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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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He flirts a lot and he has a Gf. We've been texting. How can I make things less awkward if we do sleep together?
Q. There's a new guy that started at my work he's 32 bearing in mind I'm 20 but I don't think the age matters because we're basically like the same people. But the problem is that he has a girlfriend and he have such good flirty banter and I'm star...
A. 19 July 2015: Could you be more specific about how it would be awkward? And why simply avoiding the situation wouldn't be the best solution?... (read in full...)
All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: Hi OP, gosh thanks for all the followups! I guess the original question you asked said that you didn't sleep with random people because it concerns you, isn't that right? So, now we have more information on your real question.
How about trying this... (read in full...)
Why does he not tell me when everyone is meeting up? Why doesn't he invite me too? Should I be concerned?
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with a really great guy for about 3 months now. He's so nice and sweet and I can just be myself around him and we have so much in common, it's amazing. I'm always happy when I'm with him. But I feel like he doesn't ...
A. 18 July 2015: Oh, and I did forget to ask, how old is he? He may just be a rather clueless teenaged boyfriend who has a lesson or two to learn himself! :)... (read in full...)
Why does he not tell me when everyone is meeting up? Why doesn't he invite me too? Should I be concerned?
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with a really great guy for about 3 months now. He's so nice and sweet and I can just be myself around him and we have so much in common, it's amazing. I'm always happy when I'm with him. But I feel like he doesn't ...
A. 18 July 2015: "[Great guy's name], I have been having a great time with you! I have a question to ask. Why am I not being included on the meet ups with our group of friends? I'm feeling excluded. I'd like to be included on those meet ups with our group of ... (read in full...)
All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: "I don't want to get known as the serious one!" Why ever not? You are being serious.
"I just feel awkward about contraception as stupid and pathetic as it sounds." Well, if you are feeling this awkward then perhaps you aren't quite ready to have... (read in full...)
How can I get over being nervous and initiate the first kiss with my Girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 months, we havent kissed yet and i really want to. I mean i've been kissed by other people before but ive never really had to be the one to start it and the other ones just sort of happened...
A. 18 July 2015: I mean "your Dad" and of course I shouldn't overlook your Mom! They were your age once, believe it or not! They will have some memories of what it was like to be your age and feel the way you do.
So I think my advice is to first ask the parent you ... (read in full...)
How can I get over being nervous and initiate the first kiss with my Girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 months, we havent kissed yet and i really want to. I mean i've been kissed by other people before but ive never really had to be the one to start it and the other ones just sort of happened...
A. 18 July 2015: As you've been kissed by other people, can you remember how they initiated the kiss?
And why are you pushing yourself to do something that you're not really ready to do?
I think you Dad may have some advice on this, I would start by asking h... (read in full...)
All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: So it's STIs you are concerned about then. Well, educate yourself on how to prevent them and how they are transmitted so you'll be able to manage your sexual health just fine. Do have an in-depth discussion with your doctor about your concerns and ... (read in full...)
My fantasy of a three-some with my wife is on my mind. And it will not go away. Any advice from those who have tried to have a threesome?
Q. I have a long time fantasy that wants me to see my wife having sex with another guy. I have been reading Q and A's on this forum for a long time. I have read everything that very nice folks here have to say about threesomes not being a good ide...
A. 18 July 2015: "I PROMISED her this was all a fantasy and it will NEVER happen in real life. May be that put her at ease to get started."
So she was okay when it was all just a fantasy, (grudgingly?) agreed to some activities that you never followed through on, ... (read in full...)
All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: I think the other aunts have covered the pregnancy/STD issues quite well. I'm just wondering if what you mean by sleeping with anyone randomly means meeting a stranger off some app or website and bringing a complete stranger home. Or having sex with ... (read in full...)
My close male friend's behavior seems like a slap in the face. I don't know what to make of it
Q. I'm a little baffled by the behavior of a close male friend who wants to be more. He otherwise is very engaging and warm but when there is any type of problem that I may be stressed, saddened or angered about and nothing having to do with him, he ...
A. 17 July 2015: My guess is that he just doesn't know what to say or do to make you feel better. He may be extremely self-conscious about making himself look bad and so rather than say something stupid, he removes himself from the picture so he doesn't have to say ... (read in full...)
Why am I still so jealous and what do I do about it?
Q. Why am I still so jealous? I had a fall out with a girl over a guy not so long ago - she was seeing him, but so was I prior to that too! We made it up again later (as I knew there is no point falling out over a man) but the thing is - it's hard to ...
A. 17 July 2015: You haven't forgiven her. You may have made up but you have not put it behind you at all. The problem now is that you view her as competition, not a friend.
I think the best answer to your question, "What should I do?" is to live your life with... (read in full...)
If a woman asks you what is your type is, is she interested in you?
Q. Back at it again! It sucks to be a man and trying to figure out women. With that being said, if a woman asks you what your type is, is she interested in you? After I told her my type she said well i guess i'm your type right? And i asked why ...
A. 16 July 2015: Ask her out! The worst she can do is say 'no' and then you won't have to wonder if she's interested in you and you can move on!
P.S. Most women will mention personality traits, not physical traits. Most but not all.
So ask her out on a date!... (read in full...)
I know we can NEVER be together.. but how do I emotionally detach myself?
Q. How do you detach yourself from someone you know you can NEVER be with? There's this guy I've kind of fallen for and there's no chance of it going anywhere other than friendship so how can I pull away without him really knowing I'm doing so. If he ...
A. 15 July 2015: "If he notices I'm backing off he won't let it happen, he'll do whatever he can to keep me close to him" So, if he's on the other side of the world and you change your number or block him, what exactly will he do to keep you 'close' to him? Badger ... (read in full...)
It is possible that a guy doesn't know if he cums or not?
Q. Okay so this is rather embarrassing to ask but how does guy not tell if he cums or not? I mean is that normal? My fiancé and i wanted to try something neither of us have done before so we decided to have sex in water. He said hed pull out before he ...
A. 13 July 2015: And the sooner you go for emergency contraception the more effective the results.
You posted this like it was an emergency. Are you reading the answers?... (read in full...)
Can I trust my female friend? I know she is lying to me but I'm unsure of why she is
Q. Can I trust my female friend? A friend who I thought was a friend is seeing a guy I like behind my back. I know it is none of my business - but when I confronted her she played it down and pretended nothing was going on, when all I wanted w...
A. 13 July 2015: One of my close friends had a crush on my now husband back in the day. Like 25 years ago. We are all still good friends.
You are asking about 'trust'... I would go with forgiveness and let her be with the guy she likes. As you now know, he's not... (read in full...)
It is possible that a guy doesn't know if he cums or not?
Q. Okay so this is rather embarrassing to ask but how does guy not tell if he cums or not? I mean is that normal? My fiancé and i wanted to try something neither of us have done before so we decided to have sex in water. He said hed pull out before he ...
A. 13 July 2015: It doesn't sound normal, was he really drunk or high or something?
If your use of the word 'paranoid' means you are worried about pregnancy, go into the pharmacy and get emergency contraception. Or call your gynecologist for help.
And while yo... (read in full...)
I'm not a very good talker - is an email suitable to break up medium?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years, engaged for one, but 18 months ago it became long distance of about 4 hours due to monetary issues. For the past 3-4 months, however, I've been doubting about where we're going...
A. 13 July 2015: You want to end your engagement via email?
Ah.
By all means, do so. Be prepared to have that email forwarded to all her friends and winding up on social media boards. Your email will wind up mocked and parodied...
Just call her and tell her tha... (read in full...)
But how can I tell which applies? I know I'm either straight, bi-curious or bisexual.
Q. Kinda confused on my sexuality right now. I know i'm either straight, bi-curious or bisexual. I know i'm not a lesbian because i'm definitely attracted emotionally, romantically and sexually to men. However, ever since I was younger and coul...
A. 13 July 2015: I think lots of people, men and women, find female breasts attractive!. If they didn't then there would be no covers on women's magazines featuring women with large breasts.
Relax, don't try to label yourself just yet.
You sound pretty normal t... (read in full...)
Can I get over this revelation? Three years ago, before I knew her, she gave a guy a bj.
Q. Okay so im 18 and have been with my girlfriend who is 19 for a year. I'm very happy with her, and still am, but recently found out that when she was barely 15, she gave a bj to a guy who she only got with 2 or 3 times, who she knew had a gf but d...
A. 12 July 2015: What's so sad and poignant about this post is that the OP reports he can't stop picturing an event he wasn't involved in at all (that fabled blow job) yet he 'enjoyed' a blow job at age 16 and apparently there's no retroactive enjoyment of that ... (read in full...)
How should I approach this girl that I like?
Q. There's a girl that I know of, well, I know her family well- they live in the same village as me, her family knows my family, although I've only spoken to her a couple of times.. Anyway, she's a hairdresser, and cut my hair once about 5 years ago. ...
A. 12 July 2015: And make sure your Mum knows that she's your wingman. If you have another exhibit coming up, be sure to bring an invitation to that as well.
Oh, I'm so rooting for you here! I hope it goes well! ... (read in full...)
How should I approach this girl that I like?
Q. There's a girl that I know of, well, I know her family well- they live in the same village as me, her family knows my family, although I've only spoken to her a couple of times.. Anyway, she's a hairdresser, and cut my hair once about 5 years ago. ...
A. 12 July 2015: If I were you, I'd ask your Mum to make another hair appointment so that you can pop in and take your Mum out to lunch afterwards. Bring a portfolio with you, so you can show some of your artwork, or an iPad with the link to your work if it's too ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with problems with my mom?
Q. My mother always disagrees with things I say. If she's having an issue with something she'll ask me and then I'll tell her what I think but then we end up arguing about it. She then goes, maybe weeks or days later, to ask my 2 brothers(I'm the only ...
A. 12 July 2015: And as a shortcut for yourself, I would start to treat her like she was slightly um, mentally challenged, and need some help getting things done right.
If she was a toddler and challenged you all the time, you'd find a way to cope with her, righ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with problems with my mom?
Q. My mother always disagrees with things I say. If she's having an issue with something she'll ask me and then I'll tell her what I think but then we end up arguing about it. She then goes, maybe weeks or days later, to ask my 2 brothers(I'm the only ...
A. 12 July 2015: I think you need to practice asking her questions about her questions, calmly, with nothing in your voice but a simple query.
"If she's having an issue with something she'll ask me and then I'll tell her what I think but then we end up arguing abou... (read in full...)
If my bf really loves me why does he want me to have sex with other partners?
Q. I've been dating my bf since Jan 2015. I'm 18 and he's 35. Big age gap I know but love has no boundary. My family likes him and him and I know very well that we're each other's life partner. However I believe that because of his age he is too le...
A. 10 July 2015: I think you have picked the wrong boyfriend for yourself.
"He thinks that because I'm young I haven't had enough sexual experiences" so he thinks you're young and assumes you need more sexual experiences? So, right off the bat, you are a bit too ... (read in full...)
Girl I've been seeing for 9 months is on a holiday with girlfriends. What can I do to keep my mind off her ?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a quick question. The girl I've been seeing for about 9 months has gone on holiday today with 3 other single friends (a few of them are meeting people too) but what I want to know is how I can not be wondering what she's ...
A. 10 July 2015: Put an elastic band around your wrist, and snap it every time you start to think about her. It will snap you (pun intended) back to the present moment, so you can give yourself a moment to recognize that your mind is making up narratives that have ... (read in full...)
I want my 18 year old girlfriend to be my first sexual partner. How can I tell her this?
Q. I am a 18 year old virgin. My girlfriend is 18. We are seniors in high school and have been dating for 9 months. We enjoy doing the boyfriend/ girlfriend things. We were talking about sex the other night and I told her i was a virgin. She ...
A. 9 July 2015: Isn't school out here in the US? We are now in the summer recess. So you are either rising seniors or you graduated in May or June.
If you are 18 and she is 18 and you are comfortable with each other, do you have a problem with letting her know that... (read in full...)
How do I make my boyfriend want to have sex more?
Q. My bf of 3 months and I rarely have sex. Maybe 2 to 3 times a week, which would be normal if we were together for years but we just started. I've tried to start stuff and talked to him about it. And everytime I talk about it and he becomes defensive ...
A. 9 July 2015: Hi Midsummer, I have to admit to having laughed just a wee little bit when you said "my bf of 3 months and I rarely have sex. Maybe 2 to 3 times a week, which would be normal if we were together for years but we just started" For many people 2-3 ... (read in full...)
I am starting to think no man will accept my body but I can't do anything about it so what is someone like me to do?
Q. I've been seeing a man for the past few months and a few nights ago I was foolish enough to get intimate with him. After two days of not hearing from him, I attempted to contact him and he texted me saying in a nutshell that I'm a really nice wo...
A. 9 July 2015: Here's a link which may help you: http://www.breastcancer.org/questions/support
http://bcsupport.org
http://www.cancer.org/treatment/supportprogramsservices/index
Let me know when you reach out to one of these groups!... (read in full...)
What are the reasons or justifications to share, or not share, one's sexual past with a significant other?
Q. Would you share your sexual past with someone who you're in a committed relationship with, or do you think it's best to leave the past in the past? Similarly, would you want to know about your significant other's past or would you prefer not to k...
A. 9 July 2015: All I know is that he was sexually active before we met and no details of his sex life prior to me, and vice versa. I don't see any need to discuss details of sexual activity with other people with each other. We accept that the other was an adult ... (read in full...)
I am starting to think no man will accept my body but I can't do anything about it so what is someone like me to do?
Q. I've been seeing a man for the past few months and a few nights ago I was foolish enough to get intimate with him. After two days of not hearing from him, I attempted to contact him and he texted me saying in a nutshell that I'm a really nice wo...
A. 9 July 2015: Wow, you had breast cancer quite young and to have scars on both breasts, you must have decided to undergo double surgeries? How long have you been cancer-free? I hope you continue to do well physically.
I think as a breast cancer survivor you have... (read in full...)
He has done this before only to be ok once finances are ok. what should I do I am devastated. How to tell if he is just running from stress again or is this the real thing?
Q. So things have been tough here, and we are both stressed my boyfriend of five years whom I live with just told me that he was getting himself an apartment and letting the house go in forclosure. He told me that because I lost my job that I am going ...
A. 9 July 2015: What does it matter if he's running from stress again or if this is the real thing? The effect on you is the same. He's out of the house and abandoning you and the house payments. If his survival mechanism is to run run run when things get tough ... (read in full...)
After finding my boyfriend's porn stash, I'm worried he wasn't being honest when he said he likes my body!
Q. I'm sorry if there are more questions like this, but I used the search feature and it didn't seem to work. This may seem like a petty issue, but it's making me feel self conscious. I've always felt my body is inferior, considering you always get t...
A. 9 July 2015: Ok, justthefacts, we have a very clear understanding about your concerns with porn. I respect your opinion on this, and agree on many points.
However, in this particular post, our OP stated these things:
I've always felt my body is inferior... (read in full...)
My wedding day was wonderful and since then I've been crying. When can I feel better?
Q. I was wondering if what I'm feeling is normal... I got married almost 4 months ago. I'm not one who particularly enjoys weddings and hated the entire process of organising my own. I wanted an intimate party but as my husband has a big family...
A. 9 July 2015: I agree with the anon who suggested that you should see your doctor after you take a pregnancy test. Unless you've been very emotional all your life and this is just another new phase of feeling things strongly, then you should get checked out to ... (read in full...)
After finding my boyfriend's porn stash, I'm worried he wasn't being honest when he said he likes my body!
Q. I'm sorry if there are more questions like this, but I used the search feature and it didn't seem to work. This may seem like a petty issue, but it's making me feel self conscious. I've always felt my body is inferior, considering you always get t...
A. 9 July 2015: I don't see where her boyfriend said he held the porn star body as an ideal? Where did you read that, "Justthefacts"?
... (read in full...)
After finding my boyfriend's porn stash, I'm worried he wasn't being honest when he said he likes my body!
Q. I'm sorry if there are more questions like this, but I used the search feature and it didn't seem to work. This may seem like a petty issue, but it's making me feel self conscious. I've always felt my body is inferior, considering you always get t...
A. 8 July 2015: If she doesn't like her own body, how will she ever believe a man who likes her body just as it is?
And why is it so awful if a man or woman does find another body type attractive? It doesn't mean they dislike the body of the person they are with... (read in full...)
He (A) treats me right but there is another guy (B) I like more. What can I do, seeing B is not interested?
Q. So i have been seeing this guy for about two months now and he is really nice he treats me right and even gets a little jealous when i talk to other men which i find really cute but the problem is i really like someone else and i dont know what to ...
A. 8 July 2015: Hi! I think the thing to do is to stop dating the guy you are seeing now! As you don't feel the way he does and he gets jealous if you talk with other men! Imagine if he knew you would rather be with this other guy right now! It's not fair to him if ... (read in full...)
He told me his booked a night at a hotel for me, should I say I'm busy?
Q. Been on three dates with this Asian man, I'm Caucasian. On the first date he was very pedantic about the fact he wanted to pick me up, and pay for everything, we had some coffee, he then took me to see a movie in which he insisted it probably isn't ...
A. 8 July 2015: Three dates and he wants to go away on a long weekend at a hotel? Wow. That's a pretty slick talker. And you agreed?
Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. If he's moving too fast, he's moving too fast. And I think going away for a week... (read in full...)
I'm searching for ideas on where to look to find girls to date. Any suggestions?
Q. what places are ideal for a man to meet single women that are in their late teens to early to mid 20's? Any idea's for me? ...
A. 8 July 2015: http://www.meetup.com
http://www.toastmasters.org (you may not meet women but you'll gain confidence and experience in public speaking)
http://volunteer.ca
http://www.yogafinder.com
... (read in full...)
After finding my boyfriend's porn stash, I'm worried he wasn't being honest when he said he likes my body!
Q. I'm sorry if there are more questions like this, but I used the search feature and it didn't seem to work. This may seem like a petty issue, but it's making me feel self conscious. I've always felt my body is inferior, considering you always get t...
A. 8 July 2015: As you didn't include a flag in your post, I can't link an appropriate site for you to find a therapist in your country. But I would assume you are in an English-speaking country with decent medical care and that you have access to said medical ... (read in full...)
After finding my boyfriend's porn stash, I'm worried he wasn't being honest when he said he likes my body!
Q. I'm sorry if there are more questions like this, but I used the search feature and it didn't seem to work. This may seem like a petty issue, but it's making me feel self conscious. I've always felt my body is inferior, considering you always get t...
A. 8 July 2015: Here's a great read from a woman who shut down a body-shamer. Perhaps your ex is out dating now? http://happyplace.someecards.com/dating-relationships/a-woman-got-an-unnecessary-fatshaming-rejection-from-a-tinder-date-but-her-response-is-great/
T... (read in full...)
I'm searching for ideas on where to look to find girls to date. Any suggestions?
Q. what places are ideal for a man to meet single women that are in their late teens to early to mid 20's? Any idea's for me? ...
A. 8 July 2015: Painting, cooking or a language class
Dance, aerobics, or yoga classes
Coffee shop in a book store
Poetry readings, anti-clear-cutting lectures, or demonstrations to free Tibet
Grocery store
Museum
At a bank, the DMV, or an amusement park
Ha... (read in full...)
After finding my boyfriend's porn stash, I'm worried he wasn't being honest when he said he likes my body!
Q. I'm sorry if there are more questions like this, but I used the search feature and it didn't seem to work. This may seem like a petty issue, but it's making me feel self conscious. I've always felt my body is inferior, considering you always get t...
A. 7 July 2015: Men love you, the whole package, so to speak, not the bits and pieces which pop up online. He could well look at a woman with large breasts and a slender figure and experience a little sexual 'zing.' Does that mean he wants to spend the rest of his ... (read in full...)
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