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writes:So I need some advice on what to do. I'm going to try and keep this short. I met this guy, we'll call him joe. Met him, dated a month. When he kept pressuring me for sex I still said no, he got tired of waiting for me and broke up. Fast forward 2 months. One of his friends approached me and we started talking, he knew my ex was a jerk. Fast forward 6 months we are now dating. I couldn't be happier.Well adam moved in with my current bf and another guy they know. Things are fine, nothings weird at all. Adam has a gf. My issue is she is very jealous of me. Even though I haven't even talked to adam, no desire to get back with him etc. Don't flirt, nothing! She however when I'm at their place will walk around in her cheeky underwear. She has done it twice now. Once walking right past my bf to use the bathroom. I think its really disrespectful. I don't walk around with no shirt on showing my self off. How do I handle this? I was thinking maybe give her a taste of her own medicine and wear a sheer top with a really low neckline. She has a great butt but no boobs. I have big boobs and an okay butt lol. So I get what she's trying to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2013): This girl is nothing more than an attention seeker.I agree with you, it is totally unacceptable to be doing this, whether it's 'not a big deal' to her or not. I sometimes like walking around my house in my underwear when it's just me and my partner there. But NEVER would I do that around his friends let alone one of there girlfriends. It is disrespectful. I had a friend like this once. She would always walk around in her underwear or naked, flirt embarrassingly with every guy she met, and even started making her way round the males in our group of friends. But did anyone respect her? Did any of these males want to be in a relationship with her - no?She is just embarrassing herself, but I would just let her get on with it. Telling her you think it's unacceptable will only make her think your jealous of her (she probably thinks this of everyone anyway). Like other people have said - she will eventually get over herself.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 October 2013):
 I wouldn’t even call Joe an ex. I’d call him an asshole you attempted to date. You dated ONE MONTH and he PRESSURED you for sex cause that was all he wanted.
So now eight months past and you are dating a friend of this jerk Joe.
I’m assuming Joe is really ADAM….
Now you seem to think that Adam/joe’s GF is jealous of you and that’s why she wanders around in her undies…. The problem is maybe she is really comfy walking around in her undies and does not care what others think.
YOU think it’s disrespectful but maybe it’s SOP (standard operating procedure) for her. Bodies and nudity for some folks are not that big a deal. It’s not for me. AND I don’t see how you can say for sure what she is doing based on what you have written… I think YOU are jealous of her butt…
OTOH cheekies make my tush look pretty good too…
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 October 2013):
 I'm confused. Is Joe the same guy as Adam?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 October 2013):
 What point would you make if you did that? That you are ready to wrestle in the gutter with her?
IGNORE her and KEEP ignoring her. Sooner or later the games stop being fun for her. Right now I'm BETTING she knows she is getting a raise out of you, and that is her petty fun.
If you don't play her games, guess what? She will end up looking stupid and desperate....
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 October 2013):
 Dont lower yourself and play immature games. Btw, what did Joe have to do with any of this? How about acting like an adult and just tell her you are bothered by the nudity, and if she can put more clothes on when you are visiting? By the way she's trying to impress YOU, not your boyfriend.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (22 October 2013):
 Wild Sweet Orange,
The answer to your question is in your post. You think it is really disrespectful. You have zero interest in Adam or Joe. So you will not be needing to steal attention from them by wearing revealing clothing. You have all the attention you need from your own boyfriend. You will be confident and strong and handle this by ignoring it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2013): Don't even go there. That will solve nothing. But what should happen is the girls' boyfriend should speak up and say when there is company in the house, please dress appropriately. Or your boyfriend could say when she is walking by like that, for cripes sake, put some pants on!
She is trying to get attention, that's very obvious because anyone with some class would not be wondering around in there underwear at their boyfriend's house where multiple guys live. The guys are probably enjoying the free show, but someone needs to step up and set some boundaries of respect and not have it be an uncomfortable situation for anyone or everyone.
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