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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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He is quite confusing, he never seems INTERESTED interested!
Q. I like a boy I met on a school outing last year. Call him Simon. I added him on fb and would chat to him about his/my school stuff (societies, prefects etc.). And coincidentally we both ended up as Head Prefects at our differemt schools. So ...
A. 25 October 2013: Hi Noli, I think your crush just isn't crushing back. It's too bad that this happens but it does not reflect on you or your excellent qualities in any way.
I would look back on this as a nice daydream but not of real life. It's just part of life... (read in full...)
Is it usual for guy 1 to ask about other dates?
Q. Hi, another internet dating question. If you are talking to more than one guy, is it usual for guy 1 to ask you if you've got any other dates lined up? Basically guy 1 chatted to me for ages, and when I asked to meey.him he ssid he would if he w...
A. 25 October 2013: If Guy 1 doesn't actually have the schedule to date the women he talks with on the dating site then he's a time-waster. Ignore him, and do NOT give him any more personal information.
If Guy 1 turns out to be Guy 2 waiting to catch you out on some... (read in full...)
Do I owe a family member because she allowed me to park my car at her place?
Q. I need advice so I bought my very first car by myself. I'm so happy. When I look at my car I just smile and just glow because I did it all working 2 part time jobs. Taking up to 4/6 buses a day. So I worked hard for my car. Now here's what I need ...
A. 25 October 2013: You might want to get your car checked out if it's been sitting for so long. Mice are notorious little nest builders and can make a nice little habitat in an air filter. Makes the car stink to high heaven. (Don't ask. *shudders*) And spiders and ... (read in full...)
Does FWB never lead to a relationship?
Q. If a man only wants friends with benefits, does that mean he will never want a relationship? I was wondering if it's possible for a man to change his mind and want a relationship with you?. I know a man who wanted friends with benefits with me...
A. 24 October 2013: If you don't want a FWB then don't get into one. I applaud your resolve in the past on this.
My read on this guy is that he is not pursuing you to be his girlfriend. He's pursuing you because he perceives that you have a soft spot for him and he's... (read in full...)
I'd like at least one photo of him!
Q. Okay guys here is my biggest challenge. My new bf does not want me to take photos of him or even with him. How can I convinc him or make a deal to be able to take maybe just 1? He said even his mom has almost no photos of him. The years books don't ...
A. 24 October 2013: So when you were at his parents' house, did you talk about this with his mom?... (read in full...)
She doesn't turn me on any more.
Q. Help! I don't find my girlfriend sexually attractive anymore. We've been dating about 1 and half years. We do get along really well, I do enjoy spending time with her. She's funny, weird, quirky, clever but I come to the point where I fantasize ...
A. 24 October 2013: My vote is that you break up with her so she can be with a man who does find her attractive and who wants to be with her. She's a lovely woman and deserves a man who is totally in love with her, don't you think?
Be brave. End it.... (read in full...)
We have a great friendship that I'm afraid to mess up by asking her out
Q. hey guys, this isnt the first time ive been here, so i hope to keep gettig good advice so, here 's the problem (im a sophmore now, and this story spans the last two ywars, so sorry for length.) Back when i was in eigth grade, i had asked a girl out...
A. 24 October 2013: In 5 years time, you will most likely not be friends with this girl. Does that change your approach or attitude at all?
I would say that it would be healthiest for you to ask her out and get a 'yes' or 'no' answer, so that you can focus your ener... (read in full...)
FWB guys says that I'm not intellectually compatible with him. What do I do?
Q. I am currently in FWB with my best friend for a year. We know each other for long and i love him a lot, he does too. But he is not making our relationship official as he says he is not into relationship stuff. He is not seeing anyone i.e. not ...
A. 24 October 2013: Anon "I fail to see what this guy has done wrong." OP "Suddently he said his friend is in FWB and he hate that kind of relationship and called names for the girls who agree for it."
"This guy" (the OP's FWB) has been in a FWB with his best fri... (read in full...)
I'd like at least one photo of him!
Q. Okay guys here is my biggest challenge. My new bf does not want me to take photos of him or even with him. How can I convinc him or make a deal to be able to take maybe just 1? He said even his mom has almost no photos of him. The years books don't ...
A. 23 October 2013: You know what? The more I think about this question, the more I think you are being played. This guy isn't an MMA fighter and he's not telling the truth. He doesn't want you to have pictures of him out there posted by you because he doesn't want his ... (read in full...)
I'd like at least one photo of him!
Q. Okay guys here is my biggest challenge. My new bf does not want me to take photos of him or even with him. How can I convinc him or make a deal to be able to take maybe just 1? He said even his mom has almost no photos of him. The years books don't ...
A. 23 October 2013: Is your guy the MMA wannabe fighter? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-he-care-about-me-hes-so-busy.html
Then he would want his images from now on to be cleared by him so nothing winds up on the internet and ruins his carefully crafted imag... (read in full...)
I'd like at least one photo of him!
Q. Okay guys here is my biggest challenge. My new bf does not want me to take photos of him or even with him. How can I convinc him or make a deal to be able to take maybe just 1? He said even his mom has almost no photos of him. The years books don't ...
A. 23 October 2013: Is he Amish or Mennonite? Taking pictures isn't a good thing, for them.
When we were building our house, I noticed some of the workers totally freaked out if I happened to pull out a camera near them. Turns out that they were ex-cons and I thin... (read in full...)
Question about on-line dating etiquette?
Q. Hi guys, so I'm new to online dating. I put up a profile yesterday and thus guy initiated a conversation, which then led to him giving me his number, and then we exchanged a few more messages outside of the site. He asked if I'm looking for frie...
A. 23 October 2013: Why wouldn't your online dating profile state that you are looking for a boyfriend? If there's not that option then maybe you need to change dating services.
The original guy who responded is not your boyfriend, you haven't even met him in real life... (read in full...)
My husband told me he was in love with another woman
Q. I do not know where to even go with this. My husband and his step-sister sat me down and informed me that they have been in love for over 30 years and that they would be together right now except they promised her dad that they would not. My ...
A. 23 October 2013: If this isn't a relationship ending conversation for you then I wonder what you are waiting to hear? They sat you down and told you your husband and your step-sister-in-law are in love and have been for 30 years and you still believe you are in a ... (read in full...)
Don't want to look desperate here ...
Q. A met a very nice man last weekend. I am not sure wether he approached me on purpose but we ended up talking for a bit. After he added me on FB, I thanked him for giving me a ride and offered to buy him a froyo (there is a famous froyo store down...
A. 23 October 2013: P.S. You could always do the trendy city fashion thing and wear some comfortable flat boots for the walk, put on a snuggly coat and cute scarf and enjoy the fresh air for the walk….. I think it's great to connect with the outdoors when the ... (read in full...)
It's like he's stringing the baby-momma along
Q. hey I am 21 years old who is dating a 40 years old man we been together for over 2years when we really got serious I found out he got a girl pregnant who is pretty young also I asked him about it and he lied, saying he didn't get anyone pregnant...
A. 23 October 2013: He's great at making babies and not so great at being honest.
I'd let this one go and determine that I deserve better treatment than the nonsense he's been doling out. Yuck, girl. He's just gross. Lies, calls names, lies some more.
Surely you dese... (read in full...)
Don't want to look desperate here ...
Q. A met a very nice man last weekend. I am not sure wether he approached me on purpose but we ended up talking for a bit. After he added me on FB, I thanked him for giving me a ride and offered to buy him a froyo (there is a famous froyo store down...
A. 23 October 2013: I can see why you wouldn't want to walk a mile in heels in the cold.
So your options are:
cancel the meet up altogether because you feel so uncomfortable about this.
tell him that you won't be able to walk the mile there and the mile back, i... (read in full...)
I am a very professional, very good looking woman in a high-powered job, and I have a lot going for me in my life....but I can't seem to stop cheating on my husband!
Q. I can't seem to stop cheating on my husband. I cheated on him before he and I were even married, and I've cheated on him after we were married, and am still cheating on him. I cheat on him with one of my current co-workers on occasion. The co...
A. 22 October 2013: An acquaintance at the gym went through a similar 'crisis.' She wound up with herpes and her marriage is totally on the rocks. Sad to watch.
This is such a no-brainer I wonder why you can't see it.... (read in full...)
When a guy says he wont get married as it's just a piece of paper and ring, then says maybe in 5 years, will he ever get married to me or am I fighting a losing battle?
Q. This is for the guys on here if you don't mind helping. When a guy says he wont get married as its just a piece of paper and ring, then says maybe in 5 years, will he ever get married to me or am I fighting a loosing battle? I love him so m...
A. 22 October 2013: Why would you ever consider moving in with a man without having had this discussion beforehand?
A good friend of mine dated a man for four years. He was a widower, she was happy to be his girlfriend, but somehow they never moved beyond the boyf... (read in full...)
Red flag or not? He has an inordinate number of 20-30 yo beautiful girls as friends on FB
Q. Is this a red flag or nothing at all? I found a college friend on Facebook. He's 57 and I'm 52. Looks as if by his profile he's a nice normal guy. Loves animals. Not a million pictures of himself. Nor a million 'friends'. Posts insight...
A. 22 October 2013: One of my friends is a personal trainer and has been a competitive figure body builder. She has a lot of friends who are into fitness and are in their 20s-30s. They pose in bikinis and lean toward the camera. They are trainers, body builders and gym ... (read in full...)
My ex-bf's girlfriend walks around in her underwear around me and my boyfriend?
Q. So I need some advice on what to do. I'm going to try and keep this short. I met this guy, we'll call him joe. Met him, dated a month. When he kept pressuring me for sex I still said no, he got tired of waiting for me and broke up. Fast forward 2 ...
A. 22 October 2013: I'm confused. Is Joe the same guy as Adam?... (read in full...)
I'm at a breaking point because of his rejections!
Q. I know this question gets asked alot but I'm still confused about my situation. I'm head over heels in love with my boyfriend of over a year so was delighted when he asked me to move in with him recently. He's so caring and sweet to me he's the o...
A. 22 October 2013: I'd skip the cooking and cleaning bit and certainly the moving in bit. I'd also stop trying to force a dead horse to try to have sex (it's a metaphor, people).
I'd let him know, outside the bedroom, that there are aspects of your relationship that... (read in full...)
Would it be awkward, creepy, or inappropriate to message my nurse out of the blue?
Q. Recently I have been to a clinic to be seen by a doctor. The nurse that waited on me prior to the doctor was very cute and friendly. I really wanted to try and make some kind of connection with her but it did not seem appropriate at the time while ...
A. 22 October 2013: I have to vote for a bit creepy too. Your only contact was her providing nursing care in preparing for the appointment with her employer. She wasn't actually 'waiting on' you, she was practicing her profession.
You had to read her name off her name... (read in full...)
Why would he have a condom?
Q. So my boyfriend of 11 months and I live together friday he had to go a thing for work for health insurance or something him and his cobworker car pooled together she's a girl but she's from Africa . Any way he had to go to another city which is ...
A. 22 October 2013: The OP has had 2 days of comments now on this thread. Does she have anything to say to all the aunts who took time to answer her question? Now would be a good time. :) If the other aunts who are commenting on this thread would like to discuss the ... (read in full...)
I love men, but don't at the same time. Can anyone help with these feelings I feel?
Q. I dont know if im a lesbian or not. Or bisexual. I'm totally lost. I like a man right now, but he treats me so crappy. I have been with women before as a teenager, and dated them, even cried over one. But I thought it was for sure a phase and...
A. 21 October 2013: If the thought of having sex with a woman grosses you out, I doubt you are a lesbian or bisexual.
Maybe your confusion stems from the way they treat you, the man being a jerk and the woman being a sweetheart.
When you say you love men but don't at... (read in full...)
What kind of costumes or looks would you recommend? Because the manager's demands seem unreasonable.
Q. I'm a restaurant server and our manager just sent out a ridiculous memo. We have to wear costumes for the week of Halloween or we do not get our tips. I feel this is unethical and illegal. I also learned that if we order through the catalog ...
A. 21 October 2013: Look like old men, a la Tim Conway's great character on The Carol Burnett Show. Buy some cheap suits and hats at a thrift store like Goodwill, paint on some wrinkles and facial hair, wear old black shoes and shuffle around. Think baggy and saggy, ... (read in full...)
Is it rude to not acknowledge a thank you?
Q. If you recieve a gift for a birthday from someone. Is it rude not to say thank you? A did it rude not to respond to the thank you....even if you don't really like the person? My son's birthday, and he got a gift from his grandparents (on...
A. 21 October 2013: Based on the history of this family, you are in a whole new area of etiquette and minding manners. How does one keep in contact with the parents of a violent and arrested partner? It's not easy, obviously.
I'm certain that you will be able to find... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is going mad because he's convinced I'm cheating on him!
Q. Hi my boyfriends thinks im cheating on him i would never do that ! he keeps on recording me and then he says he can hear me with men, i think he is going mad because i no i have never done anythink and he is sure i am i dont no how to make him ...
A. 21 October 2013: The reason you don't know how to make him see that he's wrong is….
he doesn't care if you are right or not. He just wants to be right, even if that means hurting you.
He's an abuser. Sorry.
He's recording you, that's just so wrong and making stuff... (read in full...)
I've developed a crush on my dentist!
Q. I feel really pathetic writing this as I'm in my mid 30's, engaged and have developed a huge crush on my dentist! Please nobody judge as I'm not going to do anything but I do need advice. I have had to have some work done on my teeth which...
A. 21 October 2013: You're in your 30s and engaged. Maybe this crush is a sign that you aren't really ready to get married, you're allowing yourself to succumb to a crush because you fear getting married.
Maybe you're unconsciously trying to sabotage your enga... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my standoffish sisters-in-law?
Q. My two sister in laws( the wives of my husbands brothers) always exclude me from hanging out with them, whether it be they're going out on family outings with their kids or if they're going out as adults. While they are out they'll both post a bunch ...
A. 20 October 2013: Okay, stop looking at their statuses on FB or whatever social media you use. It's just not worth it, you are missing nothing if you just ignore that, okay?
Post pictures of yourself having a great time, if you have to fake it, fake it!
How I deal w... (read in full...)
He said the message on his phone was a trap to see if I was snooping
Q. Hi im in a relationship with an aries, I saw on his phone msgs to another woman saying he had feelings for her apparently she was in spain, I asked him about this as I was packing to leave, things got heated n he said he didnt want me to leave, we ...
A. 20 October 2013: So he says he's setting traps and you are sneaking looks at his phone? You live together?
I don't know, in my house, we have access to each other's phones and computers and whatnot. Not that we have had problems about that before, just because, well... (read in full...)
Is it rude to not acknowledge a thank you?
Q. If you recieve a gift for a birthday from someone. Is it rude not to say thank you? A did it rude not to respond to the thank you....even if you don't really like the person? My son's birthday, and he got a gift from his grandparents (on...
A. 20 October 2013: How old is your son? He should be signing the 'thank you' note if he can write his name, you can write the rest. A texted 'thank you"from you isn't really a proper acknowledgement to the gift givers.
As CindyCares says, a thank you note doesn't requ... (read in full...)
How does one turn their emotions off?
Q. How do people keep from letting their heartache effect them? Better yet, how do people NOT have heartache? I know alot of scientist types... and I love their logic and how organized they are compared to me, but the thing I envy the most is how ...
A. 19 October 2013: You feel pain for a while and then, it passes. Same thing with happiness, there are times when you are happy and then, it passes. If you are intentionally grinding in the pain, wallowing and revisiting the same feelings over and over again, then you ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting? My boyfriend wants to add his boss' girlfriend on facebook.
Q. I need some advice so I don't turn this into an argument between my bf and I. We've been together for 3 years. We're both in our early 30's. We don't live together but do spend weekends together and any days during the week if we can find time ...
A. 19 October 2013: I think there are settings in facebook that let you determine how much someone can see and interact with you.
That being said, if she can add him, why can't you add her? You've met her and since she's decided to get social with your boyfriend by a... (read in full...)
What's a girl to do? No job with a boyfriend and his two kids.
Q. I have been in a 2 year relationship. Three months after becoming an official couple my bf found out his ex was 7 months pregnant 7 months since they had broken up. He was pretty sure it was not his child and he says his ex had not spoken to him ...
A. 19 October 2013: Before he pays child support for the new claimant on his money he should get a DNA test to find out if he is the father.
If he is the father to these children then he will need to find a way to contribute financially. Sorry if he can't stick in a jo... (read in full...)
Very devastated that my boyfriend looked at gay porn.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and we live together. I love him and trust him. Though, I noticed our computer has been running slow. I did an antivirus run and I found a virus on the computer. I wondered where it came from. So, I ...
A. 19 October 2013: "Babe, I had to run a virus checker on our computer. It showed that someone using this computer is looking at gay porn. I know it's not me. Which would mean that you are the one looking at gay porn, unless there is someone sneaking in and using our ... (read in full...)
Was this some sort of revenge for breaking up?
Q. Yesterday an ex-lover sent me a text message and I simply replied. Then he called me and we began to have a conversation about our past. My ex finally gave me a chance to explain my side of the story about how we ended up going our separate ways. I ...
A. 19 October 2013: Why did he bother you? Because he needed some sex and some lovely life-affirming drama!... (read in full...)
He ended it, he text again.. Can anyone tell me what is happening here?
Q. I met this guy 6 weeks ago while I was on a hen. Im from Ireland hes from London. We totally clicked!! Anyway, long story short we spoke everyday for 4 weeks and then he came to stay with me for a weekend. It was amazing, until the Saturday night I ...
A. 18 October 2013: So much drama in just 6 weeks, and you are tormented and confused. I would save my money and not go visit him, if you are this conflicted and uncertain. If you manage to stay sober and he decides to come visit again, then maybe you can start ... (read in full...)
Can guys look past this hair I have?
Q. I have a strange question. I am a girl and have hair in irregular sopts on my body (lower back, butt, and stomach). Ive went to the doctor and she said that there is no was to get rid of all of it. Im taking birth controll hoping that will help with ...
A. 18 October 2013: Of course there are guys who are fine with hair there. They have hair there themselves! So relax, use wax if you want to wear a bathing suit and stop worrying about it for now. Cross the hair removal bridge when you get into a relationship, okay? :)... (read in full...)
Before this relationship I was confident and secure
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year now. She has had a lot of unhealthy tendencies that have reared their head in our relationship since I am her first significant relationship and she is realizing some of her unhealthy behavior patterns. ...
A. 18 October 2013: She wrecked her car and is now relying on you to be her driver? How did that happen? Is her car being fixed or is this an ongoing issue now? Does she not have access to a rental car? When I was her age, I had car issues and had to rent a car for a ... (read in full...)
Is this classed as cheating..has he learned his lesson?
Q. Hi I need some peoples advice on a situation because I feel myself going crazy! I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years, all was going great up until summer of last year... I noticed he started acting really strange at the end of s...
A. 18 October 2013: Yes, giving a guy in a bathroom a wank and/or allowing a guy in a bathroom to give you a wank is cheating. Who would argue differently?
And it does seem odd that a 3 second encounter would wind up with him so fearful of HIV and behaving so oddl... (read in full...)
I get intimate with guys too soon
Q. I have a tendency to meet a guy and get into his bed (not for sex but to mess around nude) by the second or third date. Usually not intentionally. Its like I flirt and want to kiss and stop there but guy wants more, I pity them and give in. For ...
A. 18 October 2013: Cool doesn't mean go out get drunk and flash men. That's attention-seeking behavior. Cool doesn't mean go out get drunk and give in. You need other things to do.
Here's a start: http://www.aauae.net
Here's a charity meet up: http://w... (read in full...)
Was this some sort of revenge for breaking up?
Q. Yesterday an ex-lover sent me a text message and I simply replied. Then he called me and we began to have a conversation about our past. My ex finally gave me a chance to explain my side of the story about how we ended up going our separate ways. I ...
A. 18 October 2013: Sorry but the love of your life IS a cheater and user and a manipulator. He knew he was in a relationship with another woman, he just needed some sex and you were alas, receptive.
Cut him off, go no contact and start a real mourning process for this... (read in full...)
I get intimate with guys too soon
Q. I have a tendency to meet a guy and get into his bed (not for sex but to mess around nude) by the second or third date. Usually not intentionally. Its like I flirt and want to kiss and stop there but guy wants more, I pity them and give in. For ...
A. 18 October 2013: The only thing in town that is open is clubs? No schools? No art studios? No food pantries or food banks or hospitals or animal shelters or parks or gyms or arts centers or science centers or United Way charities or volunteer centers? Just clubs?
W... (read in full...)
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