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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 8 January 2014: All women deserve better than this abuse. Including his sister. He's a sad pathetic man.... (read in full...)
Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 7 January 2014: The more I read about this boyfriend, the more I wonder why you are with him. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-could-my-boyfriend-not-know-if-he.html
I think he knows exactly what he is doing and that is molding you into accepting all his nons... (read in full...)
Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 7 January 2014: Hi, I read a bit more about your boyfriend, this is the one who said he couldn't help himself if he was presented with the opportunity to cheat? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-thinks-any-man-will-be-led.html
So he can't control hims... (read in full...)
What would you consider cheating?
Q. I have a question for everyone. Would do you consider as cheating? I am divorced and single and have started dating again. I am talking to a new guy mostly texting and he is very interested in me but is uneasy about me talking to other guys he consi...
A. 7 January 2014: If neither of them is your boyfriend and you spend most of your time texting them, then neither of them have claim on your texting 'affections.'
If the first guy wants to date you, then he has to take you out on proper dates. Texting, flirting via ... (read in full...)
Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 7 January 2014: P.S. Men (and women) dislike being "fixed" by people. Abusive men (and women) may react very badly when "fixing" is attempted by naive but well-meaning partners, friends and family.
I'm guessing his sister has tried to fix him. That's probably part... (read in full...)
Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 7 January 2014: If he wanted to be 'fixed' he wouldn't hit his sister. Keep your distance from him, when he has proved that he is no longer violent toward anyone for a year, then you can decide if you would want him in your life.
He's a loser, sorry. Best for your... (read in full...)
Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 7 January 2014: He hits his sister. He will hit you.
I hope for her sake she gets away from him as soon as possible.
You hit him on the shoulder once. He hits his sister often. He is the abuser, you are just starting out.
Don't go down this road.
End the relat... (read in full...)
Should I continue dating someone I know will leave within the year?
Q. I've been dating for 3 months a guy that i know is leaving in a year. He is military and he is only temporarily stationed here. I love spending time with him and we get along great. But he has told me time and time again that he doesn't believe in ...
A. 27 December 2013: This guy? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-drove-him-to-the-airport-so-why.html Sounds like he doesn't do long distance, and he doesn't do courtesy or thoughtfulness either.
I'd let the relationship wither while he's away. If he wants to be w... (read in full...)
Why do girls seem to prefer, and date, the guys who are cocky, arrogant, stubborn jock types?
Q. Why oh why do girls prefer the cocky, arrogant, stubborn jock types? Is it because they assume their children together will be born with a lightning bolt in their hands? Girls have done pretty skewed ways of finding guys thinking that they are bett...
A. 24 December 2013: Call the police the next time your friend shows up with bruises and contusions from being beaten. She's a victim of abuse. Why are you angry with other women for the abuse your friend is experiencing?
If your real concern is for her wellbeing, then... (read in full...)
My boyfriend asked me to marry him in 4 or 5 years
Q. I am so broken hearted! My boyfriend asked me to marry him last night and I was so excited But tonight wanted to go look at rings and he don't want to buy me one cause it will cut into his beer money and he says I just asked you to marry me but I d...
A. 24 December 2013: "Oh, dear, I'm so sorry that this isn't going to work out for us. Hope you enjoy the beer. Good bye!"
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How do I keep screwing up the transition from dating to relationship?
Q. Hi there folks. I'm going crazy over here 'cause it seems that whenever I REALLY like someone (like her in a gf kind of way) I mess it up in some unknown, mysterious way. Other girls I'll have no problem, I'll half-ass it and still have something ...
A. 24 December 2013: It sounds like you aren't compatible due to texting differences. I would let this relationship sink under the weight of unanswered texts and unmet expectations.... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to act now that we're dating?
Q. Hey guys, I could really do with some insight into my dilemma! I've been best friends with my best guy friend for many years, and it's clear that we're inseparable. He's a little older than me, but this has never effected our relationshi...
A. 21 December 2013: "Long story short, we had many deep conversations and came go the conclusion that we'd fallen in love with eachother but it was best for our friendship if we were to just stay friends."
I have to agree with devont, this doesn't sound quite righ... (read in full...)
He said he would have to think about whether he was serious about a relationship at all, now I'm confused about how to handle this!
Q. I met this guy online, we dated for for about 3 mos...and he honored my request to take it slow.. cos i really liked him and he likes me too.We would talk for hours..have intimate conversations and made out few times.He asked me if I would get ...
A. 21 December 2013: You are 30-35, you are dating for a very short time a guy you met online. When he asked you an important question about how you'd feel if you had sex and then broke up you were honest and told him you would feel hurt.
When you asked him the poin... (read in full...)
Has anyone used a 'safe' option to reclaim self-esteem and then dumped 'safe' for 'hot'?
Q. Hello, Have any of you ladies on here suffered with some depression, low self esteem and insecurities to the point that while seeing a hot man, you can't enjoy it for the endless worrying that he will dump you for someone better? So, you end up d...
A. 19 December 2013: Not me.
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I feel like one in a long line of women!!
Q. Please help me I am screwing myself up and my relationship. I am 34 and boyfriend is 45. We have been together for a very happy 18 months and living together for one year. He is the best boyfriend I have ever had but I am so close to losing him ca...
A. 16 December 2013: You have a form of retroactive jealousy which is apparently a form of OCD. Yours happens to express itself in an unhealthy and obsessive fixation on his past partners.
You will have to stop asking him about the past partners and asking for deta... (read in full...)
I feel like more of a sulky teen than an adult!
Q. hello, hope you can help am living with my boyfriend and we are really happy things are going great, am in danger of sounding like a spoilt brat so please bear with me... my boyfriends ex (a girl he really liked who he dated for a while) is due to ...
A. 12 December 2013: One of my husband's high school classmates is an actress in LA. I met her at a recent reunion. She's very pretty and a lot of fun. She's also single and I think has been for a long time. I think she's high maintenance and very vain.
What did I do? ... (read in full...)
Is this a new type of double standard?
Q. I hear quite often that when a girl meets boy in a bar or other way, and she says she only wants cuddling etc. and no sex, it is a deal breaker and he leaves. Of course I am not talking about having a long term relationship. What about if the shoe ...
A. 12 December 2013: I wonder if this is our OP: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/so-girls-would-you-rather-have-a-chat.html
I guess I would need you to define what you mean by "a kiss and a cuddle." On one hand, it could be a dry light kiss of the cheek with a brie... (read in full...)
I've got nobody to talk to about my teacher crush!
Q. I really like my teacher and it's really hard when I'm in her classes, but I know I can't say anything I'm not stupid. I told one close friends but she just seems to get really awkward when I talk about it. I wanted to tell a teacher but I don't ...
A. 12 December 2013: It took me a long time after being a teenager to understand that my parents totally had my back. They loved me and wanted the best for me.
I would tell your Mum. Be honest and this may wind up being a really great learning experience.
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We were in a relationship but now we are just FWB!
Q. I need help please. I recently got back with my ex- we broke up at the end of october but then started talking again and things are the same as if we had been dating. he had referred to us as friends with benefits-something we were a few years back ...
A. 12 December 2013: You can figure out what you are by asking his best friend.
It sounds like you are being manipulated by him. Don't have sex with him. I know that sounds difficult but if you want an official relationship with him, don't have sex without having that... (read in full...)
I have a 'thing' with a guy but he wants to keep it secret.
Q. So I have a thing with this guy, and my bestfriend over heard him telling his friend that he doesn't want anyone to know about us. I believe my bestfriend and he's the type of guy to say something like that too, what does all that mean and what ...
A. 12 December 2013: Do you want to be secret? If so, carry on having a "thing with this guy".
If not, call him on it.
I would advise you to end it, generally there is not a healthy or happy reason for being secretive about relationships.\
Why is this a dilemma for ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to mentally get in the frame of mind for sex with him when I don't really want it?
Q. Hi, i need help to resume my sex life with my bf after 9 months of no sex please. We have been together 3 yrs, lived together for 1.5yrs after he proposed out of the blue, and have a gorgeous 11month old who he dotes on. We stopped having ...
A. 11 December 2013: Why is his sleep protected when yours is not? Aren't you both parents of this baby? Having him pull some of the heavy parenting duty would be a relief for you after 9 months of interrupted sleep. No wonder you are not turned on, you are feeling ... (read in full...)
I want him to help with our children. But can I trust him? Should I trust him?
Q. Ok so here's the situation! I've been with my man going on three years and 2 months! It's been a heck of roller coaster I'll tell you this! Although I should have seen all the signs and signals to leave him in the beginning but being in "love" a...
A. 11 December 2013: You are in your 30s and now tied to a man who is not a good partner, provider or father.
It's time that someone takes the brave step of being the advocate for the children and as you are their mother, that will fall on you.
Go to the website ... (read in full...)
How hard should I try to be a good girlfriend in his eyes?
Q. Ive been with my boyf for 3yrs, and living with him for 6mths, prior to moving in, Id only ever lived with my parents and could barely boil an egg.. It was obvious to me that my man wanted me to learn to cook, not just to please him, but for myself ...
A. 11 December 2013: How hard does he try to be a good boyfriend? He sounds like he's going to be a rubbish dad.
If I were you I would sit him down and explain what you need from him. I doubt you'll be able to manage this without help as you basically are in your earl... (read in full...)
I just don't feel the love anymore.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. Three of those months were spent doing long distance. I'm a freshman in university and he's a senior in high school. At first, we were okay, we were making it work. But recently we've been ...
A. 11 December 2013: Have you managed to end the relationship? Or are you still stuck?... (read in full...)
Why do guys ask for underwear?
Q. I slept with this guy like more than 5 times. He asked for my underwear twice and on his third ask, I decided, why not? So I gave them to him. I just want to understand this phenomena... why do guys ask for underwear? I'm curious. I just hope I ...
A. 11 December 2013: I had another thought on this one. He likes to wear the underwear himself. Maybe he's too cheap to buy them for himself?... (read in full...)
He had a girlfriend the entire time we were dating and now he wants to meet up!
Q. I was dating this guy for two months. Everything was perfect, we got along, we had the same common interest and we were going to college, both of our majors went hand in hand with each other and we really helped pushed and motivate each other in ...
A. 11 December 2013: The guy was lying to you for two months. When confronted, he chose the girlfriend.
Your relationship is over, you don't need closure, you need him gone.
And no, don't give him a second chance later on down the road. He's a lying cheat now, and... (read in full...)
Why do guys ask for underwear?
Q. I slept with this guy like more than 5 times. He asked for my underwear twice and on his third ask, I decided, why not? So I gave them to him. I just want to understand this phenomena... why do guys ask for underwear? I'm curious. I just hope I ...
A. 11 December 2013: Why not ask him? He's the one who knows what he's going to do with your undies.... (read in full...)
Why are gay women so picky?
Q. I am a gay female, quieter, average looking, feminine and looking for same,dating (which makes it harder) friends I don't care. Am not into the bar and club scene, am getting too old for it and am a non drinker and dont feel comfortable around h...
A. 11 December 2013: I simply asked a question. It was not an insinuation.
I usually suggest to people who not able to find dates that they make sure their friends and family know that they are on the market. Think about it. The best matchmakers are the people who know... (read in full...)
Why are gay women so picky?
Q. I am a gay female, quieter, average looking, feminine and looking for same,dating (which makes it harder) friends I don't care. Am not into the bar and club scene, am getting too old for it and am a non drinker and dont feel comfortable around h...
A. 11 December 2013: Do you have a close friend? A couple of close friends?... (read in full...)
Is my case of retroactive jealousy completely irrational?
Q. Hello. Ok, here it goes, I'll try to short down everything. I have relatively enough relationship experience in my past. Never had such RJ, even if it was the girl I fell for, and even if there was larger number of partners. Now it will...
A. 10 December 2013: I didn't say it was ordinary RJ. I said you needed help for the OCD and the obsessive thinking. Did you happen to read Yos's posts? I'll guess that you can't because your mind is too wound up on the other stuff.
Again, you need professional help... (read in full...)
I just don't feel the love anymore.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. Three of those months were spent doing long distance. I'm a freshman in university and he's a senior in high school. At first, we were okay, we were making it work. But recently we've been ...
A. 10 December 2013: I tried breaking up with him but he just wouldn't accept it.
--Sorry but the relationship is over.
I tried being mean about it, saying that I had no feelings for him anymore, that I didn't love him.
--The relationship is over.
I tried t... (read in full...)
Is my case of retroactive jealousy completely irrational?
Q. Hello. Ok, here it goes, I'll try to short down everything. I have relatively enough relationship experience in my past. Never had such RJ, even if it was the girl I fell for, and even if there was larger number of partners. Now it will...
A. 9 December 2013: You need to get help for the OCD and obsessive thinking.
Parsing this six ways till Sunday will do nothing to stop the compulsive imaging you have going on in your head. And it's obvious that nothing anyone here says or suggests has any effect on t... (read in full...)
I just don't feel the love anymore.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. Three of those months were spent doing long distance. I'm a freshman in university and he's a senior in high school. At first, we were okay, we were making it work. But recently we've been ...
A. 9 December 2013: Call him, tell him it's over and there's no discussion.
The end. It's over. Bye bye.
Get your friends and family to support you.
If you can't end the relationship then you are in an abusive relationship and need outside help.
... (read in full...)
What does my ex want? Is he playing mind games?
Q. Hello dear cupid. I need help figuring out what my ex boyfriend is doing. We met and after a month he said he wasn't ready to be in relationship. And I accepted it and told him not to contact me. He didn't stop he kept contacting me. I didn't spoke ...
A. 9 December 2013: It's a waste of precious and time an energy to figure out why your ex is doing whatever the heck he's doing. You dated for one month and I would take it as a blessing that he is out of your life now. Don't invite negativity back in.
Let it go, l... (read in full...)
I dated a guy who turned out to have a girlfriend. Who, or what, was I to him?
Q. I met this guy three months ago at school. We hit off well and started dating, then he asked me to be his girlfriend. Things went well for the first week we were together, after that he became a little distant and we only saw each other once a week ...
A. 9 December 2013: You are asking who you were in relation to him. How did he think of you, how did you fit into his life, what if he contacts you, these are questions based on whatever was going on in his small mind.
I think it would be a great big step forward in t... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty that I broke up with my boyfriend so close to Christmas!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 3 years, yesterday. He'd been emotionally abandoning me for quite some time and we'd been having problems the last few months that we couldn't get past. I told him time and time again that I wouldn't keep "waiting" ...
A. 7 December 2013: Was this an LDR?
If you are feeling so guilty, just write him a letter and apologize while at the same time explaining why you felt the need to end the relationship completely.
Part of the guilt is probably the fact that you broke it off so abrup... (read in full...)
Wife of 10 years has put on weight. How can I motivate her to exercise?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 10yrs. and she is putting on a fair amount of weight. I have tried to get her to exercise and move but it is very hard to get her motivated. Any suggestions?...
A. 7 December 2013: Make an appointment for both of you at the doctor's office to make sure she doesn't have an underlying medical issue that is causing her weight gain and lack of motivation. Hypothyroidism, menopause, depression, arthritis, diabetes, ovarian cysts, ... (read in full...)
How do I keep screwing up the transition from dating to relationship?
Q. Hi there folks. I'm going crazy over here 'cause it seems that whenever I REALLY like someone (like her in a gf kind of way) I mess it up in some unknown, mysterious way. Other girls I'll have no problem, I'll half-ass it and still have something ...
A. 7 December 2013: How do those clingy girls get your number to text?... (read in full...)
How do I keep screwing up the transition from dating to relationship?
Q. Hi there folks. I'm going crazy over here 'cause it seems that whenever I REALLY like someone (like her in a gf kind of way) I mess it up in some unknown, mysterious way. Other girls I'll have no problem, I'll half-ass it and still have something ...
A. 6 December 2013: Flo Jack, you are the one using the term man-whore. I tried to give you the situation from her perspective.
What other girls did or didn't do doesn't matter with this particular girl. If you react to her with the pasts from other girls ling... (read in full...)
Does pubic hair go grey?
Q. General query: I've been wondering what happens to the colour of pubic hair as you age? My concern is I like to keep things neat and trimmed down there, so when it grows back every couple of weeks I give it another trim. However, what happens whe...
A. 6 December 2013: Worse.
It turns bright orange, then purple. And it frizzes up into little clumps, like horrible Mardi Gras cauliflower appetizers….
Then it grows so long, it tries to braid itself around your private bits, but not before tweeting on your behalf. ... (read in full...)
Do you think this relationship has a future?
Q. Hi All, I'm trying to weigh up if my relationship has a future. I'm struggling to sound it up. We have been together for just over 2 years, we did break up for 3 months. we gave it a second go, he broke my trust, he made a lot of personal...
A. 5 December 2013: I have to post again, I have to explain where I found that book I referenced.
A male friend, a co-worker, wound up in a relationship with a woman who sounds a lot like you, and your man sounds a lot like my friend.
They were roommates in a group ... (read in full...)
Do you think this relationship has a future?
Q. Hi All, I'm trying to weigh up if my relationship has a future. I'm struggling to sound it up. We have been together for just over 2 years, we did break up for 3 months. we gave it a second go, he broke my trust, he made a lot of personal...
A. 5 December 2013: It doesn't really matter what we think about your future chances, does it? It matters what HE thinks about your future chances and marriage and children.
My first thought on reading your question is that his answer to the question of having chil... (read in full...)
How do I keep screwing up the transition from dating to relationship?
Q. Hi there folks. I'm going crazy over here 'cause it seems that whenever I REALLY like someone (like her in a gf kind of way) I mess it up in some unknown, mysterious way. Other girls I'll have no problem, I'll half-ass it and still have something ...
A. 5 December 2013: From her perspective:
I met a guy at a friend's party, he was fun and cute, he asked for my number but I wasn't sure about him. When I asked if he had a girlfriend, the way he answered indicated he may not have an official girlfriend, but he defi... (read in full...)
| *isha-1's friends
These are mutual friends, so *isha-1 has
added them and they have added *isha-1!
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![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
