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writes:My wife and I and our 14 year old son,and his friend went to a motel for the night. My son and his friend got in a fight. It was 4:30am. The wife volunteered me to take kids home and she would come home shortly behind us. It's 100 miles to our home.Reluctantly I took the boys an left. Discovered 45 minutes later her and another guy go to casino. The question I have is am I wrong in thinking that was wrong? Another question is when I ask her how much money was spent she won't answer me? And why she went with another dude she won't answer? What's she hiding?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2015): The question I have is am I wrong in thinking that was wrong?
- Has she made you feel guilty for daring to ask her?
Whatever.... You really need to put your foot down. Some people, whoever they are, cannot help abusing their partners placid nature. There is a real reason for her secrecy. I suggest you do not let this matter drop, at any cost. Do not be frightened. She is in the wrong, and not you.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 April 2015):
 I'm asking these questions because your age shows as age 41-50 and you didn't report that there were any problems with your marriage before this oddly timed visit to a casino with some dude. Was this out of left field? How did you find out these odd details about her movements after she made you drive the boys home?
And as I reread the question, you two were in different cars? Who drove the boys to the motel?
More background would help. This sounds very odd.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 April 2015):
Of course it's odd and strange and weird that your wife would go to a casino with another guy at 4:30 in the morning.This question has so much missing information.How did you find out she went to a casino with another guy? Had any of you been drinking?Why were you at a motel with your wife and son and his friend 100 miles from home? Were you on a weekend trip on the way home? Couldn't you have told the 14 year olds to cool down and wait until a reasonable hour to be driven home? Were you all in the same room?Don't you have access to your bank accounts and credit cards? Can't you just see what she spent by checking withdrawals and credit card charges?Why do you call her "the wife"?This is a question that needs a bit more background.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2015): You could suggest that you equal the balance and go to the casino yourself - with another female.
Dude, she`s making a fool of you, and you know that. That`s why you`re here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2015): What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas! Well, if it was her money, you may never know how much she spent. If all your funds are in joint-accounts; you'll eventually find out.
Your wife's behavior is totally inappropriate for a married-woman and mother. I gather she is also over 40?
If you "know" she was with another guy, and went to the casino; there probably wasn't any hank-panky going on. I think she just couldn't resist an opportunity to gamble! It wasn't her fault the kids flipped-out on each other and ruined the trip.
I guess she wanted to do something wild and spontaneous.
Well at least one of you got a memory out of the trip. Moms rarely get to do stuff like that. Dads do it all the time, and call it "guy-stuff." Camping, hunting, golf, fishing, poker nights, and no wives allowed. Well, she pulled a switcheroo on you, buddy!
Next time, leave the kid with a relative; and take a trip for just the two of you. "Happy wives" don't do crazy things like that to their husbands. I think you two need to have a good heart to heart talk.
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