyfriend in his house in another state and tell my parents the school requested us to stay because of out fast approaching exams so as to ...
A. 15 September 2012: Absolutely, stay in your boring school. It is the best option open to you, based on the circumstances you subscribe. Toxic father, greedy mother and sexually ravenous unwanted boyfriend. You can study quietly for your exams and reflect on how to ... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 15 September 2012: So let's see, we have on the one hand, an older and uglier guy who treated her like dirt. On the other hand, we have a caring and loving boyfriend of over one year.
Hm.
If she has any sense at all, and it sounds like she does as she has chosen y... (read in full...)
Masturbating hurts
Q. Hi to all, First a little intro:About a year ago I decided to lose my virginity just so I could see what the fuss was about(I was 19).Before that I was masturbating for years so I wasn't concerned about hurting or stuff like that.(Never with...
A. 15 September 2012: You may be aiming the wrong way. You may be trying to push something too large into an opening that isn't relaxed or lubricated enough. You may simply not be aroused enough that the vaginal canal does its ballooning thing. You may have some ... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 15 September 2012: And there are many ways to say 'no' to a girl who asks you out.
For example: "At another time in my life, I would be very happy to go out with you. Alas, I have to focus on my studies for the time being."
vs.
"I have no time for you, go away!"
T... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 15 September 2012: So you do want to date but aren't having any success? Or you are being asked out by girls you have no interest in? It's a bit confusing.
There was a great post a while ago on "how to get over your ex." It has loads of advice for how to distract your... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been having sex with another girl behind my back.Am I a fool for wanting to stay and make this work?
Q. My boyfriend has always treated me like a princess. He is one of my best friends; we have the same friends, the same beliefs, and have known each other for a little over four years. We've been dating for 3 months short of two years. We moved into a ...
A. 15 September 2012: You aren't looking at this from his perspective. You see, he likes the thrill of flirting with another woman, the thrill of setting up the meeting, the sneaking around. If he is forced to be 'honest' with you, he'd have to tell you about it and have ... (read in full...)
After breaking up I went to therapy and he decided he is willing to try again but not making any promises. Should I be hopeful about this?
Q. Ex boyfriend agreed to give it a try. Is there any hope? We are in our ealy 30s, both divorced once, dated seriously for 14 months. We broke up on Labor day. He said he loves and cares about me very much, but he's not in love with me. After b...
A. 14 September 2012: Well, on the good side, he agreed to try, right? So that's a start in the right direction.
I think it's actually a good thing that he is being honest about his feelings and his intentions. He's not making promises he can't keep but he's going to t... (read in full...)
My coworker and I had an affair but now he doesn't seem interested anymore. What's the problem?
Q. Hello All on this forum. I have a problem i really need help with. I think i have been foolish. A month or so ago i had sexual intercourse with a man from my office of work place. Sure he chased me and flirted with me and text me more than my husba...
A. 14 September 2012: Some men just like the thrill of the chase and the initial bedding of a new woman. Once they have had that thrill and there's no need to seduce or chase and they know what she's like in bed, they grow bored quickly and move on to the next woman. I ... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 13 September 2012: Why does it matter what their reaction is? Some may be offended at the rejection, some may understand. But either way, you aren't interested in going out on dates, so it doesn't matter what they think. The outcome is the same. That is, unless you ... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 11 September 2012: Focus on your studies and come here when someone asks you out and you need to find a way to say 'no.' Or just focus on your studies and say to the hopeful woman, "sorry, I don't really have the time for dating right now, I'm focusing on my ... (read in full...)
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