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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 26 April 2015: It's as simple as this: masochists need sadists. Your friend is a sadist who obliges the masochists he meets.... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 24 April 2015: CindyCares summed it up beautifully. And I have to say it's an odd moral code, that you wouldn't have reasoned beyond your parents rather limited viewpoint on promiscuity. If men get a pass on being promiscuous because of their sexual equipment and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving away to a different uni? Very upset and don't know what will happen?
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend of 8 months at uni recently got diagnosed with epilepsy. When he had these fits I was with him every step of the way in hospital holding his hand and being there for him. His mum came along to take him home and while...
A. 23 April 2015: I think you just have to let things unfold. I'm sorry he is facing such a medical crisis. It takes things out of your hands and his. You sound like a very caring person and want things to work out. I know you feel helpless and uncertain.
I thin... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 22 April 2015: "He lives on the opposite coast as them and they randomly invited him on vacation with them to a well known party resort town to be wild and obviously to hook up with them.
"He's young, single, adventurous, so he went."
"I grew up in a conventi... (read in full...)
I am a stay at home mum, whilst studying a degree - my husband doesn't understand how hard this is?
Q. Dear Cupid, My husband and I have an 18 month old little boy who at the moment has really start to test what he can and can't do. I am a stay at home mother and have been since the day our son was born. I have been studying a degree part time...
A. 21 April 2015: Print out this very coherent and compelling question, and then hand it to him. Leave him alone with your toddler and go for a long walk. Don't have dinner ready. Don't have the ironing done or the laundry or have tidied up.
When you get back, you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving away to a different uni? Very upset and don't know what will happen?
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend of 8 months at uni recently got diagnosed with epilepsy. When he had these fits I was with him every step of the way in hospital holding his hand and being there for him. His mum came along to take him home and while...
A. 21 April 2015: I think you need to take a deep breath, relax and let things unfold. You are worrying about things that haven't happened yet, creating anxiety where there is no need.
Your boyfriend's life is changing and he'll need time to cope with these mass... (read in full...)
I just want to live with him but he keeps making excuses. Do you think it will happen any time soon?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over four years and yet we still haven’t moved forward in our relationship. We both live at home, me with my mum and him with his dad. I work full time and he is in university. We’ve been together since we were 16...
A. 21 April 2015: He's not ready to move in with you. Pressuring him into doing that isn't going to improve your relationship. I don't think it's selfish to expect more, but I do think that expecting more and getting it are two different things.
Just because your... (read in full...)
Met him on tinder. Met up with him. He said some weird things about him being dangerous. Should I text him?
Q. Hey! So I met this guy on tinder, I've seen him out sometimes. We started chatting a bit for like 2 weeks and saw each other when we were out but didn't talk to each other. Then he started asking me what I was doing during the evenings a coupl...
A. 21 April 2015: Hey there! So what is your question?
My cut off point is, could I ask my Mom this question? If not, why not?
And I go back to this question.... what do you want or expect from this relationship?... (read in full...)
Why has this girl I have suspicions about suddenly gone MIA from my BF's classes?
Q. Why has this girl suddenly disappeared from my BF's martial arts classes? I accused my BF of flinging with this girl. He denied it and still does. He is a martial arts instructor. We are both in his class. I told him I don't like her, have my eye...
A. 20 April 2015: A good friend of mine has a parent who is very ill and she has stopped answering texts or emails. She knows that I am here for her as are her other friends. I'm not freaking out that her car is gone (she's visiting her parents) or that she's not ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or weird that I'm kind of jealous of younger women?
Q. Women it seems, are generally valued for their youth more than men are, despite me being a guy, as in human male, there are times I am jealous, envious of how women are valued for their youth more than men are. The reason why is because i'm a gu...
A. 20 April 2015: You've posted a lot on here about how you hate that men are expected to be the initiators.
Here's the thing.
Women initiate as well.
I am the one who asked my now-husband on a date. I had to face my discomfort, pick up the phone and call him and... (read in full...)
He is a pragmatist while I still hold onto the ideal of romance!
Q. My boyfriend sees marriage as a long term partnership. He's very logical in his views of it. We were having a discussion last night where he told me the reasons he was with me (but taking out sex and that) - because he enjoys spending time with me, ...
A. 19 April 2015: Oh and P.S. I think your boyfriend's logical view of this is amazing and romantic and that someday you'll see that. You are in your 30s? What the hell are you waiting for, woman?... (read in full...)
He is a pragmatist while I still hold onto the ideal of romance!
Q. My boyfriend sees marriage as a long term partnership. He's very logical in his views of it. We were having a discussion last night where he told me the reasons he was with me (but taking out sex and that) - because he enjoys spending time with me, ...
A. 19 April 2015: You'd have to define romance here. What your boyfriend describes sounds like a lovely romantic guy to me. What does fairytale love mean, to you? That's a very vague term.
If it means he buys flowers from the gas station to bring home to you, is t... (read in full...)
I want my sex life back!
Q. Hi everyone. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years. We've always had a good sex life and if I'm honest I've never been able to keep up with my boyfriends sex drive. It used to really irritate me that I couldn't take a shower, g...
A. 19 April 2015: Right now, your boyfriend is facing his own mortality and his father's illness. He's not feeling too sexual and he will respond when you make an effort but isn't focused on your needs at the moment.
I would take the focus off your sexual needs and ... (read in full...)
He cheated on his last girlfriend. I am constantly worried my BF will cheat on me.
Q. Does lack of trust in a relationship manifest itself over time in a person? I am wondering if it takes a toll on somebody physically and emotionally, ie. emotional overload, tiredness, depression, withdrawal, tension and aches in the back and ...
A. 19 April 2015: Stress is definitely implicated in deteriorating health. http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/stress.aspx has this to say about it: Chronic stress
"When stress starts interfering with your ability to live a normal life for an extended period, it beco... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 19 April 2015: Sounds to me that he accepted the role of boy-toy then failed to fulfill his part. Maybe he just couldn't get it up and decided to externalize the blame?
It's all in the spin here. You didn't witness what happened on the famous threesome sext... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself falling for an older married man?
Q. Please don't judge me on this, but I'm falling for an older married man. I see everyday and can't avoid him (tried not possible). At first I noticed him watching me all the time, then he would offer to help me out all the time which I admit al...
A. 18 April 2015: I'd look for a new job asap.
And consider if you are focusing on this crush as a way to avoid something else going on in your life?
Aversion therapy, put a rubber band (elastic) around your wrist and *snap* it every time you start to fantasiz... (read in full...)
Should my girlfriend agree to come to a fetish club with me?
Q. I've been with my girl for 6 years now.She knows about my fetish for rubber clothing. We do normal things together ,like cinema, restaurants. But I want to experience a fetish club, which she's not into.I've asked her to go with me, just once is ...
A. 18 April 2015: How long has she known about your fetish?... (read in full...)
I'm having difficulties in socializing with other people due to my low self esteem and feel socially awkward
Q. Hi everynone.. im having difficulties in socializing with other people due to my low self esteem and socially awkward. I feel shy whenever i meet people that attractive and confident. Im not kind of thia person before. I used to have many friends to ...
A. 18 April 2015: Have you tried reconnecting with the friends you made in college?
You have to deal with the low self esteem and isolation from your peer group.
How can you have friends? Where should you start to meet new people?
I would start with your college... (read in full...)
My grieving friend has been a part of my life since childhood. What can I do now thar she's distancing herself from me?
Q. I have been friends with this girl for about 16 years and I have always been there for her. Sadly a few years ago her father passed away and I was there for her as much as I could be. I would meet her after work, I would take her out for food and be ...
A. 17 April 2015:
"I feel like she just stays as a friend for the sake of it, and I do too because I don’t really have other friends. What can I do?" Acknowledge and mourn the end of the relationship you shared as children and turn to face the future, find new frie... (read in full...)
I'm pretty much a social reject!
Q. I can't seem to make any friends because I'm single with no kids. Everyone views me as desperate or needy and stay far away from me as possible. Even when I don't announce my relationship status I still get the lonely and desperate tag. At work, ...
A. 17 April 2015: If you are putting out negative vibes like desperation or loneliness or bitterness, then people will tend to avoid you.
I'd go back to the basics. An old book, but a classic: How To Win Friends and Influence People. http... (read in full...)
What's the hype with men liking big butts?
Q. What's the hype with men liking big butts? Something I've noticed the past year or so is that a lot of men seem to be butt men. They like the 'Kim Kardashian' type butt, the big, round butt. Even the majority of my sister and I's male friends hav...
A. 17 April 2015: The hype has always existed. The thing that changes is what is being hyped. Don't get sucked into media hype of this sort.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/02/05/perfect-body-change-beauty-ideals_n_4733378.html
I like Honeypie's line. "YOU are... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't treat me the same as my brother
Q. EVER since I can remember my mom has always treated me different from my brother. I'm 19 and he's 21 and we both have daughters now. When I wanted something as a kid I always had to beg but when my brother asked it was so easily given. I've told her ...
A. 17 April 2015: Why would being mistreated by her mother and grandmother make your mom a better parent? I think instead it would set her up for a lifetime of poor choices and dysfunctional family.
I'm not trying to apologize for her but I do think there's some... (read in full...)
I just want to go to the party and make him wish he hadn't done what he had done, am I being stupid?
Q. I'm going to a party on Sunday night and my ex boyfriend is going to be there. He cheated on me a couple of weeks ago and stupidly I want him back. He hasn't called or text since we split up and I just want to go to the party and make him wish he ...
A. 17 April 2015: Yes. You are being stupid.
You won't be able to make him wish he hadn't done what he had done.
Stop trying to alter his thinking or reactions, and deal with yours.
Here's a hint: the best revenge is living well.
It's a very old saying. But it w... (read in full...)
My wife wants children and I don't she knew this when we married. Am I selfish?
Q. My Wife thinks I'm selfish because I don't want to have children, whereas she is desperate. I'm 29 and she is 30, we've been together 5 years, married just under 1 year. To be honest I don't like kids, I've never understood the appeal of children. ...
A. 16 April 2015: My husband and I don't have children. My husband and I were on the same page when we got married. We stayed on the same page. We've been together 20+ years and I get the whole liking your life how it is. I have nieces and nephews and I know when ... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't treat me the same as my brother
Q. EVER since I can remember my mom has always treated me different from my brother. I'm 19 and he's 21 and we both have daughters now. When I wanted something as a kid I always had to beg but when my brother asked it was so easily given. I've told her ...
A. 16 April 2015: You were rebellious but never did anything wrong or talked back? So how exactly were you rebellious? You must have been a very nice kind rebellious child (I mean that in the nice kind way!).
Are all your brothers and sisters from the same fath... (read in full...)
What's up with my wife going to a Casino with a guy when she was meant to be coming home instead? And why the secrecy re what was spent at casino?
Q. My wife and I and our 14 year old son,and his friend went to a motel for the night. My son and his friend got in a fight. It was 4:30am. The wife volunteered me to take kids home and she would come home shortly behind us. It's 100 miles to our...
A. 16 April 2015: I'm asking these questions because your age shows as age 41-50 and you didn't report that there were any problems with your marriage before this oddly timed visit to a casino with some dude. Was this out of left field? How did you find out these odd ... (read in full...)
What's up with my wife going to a Casino with a guy when she was meant to be coming home instead? And why the secrecy re what was spent at casino?
Q. My wife and I and our 14 year old son,and his friend went to a motel for the night. My son and his friend got in a fight. It was 4:30am. The wife volunteered me to take kids home and she would come home shortly behind us. It's 100 miles to our...
A. 16 April 2015: Of course it's odd and strange and weird that your wife would go to a casino with another guy at 4:30 in the morning. This question has so much missing information. How did you find out she went to a casino with another guy? Had any of you be... (read in full...)
Don't want to lose my BF. What can I do? I'm a book worm and he likes sex a lot
Q. My bf is too much interested in sex but i am so bookworm kind person.. I can not participate in this passionate..please suggest what can i do to please my bf.. i really love him. I do not want to lose him just because of this..please hel...
A. 16 April 2015: So you love him but aren't ready to be sexual with him? Maybe your timing and his just isn't right and you should wait until you are ready to be sexual.
It's okay to be interested in sex and it's okay to not be interested in sex.
What this tel... (read in full...)
I have developed feelings for my FWB!
Q. Hey everyone! I've recently moved to a new place and started a new job. Pretty quickly I began sleeping with somebody I work with. Normally I'd agree that this is a terrible idea, but we were kind of friends beforehand and came to an agreement - ...
A. 15 April 2015: This one goes into the category of "it was fun while it lasted."
Keep smiling, keep being funny, but end the 'WB" part of FWB. You're going to wind up hurt as you are already hurt he clearly doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
Or put on the big ... (read in full...)
What should I do about the painful photographs from the past?
Q. I have a slightly odd problem relating to trying to put a relationship - and the past in general - behind me. I have a big bag of photos - both of family and my ex partner (20 years). Problem is, my Mum and Dad were abusive to me and my sister...
A. 15 April 2015: Hypothetically, say you had a house fire and all the photographs were destroyed, how would you feel? Would you feel relieved that this onerous task was no longer needed?
Have you considered simply throwing the pictures away as they dredge up such... (read in full...)
Does porn viewing encourage men to treat women with disrespect?
Q. Does porn viewing encourage men to treat women with disrespect. At times I notice my partner becomes somewhat disrespectful and dismissive of me. At times it almost seems like a little contemptuous . Without fail , everytime I have noticed this , I...
A. 15 April 2015: Maybe. It could also just be that he's being a jerk.
Call him on it!... (read in full...)
Why is my sister obsessed with facebook?
Q. I know things could be a lot worse but my 'problem' is that my sister is constantly on Facebook. And it irks me. I don't why. She posts pictures and updates about once an hour. She is 35 years old and has three kids (2 step kids) and is pregnant for ...
A. 15 April 2015: Just change your settings so she's not in your newsfeed. Easy to do.'You can then just pop in to her profile once or twice a week if you feel the need.... (read in full...)
This girl feels bad that I like her!
Q. So my friend was talking about me to a girl I like and she said that she thinks she likes me and she feels bad for not feeling the same way. I won't lie, I am a bit crushed by this news. I'd love if it were possible to possibly get her to like me ...
A. 15 April 2015: I'd just move on. You want more than friendship with her. It would be awkward to pretend something else.
Unrequited love, oh, we all experience it. It's okay. You'll get past this and a few years from now, you'll wonder why you were so stressed by t... (read in full...)
A friend of two years, do I let go or keep trying?
Q. Heya all help needed... I've been mates with this boy for 2 years and we have shared so many memories and we were like bro and sis! He decided to stop talking to me and started making up all these excuses on what i have done and we haven't talked i...
A. 15 April 2015: You can be friends with him again, but only after he grows up a bit more. Okay, after he grows up a lot.
In the meantime, limit your contact with him.
Have you talks with your mum or dad about this?... (read in full...)
How can I turn this situation around? I think my own actions caused the problem
Q. Ok so I've always had trouble making friends, I guess I don't really have much is common with other girls and im more of a guys girl. I only have one female friend, I've known her my whole life, we live down the same road, our mums are best friends ...
A. 15 April 2015: How old are you?
How old are these friends?
I think it's time to tell a grown up.... You made some choices that were not in your best interests. But just because you had sex doesn't mean you deserve to be bullied.
Go see the counselor at your scho... (read in full...)
Should I respond or was she giving me the brush off?
Q. Hi, I met a girl nearly a month ago we met at a party and we've been exchanging messages ever since. She has been on holiday and came back to start a new job. I asked if she wanted to meet up again this week and she said sure what time etc. Well ...
A. 15 April 2015: Have you spoken with her on the phone in the last month? No?
Give her a call. Be light and bright and tell her you'd like to take her out for a meal to help her cope with the pressures of work.... (read in full...)
How can I cope with my bitter and jealous feelings?
Q. I am very happy for a friend of mine-but also jealous. A friend's husband just got an amazing job promotion. They are going to move to another state and he is going to be making a "once in a lifetime" salary. He was already making considerable mon...
A. 14 April 2015: Count all your blessings. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude for what you have. Remember that having money isn't a guarantee of happiness.
If you aren't happy with feeling stuck, explore ways of getting unstuck.
Remember that you are more fortunat... (read in full...)
The fog has worn off the affair but I love my married boyfriend. It's hard to stay but also hard to leave. What do I do?
Q. I am having a difficult time. No judgment please. Just help. I am the mistress of a married man and I have been for almost 2 years. I have heard it all. Believe me. Nobody can punish me more than I have punished myself. The problem is I am i...
A. 14 April 2015: You sound like an alcoholic and he's a great big bottle of 100 proof vodka. You know it's a problem but you seem to be helpless in stopping the drinking. Eventually the health and social issues that arise from abusing alcohol will crop up and you'll ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any suggestion/herbal remedies for a crying always hungry baby?
Q. This is not a relationship question but I hope it will be printed anyway ... because it is for the good cause of helping a distressed new mother. A younger friend of mine just had on March 3rd her first baby. The baby is healthy, beautifu...
A. 14 April 2015: A chiropractor I know suggested that it could be a misalignment of the baby's spine causing distress. There's some support for this theory. http://minnesota.cbslocal.com/2012/05/14/babies-get-much-needed-help-from-chiropractic-adjustments/
h... (read in full...)
I sent a text to my boyfriend that was meant for my boss. Will my BF get upset?
Q. Hi all. Let me start by saying my BF of two years can be insecure and has expressed jealousy at times. I was texting my boss trying to set up a meeting and sent the text by accident to my BF as I have both conversations saved on my phone....
A. 13 April 2015: Are you unfaithful? No?
Are you inappropriate with other men? No?
Do you have a history of cheating? No?
Then stop being such a wimpy woman in dealing with an insecure and jealous boyfriend.
You are in your 30s. There's no reason to put up... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my co-worker before going out for a drink with another co-worker?
Q. I'm looking for an outside opinion on this please, as the people I know are way too close to the whole thing I think. Ok I'm almost 30 and I've worked for my current employer for 2.5 years, and in that time I've become very good friends with two...
A. 13 April 2015: You knew this woman was a drama queen... your instincts told you to avoid her. You tried to make it work.
It's not going to work. You aren't friends.
It's okay.
Put yourself first. Be nice, and polite, but be firm about it.
This woman is... (read in full...)
I sent a text to my boyfriend that was meant for my boss. Will my BF get upset?
Q. Hi all. Let me start by saying my BF of two years can be insecure and has expressed jealousy at times. I was texting my boss trying to set up a meeting and sent the text by accident to my BF as I have both conversations saved on my phone....
A. 13 April 2015: So what if your boyfriend works those days?
You've been together two years, presumably you like each other and have formed a bond.
Why do you even have to account yourself to him for your text or your time spent on the job?
You sent your boyfrie... (read in full...)
Older guy at work keeps flirting with me and it's unwanted - should I tell him off or ignore him?
Q. I know this is long but please read, I'm in my first "proper" job and its annoying me. I'm 21 and in my current temp job till the end of May. I really enjoy the workplace though I am the youngest person there by about a decade, and I get on well ...
A. 13 April 2015: Document, document, document. Log every contact with him. Write it down.
You say you don't have the time to report harassment, either?
I'd go to a trusted female colleague and ask her, hypothetically, of course, *wink wink*, what someone who migh... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my co-worker before going out for a drink with another co-worker?
Q. I'm looking for an outside opinion on this please, as the people I know are way too close to the whole thing I think. Ok I'm almost 30 and I've worked for my current employer for 2.5 years, and in that time I've become very good friends with two...
A. 13 April 2015: It does sound a bit like high school.
She didn't get dibs on him. If you like him enough to have a drink with him, have a drink with him. If it works out and you start to date, then you start to date.
The thing is that in high school, you eventual... (read in full...)
I sent a text to my boyfriend that was meant for my boss. Will my BF get upset?
Q. Hi all. Let me start by saying my BF of two years can be insecure and has expressed jealousy at times. I was texting my boss trying to set up a meeting and sent the text by accident to my BF as I have both conversations saved on my phone....
A. 13 April 2015: Why would that text set up a red flag for anyone?
You didn't text "let's meet up but don't let anyone else know." You texted your boss. BFD.
If your boyfriend at the advanced age of late 30s (I assume that's his age?) is so paranoid then you will... (read in full...)
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