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*oli
writes:I like a boy I met on a school outing last year. Call him Simon. I added him on fb and would chat to him about his/my school stuff (societies, prefects etc.). And coincidentally we both ended up as Head Prefects at our differemt schools. So ofcourse, I used it as the best excuse to talk to him...but he never once started the conversation. He seemed quiet, but really sweet and would respond enthusiastically each time. Which confused me - was he simply friendly, doing his job or was there something more? I then asked him to my Dance and he politely and sweetly said he loved to but couldn't make it (school trip to Europe). Then a while later we saw each other at a mutual friend's party - we never actually SEE each other. We talked for a while before his friends called him over for pool. I took the opportunity to meet another of his friends, *Matthew, but had to leave soon. That following evening HE sent a message for the first time!: "Was so nice seeing you last night! Sorry I missed you leaving - got caught up in a game of pool and looking after drunk friends... Sigh. Mat said you got to meet him too :) ". I responded, but after that, he never said anything again. Time came for HIS Dance, but he never said anything... He's so confusing. Is it that he's been messed by girls in the past? Is it that we don't see each other often enough to be really good friends? What is he feeling about me? He's says I'm sweet, and power-woman of great integrity. Yet he never seems INTERESTED interested...I also avoid talking to him too much. We chat about once every month. Please help me?
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (2 November 2013):
 I don't know if I can add anything more here Noli - the other aunts who have responded have it pretty much nailed. I would however point out that it's not healthy to carry on this way. There are literally millions of other guys in this world with the potential to connect with you. It may be hard to believe, but trust me when I say that the world is bigger than you can imagine.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 October 2013):
 i agree with Tisha... he's just not that into you dear.
You want more than he wants... best to let this dream go.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 October 2013):
 Hi Noli, I think your crush just isn't crushing back. It's too bad that this happens but it does not reflect on you or your excellent qualities in any way.
I would look back on this as a nice daydream but not of real life. It's just part of life, to learn to cope with a rejection. The big thing is to realize that the rejection doesn't mean you are unloveable or unattractive or unworthy. It just means that this person isn't your future. And that can be a very good thing. Trust me on this! :)
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