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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Recently I have been to a clinic to be seen by a doctor. The nurse that waited on me prior to the doctor was very cute and friendly. I really wanted to try and make some kind of connection with her but it did not seem appropriate at the time while she was taking my blood pressure, etc. and doing her job. Is there anyway to try and introduce myself or actually meet her besides scheduling a doctor's appointment that I do not need? Also, trying to do so at her workplace does not seem appropriate and entirely unprofessional. I did notice her name tag and see that she is on facebook, but would it be awkward, creepy, or inappropriate to message her out of the blue? Any help in this matter would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (22 October 2013):
 I agree with CMMP. People develop crushes on caregivers INCREDIBLY often. It doesn't make the feelings less real exactly, but it does mean she probably deals with it a lot and it's pretty unlikely those feelings are reciprocated. At this point I'd just let this one go. It would definitely be creepy to message her on facebook (she will think you are stalking) and the chances she will say yes seem pretty slim.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 October 2013):
 I have to vote for a bit creepy too. Your only contact was her providing nursing care in preparing for the appointment with her employer. She wasn't actually 'waiting on' you, she was practicing her profession.
You had to read her name off her name tag and then googled her. You couldn't actually introduce yourself. She was very cute, that's nice but doesn't actually mean anything other than you think she's very cute. She was friendly, I think that's a good thing to make people feel comfortable at the doctor's office.
You are in your mid to late 20s, do you think other people would consider you as socially awkward? Are you feeling desperate or socially isolated and don't know how to read people and their feelings toward you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2013): Personally, I think it sounds a bit creepy. I think someone who has to be so "up-close and personal" in a "professional" way; can't maintain the professional distance and objectivity that may be required between patient and healthcare-provider.Some nurses don't like being hit-on by patients. It happens all the time. Many hospitals and doctor's offices have professional ethics policies; because patients can often be litigious when they find certain behavior inappropriate. She has no way of knowing how you'll take it, if you're rejected; so even if she was attracted, she'd be taking a risk. You'd be putting her back to the wall. She was being nice; because that's proper "bed-side manner" required toward all patients. Unless of course, she didn't ask you to cough, when she told you to turn your head. Or otherwise, asked you your marital status in no relation to your health.There are many ways to meet women. Try ways that won't jeopardize their employment, or put them on the spot.She was doing your check-up, not checking you out. Let it slide. My sister is a nurse-practitioner, and dodges inappropriate comments and advances from male patients a lot. If I didn't know that, I'd encourage you like the others.
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reader, llifton +, writes (21 October 2013):
 it would only be creepy and inappropriate to message her on facebook if she doesn't have an interest in you. lol. in other words, if she finds you attractive then no, she won't find it creepy. she will be flattered. but if she doesn't find you attractive, she will certainly consider you creepy.
there's only one way to find out which category you fall into. why not message her? see what happens.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (21 October 2013):
It's very, VERY common for people to develop a crush on their nurse or doctor. So she's probably used to it and would likely treat you like a little kid with a crush... "Ahhh, that's cute, but I don't date patients."
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2013): I suppose it depends on if she has given any signs of interest to you. I have had nurses doing that. E.g. I was in hospital for a procedure and a nurse who was very friendly to me, came in to my room(single bed) at about 12 midnight, asking if there anything she could do for me. Or another nurse at another time showing me how to put on sleep study belts, kept hugging me in the process, when others told me she merely told them to put it on themselves.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (21 October 2013):
 Yeah I'd resist going further if I were you, it is a bit creepy and she may already be in a relationship.
You might get lucky and bump into her outside work and maybe then you can say 'hello' but I'd avoid trying to befriend her via her work...she could even lose her job.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (21 October 2013):
 I would find it creepy if a guy found me the way you've been keeping tabs on her.
I would just leave it because you will probably come across creepy... and her starting any type of relationship with you ( a patient ) would be highly unprofessional.
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