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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 15 September 2012: And there are many ways to say 'no' to a girl who asks you out.
For example: "At another time in my life, I would be very happy to go out with you. Alas, I have to focus on my studies for the time being."
vs.
"I have no time for you, go away!"
T... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 15 September 2012: So you do want to date but aren't having any success? Or you are being asked out by girls you have no interest in? It's a bit confusing.
There was a great post a while ago on "how to get over your ex." It has loads of advice for how to distract your... (read in full...)
My coworker and I had an affair but now he doesn't seem interested anymore. What's the problem?
Q. Hello All on this forum. I have a problem i really need help with. I think i have been foolish. A month or so ago i had sexual intercourse with a man from my office of work place. Sure he chased me and flirted with me and text me more than my husba...
A. 14 September 2012: Some men just like the thrill of the chase and the initial bedding of a new woman. Once they have had that thrill and there's no need to seduce or chase and they know what she's like in bed, they grow bored quickly and move on to the next woman. I ... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with porn and thinks I will cheat on him. We constantly have awful, sometimes physical, fights. Help!
Q. Hey everyone:) I really need some advice. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months and our relationship has been very terbulant! The first month we started datin it was fun but i did not take him too serious because i felt he was still ...
A. 14 September 2012: So why exactly do you think this guy is boyfriend material? I need a bit more explanation of why he's so wonderful. All I hear is he's jealous and a skirt-chaser and lacks a common-sense filter. You apparently have an anger management issue if you ... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 13 September 2012: Why does it matter what their reaction is? Some may be offended at the rejection, some may understand. But either way, you aren't interested in going out on dates, so it doesn't matter what they think. The outcome is the same. That is, unless you ... (read in full...)
My true love moved away to find himself. What do I do now?
Q. The guy I dated for over 2 years moved about 3,000 miles away a month ago because he wanted to go find out what a makes him tick. He told me when he made this decision to move is that he didn't want me to think he was trying to run away from me, ...
A. 13 September 2012: Let him go. If he really and truly wanted to be with you, he'd have made that choice. He didn't, hurtful as that may feel. It's honest, I guess, but I think there will be more disclosures that may be surprising.
Let him go, mourn the rela... (read in full...)
Am I really unloveable?
Q. I’m 27 and have never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship for that matter. I just can’t understand the why of it all. No woman has ever wanted me. My love just isn’t good enough for some reason. I’ve gone so far as to ask my friends f...
A. 13 September 2012: So you met this girl and said.....
Then she said....
And you said.....
And then she said......
Let's get to some specifics here so we can figure out how you can meet someone and ask them out on an actual honest-to-goodness date.
If you've... (read in full...)
Am I really unloveable?
Q. I’m 27 and have never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship for that matter. I just can’t understand the why of it all. No woman has ever wanted me. My love just isn’t good enough for some reason. I’ve gone so far as to ask my friends f...
A. 13 September 2012: It's funny to read the word "frat" as my brother was very involved in his and that abbreviation was avoided, in fact, I would say it was actively detested!
So it's not the typical fraternity in the university system? Great.
Most people do start da... (read in full...)
Should I tell her about my feelings, or just leave things the way they are?
Q. I'm in 10th grade and so is this girl who I really like. We have been best friends for years and I've always liked her but have never asked her how she feels about me. She flirts with me alot but she also flirts with other guys. S i don't know ...
A. 13 September 2012: Can you be happy with the situation if she says "no, not interested romantically in you"? Do you think you will regret it later if you don't ask her out?
We can't tell you what you will be happy with later on. You will have to decide.
Do you risk... (read in full...)
Should I acknowledge my ex's birthday?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. It was a mutual agreement as the relationship wasn't working out. We haven't spoke in 3 months since the break up. (we both decided never to speak again) Her birthday is coming up soon and I'm ...
A. 13 September 2012: You both agreed to never speaking again? Wow, that must have been a difficult and nasty break up. You laid down ground rules, then? As in, "we'll never speak ever ever again." Or "we'll never speak again until one of us caves and makes contact"? Or ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't it be a given that he would give his life for me, as I would for him?
Q. We dated for 1 year and then have been engaged for 3 years. The other day we were having a conversation about life and my fiance turned to me and said to me "I love you so much, that I think I may even die for you." Maybe I am being over ana...
A. 13 September 2012: I was taught to be helpful and kind and polite. No one ever said I had to die to help someone else. It wasn't ever really discussed. Maybe he comes from a family where dying for someone else was never discussed or expected?
As to his comment, I woul... (read in full...)
Am I really unloveable?
Q. I’m 27 and have never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship for that matter. I just can’t understand the why of it all. No woman has ever wanted me. My love just isn’t good enough for some reason. I’ve gone so far as to ask my friends f...
A. 13 September 2012: Have you considered dating someone else with Tourette's? I ask because there are support groups for people with it and maybe all you need to do is find someone who knows exactly what it's like to have a tic and be just a tiny bit different than the ... (read in full...)
How do I stop gay guys from hitting on me? I'm straight!
Q. I don't know whether I should address it at other guys, gals, or perhaps gay men. The problem is that I keep getting hit by gay men. The thing is that I am in no way undecided, I am into women, point. And I'm not exactly the warm, romantic t...
A. 11 September 2012: Here's a link which explains what I'm talking about: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handkerchief_code
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How do I stop gay guys from hitting on me? I'm straight!
Q. I don't know whether I should address it at other guys, gals, or perhaps gay men. The problem is that I keep getting hit by gay men. The thing is that I am in no way undecided, I am into women, point. And I'm not exactly the warm, romantic t...
A. 11 September 2012: Just a thought, there used to be a code language based on color and position of bandannas; kind of a gay semaphore in which sexual preferences were expressed. Like if you wore an orange bandanna in your back left pocket, you were a top, on the ... (read in full...)
How do I stop gay guys from hitting on me? I'm straight!
Q. I don't know whether I should address it at other guys, gals, or perhaps gay men. The problem is that I keep getting hit by gay men. The thing is that I am in no way undecided, I am into women, point. And I'm not exactly the warm, romantic t...
A. 11 September 2012: "No thank you, I'm not interested." That should suffice. Or, "I play for the other team."
As women are told to be happy they are attractive enough to warrant unwanted advances, maybe you should be happy you are cute enough to get hit on.
Is th... (read in full...)
Why does every guy I meet seem to only want sex from me?
Q. HEY GUYS my problem is every guy i meet wants sex. not even one wants to have a relationship and am wondering am i the one attracting those type of guys. am pretty and all but i dont understand why evry one i meet be it anywhere its only sex and ...
A. 11 September 2012: Do you have any male friends? I would ask them if there is something about the way you present yourself to the world that attracts those types of men looking for sex only.
If you don't have any male friends, I would ask your girl friends if they... (read in full...)
She says she needs time but what for?
Q. What does it mean when you start dating a girl and you suddenly ask her to be your girlfriend, and she replies that she needs time because she doesn't know you that well and that she is not ready for a relationship right now? She still continue...
A. 11 September 2012: I think you are trying to date your image of her, not the actual her. Stop fantasizing about women and get to know them for real. Winning their heart sounds very romantic and grand but you don't know if the heart is worth winning until you know the ... (read in full...)
Have we fallen out of love with each other? Is this the end?
Q. My boyfriend persuaded me to leave my hostel and move in with him (for a few months, since I'm leaving the city after that) so that we can spend more time together and he can "take care of me". I insisted on paying him for letting me stay so I'm not ...
A. 11 September 2012: If you can't have an adult, loving, compassionate discussion with him about the relationship, then there's no hope for it, sorry. If he is attempting to 'control' you or keep you in your place by describing your (identical to his) past as bad then ... (read in full...)
Why can my boyfriend only go about 2" inside of me?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex the second time last week. We have done it before but he has never penetrated my vagina. Well last week we tried it for the first time. First time he went in about 2 inches but it hurt me really badly like there was ...
A. 11 September 2012: You may have a thick hymen which is physically preventing the penis from entering. It may be worthwhile for you to see your gynecologist and have a quick exam to see what the situation is. You can also discuss birth control options and safe sex ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him to make the right decisions?
Q. Thank you for taking the time and reading this... I have been with my bf for 3 years now and we have had our ups and downs. When we first started dating I didn't put effort into the relationship due to finding out my mother was diagnosed with c...
A. 11 September 2012: They played a game to see who could get a girl's number the fastest. That's their idea of a good time?
I would not move in with this guy. I would let him go off to Vegas. I would do that because he would be my ex-boyfriend.
Let this guy go. If y... (read in full...)
How can I let her down gently?
Q. There is this girl my cousin wanted me to be in a relationship with her.She's cute and nice with me but i am just not into her or have strong emotions for her but i don't want to act like a heartless bastard. What should I do?...
A. 11 September 2012: "You are a lovely person and I know you will find a wonderful guy to date. It's just not going to be me. I do wish you every happiness." Keep it short and sweet, don't offer details, be perfectly polite and don't offer hope of a relationship if ... (read in full...)
Why are women not interested in me?
Q. This question has been on my mind lately and it has to do with how girls choose their boyfriends. Here is my background. I'm relatively short for a man at 22 standing at 5'4. I use to have skinny figure until I started to get fit going from 100 to ...
A. 11 September 2012: "all I had left was to move forward with my life but in order to do that I needed to start dating"
I'm not sure I understand this. You needed to start dating in order to move forward with your life? Why do you feel this way?
Why not simply get to k... (read in full...)
She says she needs time but what for?
Q. What does it mean when you start dating a girl and you suddenly ask her to be your girlfriend, and she replies that she needs time because she doesn't know you that well and that she is not ready for a relationship right now? She still continue...
A. 11 September 2012: You've met once in 6 months? I'd wait until you've had at least 3 in person real life dates before asking anyone to be your girlfriend. After just one, no matter how long you've known her, it's too soon.
Did you meet her on a game or some... (read in full...)
Some days I get a lot of male attention and other days nothing
Q. Same dress, same hair, same make up, same place. One night guys are all over me askin for my number, buying me drinks. Went out with same girlfriends yesterday night there, no attention whatsoever. One asked my friend if I'm having fun. I was act...
A. 11 September 2012: If you were wearing the same dress, same hair, same make up in the same place, the same guys will have been up to talk to you already and maybe decided that they would look for new girl, different hair, different make up?
Maybe you're getting a rep ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is clingy, obsessive and he's driving me mad
Q. Iv'e been going out with a guy i met at uni since april now and weve been on holiday together,hes met my parents and stayed with us and ive stayed with his parents. im 21 and hes 20 but sometimes i feel like we are soo different in how we view ...
A. 11 September 2012: I think you've gotten involved with an insecure guy who needs constant reassurance. Have you clearly told him how his behavior bothers you at all?
"John, look, you are a lovely person and I do care for you but I have to ask you to stop planning our ... (read in full...)
She says she needs time but what for?
Q. What does it mean when you start dating a girl and you suddenly ask her to be your girlfriend, and she replies that she needs time because she doesn't know you that well and that she is not ready for a relationship right now? She still continue...
A. 11 September 2012: I'd pass on dating this particular girl. She's keeping you around as an ego-booster and has no intention of being your girlfriend. She's not herself with you, she's showing off, she's just enjoying being admired and desired.
Just out of curi... (read in full...)
Why are women not interested in me?
Q. This question has been on my mind lately and it has to do with how girls choose their boyfriends. Here is my background. I'm relatively short for a man at 22 standing at 5'4. I use to have skinny figure until I started to get fit going from 100 to ...
A. 11 September 2012: Are you in treatment for the abuse? Do you still push women away?... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a man to respect the woman with whom he has a sex only arrangement?
Q. Is it possible for a man to REALLY have respect for a woman with whom he only wants to have a sexual relationship with? And....why would a man who is 47 years old NOW in his life be looking to get married and have children? I'm not judging anyone, ...
A. 11 September 2012: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-says-im-a-great-woman-but-he56.html
Where did you meet these men?
Just because a guy is older doesn't mean he's mature, or looking for an actual long term relationship. He may be an older guy who is on the rebo... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 11 September 2012: Focus on your studies and come here when someone asks you out and you need to find a way to say 'no.' Or just focus on your studies and say to the hopeful woman, "sorry, I don't really have the time for dating right now, I'm focusing on my ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is losing interest and I'm worried our relationship is falling apart....
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been seeing each other for one and a half years, and everything's always been really good between us, but lately I feel like he's not puttin in any effort. Since I met him we literally spoke everyday, where as lately We ...
A. 10 September 2012: It's really hard to sustain that honeymoon level of passion in the later stages of a relationship. Fire needs oxygen in order to burn. Maybe too much closeness and intimacy has smothered the spark a bit, and giving him and yourself some space and ... (read in full...)
He says I'm a great woman, but he only wants a sexual relationship...what am I to do?
Q. He says that he doesn't see a serious relationship with me because, I'm not part of his culture and that when it comes to building a family, the way he children will look, they language they speak and the culture is very important to him, THUS he ...
A. 10 September 2012: A guy in his late 40s who wants a purely sexual relationship isn't at all interested in marrying anyone to 'build a family.' He's just come up with an excuse which will fob you off. You clearly can't change your culture so that keeps you off the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with leukemia. Does anyone have any advice on how to be there for a cancer patient?
Q. My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with leukemia. We have been together for a year. I love her a lot and want to stay with her despite tough times ahead. Does anyone have any advice on how to be there for a cancer patient? I want her to feel...
A. 9 September 2012: Just to add to the other aunts' advice, be sure to listen to her and what she says she needs.
Many cancer patients change their eating habits and lifestyle choices to reduce expose to potential toxins or carcinogens. Giving lotions and creams may ... (read in full...)
Why do women get post natal depression, while others haven't found love/ struggle with infertility?
Q. Why would you get post natal depression? What is there to get depressed about? As I haven't had children I can't understand. As opposed to be single and getting depressed because you haven't met The right person yet and don't know if you will...
A. 9 September 2012: I haven't had children either. I just try to put myself in their position and think about how that might feel. It isn't that difficult.
I have noticed that some people have very sensitive antennae, and perceive slights and insults where none is inte... (read in full...)
First time dildo users. How do I get over the fear of using one?
Q. I have been married for bout three years we like to try new things in bed. The topic of him using a dildo on me kind of scares me. I do not understand why i have given birth but can not for the life of explain y. How do i get over the fear of ...
A. 9 September 2012: If it scares you, it scares you. Do you really have to use it?
How did he get over his fear of you using the dildo on him?... (read in full...)
Ladies only: would you decline to have sex with a man with erectile dysfunction resulting from surgery?
Q. This one is for the Ladies here ONLY!I am asking this for a friend of mines. Thanks Ladies,Say if you was to go out with a guy you met and things became hot and heavy between the 2 of you,then the 2 of you end up at a place that you have picked ...
A. 9 September 2012: His girlfriend left a cancer survivor because he didn't produce semen any longer? She sounds very shallow and he is better off without her, in my opinion.
I think your friend should simply go about dating women in the usual way, then when a rela... (read in full...)
Why do women get post natal depression, while others haven't found love/ struggle with infertility?
Q. Why would you get post natal depression? What is there to get depressed about? As I haven't had children I can't understand. As opposed to be single and getting depressed because you haven't met The right person yet and don't know if you will...
A. 8 September 2012: You write the question as though being depressed is a conscious, rational decision. It isn't. Women get postnatal depression due to hormonal changes and overwhelming stress. It may not seem overwhelming to an outside observer, but you don't know the ... (read in full...)
Ladies only: would you decline to have sex with a man with erectile dysfunction resulting from surgery?
Q. This one is for the Ladies here ONLY!I am asking this for a friend of mines. Thanks Ladies,Say if you was to go out with a guy you met and things became hot and heavy between the 2 of you,then the 2 of you end up at a place that you have picked ...
A. 8 September 2012: I think this would all depend on the presentation.
First date, hot and heavy one night stand, oh by the way, I have to use a penis pump due to prostate cancer.
Fifth date, hot and heavy developing a relationship, lots of kissing, oral and manual s... (read in full...)
15 year old pupil is hitting on me - her teacher. Should I report this?
Q. I am in a terribly difficult situation. I have been teaching for 20 years and this is the first I’ve ever had this particular problem. There is a girl in one of my classes; she is very young, 14/15 years old, a child. Now I have had students have ...
A. 5 September 2012: Interesting point, anonymous, about it being the child writing. I suspect that if it is the child, we won't have a followup because she won't be able to sustain the fiction.
If it is the teacher, the best possible thing he could do is to delete this... (read in full...)
Anyone know how I can help my bf who is bi polar get help in alabama
Q. its so frustrating ... I dont want to let him go but i have to.he loves me and trys his best to treat me right but he is bi polar and wont get it under control . He has outragious oust burst that include breaking things punching things and hurtfull ...
A. 5 September 2012: I am happy to hear he is improving and the outlook seems very positive. Please do put yourself first, as your children need you most of all, and I hope he's able to continue his treatment and that things work out for the best for you all. Be well!... (read in full...)
15 year old pupil is hitting on me - her teacher. Should I report this?
Q. I am in a terribly difficult situation. I have been teaching for 20 years and this is the first I’ve ever had this particular problem. There is a girl in one of my classes; she is very young, 14/15 years old, a child. Now I have had students have ...
A. 5 September 2012: Upon reading this post again, I have decided that you definitely need to be checked out by a doctor. Being able to handle schoolgirl crushes for 20 years and then not having the clarity of thought and sharpness of mind to deal with a persistent one? ... (read in full...)
15 year old pupil is hitting on me - her teacher. Should I report this?
Q. I am in a terribly difficult situation. I have been teaching for 20 years and this is the first I’ve ever had this particular problem. There is a girl in one of my classes; she is very young, 14/15 years old, a child. Now I have had students have ...
A. 5 September 2012: You've been teaching for 20 years and have no idea how to deal with this? Really? I'd say it's time for you to look at taking early retirement.
Go to your supervising principal and the school counselor today and make an official report. I'm not sure... (read in full...)
If someone is ready to be pleasured how can they not be ready to give pleasure?
Q. Is something wrong with me? My boyfriend and I (I am a gay man) have been together almost 3 years, we are getting married in November. We live together and have a very open and public relationship. The problem I am having is in the bedroom. Our...
A. 4 September 2012: Sounds like he's found someone who is willing to service him sexually without having to do anything in return. I believe that is called a selfish person. Why would you marry a selfish person?... (read in full...)
This internet conflict went too far, and I don't know what to do.
Q. I'm 15, and i frequently use the website tumblr. i am a sophomore. i made a post with advice for freshman, and at the end i said (jokingly) "if you scream when you see your friends, i'll hit you". this girl messaged me anonymously saying things like ...
A. 4 September 2012: Is there some reason you can't delete your tumblr posts and account?... (read in full...)
Anyone know how I can help my bf who is bi polar get help in alabama
Q. its so frustrating ... I dont want to let him go but i have to.he loves me and trys his best to treat me right but he is bi polar and wont get it under control . He has outragious oust burst that include breaking things punching things and hurtfull ...
A. 22 August 2012: You need to put the safety of your children and your own well-being first. You know how on airplanes, they tell you to put the oxygen mask on yourself first, before helping other people? This is because if you are incapacitated, you cannot help ... (read in full...)
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