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*ndrewrox20
writes: I'm in 10th grade and so is this girl who I really like. We have been best friends for years and I've always liked her but have never asked her how she feels about me. She flirts with me alot but she also flirts with other guys. S i don't know if she likes me. I'm so happy when i am around her. Should I risk my friendship and find out if she likes me or should I just leave things the way they are.
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reader, andrewrox20 +, writes (19 September 2012):
andrewrox20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i told her how i feel and sadly she doesnt feel the same luckily we are still good friends
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 September 2012):
 Can you be happy with the situation if she says "no, not interested romantically in you"? Do you think you will regret it later if you don't ask her out?
We can't tell you what you will be happy with later on. You will have to decide.
Do you risk it? There's an easy way out, which is to ignore the whole thing and just pretend you don't have any feelings for her, other than friendship. It's safe, the only downside is that years from now, you might regret never taking the chance to express your feelings.
Then there's the risky path, which is asking her out and exposing yourself to being chosen by her or rejected by her. It's not comfortable, it's not much fun, and the outcome could be that things get all weird between you.
Rather than ask her how she feels about you, is there any reason you can't just ask her out on a date? This way, she can say 'no' to the date, then you can save face by going back to the best friends thing, and you haven't actually revealed how you feel about her. You could pretend that you thought she was waiting for you to ask her out and that's why you did it.
Let me ask you this, could you still be happy when you are around her when she does find a boyfriend? Maybe she's been waiting for you to ask her out.
Ask her out on a date. If it goes well, ask her out again. If it's still going well, ask her out again. THEN tell her how you feel about her.
That would be my advice. Note to DC user: this aunt is really really old, like over 50! She's happily married and hasn't had to deal with teenage dating situations in like, um, totally ages, like Valley Girl time, omigod!
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reader, MamaJade +, writes (13 September 2012):
 Its been years and she flirts with you too take a chance let her know how you feel before somebody else does it first.
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