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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Mom has an athletic body but I don't. Does this make me a loser?
Q. My mom has an athletic body and I don't. Does that make me a looser? Im a 14 year old skinny person with a fat belly and my mom in contrast has an athletic body. I feel embarrassed when I'm with her especially at the beach in swimsuits. She ...
A. 7 May 2015: Zach, you are not a loser. You're a guy who is still growing.
I think you should talk to your mom about how you feel about your body. I think she may not know and it could help her help you work on this in a healthy way.... (read in full...)
Mom has an athletic body but I don't. Does this make me a loser?
Q. My mom has an athletic body and I don't. Does that make me a looser? Im a 14 year old skinny person with a fat belly and my mom in contrast has an athletic body. I feel embarrassed when I'm with her especially at the beach in swimsuits. She ...
A. 30 April 2015: Are you a boy or a girl? Just wondering what your point of view might be here.
You say you are a skinny person with a fat belly.
Did you know that a healthy woman has a bit of a belly?
"My mom has an athletic body and I don't. Does that make m... (read in full...)
Why does every girl just want to be friends? I don't get past date three. And now this girl'stopped texting me !
Q. so this girl was a regular customer at my store, and we had so much in common. (How many girls love giant monster and horror movies lol) and we started hanging out, nothing serious at all. We would watch cartoons together over Skype and text all the ...
A. 30 April 2015: "So what am I doing wrong, I'm almost 28 and never had a Girlfriend, or gone on a 3rd date :(. Why does every girl I like only want to be friends, what's wrong with me?"
I'm not trying to be mean or judgmental, I'm just assessing what may be goin... (read in full...)
What can I do legally to get her to stop with all the crap shes doing so we can live our lives?
Q. Good day all... Here is the time for all you that give great advice to read my situation and give me advice on what I should do about it. I have been with my fiancé for almost 3 years now. Within a couple months of our relationship he ...
A. 30 April 2015: His attorney should inform her attorney that there are to be no more late night texts.
What can you do legally to get her to stop with the all the crap?
If I were you I'd get my own attorney and make sure that he or she advises me. Spend a couple... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 30 April 2015: What are you arguing about, by the way? That might be helpful for the aunts here to know.... (read in full...)
My concern is that he's rather stingy and that after almost 2 years he's not ready for being together in person. Advice?
Q. I've been in a Long Distance Relationship for almost two years. My boyfriend is a six hour flight away and I fly to see him once a month, duration of stay is 4-7 days each visit. During the time that we've been together, he has only visited three ...
A. 30 April 2015: You've been with this guy for 2 years. He's demonstrated many times that he expects you to pay for him and his family; this will continue.
He doesn't want to be with you in person, despite your research.
He wanted you to buy him a car?
And yet, ... (read in full...)
Should a shy geeky guy visit a prostitute to gain some experience before I Try to find GF
Q. I'm a 24 year old male virgin who has never kissed a girl nor have I ever been on a date. I'm not particularly good looking and I don't have six pack abs. Not to mention I'm a giant film/video game/comic book geek as well. I research this to...
A. 30 April 2015: "I research this topic a lot"
Were you researching this topic a lot at age 14? Or is this a new line of inquiry for you?
You seem to have some idea that "women" like things a certain way. But that notion of "women" is based on what, online research... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 30 April 2015: If he wants time apart, then it's time apart.
No small talk.
Are you a danger to yourself, is that why he could be worried?... (read in full...)
How can I ask someone out through e-mail?
Q. Okay, I know face-to-face is best. It is, I agree with you. But in my current situation I don't have that opportunity anymore. I met this guy, let's call him Tom, during a study opportunity. Basically students had a chance to apply to specifi...
A. 30 April 2015: "Tom! You've been a great classmate. Can we hang out soon? Here's my number xxx-xxx-xxxx."
Are you prepared for rejection, as in, you don't hear from him? Because that may happen. There are many guys on here who cannot deal with rejection at all ... (read in full...)
He's fine in person but is awful at texting!
Q. I was just hoping for some general advice. My boyfriend is incredible, and I'm head over heels for my relationship. We're both in college, so I know we're young, but I've never been happier with a significant other. He treats me like a princess. The ...
A. 30 April 2015: "And I appreciate how hard he's trying to make me happy, but really all I wanted was for him to text me to hang out sometimes." Does that mean you want him to text you to make plans? Or just to be there texting with you?
I think if I had my 'dru... (read in full...)
Is my personal trainer flirting with me, or only business?
Q. I have this personal trainer, very early days that messages me, is really friendly in person and asks about my day, my life, my history from school and where I've lived, talks about himself and what he hopes to do in the future. Sometimes when he ...
A. 30 April 2015: I think you are reading too much into this. This guy is a personal trainer. He's going to look at your body. He asks about your day, your life, etc because that will tell him if you are a person who sits at home eating crisps or one who goes out ... (read in full...)
He's younger and broke!
Q. Hey, I'm 25 years old and I am currently in grad school. I met this guy a year ago, because he worked at the restaurant across from my job and he delivered my food. We also have a mutual friend. We never talked then because he had a gir...
A. 30 April 2015: So let's review. You are a 25 year old graduate student. You met this guy a year ago, when he was 17 and you were 24. He had a girlfriend at the time.
He lied about his age because he was embarrassed and you found out his age in some other way. Thro... (read in full...)
He's younger and broke!
Q. Hey, I'm 25 years old and I am currently in grad school. I met this guy a year ago, because he worked at the restaurant across from my job and he delivered my food. We also have a mutual friend. We never talked then because he had a gir...
A. 29 April 2015: You say that for now he's what you want. So now that you are aware he is younger and broke, then you know that you will have to pay if you two go out. If you don't go out, then you don't have to pay.
"Do you think he's gonna start using me?" What... (read in full...)
Why do women expect men to be mind readers?
Q. Why do women expect men to be mind readers? My wife has been grousing around lately. She finally erupted, "Just once I'd like to come home and find you made the salad for dinner!" "You want a salad? Call/text/e-mail and it's yours!...
A. 29 April 2015: P.S. Make the salad tonight. Before she asks. Set the table. Don't pour the dressing on the salad until it's time to serve it, though.
Kiss her when she gets home and say "I love you."
Tomorrow, mention to her that you have noticed she doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why do women expect men to be mind readers?
Q. Why do women expect men to be mind readers? My wife has been grousing around lately. She finally erupted, "Just once I'd like to come home and find you made the salad for dinner!" "You want a salad? Call/text/e-mail and it's yours!...
A. 29 April 2015: If you both work, what your wife is saying to you is that she shouldn't have to always be the one in charge of dinner. She doesn't want to always be the one in charge of doling out the chores. In other words, she doesn't want to be your mother. She ... (read in full...)
He constantly is accusing me of cheating and he says rude things to me but claims he can't help it. What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now. This is the 2nd time we are in a relationship. The 1st time was 2 months prior. We were together for almost 3 months and he said he had feelings for his ex and so I broke it off with him ...
A. 29 April 2015: I hope you are safe!... (read in full...)
Should I report my sister to Social Services?
Q. Hi guys I just wanted some advice on a problem I am having. I I have a sister who is 29 years old and she has two small children. However she has started to drink alcohol around her children, to the point where she gets blind drunk, this has been...
A. 29 April 2015: Were you able to make the call? You were very upset about this, have you managed to assist in getting your nieces/nephews to safety?... (read in full...)
Is this verbal abuse? Are we just not right for each other?
Q. I am on the fence about the man I have been in a relationship with for 2 years. I don’t know whether I am wanting to get out of the relationship too soon or if am avoiding the warning signs of what could be verbal abuse. Background Sto...
A. 29 April 2015: Oh my goodness.
End this toxic relationship today.
If you need help with that?
Ah, you didn't select your country flag.
Find the domestic abuse hotline in your country and call it, or go on line and ask for help.
Can you manage that?... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he loves me!
Q. I don't trust my bf Everything seemed to be perfect in the beginning but one night has changed him ! I told him 2 weeks ago that you are careless! I meant that he should take care of his job and health because he goes out every night and...
A. 28 April 2015: I would stop trying to contact him and assume that he has a mental illness.... consider it to be supreme selfishness to the extreme. It may be solvable but he would have to want to make it better.
i think you may be better off without him!
The g... (read in full...)
I agreed he can come back only if he promised to make a doctors appointment for some help, am I making the right decision?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months has finally admitted he has a drinking problem and needs help. He's changed a little since he met me he use to drink everyday but now it's weekend benders. At first it wasn't a problem as we were just having fun but as time ...
A. 28 April 2015: You are living with your boyfriend of 7 months? He has a drinking problem? Why did you accelerate this relationship into living together so fast, so soon?
My limited knowledge of the NHS system suggests that he may wait for many months for an appo... (read in full...)
Do you think we will work out?
Q. I recently met this guy online. He seems like an honest decent man. We have been talking to each other for only 2-3 days but I think I already have a huge crush on him. Well I think he likes me too; he'd like to say something more about him when I ...
A. 28 April 2015: You know nothing about him. You met online, you've been talking for less than 100 hours. You live halfway around the world. (We're guessing as we really don't know where he lives.) You say you live in Hong Kong but would be willing to move to the US ... (read in full...)
Should I walk away? Should I send the note?
Q. After 4.5 years of friendship, J and I began a relationship over Xmas which has largely been conducted online, because of her employment. I'm 32 and am plenty experienced, but this is the first time I feel I could be falling in love. Just recen...
A. 28 April 2015: "I was devoting much of my energies here to being in a better state financially and personally to help support her on return."
I think it would make more sense and be healthier that you be in your best state financially and personally for your... (read in full...)
Is it normal to distance yourself from somebody who is causing you pain?
Q. I am wondering. Is it normal to distance yourself from a person who is hurting you too much? Causing you pain or stress? Almost like you need the pain and stress to stop so you emotionally withdraw from them? Does this happen all of a sudden or o...
A. 28 April 2015: Why wouldn't you distance yourself from someone in that vague description you offer?
What sort of pain or stress or hurt is this particular person inflicting on you?
Wouldn't it make sense to get away from an abuser?
... (read in full...)
How can I politely deal with people who offer their advice on whether we are having a boy or a girl?
Q. Ok, so my fiance I have been thrilled to be expecting our first child. We dont want to find out what we are having because I cant wait for that moment when the doc says "its a..." when it is born, but I have had a lot of people who dont seem to get ...
A. 28 April 2015: "why do they want to take the element of surprise away?"
They don't actually want to take the element of surprise away. They are probably doing what is considered supportive in their family and culture. Or they are unbelievably insensitive jerk... (read in full...)
How can people get STD if both are 100% faithful? Can a STD be inherited from a mother? Not sure how STDs work after hearing things from fellow classmates.
Q. Hello dear all and thank you in advance for taking your time for reading this. I am currently 21 years old and in a 4.5 year, heterosexual relationship with my first and only sexual partner, whom is 20 years himself. As on both accounts: we we...
A. 28 April 2015: You ask if an STD be "inherited" from a mother. I think you might mean transmitted during pregnancy or during childbirth.
I found a link for you that may help you.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/pregnancy/stdfact-pregnancy.htm
... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 26 April 2015: It's as simple as this: masochists need sadists. Your friend is a sadist who obliges the masochists he meets.... (read in full...)
Will my fiance from another country be able to accept my culture? I think he's jealous
Q. Will my overseas born fiance be able to accept my American culture? He is so very loyal and romantic and attentive to me. I'm really in love with him. I think it's a miracle to find love halfway across the planet. I'm in the u.s. and he's from an...
A. 25 April 2015: You didn't mention the culture he's from, but it's pretty clear here that you two are not aligned with behavior expectations.
Have you ever met this man in person?
If not, why would you give him your passwords?
I would change passwords to new... (read in full...)
Should I report my sister to Social Services?
Q. Hi guys I just wanted some advice on a problem I am having. I I have a sister who is 29 years old and she has two small children. However she has started to drink alcohol around her children, to the point where she gets blind drunk, this has been...
A. 24 April 2015: You can call or chat online with someone from the NSPCC. http://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-you-can-do/report-abuse/ You don't have to reveal who you are at that time. Gather advice there. Calls to 0808 800 5000 are free from landlines and most mobiles.
... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 24 April 2015: CindyCares summed it up beautifully. And I have to say it's an odd moral code, that you wouldn't have reasoned beyond your parents rather limited viewpoint on promiscuity. If men get a pass on being promiscuous because of their sexual equipment and ... (read in full...)
I feel like a single parent, how do I make him see I need him to help a bit more?
Q. Hello people I have a problem and don't know what to do me and my partner have been together for 2 years and 8 months we have twin boys together he has always gone to work as did I till I had my twins the problem is I feel like a single parent I get ...
A. 23 April 2015: As you've been together for a while and have twins, is there any reason you haven't discussed moving in together?
I would pack some nappies and food and tell him to take the twins home a few nights a week. You can go around and collect them when... (read in full...)
Is it right or wrong to find a sex partner for my mother?
Q. ..my mom is 55 nw . My dad died 26 years back..I know that its been long that she had sex..i even know how it feels with out sex for humans ..so m planing to find someone for her sex life...is it right r wrong..?...
A. 23 April 2015: I think your mother will be surprised to have her son trying to find her a sex partner. I would let her manage her own sex life. Sorry you never knew your Dad, he must have died before you were born. I would let her manage her own life, she's been ... (read in full...)
Will guys still want to date me, if I tell them I'll only go as far as oral sex?
Q. No, I'm not doing it for the sake of virginity, but to avoid pregnancy!!! I've heard so many horror stories from people, panicking for weeks because they were terrified that they or their partner was pregnant...I don't want to ever be in that kind ...
A. 23 April 2015: Fatherly Advice has a good point. There are other things you can get from oral sex, HPV (which is causing a rising epidemic in oral cancer), Hepatitis, Herpes, even HIV.
I would have a heart to heart with your gynecologist and ask for her reco... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving away to a different uni? Very upset and don't know what will happen?
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend of 8 months at uni recently got diagnosed with epilepsy. When he had these fits I was with him every step of the way in hospital holding his hand and being there for him. His mum came along to take him home and while...
A. 23 April 2015: I think you just have to let things unfold. I'm sorry he is facing such a medical crisis. It takes things out of your hands and his. You sound like a very caring person and want things to work out. I know you feel helpless and uncertain.
I thin... (read in full...)
What does a nurse feel when she sees a penis - how should boyfriend react
Q. My girlfriend is a nurse practioner student and I’m struggling to get used to a few things. When she exam on the teaching patient and told me about how she palpated the penis it was a bit awkward. Just recently, during her clinicals (sort of ...
A. 23 April 2015: Maybe you might want to rethink dating a person working in the medical field as it's so confusing and difficult for you?
"I guess it's hard for me to relate to the idea of seeing the opposite sex's genitals as only clinical."
It appears that's w... (read in full...)
I never had the chance to confess my love and to ask if she'll give us a shot! Do I keep this bottled up or go confess?
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently wrote here asking for advice on asking my highschool crush out, whom i haven't seen in a while. I decided to bide my time and wait a few months till i've change and decided to focus on career instead. A few weeks ago I deci...
A. 23 April 2015: What was the consensus of the advice you received when you asked if you should ask your high school crush out?
Life is quirky and surprising and alas, it happens while we are trying to make life plans.
If you've put this much importance on this one... (read in full...)
He constantly is accusing me of cheating and he says rude things to me but claims he can't help it. What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now. This is the 2nd time we are in a relationship. The 1st time was 2 months prior. We were together for almost 3 months and he said he had feelings for his ex and so I broke it off with him ...
A. 22 April 2015: You're in an abusive relationship and the sooner you get out, the better off you'll be.
I have a link for you. Please call the number or go online and ask for help there.
http://www.thehotline.org
or call
1-800-799-7233
In your shoes, I would ... (read in full...)
Why would a mistress leave her married boyfriend?
Q. What is the #1 reason WHY a mistress will leave a married man she has been seeing for a long time? ...
A. 22 April 2015: Do you want statistics or reasons to end the affair, OP?
... (read in full...)
Why would a mistress leave her married boyfriend?
Q. What is the #1 reason WHY a mistress will leave a married man she has been seeing for a long time? ...
A. 22 April 2015: Because she would like to spend time in public with her boyfriend, hold hands, be a couple, and introduce him to her friends and family. And spend holidays with him. And not wonder what he's doing when he goes home to his wife every night.... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 22 April 2015: "He lives on the opposite coast as them and they randomly invited him on vacation with them to a well known party resort town to be wild and obviously to hook up with them.
"He's young, single, adventurous, so he went."
"I grew up in a conventi... (read in full...)
My mom has always been mean to me ever since I was just a child, but she's gotten worse and worse and I'm really heart broken.
Q. I have not spoken or seen my mom in almost a year. To put it nicely, she was never a good mom. She was emotionally and physically abusive through out my entire life, and has never changed. I've always tried to talk with her about our problems and...
A. 22 April 2015: Your mother is a mean person, I can't even imagine having such a mother.
I think based on your post and the history you report that I would treat her as though she was deceased.
I would mourn the loss of the mother I wanted and the mother that wil... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating is addicted to porn but wants to stop?
Q. I recently started dating this guy who I really like. He is very honest, and after we had gotten to know each other quite well told me he has an addiction to porn which he is trying to quit. I dont have much experience with relationships, s...
A. 22 April 2015: "he admitted none of his previous girlfriends have been able to excite him so to speak, and it seems that his sexuality has been quite damaged by the amount of porn he views and real women are not as effective"
"I'm also very unequipped to help him ... (read in full...)
I am a stay at home mum, whilst studying a degree - my husband doesn't understand how hard this is?
Q. Dear Cupid, My husband and I have an 18 month old little boy who at the moment has really start to test what he can and can't do. I am a stay at home mother and have been since the day our son was born. I have been studying a degree part time...
A. 21 April 2015: Print out this very coherent and compelling question, and then hand it to him. Leave him alone with your toddler and go for a long walk. Don't have dinner ready. Don't have the ironing done or the laundry or have tidied up.
When you get back, you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving away to a different uni? Very upset and don't know what will happen?
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend of 8 months at uni recently got diagnosed with epilepsy. When he had these fits I was with him every step of the way in hospital holding his hand and being there for him. His mum came along to take him home and while...
A. 21 April 2015: I think you need to take a deep breath, relax and let things unfold. You are worrying about things that haven't happened yet, creating anxiety where there is no need.
Your boyfriend's life is changing and he'll need time to cope with these mass... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 19 April 2015: Sounds to me that he accepted the role of boy-toy then failed to fulfill his part. Maybe he just couldn't get it up and decided to externalize the blame?
It's all in the spin here. You didn't witness what happened on the famous threesome sext... (read in full...)
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