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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Why are dumpers allowed to gloat and be vindictive?
Q. I got dumped by a complete jerk over a year ago. He dumped me by text because he "wanted to be single". I never cheated or anything. He treated me bad so I was glad. I never contacted him ever again and deleted his number. Months and months later he...
A. 16 October 2013: Yes, how is the pregnancy? And what did your fiance/boyfriend suggest you do to deal with the ex anyway? It would seem to me to be a good thing to get his support with this.
... (read in full...)
Should I wait or call for an answer? Are we or aren't we broken up?
Q. After my non-acceptance or being able to make sense of the sexy, lets see where this will lead communication between my boyfriend and his old colleague... he still has not contacted me. NOR has he broken up officially. Is his silence an indicati...
A. 9 October 2013: Hey, they're out there, I know.
Maybe your radar needs some adjusting, if you keep ending up with the jerks. Something to consider seeing a therapist about?
Best wishes as you go through the healing process.... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 9 October 2013: You're being appreciated. Maybe you aren't comfortable with your body and being fully exposed, it's a pretty vulnerable place. My advice is to go to bed only with a man you know well and trust, that may help avert that feeling.... (read in full...)
I have yellow nails from my parent's smoking!
Q. Hi. Both my parents smoke (roughly 5-a-day each). They smoke outside or in the porch with the door open. Recently I have noticed I hav been getting yellow nails no one else has at home because I have the longest nails. I don't smoke! What can I...
A. 9 October 2013: I found this at prevention.com:
Yellow Nails
The clue: As the name suggests, your nails will have a subtle or dramatic yellow tinge.
What it means: It could be a number of things, from nail fungus, to psoriasis, to stains from smoking. On a li... (read in full...)
Should I try to start something with a crush that works at my school?
Q. I'm 17 and in year 13 at school, I've had a crush on a member of staff that works at the school, however he's not my teacher, he just works in the school as a social helper, he's about 22 I think and we do talk quite a lot. I'm not sure on what to ...
A. 8 October 2013: So is this his career or just a volunteer job?... (read in full...)
Should I try to start something with a crush that works at my school?
Q. I'm 17 and in year 13 at school, I've had a crush on a member of staff that works at the school, however he's not my teacher, he just works in the school as a social helper, he's about 22 I think and we do talk quite a lot. I'm not sure on what to ...
A. 8 October 2013: I don't know what a 'social helper' is in a UK school? Can the OP or someone enlighten me?... (read in full...)
I want a career that I enjoy but doesn't require years of schooling
Q. I am currentlly attending college for radioailgy. I love the medical field but I really hate science and math so im considering changing my major. I also love criminal justice, or something in the psychology field, but Im really stumped, I dont know ...
A. 8 October 2013: And by B.S. I mean Bachelor of Science degree, lol!
... (read in full...)
Should I wait or call for an answer? Are we or aren't we broken up?
Q. After my non-acceptance or being able to make sense of the sexy, lets see where this will lead communication between my boyfriend and his old colleague... he still has not contacted me. NOR has he broken up officially. Is his silence an indicati...
A. 8 October 2013: Reading your followup, I would proceed on the assumption that you are broken up, because he knows he's been caught having an affair. An emotional affair, perhaps, but still.
He said he valued honesty and would never reject you because that is what... (read in full...)
Cyber sex gone wrong!!
Q. dear users recently i made the stupid mistake of delving into the cyber sex cam world on skype. i had been talking to this girl for a while and it kind of got to what youd call online friends with benefits we ended up camming, and im sure yo...
A. 8 October 2013: Sounds like blackmail to me, contact police and file a report.
Report her to the site she's using to trap guys like you; she's probably a repeat offender and maybe they can take some steps to block her.
Not sure what you can do beyond those tw... (read in full...)
Thoughts on writing to your ex?
Q. Is it a good idea to write a letter to your ex? I've been doing the no contact rule, but it has been really hard. I've been thinking about writing a letter to let her know how I feel and how much I am hurting. Will I be making a fool of myself by ...
A. 8 October 2013: This is what friends are for, go vent to them. I think you think letting your ex know how badly you are hurting is going to make her feel bad too. She probably doesn't feel great about the end of the relationship either. What benefit is telling her ... (read in full...)
I want a career that I enjoy but doesn't require years of schooling
Q. I am currentlly attending college for radioailgy. I love the medical field but I really hate science and math so im considering changing my major. I also love criminal justice, or something in the psychology field, but Im really stumped, I dont know ...
A. 8 October 2013: I didn't realize radiology was a B.S. option, are you at a technical institute studying to be a radiology technician?
Go buy a copy of this book: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_Color_is_Your_Parachute It's for people who are thinking about thei... (read in full...)
We can't enjoy sex together because we both want to have the same role!
Q. Hi all, As I am now starting a new thing with this handsome blond guy with beautiful deep blue eyes, I am trying to be careful not to get hurt like before. He is really kind and he already showing he embraced the idea of being with me. As nothing ...
A. 8 October 2013: So you are both tops and you cannot bottom at all, despite your discussion with him which suggested you would take turns. It sounds as though he's not willing to become the bottom, which is what you are asking him to do, as it goes against your ... (read in full...)
How to give a married man the brush off without causing offence?
Q. To keep it brief, a married man who works in the same field as me has been flirting and inappropriate since an event a few months ago. I have no intention of doing anything untoward and keep steering things back to a professorial level in our ...
A. 8 October 2013: The repercussions for him are he's shown up to be a big ol' cheater! Your repercussions are you show integrity and resolve.
... (read in full...)
Why are dumpers allowed to gloat and be vindictive?
Q. I got dumped by a complete jerk over a year ago. He dumped me by text because he "wanted to be single". I never cheated or anything. He treated me bad so I was glad. I never contacted him ever again and deleted his number. Months and months later he...
A. 8 October 2013: What do you think should happen? They get a fine? They go to prison? They are forced to feel miserable for x amount of time?
The best revenge is to live your life and be happy. Don't live in the past, that's just depressing.
How's the pregnanc... (read in full...)
I don't want to live together without a commitment, but he has a deadline to buy a place
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We are both 29 year old. We both currently live with family in order to save up money as well. He is actually looking to purchase a home within the next year or so due to certain ...
A. 8 October 2013: Oh, one more point. HIS self-imposed financial deadlines should not determine the course of your life, without your full and consenting participation. In other words, just because he wants to do something doesn't mean you have to move in with him ... (read in full...)
I don't want to live together without a commitment, but he has a deadline to buy a place
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We are both 29 year old. We both currently live with family in order to save up money as well. He is actually looking to purchase a home within the next year or so due to certain ...
A. 8 October 2013: "He mentioned one time that he kind of figured when he got the house that I would be coming with him."
He's buying a house for himself at this point. He hasn't actually asked you to make the move in commitment nor has he asked you to marry him. It d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dad fancies me and it makes me extremely uncomfortable!
Q. I first met my boyfriend's dad when i was 14, i didn't give much attention to him, but he stared at me even then but not as much when i turned 15.. he tries to touch my shoulder a lot and even my breast, he constantly stares at my ass and flirts w...
A. 8 October 2013: Tell your parents! Predators like this rely on your silence. If you speak up, you will protect yourself and other girls as well.
Tell your parents.... (read in full...)
I have yellow nails from my parent's smoking!
Q. Hi. Both my parents smoke (roughly 5-a-day each). They smoke outside or in the porch with the door open. Recently I have noticed I hav been getting yellow nails no one else has at home because I have the longest nails. I don't smoke! What can I...
A. 8 October 2013: It you are putting on and removing nail polish all the time because if the school policy, then the yellowing is likely the remnants of your nail polish.
If you are not doing that, see the doctor! ... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I would date someone with HIV if I really cared about them?
Q. Is it bad that I would date someone with HIV if I really cared about them? Am I stupid for this? I am HIV-. Thanks in advance....
A. 8 October 2013: Safe sex. Manage your herpes. Make sure he's being monitored. You are a human, not the list of the viruses in your life.
Best wishes to you.... (read in full...)
Losing attachement to boyfriemd but I love him... what next?
Q. I really do love and care for my boyfriend. However, I'm beginning to question his... Dedication. He is quite lazy when it comes to building our relationship. I'm always wanting to hang out and talk (he lives about 2 hrs away)... He'd rather surf ...
A. 8 October 2013: I don't think it'll get better unless he figures out he has to do some of the "work" in the relationship. Maybe you are just a bit too far to see regularly?
I'd let him know that you expect him to step up and show he's willing to put in as much time... (read in full...)
Should I go to homecoming without a date?
Q. I've been single for a long time and now it's my senior year at homecoming should I go even if I don't have a date ?...
A. 8 October 2013: I think you should, if you want to, and you won't feel awful that you don't have a date. Go with a group of friends and have fun!... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I would date someone with HIV if I really cared about them?
Q. Is it bad that I would date someone with HIV if I really cared about them? Am I stupid for this? I am HIV-. Thanks in advance....
A. 8 October 2013: Are you having unprotected sex with this person? Then yes, it's stupid.
Is the person with HIV using IV drugs? That would be a problem.
Is this person under the care of an HIV specialist and is taking meds appropriate to his condition? That wou... (read in full...)
How to give a married man the brush off without causing offence?
Q. To keep it brief, a married man who works in the same field as me has been flirting and inappropriate since an event a few months ago. I have no intention of doing anything untoward and keep steering things back to a professorial level in our ...
A. 8 October 2013: What about YOUR pride?
Does your opinion not matter? Does your comfort not matter?
Guys like this know they deserve to be swatted down. I expect he's waiting for you to do it, and when you do, it'll be no big deal. They try it on with lots of women... (read in full...)
My gf wants to mantain friendship with her ex and her former sex buddy
Q. I have what it's called Retrograde Jealousy (form of OCD) My gf (which I love a lot) has a strange past with a relationship (sex buddy) with a best friend (man) and after that a long relationship with a girl (which was the only one that she had - sh...
A. 7 October 2013: Hi drmarciano, it sounds as though you are asking for help in controlling your problematic thought processes? Have you considered seeing a qualified therapist who can give you advice specific to your form of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder)?
Y... (read in full...)
How to give a married man the brush off without causing offence?
Q. To keep it brief, a married man who works in the same field as me has been flirting and inappropriate since an event a few months ago. I have no intention of doing anything untoward and keep steering things back to a professorial level in our ...
A. 7 October 2013: "John, what on earth are you saying? I'm sorry if there was any misunderstanding on your part but there will be nothing but a professional relationship here. I don't mess around with married men." "John, I'm utterly floored that you took a bit of l... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 7 October 2013: Men are visually stimulated, which means they like to look. It fires the pleasure centers in their brain. It's basic physiology for them. I don't wonder why at all. They are not judging when they look, they are appreciating and enjoying and are ... (read in full...)
Do I put up with the pain? See a Dr? Need advice on how to stop sex hurting so much
Q. Hello just needed some sexual health advice My ex boyfriend and I have just got back together. Completely in love with him and we have tried sex in the past but never been able to do it properly as it hurts me too much. I really want to do it...
A. 7 October 2013: Have you seen a doctor about this pain? Pain during intercourse is not normal and should be discussed with your doctor, preferably your gynecologist.... (read in full...)
Breast fantasy gone wrong.
Q. Hello friends, i and my boyfriend had good relationship, he used to fulfill my needs and i also fulfill his needs, our sexual relation was also fine, now i started have milk in my breast, he used to fondle with my breast l**k, s**k, etc. befo...
A. 7 October 2013: Gamila, I see you may have a lactation fetish: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-feed-neighbors-baby-i-am-lactating.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husnband-sucks-my-breasts-in-his-sleep.html
You also went from having a boyfrien... (read in full...)
Breast fantasy gone wrong.
Q. Hello friends, i and my boyfriend had good relationship, he used to fulfill my needs and i also fulfill his needs, our sexual relation was also fine, now i started have milk in my breast, he used to fondle with my breast l**k, s**k, etc. befo...
A. 7 October 2013: I looked at your symptoms on webmd. It said "When mastitis occurs in women who are not nursing, it may be a rare form of breast cancer."
Go see your doctor again for a full work up. ... (read in full...)
He's in jail now. When he gets out do I tell him I was a prostitute and other things about my past?
Q. So I'm talking to a man, who is currently in prison for a charge he caught at 17, for burglary. He gets out in 12 days, and I plan on spending time with him. We write all the time and I have met him. My problem is, he wants to know me, like rea...
A. 5 October 2013: And to go on that last post from you, I guess you could say that you are also well-behaved and don't cause problems. You have been checked and at the moment have no detectable diseases.
You also have fought for getting your child back, found a job,... (read in full...)
He's in jail now. When he gets out do I tell him I was a prostitute and other things about my past?
Q. So I'm talking to a man, who is currently in prison for a charge he caught at 17, for burglary. He gets out in 12 days, and I plan on spending time with him. We write all the time and I have met him. My problem is, he wants to know me, like rea...
A. 5 October 2013: You wrote him one day because…..
your friends said he was well-behaved and didn't cause problems?
Why does that sound like an ad for a rescue dog?
Why did you choose to write to him and want to start a relationship with him?
... (read in full...)
He's in jail now. When he gets out do I tell him I was a prostitute and other things about my past?
Q. So I'm talking to a man, who is currently in prison for a charge he caught at 17, for burglary. He gets out in 12 days, and I plan on spending time with him. We write all the time and I have met him. My problem is, he wants to know me, like rea...
A. 5 October 2013: How did you meet him, by the way?... (read in full...)
He's in jail now. When he gets out do I tell him I was a prostitute and other things about my past?
Q. So I'm talking to a man, who is currently in prison for a charge he caught at 17, for burglary. He gets out in 12 days, and I plan on spending time with him. We write all the time and I have met him. My problem is, he wants to know me, like rea...
A. 5 October 2013: I think being honest and brave is the best way to be.
If he can't deal with your reality then he's not the guy for you. He's not exactly a poster child for "perfect human being."
You had a rough start. You had a rough middle. Are you back in contr... (read in full...)
I have crushes on 2 friends!
Q. OK, I have 2 really big crushes. Lets call them Rachel and Sarah. I’m back in college after over 10 years and find myself fallen for 2 of my classmates both in separate classes. Today as I’m in the cafeteria I find them both sitting together ...
A. 3 October 2013: Ask Rachel out and ask Sarah out. Going on a date doesn't mean you are getting married or have committed yourself to someone to the exclusion of all others. It just means you are going on a date.
Are Rachel or Sarah very young?... (read in full...)
Smiling thing happening. Should I approach him and ask him to be friends? Or will that be going too far?
Q. Dear cupid, there is this guy who lives down my street, i like him. For sometime now, he's been giving me this kind of look that makes me thinks he likes me and wants to be friends with me. Anytime he sees me, he smiles at me and i dont smile ba...
A. 3 October 2013: I agree with Starlights. Smile back. Do you have any mutual friends? Let them know that you are hoping he will speak with you.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle this relationship with a mooching friend!
Q. There's this mooch of a friend I had a while back which I recently unfriended on Facebook , but haven't met her since. She was basically taking advantage of my generous and "patient" nature. I was rather passive to be honest and when mistreated, ...
A. 3 October 2013: Is this the pooping friend?
Tula, girl, you just need to say "no." And hit the delete button.
Ignore the translation question.
"Can't go to the art exhibit. Sorry!"
"No, I'm not available."
"Oh darn, my toilet has mysteriously blown up. I... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend still want to be friends with his ex...and could he still have feelings for her?
Q. Dear cupid, My boyfriend has told me that the break up with his ex girlfriend who cheated still hurts him a lot. (It's been a year since they broke up). Could this mean he's still not over his ex? or is it just that he's not over the hurt it caused ...
A. 3 October 2013: What does he say when you ask him why he's trying to stay in contact with her?
And why are you in a relationship with a man you don't trust fully?
The pain presumably should have diminished with time and your tender ministrations….
Is the contact ... (read in full...)
Suffering erectile dysfunction. Would it be wrong to encourage my wife to take lovers?
Q. I become unable to perform with a full erection. My wife thinks that I no longer want her and am gay or at least bi-sexual.I get very excited thinking about and talking about her having a sexual encounter with another man. She is using topical ...
A. 3 October 2013: I become unable to perform with a full erection.
-Have you seen a doctor about this? Remember that women do not require intercourse to reach orgasm. Do you feel intimate with your wife? Do you have other medical issues that leave your fingers and ... (read in full...)
Any advice on regaining some sort of power in a casual relationship?
Q. Hi, I find myself in a bad situation, the classic casual hook up turned messy. I am seeing a younger man casually (I didnt think there was a future in it because of the age difference) and now I am having the usual problems associated with ...
A. 1 October 2013: Does the word "power" mean that you have the upper hand and that he conforms to your wishes?
Here's what I was told at a young age. The one who can walk away without looking back is the one with the power.
Walk away, if he tries to follow you, the... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 1 October 2013: A whole lot of lying seems to be going on. Again, assuming this is a 19 year old trembling shy introverted girl who has cheated on her boyfriend for 10 months, describing his lame sex acts to an online boyfriend she has never met in real life. She ... (read in full...)
A friend dropped off the grid. I value privacy too highly to charge in uninvited.
Q. I am in my mid 30s and is a secret introvert. However, as the coach at a popular UK University Sports Society, I end up going out most nights. I have a rule, Sundays are mine. Mine alone. Without it, I would be lost and be unable to cope with ...
A. 1 October 2013: If you are concerned about a friend's well-being then do not hesitate to find out where she is by contacting her friends and relatives.
It's okay to do that in cases of concern like the one you describe.
... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 1 October 2013: So you've lied to your brother. Nice.... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 1 October 2013: Ah, so your older brother is aware of katie and the situation? If not, then it's time to clue him in.
You really are avoiding the pertinent questions, aren't you? ... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: Okay, do let us know how it all plays out.
Any reason you need to wait a few months? Why not go ahead and buy a ticket now? I've heard the best time to buy is Tuesday evening or Wednesday because that's when the ticket prices drop.
As she doesn't ... (read in full...)
How can I make him understand that my life is not just an extension of his?
Q. I have been with my bf for about two years now when we met I had moved to the city and so didn't know anyone but my aunt here who's no help to me whatsoever. The problem is I haven't made any friends since we got together we do everything he wants ...
A. 30 September 2013: Please leave now. You are in an abusive relationship. I think you underestimate your family and friends. He likely has made you question their loyalty and receptivity to you.
I have a helpline website for you. Please use and let us know when you ... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: So you already know that people will tell you she's a fake? Interesting.
She says her boyfriend is lame in bed… are you prepared for her to go online and review your first sexual experience? Because her link to the world appears to be gaming and ... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: And presumably you've told her that you were planning to come visit her in order to lose your unwanted virgin status? And she's onboard with that, since you two are so close?... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: And you've introduced her to your family?... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: Oh dear, you have it bad.
The big penis thing, I have to agree with ChiGirl, while I'm sure it's a perfectly fine penis, women just aren't wired to be visual as men are. If we were, Playgirl magazine would have flown off the shelves. As it is, I th... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: She's a great girl, whom you've never met in person, just that little teensy weensy problem of cheating on the current boyfriend.
She's unusually attractive, with a great personality and is honest and trustworthy. Other than the cheating on her boyf... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: So if she couldn't resist you, why not use those same moves on someone closer in real life who doesn't have a girlfriend? You've had some practice, now go use it.
What do your friends think about her? The online gaming ones and the real life ones... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: Oh, and just a few more questions. If she was your girlfriend, would you be happy she's having webcam sex with and accepting gift cards from a guy she met playing on line games?
How much were these lovely amazon gift cards?
I'm sorry, you are ... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: I smell scammer. Sorry! Good luck.... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 30 September 2013: I don't even know where to begin.
She's a "very nice, sweet, caring, shy type of girl" who is happy to have webcam sex with a guy who she's never met in person and is not her boyfriend.
She's "unusually attractive" with the best possible personal... (read in full...)
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