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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I found out today the guy I'm seeing has twins on the way.
Q. Found out today the guy I'm seeing has twins on the way. Its a shock. I like him a lot but I feel like running and fast. He already has two! I have no kids and though I love them I have no desire to have them now or to be a stepmom honestly. I know ...
A. 17 July 2012: You're not being a coward. The guy who has twins on the way and two children already is the guy who is shirking his responsibility. At the very least, to wear a condom.
I think you can do better than a guy who has so much trouble with cont... (read in full...)
I didn't bleed but it really hurt. How do I know if my hymen was broken?
Q. My boyfriend was fingering me and it really hurt, but I never bled. Did I break my hymen? How can I check?...
A. 16 July 2012: You may not have been born with one, or you had one that has been eroded over time. There's no way for us to tell. I think it may be safe to assume that your hymen wasn't large enough to cause bleeding. ... (read in full...)
I didn't bleed but it really hurt. How do I know if my hymen was broken?
Q. My boyfriend was fingering me and it really hurt, but I never bled. Did I break my hymen? How can I check?...
A. 16 July 2012: Why are you doing things that really hurt? Tell him to stop if it hurts. I found a good link for you, which describes what may be going on. If your boyfriend doesn't know female anatomy, which is very likely, he's assuming that penetration with ... (read in full...)
My booty-call doesn't want me to see other guys, but I am not sure if that means "we" are exclusive.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 3 months now casually (booty call) and i thought we were both happy with it. i was seeing other people and presumed he was too. he would text me like do you fancy meeting up? always with notice i made this clear ...
A. 16 July 2012: Oh and making sure you aren't dating anyone else means you are presumably more available when he decides to call....
"John, I have a busy social life, as you may have guessed, if you want to see me we need to set up firm plans and not this last minu... (read in full...)
My booty-call doesn't want me to see other guys, but I am not sure if that means "we" are exclusive.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 3 months now casually (booty call) and i thought we were both happy with it. i was seeing other people and presumed he was too. he would text me like do you fancy meeting up? always with notice i made this clear ...
A. 16 July 2012: He's doing the bare minimum to keep you on the hook; if he really wanted a full relationship (beyond just some great sex) he'd be asking you out on proper dates. Texting late in the evening means that nothing else has turned up and as he's got you ... (read in full...)
I thought my trainer was my friend but he has upped his prices!
Q. Over the past year I have become good friends with my personal trainer. But recently he told me he had to raise his rates and asked me for more money. Of course I was surprised he would do this to me and I am hurt by it. I thought he conside...
A. 16 July 2012: Time for a new trainer. Get one who is professional and don't cross the line into flintiness. Maybe find a female one?
Then you can date him if that's how it's going, only you won't have that irritation that you are paying him.
If the relation... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 14 July 2012: The quote that came to mind: ""I wouldn’t want to belong to any club that would have me as a member" --Groucho Marx.
There's your logic loop. :)... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 14 July 2012: Ah, so you've handed every single woman who meets your criteria a written quiz and they, to a woman, every single one, to a woman, has said she would never in a million years date you because you are 5'5". Ah yes, of course. That's a perfect logic ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 14 July 2012: No they don't always choose the taller ones. I know several couples where this is not the case. One of my good friends is 5'6" and he married a woman who is 5'9" (she's fit and college educated too). They have 2 kids. They choose the confident ones. ... (read in full...)
Why did he meet me for coffee, if he thought I lived too far away to date?!
Q. Hello everyone, I will try and make this short, and thank you for reading. I met a guy online a few months back, (he's 42, me 46yrs) and slowly over a month we began to get to know more about each other, and we spoke a few times over the telepho...
A. 13 July 2012: The distance was the excuse for not taking dating you any further. It's a polite way to let you down. I would acknowledge he did it as nicely as he could and seems to be have proper and correct in the way he approached things. The chemistry just ... (read in full...)
Is to okay to experiment with girls?
Q. Hey everyone, I am 23 years old,lately I have been very curious about having a sex with a girl..is it because I want to experiment or I'm just curious or bisexual I don't know.. I have never kissed or made out or even done it with the girl,but bef...
A. 13 July 2012: Oh right, safe sex! Learn what you need to do to minimize your risk there! Good call, So Very Confused!
... (read in full...)
Is to okay to experiment with girls?
Q. Hey everyone, I am 23 years old,lately I have been very curious about having a sex with a girl..is it because I want to experiment or I'm just curious or bisexual I don't know.. I have never kissed or made out or even done it with the girl,but bef...
A. 13 July 2012: I don't think there's anything wrong in exploring your sexuality. You are in your mid-20s, you are an adult, you aren't dating or in a committed relationship, so why not see what happens?
The only thing I'd say is that you have to be honest with... (read in full...)
After being married 16 years I wonder what it would be like to be with a woman?
Q. I think I'm bisexual not really sure I've been married for 16 years and I have a pretty good marriage bit I have always wondered what.it would be like to be with a woman ...
A. 13 July 2012: Hi there, I guess you have to decide how important exploring that aspect of your sexuality is now. Have you buried that part of you for this long? Was your husband aware of your bisexuality when you married him?
You say your marriage is "pretty good... (read in full...)
How do I change my jealous pessimistic ways? It's making my life lonely and harder.
Q. Sometimes I feel bad about myself. I feel I'm a bad girl. I get jealous easily, so negative thinking, immature, and egoist. I don't like that some woman look better than me. I feel really bad about this. I want to change. But how? Its automatically ...
A. 13 July 2012: You've asked this question now several times, haven't you? I guess you are not getting the answers you want.
I don't know how you can change your thinking, other than to become aware of when you start to engage in negative thought. Start to obse... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 13 July 2012: You are right where you thought yourself to... when you change your assumptions and open yourself to other possibilities, that's when you will see a shift in your perception.
Women didn't put you where you are. You did. When you get that, embr... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 13 July 2012: Had you thought you would lose your virginity when you got married or were you simply waiting to be in a committed relationship with a woman? If you are going out on dates, have you ever wanted to have an exclusive relationship with a woman?
H... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'm insecure. Why does it bother me so much that other guys check her out?
Q. Well, where do I start? I have been dating my fiancé for 2 ½ years. Our relationships have grown and are getting married next year. Here’s the issue (s)..when we are out and are drinking, she becomes “flirty” and “wanders”. What I mean by wa...
A. 12 July 2012: I think the alcohol is a major issue for her. If she does this only when drunk, and then is so drunk she can't remember it, um, well, what has to go? It's fairly obvious.
If she can't give it up, or doesn't want to, I'd seriously consider endi... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 12 July 2012: Have you actually gone out on dates with women? Do you have an active social life? Do you have friends who are girls, as well as the usual set of guy friends?... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'm insecure. Why does it bother me so much that other guys check her out?
Q. Well, where do I start? I have been dating my fiancé for 2 ½ years. Our relationships have grown and are getting married next year. Here’s the issue (s)..when we are out and are drinking, she becomes “flirty” and “wanders”. What I mean by wa...
A. 12 July 2012: http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/alcohol-abuse/understanding-alcohol-abuse-symptoms
The following symptoms are associated with alcohol abuse:
Temporary blackouts or memory loss.
Recurrent arguments or fights with family members or frien... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'm insecure. Why does it bother me so much that other guys check her out?
Q. Well, where do I start? I have been dating my fiancé for 2 ½ years. Our relationships have grown and are getting married next year. Here’s the issue (s)..when we are out and are drinking, she becomes “flirty” and “wanders”. What I mean by wa...
A. 11 July 2012: Your fiancé likely has a problem with alcohol. If she does things and cannot remember them the next day, she's drinking enough to have blackouts.
I had a sister-in-law like this. She never wanted to grow up, she thought she was in her 20s, I gues... (read in full...)
7 months into marriage and we hardly ever have sex....and to make things worse I find out he has a fat fetish! What should I do?
Q. only 7 months into a marriage and have caught him 4 times watching porn, 80 naked photos of ex in our bedroom, one tucked away in his drawer..obviously a favorite.random photos of naked woman in his home...just everywhere. no i didnt need to snoop ...
A. 11 July 2012: Sounds like it's time to acknowledge that the marriage is over and pack up and move back home. Maybe this is the change you needed in your life, it came looking as a rejection but perhaps this experience will the be impetus for change for the ... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity?
Q. I'm a 17 yr old virgin buh i masturbated a week ago nd i fingered mysef with 2 fingers,do you think i've lost it?...
A. 11 July 2012: There are differing ideas of what constitutes the term "virginity." In some cultures, an intact hymen in the vagina defines a virgin. If the hymen is ruptured, torn or broken, that person is no longer considered a virgin. In other definitions, ... (read in full...)
B/f seems to have more time for neighbors than me! How do I stop being so available?
Q. I have been with the same man for almost 4 years, we're together every other weekend, one night during the week and every Sunday evening. We talk almost every evening, but that's usually because I'm the caller. Over the last year my texts go ...
A. 11 July 2012: "Sorry, I'm not able to take you to your attorney today, something came up and I'll be too busy."
"I won't be able to hang out with you this weekend, I've got some things I need to get done and it's too hectic to try to plan quality time with you.... (read in full...)
Should I move in with my b/f to ease family's fiancial burden?
Q. Hello all, I'm having a bit of a dispute here within myself and my family. My parents are very loving and caring people and I know they would do anything for me, but my mom is sick and the company my dad works for is slowly on the decline. My older ...
A. 11 July 2012: Wouldn't it make more sense for you to help your mother out and lift your father's spirits by being present and helpful? Your dad's company is on a decline, lots of companies go through this and bounce back. You've declared his job dead though it ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I want to adopt, but friends and family are against gays' raising children. Advise please?
Q. Hi Im a gay woman who is in a very healthy relationship of 3 years and recently I have became really broody and would like to adopt in the near future with my girlfriend, we have discussed children before and she also would like to have them one...
A. 6 July 2012: You can't live your life trying to make other people comfortable with your sexual orientation and your life choices. If they 'turn against' you, they are not supporters nor are they healthy people to have in your life, family and friends or no.
Y... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 5 July 2012: I think you are being notified of your own answers on this post; as you post your own answer, the system sends you an email message, if you signed up for that feature. No one can PM you because your user name is not shown.
Apparently you are thin... (read in full...)
How can I understand that my boyfriend doesn't use porn because I'm unattractive?
Q. How can I understand that my boyfriend's interest in using porn is not a reflection on me? Everybody keeps telling me it is their problem but I think it is to do with my attractiveness aswell. ...
A. 29 June 2012: The hottest women in the world have their men cheat on them. It has nothing to do with your level of attractiveness.
Separate the self-esteem thing from the porn use.
Recognize that men find looking at attractive women to be enjoyable. It fires th... (read in full...)
She goes weeks without touching me but promises me we'll have plenty of sex once married
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a 1.5 years and we are compatible in almost every way. Both of us are in our early 30's. My sex drive is still very high and I always want some no matter how tired or overworked I am. I am agnostic and she...
A. 29 June 2012: She's a virgin, in her early 30s, and she doesn't reach for you for weeks. Um, you know what her sex drive is. It's virtually nil. If you want to feel loved via sexual desire on her part, you will be waiting a very long time. Coming home to a happy ... (read in full...)
He's been talking with women on webcam when he promised he wouldn't do that anymore!
Q. So, i've had this problem of my boyfriend looking at naked women on webcams. He promised me that he wouldn't do it again because it made me feel so hurt and not good enough for him. Well, i know i shouldn't have but i snooped through his computer ...
A. 27 June 2012: Person12345 has great tips there for you as you move along in this new phase of your relationship with him. Good luck to you.
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I have clear discharge, what is it?
Q. Im having a clear discharge,i started seen it today.last month i was circumcised and i had a wound on my penis and used bactroban to heal the wound. Could it be the cause or its sexual infection? At the same time my lady has rash on her vagina but ...
A. 27 June 2012: So Very Confused meant that you should contact your doctor and ask the doctor this question. She's not going to contact her doctor to ask about your medical condition.
Only a qualified medical practitioner should diagnose and treat this type of cond... (read in full...)
I think I have a foot fetish. Why would I be like this?
Q. I am 18 and for a couple of years I've had this soft spot for a certain porn video. It is all about foot fetish. It's just licking and kissing etcetera and the people are kind of clothed but in real life I have a foot fobia and in any other video ...
A. 27 June 2012: Is there a problem here? I don't really see one, just a small peculiarity, a quirk. I know people who dislike ketchup but like BBQ sauce. It doesn't really cause any difficulty in their lives. Maybe just accept that you are odd that way and don't ... (read in full...)
I told a guy that I loved him over the internet. Was this a bad decision?
Q. Im gona try to be as short as possible. The thing is. .i've told a guy (who s 3years older than me) that i liked very much that i loved him over the internet. Sadly he didnt feel the same way or he was pretending. Anyway what i want to know is 'was ...
A. 27 June 2012: I'm sorry, that last post was really hard to read and understand.
The reason you can't speak with him is because you are nervous and anxious about speaking to him. You've never had a conversation with him face to face, so any of the ideas you have... (read in full...)
How can I make him jealous on Facebook?
Q. Im dating a guy and everything is going on well. The only problem is sometimes i don't feel like he loves me. So i have come up with a plan that is to make him jealous. I know it might sound silly but thats the only plan i can think of. He really ...
A. 26 June 2012: Are you really in that age bracket, because this sounds more like a question from a 13-15 year old.
Give him some space and see if he tries to close the gap by paying more attention to you.
Perhaps it would help us if you explained how his beha... (read in full...)
He's been talking with women on webcam when he promised he wouldn't do that anymore!
Q. So, i've had this problem of my boyfriend looking at naked women on webcams. He promised me that he wouldn't do it again because it made me feel so hurt and not good enough for him. Well, i know i shouldn't have but i snooped through his computer ...
A. 26 June 2012: So basically, he's dodging the issue because he knows if he just acts like an ostrich, the issue will go away because you'll forgive him because you love him. So he knows there will be no consequences other than you'll be upset for a while?
H... (read in full...)
Still searching for answers....why is my wife like this now we have moved to Australia?
Q. I have never met this kind of person in my life. Neither have any of my friends and family. In China, my wife wasn't as abusive as she has become here. A brief history of me: I left Australia to be with her for two years over there and we wen...
A. 26 June 2012: Why are you still with this abusive woman? Seriously, you are in an abusive marriage and the only way to solve this is to GET OUT NOW. You've asked reams of questions and basically ignored most of the advice, which was to leave her.
For the sake... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but have feelings for my female friend!
Q. ok, so. i have this friend, shes a girl. ive been tryin 2 decied if im ballenced(BI), or totter(STRAIGHT). ive been having mixed emotions about her. she dresses like a guy acts like a guy. idk what 2 do. i have a bf that i love sooo much. I try 2 ...
A. 26 June 2012: How old is she? If you are friends, just talk to her. Tell her about your bi feelings. Maybe she will tell you if she is as well. Good luck.... (read in full...)
How should I handle my insecure and jealous boyfriend?
Q. Here is a background of me and my boyfriend. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-not-a-talker-but-my-ldr.html My boyfriend has a few times said to me that because I am quiet on the phone, he thinks I am distant, and that I must be talking w...
A. 26 June 2012: I just re-read your question. You want to know what to say to him if he calls again. I'd write something down, read it to him as naturally as you can and then say goodbye to him.
"John, I am answering this call because I have something I would like... (read in full...)
How should I handle my insecure and jealous boyfriend?
Q. Here is a background of me and my boyfriend. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-not-a-talker-but-my-ldr.html My boyfriend has a few times said to me that because I am quiet on the phone, he thinks I am distant, and that I must be talking w...
A. 26 June 2012: Um, yeah, so you could spend hours talking this out with him and you'll wind up in exactly the same place. He doesn't trust you and the way he shows it is by challenging you and accusing you of cheating on him. This is not healthy and you know what? ... (read in full...)
My Mother seems obsessed about trying to break up my brother's relationship with his Gf. What can I do?
Q. ok my question is in regards to my brother and my mom. My brother A has always been a mamas boy and she has ALWAYS been obsessed with him and in his business. A is the dream kid, has always just let her be her over bearing self and smiled and s...
A. 26 June 2012: Well, maybe let them sort it out... you can't manage either of their feelings, nor can you manage their behavior. It's a waste of your time and energy to worry about something that you can't alter, fix, repair or otherwise influence.
You sound very... (read in full...)
I told a guy that I loved him over the internet. Was this a bad decision?
Q. Im gona try to be as short as possible. The thing is. .i've told a guy (who s 3years older than me) that i liked very much that i loved him over the internet. Sadly he didnt feel the same way or he was pretending. Anyway what i want to know is 'was ...
A. 26 June 2012: Sorry to hear you made yourself vulnerable and found that the feelings weren't reciprocated, that must have been very hard. You were brave but I think the next time you have strong feelings about a guy, wait until you have spent at least 3 months as ... (read in full...)
The boy I fancy is going out with my best friend, help!
Q. I am 13 and this boy ive liked for 2 years is now goin out with my best friend wat should i do (by the way every says that hes a player and they wont last)...
A. 26 June 2012: So, let me ask you, what do you think your choices are here? Or are you just sad about this and want to vent a bit?... (read in full...)
He's been talking with women on webcam when he promised he wouldn't do that anymore!
Q. So, i've had this problem of my boyfriend looking at naked women on webcams. He promised me that he wouldn't do it again because it made me feel so hurt and not good enough for him. Well, i know i shouldn't have but i snooped through his computer ...
A. 26 June 2012: Life's too short to be with a guy who thinks chatting to women on webcam isn't cheating. Sorry you had to find this out but go ahead and end the relationship. There are lots of guys out there who won't do this.
Be brave, end the relationship and ... (read in full...)
My Mother seems obsessed about trying to break up my brother's relationship with his Gf. What can I do?
Q. ok my question is in regards to my brother and my mom. My brother A has always been a mamas boy and she has ALWAYS been obsessed with him and in his business. A is the dream kid, has always just let her be her over bearing self and smiled and s...
A. 25 June 2012: Have you spoken to your father about your mother's behavior? It seems to me that he's well aware of her actions, and perhaps your mother needs a reminder on how to treat people with courtesy?
The situation will resolve one way or the other, your... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but have feelings for my female friend!
Q. ok, so. i have this friend, shes a girl. ive been tryin 2 decied if im ballenced(BI), or totter(STRAIGHT). ive been having mixed emotions about her. she dresses like a guy acts like a guy. idk what 2 do. i have a bf that i love sooo much. I try 2 ...
A. 25 June 2012: If you are having uncontrollable feelings, perhaps that's a sign you are not in the right relationship for you. Why not end things with your boyfriend, which will leave you free to explore that other side of yourself? It may be hurtful to your ... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 15 June 2012: Do you have homeless people there? We have homeless people here. What would you be capable of if you didn't have any money and needed to feed a child?... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 13 June 2012: I guess that's a good question to sit and think about. Maybe try not thinking about it so much and just try some meditation and perhaps it will become clearer to you.... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 12 June 2012: All you can do is wait and see what happens. If you are concerned about your own involvement in the case, consult with a solicitor. In fact, the solicitor would likely be able to give you a much clearer view of what may happen in the case. If it is ... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 11 June 2012: I don't know. I expect they will do what they can to get the trafficked women some help.... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 11 June 2012: I think one of life's lessons that is so difficult to accept is that we don't always know the outcome to everyone's story. I think perhaps this would be a good time to figure out how to live with uncertainty, with not knowing. It's okay.
If you are ... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 11 June 2012: I'm upset by it too, and I don't even know the girl. It's an upsetting and awful situation. Your reaction is natural. Try to take comfort in the fact that you've taken positive action that may help her in life, and may help others from being caught ... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 8 June 2012: You've filled in the form, now cut contact. For your own safety, it's best to create as little drama as possible and just be forgotten now, okay?
Please do be more cautious in the future and avoid escorts or prostitutes, those words are basi... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 8 June 2012: Try calling Crimestoppers and then the police. I sincerely doubt the madam would be able to track you, did you send any of them an email?... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 7 June 2012: I expect they see you as a target. They are probably trying to find a way to extract money from you.
Whatever you do, cut contact with her. If you want to try to help her, let the police know you are concerned she's been trafficked or is being held... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 6 June 2012: I think this is a lonely and vulnerable man who was looking for companionship and finds himself in a situation beyond his comprehension.
Poster, I would end contact with this woman and I would recommend having a chat with the local police. She need... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 6 June 2012: Isn't this the one who wanted you to sign some papers, and who doesn't speak English?... (read in full...)
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