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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 15 May 2015: You need professional help. If you want things to change, you will have to take positive action. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why is it worse for a man to be bitter and resentful than it is for a woman?
Q. If a man is bitter, resentful, is filled with feelings of bitterness, resentment, no woman will want him, but a man is generally more forgiving if a woman is feeling bitter, resentful, why is this? Why are guys expected to always, or almos...
A. 14 May 2015: Are you even bothering to read the advice you ask for? If you want to wallow in anger and bitterness, go for it. If you want to change your life, your attitude will need adjusting.
Decide what will serve you best.
Sorry you are stuck. You are the ... (read in full...)
I sent a text to my boyfriend that was meant for my boss. Will my BF get upset?
Q. Hi all. Let me start by saying my BF of two years can be insecure and has expressed jealousy at times. I was texting my boss trying to set up a meeting and sent the text by accident to my BF as I have both conversations saved on my phone....
A. 13 April 2015: Are you unfaithful? No?
Are you inappropriate with other men? No?
Do you have a history of cheating? No?
Then stop being such a wimpy woman in dealing with an insecure and jealous boyfriend.
You are in your 30s. There's no reason to put up... (read in full...)
I sent a text to my boyfriend that was meant for my boss. Will my BF get upset?
Q. Hi all. Let me start by saying my BF of two years can be insecure and has expressed jealousy at times. I was texting my boss trying to set up a meeting and sent the text by accident to my BF as I have both conversations saved on my phone....
A. 13 April 2015: So what if your boyfriend works those days?
You've been together two years, presumably you like each other and have formed a bond.
Why do you even have to account yourself to him for your text or your time spent on the job?
You sent your boyfrie... (read in full...)
I sent a text to my boyfriend that was meant for my boss. Will my BF get upset?
Q. Hi all. Let me start by saying my BF of two years can be insecure and has expressed jealousy at times. I was texting my boss trying to set up a meeting and sent the text by accident to my BF as I have both conversations saved on my phone....
A. 13 April 2015: Why would that text set up a red flag for anyone?
You didn't text "let's meet up but don't let anyone else know." You texted your boss. BFD.
If your boyfriend at the advanced age of late 30s (I assume that's his age?) is so paranoid then you will... (read in full...)
How do we continue to enjoy ourselves despite the language obstacle?
Q. As most of them go, I met him online. He's a German intern only around until June and this works fine for me as I was not looking for anything too long term either. However, I have little knowledge of German, and only speak English and Xhosa. He is ...
A. 13 April 2015: I third 'overthinking' things. If you both have a sense of humor and a willingness to relax and be still with each other, you'll be fine.
If you are anxious and a worrier by nature, of course, this might be very difficult for you to do. It soun... (read in full...)
I want to know if and how having 2 children has affected my body
Q. I am a 21 year old with a 3 year old and an 8 month old. They both have their birthdays in August. I know my body pretty well but there are a few places that are in the dark. Literally. I long to know what my vagina feels like especially after my...
A. 10 April 2015: If he says you are perfect, they why are you trying to find some fault in yourself? Your body is what it is and you are obviously very concerned with your vaginal health.
You do you queef and slurp? Because that's what happens when sex happens. Air,... (read in full...)
Why is it worse for a man to be bitter and resentful than it is for a woman?
Q. If a man is bitter, resentful, is filled with feelings of bitterness, resentment, no woman will want him, but a man is generally more forgiving if a woman is feeling bitter, resentful, why is this? Why are guys expected to always, or almos...
A. 10 April 2015: I don't think bitterness and resentment are attractive in either gender. Obviously you feel that men are held to a different standard. There are many posts from women who feel they are held to a different standard. This could go back and forth all ... (read in full...)
Confused, in love, but stuck! Please help!
Q. Any advice would be great please.. So the thing is, I'm 24 now and this all started many moons ago when i was 10. I've always been mad after this lad I've been close to, I literally fell head over heels with him. We have always been on off where we ...
A. 10 April 2015: If he wanted to be with you, you'd have no doubt because he'd be asking you to be his.
What you describe is a guy who knows you like him but isn't interested enough to pursue you.
I would advise you to go through the grieving process about this and... (read in full...)
Should I get in contact with him? Text him?
Q. Hi I recently met a boy out clubbing the last couple of weeks. We have spoken about meeting up, but since Saturday night he never text me like he said he would. I really like him- should I text him? No nasty comments please. Thanks ...
A. 9 April 2015: I wouldn't text him. If he hasn't texted or called you in a couple of days he's not that interested. Sorry.... (read in full...)
He cancelled out on meeting me last minute?
Q. I have been seeing this man for around 2-3 months (we are not official). He admitted to me a few days ago that he likes me a lot and wants to get to know me and would eventually like a relationship with me. We arranged to meet today, and last nig...
A. 9 April 2015: What does 'seeing this man' mean? Are you just talking about dating, are you dating, are you sexually intimate?
He likes you a lot and wants to get to know you, he says? Then take a break and see if his actions match his words.
Stop chasing ... (read in full...)
I've fallen deeply for a man I haven't met yet!
Q. I need to ask for advice about something very special and a very complicated situation. Two years ago I got divorced and after had been enduring a very tough relationship. I always knew I would eventually move on and find someone who would deserve ...
A. 9 April 2015: I would take a great deep breath, take a great big step back and reflect on the fact that a man you've never met is asking you to keep the relationship secret...
Reality check. You're talking about getting married to a man you've never met in real... (read in full...)
What should I do about my nitpicking fiancé?
Q. I am at my ropes end. My fiance asked me to move in with him. I will admit I had a lot of stuff from my previous marriage (I am widowed) when I moved in with him. I was married for 24 years, so take that into account when a couple accumulates ...
A. 9 April 2015: Knee jerk reaction is i'd move out and make my own place with the things I like around me. You're an adult and have earned the right to have that....
But if a lot of your life is in boxes in the breezeway for a couple of years? Maybe what is in thos... (read in full...)
How does one know when it's time to leave a relationship ?
Q. Can I ask everyone, if they gave up on a long term relationship, and how they knew the time had come to say goodbye. We have been together nearly four years and he has just stopped making the effort. I have suggested several meets and he alw...
A. 9 April 2015: When was the last time you two saw each other in person?... (read in full...)
What can I do about my husband's infatuation and his need to talk, all the time, about a girl he works with?
Q. I am so frustrated with my husband! We have been married ten years but together for 15. I thought things were really good we have a child both have good jobs and holidays. Right now we are on a family holiday. My husband keeps bringing a girl up ...
A. 9 April 2015: Thinking on this further, I would find a quiet time with him. I would work up all my nerve. I would take his hand in mine. I would ask him to look at me and listen because I had something I needed to say.
I would then look deep into his eyes and ... (read in full...)
He never says yes or no to the kid question, so I'm wondering if it's worth it?
Q. I've been with partner for 6 years, a year ago we had the kid conversation and it was brought up again recently. Whilst I'm willing to let nature it's course, he has told me he has dreams and aspirations he would like to achieve, It's put me in a ...
A. 9 April 2015: P.S. It's okay for you to want to have kids and make a family. It's also okay for him to not want to have kids. What's NOT okay is to continue to avoid the question.
Just because you are younger than he is, doesn't mean that he is in charge of your... (read in full...)
He never says yes or no to the kid question, so I'm wondering if it's worth it?
Q. I've been with partner for 6 years, a year ago we had the kid conversation and it was brought up again recently. Whilst I'm willing to let nature it's course, he has told me he has dreams and aspirations he would like to achieve, It's put me in a ...
A. 9 April 2015: What are his dreams and aspirations? What is he doing to achieve them?
What are your dreams and aspirations? Do they mesh with his and with his timetable? Do his mesh with yours and your timetable?
I agree with Honeypie, if he doesn't give you... (read in full...)
What can I do about my husband's infatuation and his need to talk, all the time, about a girl he works with?
Q. I am so frustrated with my husband! We have been married ten years but together for 15. I thought things were really good we have a child both have good jobs and holidays. Right now we are on a family holiday. My husband keeps bringing a girl up ...
A. 9 April 2015: I might go over the top and bring her up again and again, but in the kindest way. "Oh look, wouldn't Sherrie love this? She seems like a real lover of kittens based on the facebook page I saw on your laptop. I think we should shop for Sherrie, shall ... (read in full...)
How do you cope with a 'lovechild'
Q. My husband has 3 children. 2 with me and 1 with his ex. That is pretty normal in todays society, I know, however he had his first child with me and his second with his ex. He got me pregnant and her like 4 months apart. After our daughter was born ...
A. 8 April 2015: He shouldn't be guessing about things like child support. She could go back and ask for it again and suddenly he'll face a huge bill.
Get a lawyer and get it sorted out. This isn't something to be left to guesswork. Don't do it for him, do it for ... (read in full...)
Do I need to stop believing?
Q. Hi, I'm the kind of woman that stands for her own. I'm 29 years old, I'm a doctor with a nice monthly income, I own my own apartment and car, I'm intelligent and thankfully good looking. My question is why I can't attract an understanding man? I'm...
A. 7 April 2015: And no, you don't need to stop believing. I think you have been looking in the wrong dating pool, that is what you need to change.
Ask for help in this from your friends and family. Tell them you are ready to be with a man with your same goals of w... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble trusting him now.. what should I do?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been.together five months now. We dated once in the past and he hurt me then and am starting to worry he will again. We both agreed when we got together no lies no secrets be 100% truthful but im starting to worry he's ...
A. 7 April 2015: Is it just stupid insecurities, you ask? Is this your previously posted question? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-makes-excuses-to-not-give-me-his.html
If it is, then, um, no, it isn't stupid insecurities. Why are you trying to hold on to a lo... (read in full...)
Do I need to stop believing?
Q. Hi, I'm the kind of woman that stands for her own. I'm 29 years old, I'm a doctor with a nice monthly income, I own my own apartment and car, I'm intelligent and thankfully good looking. My question is why I can't attract an understanding man? I'm...
A. 7 April 2015: If your core value is that you want to wait, that you won't be sexually active until you are about to married in the Catholic church, and to the right man, then you need to spend more time in the church and ask your priest and his colleagues for ... (read in full...)
After me being madly in love with him for years, he wants FWB!
Q. Soooooooo after 5 five years being maddly "in love" with a friend who always blew me away, he finally decided to tell me about his feelings and, he want to be friends with benefits , and idk i like him IN THAT WAY but i also want him in other way ...
A. 7 April 2015: Fascinating side thread from the male anon: "I didn't ever want to be a boyfriend with this girl. I was not all that attracted to her. But she offered a FWB and we ended up in a relationship and now I am too attached to give her up! What can I ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble trusting him now.. what should I do?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been.together five months now. We dated once in the past and he hurt me then and am starting to worry he will again. We both agreed when we got together no lies no secrets be 100% truthful but im starting to worry he's ...
A. 6 April 2015: Change your Facebook information. Why would you even give it to a boyfriend of only 5 months?
You know he flirts with other girls. You live in separate cities. You are okay with the flirting he does with other girls as long as you go along when... (read in full...)
He makes excuses to not give me his facebook password!
Q. So i've been with my boyfriend since mid November, i love him dearly but i've always had a few trust issues with him. As of lately theyve gotten really bad, he wont give me his Facebook password, uses the excuse "i change it to much, ive forgot it." ...
A. 6 April 2015: If you've only been with him for 5 months and he's in a residential probationary enhancement program (which is what the 'pep' stands for in your 'kpep') and you have a hard time believing him, I think it's time to call it off. Presumably he ... (read in full...)
I'd like to talk to him more, but is it worth the money?
Q. This past fall, I took a pe class and unintentionally developed a crush on one of the cute guys on the last day of class. I added him on Facebook over the winter break and messaged him once about the class. During the winter, we didn't have class ...
A. 2 April 2015: So, you are making an assumption that he'll think you are bothering him by messaging him again. You messaged him once. That's once. Not enough to be weird or odd or annoying....
Finish your degree without factoring in this crush on this guy.
You s... (read in full...)
Should I try to win him back?
Q. I dated a guy for a month and it was going so well at the beginning and we were both really into each other, but then he started to get too serious too fast after 2 weeks he told me he loved me and wants marriage and kids asking those kinds of ...
A. 2 April 2015: Let it go. You two are not a match.... (read in full...)
I'd like to talk to him more, but is it worth the money?
Q. This past fall, I took a pe class and unintentionally developed a crush on one of the cute guys on the last day of class. I added him on Facebook over the winter break and messaged him once about the class. During the winter, we didn't have class ...
A. 2 April 2015: Why not message him again, in a friendly message, and ask how the semester is going for him?
Why would it be creepy?
Your name is azpie. Does that refer to Arizona or possibly Aspergers? I'm not intending to offend you, I'm just wonderin... (read in full...)
He has started messaging me more often!
Q. I really like this guy who is 18 yrs old from Newcastle. I met him on an online site and we have been best friends for 6 months now and he never used to message me that often in a day but we did talk everyday. However, recently like 2 days ago he ...
A. 1 April 2015: What do your friends think about it?
Have you asked your Mum and Dad?
Do your friends and family know about this best friend? If not, why not?... (read in full...)
She hugged me and it felt really good. Am I in love?
Q. A girl hugged me today and it felt really good. Later when I was in class, I got a boner from thinking about it. Am I in love? I had a crush on her last year. Should I hug her again to see if I feel the same....
A. 1 April 2015: Do you want to support her in whatever she chooses? Would life without her be somehow less interesting? Do you two have an understanding that you are each other's number one priority? Would you make sacrifices if that was needed for her health and ... (read in full...)
After me being madly in love with him for years, he wants FWB!
Q. Soooooooo after 5 five years being maddly "in love" with a friend who always blew me away, he finally decided to tell me about his feelings and, he want to be friends with benefits , and idk i like him IN THAT WAY but i also want him in other way ...
A. 1 April 2015: Other male Nonnys get all wound up about girls 'giving it away' and not saving themselves for 'THE ONE.' They actually start to sound angry about it and harrumph about the inequity of the average male's access to sex, versus the average female.
Y... (read in full...)
He has started messaging me more often!
Q. I really like this guy who is 18 yrs old from Newcastle. I met him on an online site and we have been best friends for 6 months now and he never used to message me that often in a day but we did talk everyday. However, recently like 2 days ago he ...
A. 1 April 2015: He has more time?... (read in full...)
I'd like to talk to him more, but is it worth the money?
Q. This past fall, I took a pe class and unintentionally developed a crush on one of the cute guys on the last day of class. I added him on Facebook over the winter break and messaged him once about the class. During the winter, we didn't have class ...
A. 1 April 2015: Don't make a financial decision on your tuition payments based on a crush.
Do what you need to do and don't pay more just because you have a crush on a guy in PE, especially a guy who didn't display much interest.
Work your networks (there's... (read in full...)
I'm confused about his motivations, if in fact he has any!
Q. I'm feeling a bit confused over how I feel about a guy and more importantly whether or not he likes me. The guy in question is my tennis coach and he's pretty good looking and we get on extremely well. I have lessons with him on my own and also ...
A. 1 April 2015: Based on your post, I'd say his motivation is to keep you coming back as a customer to his tennis lessons and tennis fitness clinics. He appears to have a good eye for details and a bantering sense of humor which he uses to keep people engaged and ... (read in full...)
How do I know the difference between gut instinct and paranoia?
Q. Hi all. This question has two parts. Should you ever ask your BF if he finds another woman attractive and if he would ever fvck her? I asked my BF tonight if he would fvck this other woman we both know and he said not while he was with me. T...
A. 31 March 2015: How old is the boyfriend? Assuming he's your age, then presumably he's had prior relationships. How did those end?
Sorry to hear your last boyfriend cheated on you. So, is it a wise or healthy choice to punish the current boyfriend because of the ... (read in full...)
I burst into tears when I saw how my boyfriend lives in squalor, what now?
Q. My 38 year old boyfriend of one year knew I was on my way round. What I saw horrified me. He is living in complete squalor. Dirty filthy conditions I would not put a dog in. He smoothed over it all saying he's busy with work and replacing a chimney ...
A. 31 March 2015: So the tears are the dawning realization that your boyfriend may have mental health issues..... that must be difficult to cope with.
But perhaps some of the mysteries surrounding his appearance now are clearing up?
My family had a neighbor who was ... (read in full...)
She was insistent on including her daughters in our invitation to her and then she was a no-show! I wasted £300 on all 4 of them!
Q. I got married over a month ago and I invited a friend of mine - we used to work together and became really good friends so I invited both her and husband to my wedding for the entire day. When my friend received her invite she called to as...
A. 31 March 2015: At 125 guests at £75 a head, you spent £9375. Adding an additional two guests (the daughters) was another £150. So they were an additional 1.6% to the bill, and if you add your friend plus husband we are looking at about 3.2% of the total bill. You ... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 31 March 2015: The sooner you get started in therapy, the sooner you can experience the things you want. Persistently asking the same question over and over again yet taking no action gets you right where you are now.... (read in full...)
How to re-create the spark with my ex?
Q. My ex and I were together for many years, broke up due to communication problems and thought we needed to part ways for awhile. We've kept in contact and have been talking about a reconciliation. During our BU, we worked on ourselves and tried ...
A. 31 March 2015: I suggest that you two go do adventurous things together. Things that make your heart pound a bit and keep you focused on the activity. Whitewater rafting, hiking, skiing, skating, waterskiing, scuba diving, snorkeling, sky diving, zip lining.
B... (read in full...)
My husband masturbates to porn and turns me away when I try to initiate!
Q. I need some advice and opinion here. To sum it up in a gist, my husband has been married to me for two years now, but recently I found out that he masturbates to porn. This has happened several times. When I confronted him about it, he got agita...
A. 31 March 2015: Thank you for that link, Janniepeg. OP, what has changed from the first few months of the marriage until now? Is he abusive? You say you have a young daughter.
Why are you staying with an abusive, neglectful man? You'll be teaching her that this... (read in full...)
We've known each other 2 weeks so what do you take from these messages?
Q. I need your opinion please... I started talking to this guy, we started talking everyday for the first 4 days but then he stopped calling and says he us busy. It's a fact that he has a very bust job I understand but he doesn't even answer texts, ...
A. 31 March 2015: You've known him for 2 weeks, how urgent can the texts you are exchanging be at this point? Are you experiencing an emergency?
Relax, lighten up, stop expecting so much.
He's said a nice thing, that you are a part of his life. So slow things d... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 30 March 2015: Are you planning to hold out until your 40s to regret not having had a girlfriend in your 30s? Or be in your 50s looking back on the 40s?
What is holding you back? Deal with that now. The "what if" thoughts are a waste of your time. ... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 30 March 2015: Sex can feel amazing at any age.
So, what are you doing, besides fretting about the passing years, to get yourself into the situation you say you want to be in? That is, dating and enjoying sex, right?
So put all that energetic fretting and worr... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 30 March 2015: Um, yes. :)
Teens are all over the place and 20s are discovery phases.
30s are amazing.
Don't overthink the age thing.
If you are struggling with social anxiety and starting a relationship, now would be a good time to focus on that. Running th... (read in full...)
Is 47 too old to start a family?
Q. Im 47 yo male. Just wondering what opinions are on starting a family when you are older? Id like a male and female opinion. Cheers....
A. 30 March 2015: Is this for general research? To get some guidance from people who became parents at a similar age?
I don't have children, so I suppose I'm not qualified to answer. But the OP didn't specify who could or could not reply and I do have a bit of an o... (read in full...)
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