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writes:heyI am 21 years old who is dating a 40 years old man we been together for over 2years when we really got serious I found out he got a girl pregnant who is pretty young also I asked him about it and he lied, saying he didn't get anyone pregnant over time the truth came out I forgave him, one day I saw a text message from her stating "come spend the night" she also called me saying my man said "she's the best thing that ever happened to him" of course he said its not true, that cut me really deep up until now he never told me that!! saying am the one he loves means nothing because if he did he wouldn't be flirting with her!!!! everything was good well I thought so because I accepted the fact of her being his babymother and that he has to visit them until I saw that text everything went downsize. now there's no trust we argue all the time because of her. She uses the child to gets his attention what kind of person does that?! I love him but sometimes I wonder if this is worth it I accepted the fact he has 3 grown ones I cant accept another baby!! he curse her out saying all kind of negative things to her I wonder if I ever got pregnant for him and we broke up if he would say the same to his next gf. its driving me crazy because I don't know what to do, she even sees me on the road and make trouble and I am not the type to argue over any man!!!! she thinks because she's his baby mother she has all rights to him maybe so because she has a ideal title when am just his girl friend am tired of crying nights upon nights I really need some advice on this. I know at the end its my decision but I really need to know someone else point of view.... I think he made her felt there was hope for them being together, she moved on with a police guy yet she still wants him. she knew he had a gf yet still sleeping with him why woman do these things not blaming her alone because its much her fault as mine. she even came there unexpected when I was there before she was pregnant and he told her to leave obviously in her mind she he was her right out man so I understand what she properly going through!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone!! I had broken up with him maybe I was trying to change him and prove to the world I could keep a man like that but I am young and beautiful now and wont be forever young and beautiful. right now I have my entire life ahead of me no need to waste it and then regret later!! he's already grown so I really cant raise a grown man! I am heart broken but I know I wont be forever he did it big time this time around and it came to me this is not what I want or how I should be living my life!!!! I guess I was just a show off to his friends and that's the only reason he had me around its sure not love because love shouldn't hurt!!!!!!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (23 October 2013):
 He's great at making babies and not so great at being honest.
I'd let this one go and determine that I deserve better treatment than the nonsense he's been doling out. Yuck, girl. He's just gross. Lies, calls names, lies some more.
Surely you deserve better?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 October 2013):
 You've found a 40 year old dog.... and don't want to set him back out on the street????? Why not??????
Good luck....
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reader, CMMP +, writes (23 October 2013):
You and her are the exact same.
Your bf has two relationships going on at the same time, with two women who think he's in love with them.
By not breaking up with him you're saying it's okay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2013): I suggest you cut your losses and leave him now!He is clearly stringing both of you along.Not only that, but she is the mother of his child, that means she will be in your lives forever if you stay with him. If you are arguing about her now, you will continue to do so, that will never change. It is NOT your fault, and you SHOULD'NT blame her. It is all HIS fault. You should not of taken him back after he cheated with her anyway.I know you are in lo9ve with him and you THINK that he makes you happy at the moment. But this guy is a cheat and manipulative, you will end up heartbroken and unhappy.If you were older you would of realised this by now and already left him. This is probably why he goes for younger women.Leave him and find someone your own age who will respect you. Although, i bet you ignore this advice and stay with him, it isn't goign to end well. Your better than that.Good Luck with that!
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