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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm not very good and giving hand jobs or blowjobs
Q. Hello :) I'll keep this as short as possible... Well basically my bf and I have been together for over a year now. And recently, v talked about blowjobs and handjobs.. And well so far I'm not very successful at any of those. And like my bf feels...
A. 11 March 2015: Ask him what he would like. You're not a mind-reader and what one man might like could be a total turn off to another man.
So if you two have a great relationship and communicate well then it's time to put that into practice and get serious abou... (read in full...)
Is it okay to send your boyfriend a video of you masturbating?
Q. Would you consider it okay to send your boyfriend who is away for a few weeks on business a naughty video of you masturbating? Just to keep the spark going and to give him something to look forward to when he comes back?...
A. 11 March 2015: So OP, if you are comfortable with the situation then why the need for the question in the first place?
I'm guessing he's the married guy who is a bit older than you and you are the poster who gets upset when he's away.
If you are good with it ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant with married boyfrind's child. He is away and I don't know what to do!
Q. I need help. More than ever. I am here all alone with nobody to talk to. I have been with a married man for 2 years. I love him. I truly love him. I know, I am stupid. I have just found out tonight that I am pregnant with his child. He is out...
A. 11 March 2015: So what did you decide to do? This was a very dramatic and unhappy post and it would be nice to see a followup.
... (read in full...)
Is it okay to send your boyfriend a video of you masturbating?
Q. Would you consider it okay to send your boyfriend who is away for a few weeks on business a naughty video of you masturbating? Just to keep the spark going and to give him something to look forward to when he comes back?...
A. 11 March 2015: How old is boyfriend? And does he have other girlfriends? Or a wife?
I'd assume any digital images could be hijacked or misused. It happens to credit card holders all the time.
Are you concerned that he's not thinking about you while he's away or ... (read in full...)
Would a FWB help me to get over my ex?
Q. My heart is broken. 4 months ago the man I thought to be the love of my life broke up with me due to several reasons (not important for the topic). I'm still in love somehow, I miss him, but I know 100% it's not possible to get him back. Now I met a ...
A. 10 March 2015: Sorry to hear about the breakup.
If you enjoy his company and want to spend time with him, then why not do just that?
Assuming you are a safe and sane and sensible woman then you are more than capable of making good choices.
I hope it all works... (read in full...)
Will men still fancy me if I get a short hair cut?
Q. I feel like doing something brave and unconventional, and one thing I'd like to do is to cut my shoulder-long hair to a dramatic, very-short hair cut. But I'm afraid that if I do so, men won't fancy me any more, as people sometimes assume short-ha...
A. 10 March 2015: Go for it. Hair grows. You'd have to live with growing it out for a couple of months if you hate it but then you'll have answered that particular question.
When I had an amazingly short haircut, I had no trouble with having men fancy me.
It's ... (read in full...)
Do you think it sounds like he just wanted to cuddle?
Q. Or is there normally always a sexual intent. I've been seeing this guy for quite some months, we haven't slept together yet as we're still getting to know each other etc and the times we've seen each other have been out. However, one night when we ...
A. 7 March 2015: Is it bad that he might want to have sex with you? It sounds like he likes you and you've been dating for some number of months.
Not saying that he might not have only wanted to cuddle but I think he's taking things at the pace you appear to be sett... (read in full...)
I am not happy with the size of it!
Q. Hello people, this maybe a daft issue but it really gets to me. I have been depressed for ages now and well I feel the most of it is I'm not happy with my penis size. My first relationship ended with the girl dumping me and then spreading th...
A. 7 March 2015: Sadly, you are not alone. Many men feel 'too small,' that penis size is somehow a reflection of masculinity. Because you don't believe you are the right size, you won't believe it when a woman tells you are fine. So you're going to have to tackle ... (read in full...)
How to avoid Date Rape?
Q. I've been seeking out nothing more than casual sex online and made this blatant on my dating profile. However, getting date raped as a result has become a fear. I'm afraid that, in the situation where I want to take things slow, postpone the act...
A. 4 March 2015: I've been doing some research on rape in South Africa. Not very good news, I'm afraid.
Here are some interesting posts I found on the topic.
http://www.cnn.com/2010/WORLD/africa/06/20/south.africa.female.condom/
http://je... (read in full...)
How to avoid Date Rape?
Q. I've been seeking out nothing more than casual sex online and made this blatant on my dating profile. However, getting date raped as a result has become a fear. I'm afraid that, in the situation where I want to take things slow, postpone the act...
A. 4 March 2015: I think the Rapunzel fairy tale is one fantastical expression of the wish to avoid being a victim of rape.
You say you are a shy girl and are looking to find sexual partners online to avoid getting a reputation of 'slut.'
You don't want to have ... (read in full...)
I had an affair, but then decided to go back to my husband. However my feelings for the guy I had an affair with are still there!
Q. I'm married with 1 son, we had lot's of ups and downs in our family, I went through drug abuse and loans, violence from my hubby. He is change now, he does neither of 'em anymore. I am glad of it, until... one of my friend told me that he love me, ...
A. 3 March 2015: You don't feel loved by your husband? Then why have you stayed?
... (read in full...)
Is my crush trying to send a message to the other gals at work what is his purpose?
Q. Dear cupid,I have a huge crush on a guy I have been knowing for about 8 months.He stated he is in a relationship but he is not married.We flirt with each other back and forward and I notice the other gals rolling their eyes at me on the sly.Really ...
A. 3 March 2015: You say you have a huge crush on this. That doesn't sound like just 'honest play.' Why would you make yourself look like woman who is going after a taken man?
You ask what he is doing, well, it seems to me that he's chatting you up and you are fall... (read in full...)
He has too much baggage but I don't have the courage to break up with him!
Q. Well, I'm trying to put an end to my 6 month relationship but I'm having a bit of trouble. I can't quite figure out my feelings towards him. To briefly describe my relationship, I've always had second thoughts about us, but really wanted to try to m...
A. 3 March 2015: He's a sweetheart, but you are concerned about him being a danger to your or himself? That's not a sweetheart, that's an emotional blackmailer.
Tell his mother you are going to break up with him.
Then do it, and do NOT stick around after you have... (read in full...)
What are the ground rules during separation from spouse?
Q. Just curious, what are the ground rules for separating with a spouse i.e. we need some time apart? Is dating and seeing others ok? Please don't look at this as an excuse but rather a consequence of separation....
A. 23 February 2015: I would talk with a lawyer first. As you didn't post a flag there's no way of knowing which country you are posting from and so no way to point you to the laws in your country.
In a relative's case in a certain state in the US, they had to live sepa... (read in full...)
Does the volume of semen a man ejaculates matter to a woman?
Q. I was talking with a female friend of mine and she called herself a "slug girl." I asked her what she meant by that and she said she she gets very wet when she gets turned on. She was quite embarrassed to admit that. However, I think most men thin...
A. 23 February 2015: In short, um, no. The amount isn't important. The fact that he ejaculates -- presumably because he was sexually satisfied -- is enough.
You're 30-35 and this is news to you? So you're not with a long term girlfriend or significant other.
She w... (read in full...)
I am pregnant with married boyfrind's child. He is away and I don't know what to do!
Q. I need help. More than ever. I am here all alone with nobody to talk to. I have been with a married man for 2 years. I love him. I truly love him. I know, I am stupid. I have just found out tonight that I am pregnant with his child. He is out...
A. 23 February 2015: And confirm the pregnancy with your gynecologist asap. You are in the 41-50 age range, which puts you automatically into the high-risk pregnancy group.
Would you be prepared to be a single parent to a special needs child? Down's syndrome comes to m... (read in full...)
I am pregnant with married boyfrind's child. He is away and I don't know what to do!
Q. I need help. More than ever. I am here all alone with nobody to talk to. I have been with a married man for 2 years. I love him. I truly love him. I know, I am stupid. I have just found out tonight that I am pregnant with his child. He is out...
A. 23 February 2015: Do you want to be mother? Are you one now? Are you married?
Answer those questions first, the rest follows from that.... (read in full...)
Interested in a co-worker. Last week, she was playful and fun. This week, she's snapping and short-answered.
Q. I work with this girl on a bar. She is attractive, and met her a couple weeks ago while working. There was so real playfulness between us and I thought that there could be something. Fast forward to last night. Coming off the back if a great week,...
A. 23 February 2015:
You work with her at a bar. She doesn't want to know you better. Why? Who knows? It doesn't matter. She doesn't want to know you better.
She's not going to be a friend.
You work with this girl at a bar. She's let you know that's all she wants as... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'm only falling for who I think he is and not who he really is
Q. hi, i really need some advice because i think i am falling for a guy i don't even know… my friend set me up with him, he goes to a different school, is in the year above and lives quite nearby. we have been texting non stop but only for around ...
A. 23 February 2015: Oh, and P.S.
Any guy you have to hide from friends or family?
He's not a good guy.
He's a loser!
Sorry.... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'm only falling for who I think he is and not who he really is
Q. hi, i really need some advice because i think i am falling for a guy i don't even know… my friend set me up with him, he goes to a different school, is in the year above and lives quite nearby. we have been texting non stop but only for around ...
A. 23 February 2015: Meet him and decide if you two are compatible or not.
It's not rocket science, it's just normal "does she like me?" or "does he like me?" stuff.
Lay off the texting until you meet him as you obviously aren't comfortable with this uncertai... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 23 February 2015: So, to go back to the original question. Do I regret my sexual past? No. Did I date any losers? Define 'loser.' I dated one or two men who weren't right for me long term. They seemed like a good match at the time but then turned out to have some ... (read in full...)
I'm his girlfriend but our mutual friend is now treating me like a third wheel
Q. I feel like my on/off boyfriend of 2 years doesn't know how to set boundaries when it comes to other girls. Alright so basically my boyfriend and I have a mutual female friend. The three of us have spent a good chunk of our lives together so we h...
A. 22 February 2015: I would stop fighting this thing and see if he's willing to fight for you.
I let him know that you feel this way, I would be very specific with the examples you give here and I would lay them all out.
If he won't treat you as his girlfrie... (read in full...)
I'm worried about what my friends will think of my much older father
Q. Hey, I am having trouble... My dad, well, he's a bit older than most dads, I'm a teenager, and he's in his 70's. I love my dad, but this has made me so so so self conscious! Anyway, it's my birthday in a few days, and I'm having a party with my ...
A. 22 February 2015: You're embarrassed by your dad. You're normal. Most teens are.
What I will tell you.\, and what you will probably not be able to grasp until you are older and more tuned into the world that exists outside your bubble, is that you will miss the hell... (read in full...)
How do I make it work with a 24 year old man I met in Cuba?
Q. Hi, I am a 16 (nearly 17) year old girl from London, UK... I have visited Cuba 7 times and I have some very good friends there. In June I met a guy aged 24 who worked at the hotel I stay in who was very sweet. I didn't stay in touch with him but ...
A. 22 February 2015: "How can I get him to really like me and want me? Any other advice? Also, I haven't been in a serious relationship and never properly kissed a guy apart from a peck."
You can't get someone to really like you and 'want' you.
Think about it this way... (read in full...)
I've recently discovered inappropriate messages between my boyfriend and other girls
Q. My boyfriend left his snapchat logged in on my ipad and my friend was over using it and thought it was my snapchat and saw some things that were quite questionable. There are many message from him to other girls telling them they look extra hot ...
A. 22 February 2015: I'd just let this boy---emphasis on BOY--friend go.
You're 22-25, you've been together only a few months. Let him go so he can fulfill his wish to go many rounds...
Are you hoping that he didn't write these things?
... (read in full...)
When I get depressed I rely too heavily on my boyfriend
Q. The past 6 months or so I've been extremely depressed (tried medications, therapy, etc), and I've become clingy and overly dependent on my boyfriend. I know it's not healthy and I know it's not fair to him -- he has been so amazing and always t...
A. 22 February 2015: Yes, give therapy and medications more time to work.
When you say he's the only one who can really calm you down, what does that mean? You say you feel extremely epressed so how is it that you'd need to be calmed down? Are you agitated or anxi... (read in full...)
My mom is an attention whore on the beach and it botherd me!
Q. My mom likes to wear skimpy bikinis to the beach! Ok so this has been going on my whole life but now that I'm beginning to mature it's starting to matter to me. My mom wear's the smallest bikinis in the world it seems even when we are going as a f...
A. 22 February 2015: Your mom is wearing bikinis to the beach in this weather? On the East Coast of the US then she need to see a neurologist! It's FREEZING here. As in ARCTIC cold.
... (read in full...)
Will my professor notice if I stop admiring him?
Q. hi! I am a student n I have a huge crush on a professor. He has come to know dat i like him .He also knows that i look at him. He is single n he is 5 years elder to me. By any chance will it affect him if i stop looking at him ? Will he notice that ...
A. 22 February 2015: No, he won't notice. He's used to many eyes gazing at him while he teaches.
Good luck with your future endeavors and congratulations on graduating.
P.S. Remember that your crush could ruin his career... is your crush more important than his voca... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable saying his name because of my accent
Q. This is going to sound really stupid but I'm genuinely finding it difficult to say the name of someone I've just started talking to platonically online. I haven't met them yet and, if I will it will be a while away, so I don't need to say it but t...
A. 22 February 2015: Ask your Mum!
If you can't ask her, then please let us know why you can't ask her. Or why you couldn't ask your Dad.
:)... (read in full...)
How can I stop cum leaking out after sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now... Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me. Whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especial...
A. 20 February 2015: "is there a way to prevent this always happening?" Yes! He can wear a condom, or you can use a female condom.
You can also go sit on the toilet or bidet and wait a bit for things to slide back down.
You could use an absorbent pad to catch the disc... (read in full...)
Do I answer her or not? She messages me, I ignore her. She keeps messaging. How to get her to stop?
Q. Do I answer to this girl or not. We were family friends and became closer two years ago and at first she thought I was a player but as we got closer realized that I was far from it. I was trying to go from a "nice guy" to a jerk and she told me not ...
A. 19 February 2015: Whoa dude. You've turned into a first class creep. I remember all your prior posts and how many times you've been told that your thinking and approach needs to be changed through professional help and now you're talking about slut shaming some sorry ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 18 February 2015: So it's not so much a moral objection as one that "average" anon male is upset that the only women available for youthful sexual purposes are either a) too ugly to have sex with or b) so pretty and air-headed that they giggled and laughed while ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 18 February 2015: "I feel that a mutual respect, love and commitment needs to be involved in sex otherwise there is no emotional pole to balance the objectification of using someone for the pleasure of a base reproductive action, which i feel is degrading. I feel sex ... (read in full...)
What do I about the woman I can't have?
Q. i have no idea what to do! a week ago, i began a course and on it are some great people. but one of them i really like. the issue is she is engaged. i am usually slow to trust people and even once i trust people, am never comfortable with them. i ...
A. 18 February 2015: I'm so sorry, garnetto, I really did miss the mark. I guess I was focused on your comments about not wanting to lose her or that your feelings were growing every day and that you wanted her as a friend
How to deal with your feelings? Well, al... (read in full...)
Pills and periods?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to get some input or thoughts from any ladies. I have been on different birth control pills over the years. Since I have been on the pill, I never get my period. Do you find this as well on the pill or is this actually not nor...
A. 18 February 2015: If you don't trust your gynecologist because of his gender then change to a gynecologist who is female.
Any physician worth his or her salt will give good medical advice regardless of gender.
Do you actually know the name, dosage, possible side eff... (read in full...)
I'm a man who wants to have a semi relationship with a man while I play the part of the woman
Q. About me: young, live in a tiny village in the uk, have been crossdressing on and off for 5 years now, have met up with men but always get tested regularly. So since starting my industrial placement from uni last summer I've expanded my ward...
A. 18 February 2015: You don't really enjoy anal sex as a receiver so why are you continuing to have it? Under no circumstances should you go 'bareback' until both partners involved have been monogamous and been tested and found negative for HIV.
You don't find men attr... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 17 February 2015: Didn't Hugh Hefner advocate total sexual freedom? Anon male, please do advise if you partake of the sexual freedom known as porn?... (read in full...)
Pills and periods?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to get some input or thoughts from any ladies. I have been on different birth control pills over the years. Since I have been on the pill, I never get my period. Do you find this as well on the pill or is this actually not nor...
A. 17 February 2015: You want input from any ladies?
Whoa.
You should be wanting input from your doctor! ASAP!
Go ask! And be honest about your lack of periods... omg, why do people think that unqualified strangers will have great medical advice????
See your doct... (read in full...)
What do I about the woman I can't have?
Q. i have no idea what to do! a week ago, i began a course and on it are some great people. but one of them i really like. the issue is she is engaged. i am usually slow to trust people and even once i trust people, am never comfortable with them. i ...
A. 17 February 2015: "Hi, Mindy, nice to see you, would it be possible to sit next to Sabrina today?" *smile* That's how you deal with the friend.
"Hi Sabrina, I know we have this thing in common and it's so refreshing to be able to connect with someone who is as nice... (read in full...)
What can I do to help him understand he is ruining our relationship?
Q. Im in a relationship with a younger man there is no doubt on my mind we love each other, he goes to work I am home I rarely go out I pretty much stay to myself before the relationship began I was always surrounded by fam and friends they were always ...
A. 17 February 2015: Your cheating man is an abuser and you are the one in three. Google it.
You can't fix him, you can't make him see your side, he doesn't care. You are his possession in his mind and he can be as shitty and mean and irrational to you as he like... (read in full...)
Does anyone in a long term relationship still feel in love/the "spark" with their SO?
Q. I'm curious as to whether or not there are long term couples out there who still feel in love after a long time. I've always been dumped/cheated on once the infatuation period wore off so I'm always paranoid about it. My current relationship is ...
A. 17 February 2015: Just to add, if you keep choosing men who cheat on you then you are the common denominator. Or you are just 18 and have gone through the rough teen years of 13-18 where very few people are solidly grounded and know better than to start a new ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 17 February 2015: "These women deserve love if they can give you what you need in the present."
Um, does that mean they don't deserve love if they can't?... (read in full...)
Does anyone in a long term relationship still feel in love/the "spark" with their SO?
Q. I'm curious as to whether or not there are long term couples out there who still feel in love after a long time. I've always been dumped/cheated on once the infatuation period wore off so I'm always paranoid about it. My current relationship is ...
A. 17 February 2015: I think you go in and out of phases. Sometimes life sets you up to be super busy or stressed and you can't be all lovey-dovey or even feel very sexual. Other times you reconnect in deep and profound ways with your love that your socks get knocked ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 17 February 2015: Dear OP, did you really want people to weigh in on this? Or was this more a desperate hope that you would somehow hear an answer that would ease the pain you appear to be suffering?
Some women will say, yes, I wish I hadn't had sex so young. Othe... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 17 February 2015: Hi Aether, you wrote this question as well: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/young-male-older-female-advice-for-breaking-news.html
So you are dating the mother of a woman you had a long-term relationship with?
So you already have some experien... (read in full...)
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