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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 17 August 2012: I see he is unable to answer the questions without an over-reaction, drama, and he now has added name-calling of himself. Is this typical of Aspergers? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome
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Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 17 August 2012: Take So Very Confused's question first, then run through the list I provided from previous answers.... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 17 August 2012: Here are all the questions that were asked of you that you ignored:
Would you buy a house without knowing anything at all about it? You know what it looks like from the front and where it is, but you don't know anything else. Not the inside, not ... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 17 August 2012: Though the lack of interest in learning about a person's personality and looking only to find a warm body to fill a role defined by him suggests a narcissist. But then there's that not learning from past mistakes thing, and an unwillingness to learn ... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 17 August 2012: I don't think he's able to answer the questions we ask. Repetition, rigid thought patterns, fixation, irrational beliefs. Aspergers?... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 16 August 2012: I'm doing my best to help you find your wife. You don't appear to be listening, or paying attention. My name is Tisha, not Trisha.
I'm with So Very Confused, that you likely are on the Autism spectrum and have trouble reading or decoding what the ... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 16 August 2012: I said 'yes' to my man who asked to marry me. And So Very Confused said 'yes' more than once, so your premise that no woman will marry a man who asks her seems to me to be incorrect. You're basing your approach to achieving matrimony on flawed ... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 16 August 2012: Let's see, I'd have to divorce my lovely husband of 18 years, whom I've been with for 21 years, and known for 23 years total, for a stranger who has rigid ideas about gender roles and no interest in courtship. A stranger who wants to get straight ... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 16 August 2012: "If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you say Yes? "
Getting back to your original question, if a... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 16 August 2012: I've been married for 18 years. We dated for 3 years and were friends for 2 years before that.
You really do need to pick your pool of candidates better.... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 16 August 2012: You want to go straight to having babies and being the "man of the house." That requires a level of trust. You haven't spent the time to build the trust. There's no way to know if you are sincere or you are lazy or what is going on wit you.
T... (read in full...)
Will it work out if we start all over again on a stronger footing where I am no longer his Booty Call?
Q. Well after one year of hanging out with him, I expressed that I didn't want to be a "booty-call/fwb/F-buddy", that after all this time my emotions were involved. Here is the exact text I sent him ... "After 1year of this with you my emotions...
A. 15 August 2012: Wait, was he dating someone while you were booty call? He said he "just came out of a relationship."
He knows you well enough to know if he wants to date you officially. I'd sit back and take him up on the offer to talk and see what he does. If he d... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny men?
Q. I know everyone has different tastes and personal preferences, but in general, are women put off by skinny men? I'm 23, and while I eat like a horse, I just have never been able to put on any tangible weight, and have virtually little muscle a...
A. 15 August 2012: Depends on the woman and the guy.
Have you ever seen a doctor to rule out say, hyperthyroidism?... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 15 August 2012: Wasn't it Rev. Sun Myung Moon who matched up people and then performed a mass wedding back in the 80's? Maybe the Unification Church (as the group Rev. Moon founded is called) would be a good source for women who are willing to be matched up in such ... (read in full...)
I think he's the ONE. He's cheating on his Gf to be with me. But why the delay in breaking up with his GF?
Q. There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me. I'm the 'other girl.' I honestly love him and think he's the one. However, he told me he's thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend to be with me, but he hasn't. It kill...
A. 14 August 2012: This is a duplicate of this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/theres-this-guy-and-hes-cheating-on-his.html
Wait until he's officially broken up with his girlfriend and then decide if you want to continue to date a guy who will prob... (read in full...)
Am I asking for too much in our sexual relationship?
Q. I'm not sure if I've just ruined our relationship or not. My partner and I have been together for 6 months and I love him completely. He has asked me to marry him and nothing would make me happier and I said yes. We have known each other for ...
A. 14 August 2012: Six months and the honeymoon is over already? What a pity he's not a sexually compatible partner for you, but there it is. I'm wondering if there's more to his background than he's revealed. Perhaps some past sexual abuse or, I hate to suggest this, ... (read in full...)
How does the drug Ecstasy affect the body?
Q. Hi, just curious... what exactly is ecstasy? I don't plan on taking it, but I'm just curious because I'll see commercials for Trojans Ecstasy condoms, and I want to know exactly what it does, not the condoms, but the actual drug. I've seen questi...
A. 14 August 2012: Apparently it's a cross between an amphetamine and a hallucinogen. http://www.dare.com/home/DrugInformation/Story29bc.asp?N=DrugInformation&M=11&S=19
"Basically, it is a cross between an amphetamine and a hallucinogen and is taken in pill form. As a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sloppy, controlling, rough and forceful sometimes. Would that be the reason I have lost all desire for sex with him?
Q. I'm 18 and been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year. The problem is I have lost my desire to have sex with him or any overall need to be intimate. My boyfriend and I decided to lose our virginity to each other a month ago and ev...
A. 9 August 2012: "Little" things? They sound like big problems to me. Do you feel able to talk with him?
"Babe, ouch that hurts, that doesn't turn me on, that's actually really distracting and I can't get into the mood if you do that."
"Babe, would you mind not... (read in full...)
S this a normal male perspective please?
Q. Hi, this is a question for guys mainly... I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, and spending most of the last 6 months staying round at his house. My lease has come up on my own shared house and so I am moving into a new flat. He sa...
A. 9 August 2012: Some couples do proceed in that order: live together, then get married, then have children. You get to decide what works for you.
What doesn't seem to me to make sense is to get your lives financially intertwined until you know for certain that the ... (read in full...)
S this a normal male perspective please?
Q. Hi, this is a question for guys mainly... I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, and spending most of the last 6 months staying round at his house. My lease has come up on my own shared house and so I am moving into a new flat. He sa...
A. 9 August 2012: Do you want to marry him?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is ruining my life! How do I get out of this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend is ruining my life. We have been in a LDR for a couple years now. I work and go to university, he doesn't have a job and hasn't for years. If I bring up that he should get a job/do something with his life then he gets pissed off and ...
A. 9 August 2012: So how are you doing? Are you safe and away from him online?... (read in full...)
Why do I shut my eyes from reality?
Q. i've been off an on with this guy for 8yrs now. i've never been so infactuated with someone like i was for him.turns out that he is controlling,manipulative and emotionally abusive.we break up atleast twice a year because he becomes very short and ...
A. 8 August 2012: It sounds as though you derive your sense of self-worth from others. When you realize that the only one whose approbation you should be seeking is yourself, you'll be on the path to freedom.
As it is, you hand over control of your life to this guy ... (read in full...)
S this a normal male perspective please?
Q. Hi, this is a question for guys mainly... I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, and spending most of the last 6 months staying round at his house. My lease has come up on my own shared house and so I am moving into a new flat. He sa...
A. 8 August 2012: Six months of dating and he's blackmailing you emotionally in order to come up with enough cash to buy the family home from his sister? Why doesn't he just work out a payment schedule to his sister and leave you out of it?
I'd take him up on his ... (read in full...)
Is he having a mid-life crisis? Is this not love?
Q. Because What would a man his age want with a woman like this? Ok well my Ex and I we are split up for about 5 months . We still tells me about his life , and for the past 3 months he is constantly talking about his friend he met for the first time ...
A. 8 August 2012: She sounds like a hoot, fun to be around with a great deal of spirit and life in her. Why wouldn't he want to spend time with her?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to move interstate with him, which means quitting my job, selling my house, etc.
Q. My boyfriend of 3.5 years is considering applying for jobs interstate. He may be lucky to find a job where we currently are (his current one will be ending soon) but i would say it is 50/50. I know it isn't actually happening yet but we need to be ...
A. 8 August 2012: "Babe, when you are ready to talk seriously about the future, as in marriage and children, I will be ready to consider discussing moving away. Until we have a mutual understanding of what the other's wishes, dreams and plans are for that nebulous ... (read in full...)
Is it right to be jealous that they do more things together than he does with me?
Q. My bf of 2 years and never wants to go out and do things with me. All we do is sleep, really. Or hang out in his bedroom or mine, until we fall asleep. I can't remember the last time we went out and did something. I have mentioned that I would lik...
A. 7 August 2012: Hi, I think this is the same poster, I have left a detailed answer on your other question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-think-he-knows-what-empathy-is.html
Here, I would make sure you make plans to do things with other people, invi... (read in full...)
I don't think he knows what empathy is!
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 2 years. I have to take an important exam and have been really stressing about it. So I called my bf, looking for some reassurance and support. But when I talk to him, he just tells me random things that don'...
A. 7 August 2012: Is this you too? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-right-to-be-jealous-that-they.html Boyfriend of 2 years and a US flag with the same age range and a boyfriend who lacks enthusiasm for you or the relationship?
He doesn't want to baby you... (read in full...)
I can't stand being around him!
Q. I have been dreading posting this question because I know all the negative responses I will get. I know I am by no means a perfect person but I don't think I am awful either. I have a problem with with my husband's friends. Or any previous boy...
A. 7 August 2012: I think Maverick is giving you great advice; listen to her.
For what it's worth, almost all personal growth is done when one is well outside the comfort zone. It may be painful and scary but the rewards can be so great. I think the first book ment... (read in full...)
I can't stand being around him!
Q. I have been dreading posting this question because I know all the negative responses I will get. I know I am by no means a perfect person but I don't think I am awful either. I have a problem with with my husband's friends. Or any previous boy...
A. 7 August 2012: OP, what if your husband was in a situation where he could not live at home for months? Say he had some sort of medical emergency? What would happen to you then?
You've selected him as your one companion and that's a very tenuous thing to build your... (read in full...)
My best friends stopped talking and hanging out with me, I did nothing wrong, How do I get their friendship back?
Q. Since we were born, I was best friends with these two girls. As close as possible, you can't even imagine. Things went smooth for 14 years, and then we graduated middle school. The two of them went to the same high school and I went to a different, ...
A. 6 August 2012: You didn't do anything wrong. It's because they have forgotten the closeness and just have fallen into the craziness that teen girls get up to... It's sad, some girls do this, forget about their friends who aren't with them every day.
I expect if t... (read in full...)
Was he being rude or protective? opinions please
Q. Hey guys. I went on a night out, and I have a male best friend who is four years older than I am. Now before he knew I was planning to have a night out, he claimed to not be going out this weekend. Yet somehow he managed to be in ever single plac...
A. 6 August 2012: "Hey Mark, I've been wondering about something. You seem very concerned for my social life and safety. Why is it you are so nosy about that? I get that you may be concerned for my safety but you are get extremely nosy and seem to be acting out of ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is ruining my life! How do I get out of this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend is ruining my life. We have been in a LDR for a couple years now. I work and go to university, he doesn't have a job and hasn't for years. If I bring up that he should get a job/do something with his life then he gets pissed off and ...
A. 6 August 2012: I would be sure to tell the police that you feel extremely threatened by him and that he has done physical violence to himself and may do it to you when this relationship is terminated.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I can't stand being around him!
Q. I have been dreading posting this question because I know all the negative responses I will get. I know I am by no means a perfect person but I don't think I am awful either. I have a problem with with my husband's friends. Or any previous boy...
A. 6 August 2012: And to answer that question, can you make it or will this fail, I would say that depends on whether you can alter your perception enough to allow him to enjoy the normal socialization that most people need to live a balanced, healthy life, and if he ... (read in full...)
I can't stand being around him!
Q. I have been dreading posting this question because I know all the negative responses I will get. I know I am by no means a perfect person but I don't think I am awful either. I have a problem with with my husband's friends. Or any previous boy...
A. 6 August 2012: Why can't you stay home while he goes out and socializes? That way, he gets the social interaction that most people need and you get to keep your solitude, that you so desperately crave.
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is ruining my life! How do I get out of this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend is ruining my life. We have been in a LDR for a couple years now. I work and go to university, he doesn't have a job and hasn't for years. If I bring up that he should get a job/do something with his life then he gets pissed off and ...
A. 6 August 2012: With him, you report life is ruined. Dump him and he threatens to ruin your life. You are indeed trapped, aren't you? Yikes.
Okay, you need to stop being fearful and start to take control back. First of all, don't do or say anything interesting or a... (read in full...)
I can't stand being around him!
Q. I have been dreading posting this question because I know all the negative responses I will get. I know I am by no means a perfect person but I don't think I am awful either. I have a problem with with my husband's friends. Or any previous boy...
A. 6 August 2012: I still don't know what your question is. I wish you freedom from anxiety and good mental health. Hope everything works out for you.... (read in full...)
Why would my ex go behind his new wife's back to talk to me?
Q. ex bf's new wife told me she didn't want us talking to each other, she called me. But my ex said it's not a problem and he will talk behind her back. Why would he go against what she wants??...
A. 6 August 2012: The bottom line is that he married another woman. He chose someone else, which is a great pity but there it is. I see that you were together for a long period of time but he essentially dumped you, he did it pretty honorably, but you were not his ... (read in full...)
Everything he told me is a lie!
Q. I met a guy 7 months ago on a social networking site. He's younger than me by 5 years. We talk all the time, we have times where we lose contact. Which is usually when make plans to meet up and he flakes and leaves me hanging. Despite him doing ...
A. 6 August 2012: You feel how you feel, I'm just asking why you have put so much faith and trust in a guy you've never laid eyes on, and who isn't doing anything to clear up that mystery. It suggests you are rather vulnerable and a bit naive. Your friends, who care ... (read in full...)
Friend with benefits didn't show up when he said he would?
Q. Hi so my fwb and I didn't intend on being fwb well I didn't anyway and we have not spoken for 3 months. now I saw him the other day and tried to ignore him but he kept shouting at me so I waited for him to come over and he aksed how I was and why I ...
A. 5 August 2012: He's certainly lazy, isn't he? Expecting you to do all the work?
I think I'd put this one into the history books and look back fondly on what was. I expect he's with someone now, so his time is spoken for. What a lazy man. Sad, ah well, you cert... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with the married man I had an affair with, and he told me that he wishes I were dead! How could he say such hateful things to me?
Q. I had an affair with a married man, he broke it off and it was not pretty. I told his wife...to make a long story short...I would send him cards every once in a while..I think I'm obsessed with him. We ride motorcycles and he is a member of a MC ...
A. 5 August 2012: Make sure you leave the evidence of his response somewhere easy to find in case police need to do an investigation.
Time to wrap it up and move on. He's a major jerk, no doubt, but do you really want to be one too?... (read in full...)
Risk losing a great guy, or risk having sex with a random guy?
Q. I know this question must have been asked a thousand times before, and I also know that this is a VERY long post. However, I'm facing a very difficult choice right now, and I could use the point of view of an outsider. So, I'm a late virgin at 2...
A. 5 August 2012: You have got some really warpy thinking going on there. Wow.
"I wouldn't want to date me. I'm pretty, but I have very few friends I talk to regularly, I'm painfully shy, I have no sex life, I don't go to school at the moment, I've got no driv... (read in full...)
Risk losing a great guy, or risk having sex with a random guy?
Q. I know this question must have been asked a thousand times before, and I also know that this is a VERY long post. However, I'm facing a very difficult choice right now, and I could use the point of view of an outsider. So, I'm a late virgin at 2...
A. 5 August 2012: Or perhaps you haven't met the right girl yet. Didn't mean to get that gender specific.
If your friend wanted to date you, there's really nothing stopping him. The conditions he's laid out as pre-requisites to being in a relationship with him? The ... (read in full...)
Risk losing a great guy, or risk having sex with a random guy?
Q. I know this question must have been asked a thousand times before, and I also know that this is a VERY long post. However, I'm facing a very difficult choice right now, and I could use the point of view of an outsider. So, I'm a late virgin at 2...
A. 5 August 2012: So you are being emotionally blackmailed into having sex with someone, anyone, by this older man who is supposed to be your friend? Weird kind of care and concern he's showing for you here.
I'd stop worrying about doing things that please other peop... (read in full...)
I can't stand being around him!
Q. I have been dreading posting this question because I know all the negative responses I will get. I know I am by no means a perfect person but I don't think I am awful either. I have a problem with with my husband's friends. Or any previous boy...
A. 5 August 2012: What is it you want us to help with? You ask for "any thoughts" but then add a load of conditions on the responses. You don't want to be compared but add a lot of detail. You don't want to be put down by strangers but here you are making yourself ... (read in full...)
Everything he told me is a lie!
Q. I met a guy 7 months ago on a social networking site. He's younger than me by 5 years. We talk all the time, we have times where we lose contact. Which is usually when make plans to meet up and he flakes and leaves me hanging. Despite him doing ...
A. 4 August 2012: You haven't met him and he's your heart? Wow. You are putting a great deal of your emotions into a guy you haven't even laid eyes on. You have to resort to Googling him to "learn" about him....
Take about five huge steps back. Pause. Examine the ... (read in full...)
We are back together but he never mentions the breakup!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend almost 7 months ago thinking I would never get back together with him. However, slowly we started talking again, everyday, until one day I asked him "what are we?" and he said "we're together." I was sort of surprise...
A. 4 August 2012: Why did you break up with him? And why do you have trouble communicating with him?
You broke up with him once. You haven't ever talked about it. Why would you expect everything to be easy and okay?... (read in full...)
Why would my ex go behind his new wife's back to talk to me?
Q. ex bf's new wife told me she didn't want us talking to each other, she called me. But my ex said it's not a problem and he will talk behind her back. Why would he go against what she wants??...
A. 4 August 2012: Why are YOU still talking to HIM? I'd have cut contact for good. He made his choice. What's in the 'friendship' for YOU?
Dump him as a friend and stop having to worry about what some jerky guy's motivation might be. It's a pointless waste of your... (read in full...)
What do you do when you realize the relationship isn't going to work?
Q. What do you do when you realize that your relationship probably won't work? I love him so much but I fear he is too selfish to change because I have asked him to do more things with me, try something new, etc. I get really sad due to disappointment ...
A. 3 August 2012: Why would a grown man need "looking after"?... (read in full...)
They say size doesn't matter but it really does!
Q. Okay so me and my fiance have been together for over three years now and I have a slight issue. To put it bluntly, i have a below average penis size. Sex was great at the start of our relationship and still is in my opinion but I'm pretty sure that ...
A. 3 August 2012: Sweetie, if you think that plugging your penis into her vagina and thrusting in and out is the only thing is going to get her off, you have a LOT to learn about women and their sexual response. A lot.
Here are some links that may help you unde... (read in full...)
Was there really an IPod or was he just trying to make an excuse to talk to me?
Q. Two weeks after a guy I went on a couple of dates with decided we should stop talking because he thought I was going to be too high matenence he decided to text me out of the blue and ask if I left my iPod in his car when I've only been in his car ...
A. 3 August 2012: Did he ask you out when he texted you about the iPod? If he didn't, then it's likely it was just about the iPod.
Interesting that he told you that you were too high maintenance for him. I'd take that as a pretty firm 'not interested' and not spen... (read in full...)
Why would my ex go behind his new wife's back to talk to me?
Q. ex bf's new wife told me she didn't want us talking to each other, she called me. But my ex said it's not a problem and he will talk behind her back. Why would he go against what she wants??...
A. 3 August 2012: Because he's not all that concerned for her feelings on the topic of ex-girlfriends, it appears.
Isn't he your ex for a reason?... (read in full...)
I booked to see him 5 months in advance, and now he tells me he will be working most of the time!
Q. what would you do if after planning to meet up/ visit your boyfriend hoping that he will make the time to be with you for the two weeks off that u took from work, he tells you he will be working and that he has got the long weekend to be with ...
A. 3 August 2012: What would I do? I would cancel the trip and suggest that when he is able to come visit me, I would take the time off work to spend with him then.
What sort of job does he have that he can't take more time off to be with you, after you have trav... (read in full...)
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