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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Is 47 too old to start a family?
Q. Im 47 yo male. Just wondering what opinions are on starting a family when you are older? Id like a male and female opinion. Cheers....
A. 30 March 2015: Is this for general research? To get some guidance from people who became parents at a similar age?
I don't have children, so I suppose I'm not qualified to answer. But the OP didn't specify who could or could not reply and I do have a bit of an o... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fantasize about another guy when you are married with kids?
Q. Hi, is it normal to fantasize about another guy when you are married with kids? We have been married for 22 years. I am for the most part happily married but when things don't seem to be going right--meaning a disagreement or frustration in our ...
A. 30 March 2015: Fantasies are very common (as in normal) but perhaps texting someone you have a crush on? Not a good idea.
I'd leave the fantasies in the realm of the mind.
Have you tried going on a nice holiday with your husband and get the heart pounding by ... (read in full...)
Do you think I've made the right decision to not attend this wedding, where my Bf will be the Best man?
Q. this may seem like a minor situation but it's stressing me out and im a grad student so extra stress is bad. A few months ago I had a falling out with my ex flatmates who are a couple. My boyfriend took their side which upset me. I posted on herea...
A. 30 March 2015: And just to add another question to you. Do you trust your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
Do you think I've made the right decision to not attend this wedding, where my Bf will be the Best man?
Q. this may seem like a minor situation but it's stressing me out and im a grad student so extra stress is bad. A few months ago I had a falling out with my ex flatmates who are a couple. My boyfriend took their side which upset me. I posted on herea...
A. 30 March 2015: Okay, then, decide what sort of message you want to send to everyone at the wedding.
You didn't get over it and move on. It's still bothering you and now the ex is a compounding factor.
"I don't want to be in a situation where he can directly... (read in full...)
Do you think I've made the right decision to not attend this wedding, where my Bf will be the Best man?
Q. this may seem like a minor situation but it's stressing me out and im a grad student so extra stress is bad. A few months ago I had a falling out with my ex flatmates who are a couple. My boyfriend took their side which upset me. I posted on herea...
A. 30 March 2015: Is this your previous post?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/our-flatmates-only-growl-at-me-when-hes.html
If that one is yours, then there you reported that you suffer from anxiety and depression, that you moved there to be with your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Why does my long term Gf still keep registering on dating sites? It's affecting our relationship
Q. I've caught my long term girlfriend many times registered and active on different dating sites. I am not able to get to the root of it, because I always end up defending myself over extremely minor mistakes I made years ago (like being 10 minu...
A. 30 March 2015: P.S. Just to confirm for you, it is not normal to sign up over and over again on dating sites when you are in a long-term exclusive relationship. It is not okay. ... (read in full...)
Why does my long term Gf still keep registering on dating sites? It's affecting our relationship
Q. I've caught my long term girlfriend many times registered and active on different dating sites. I am not able to get to the root of it, because I always end up defending myself over extremely minor mistakes I made years ago (like being 10 minu...
A. 30 March 2015: She's doing it because its a test of your love for her. A childish, ridiculous and possibly disordered means to make you show her, over and over again, that you love her so much you will unconditionally forgive her for her trespasses.
Because you'... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong in this relationship or is she just "over" me?
Q. Well, I met this woman about a week ago at a friends party. We have been sending messages over email this week. I have told her a lot about things I am doing and she responded. I actually said I was sorry for sending a long message and that...
A. 29 March 2015: Is there any reason you didn't call her?... (read in full...)
Ladies, your possible reaction if you surmised, during sex, that a guy was a virgin then would you stop having sex or what?
Q. Hi Cupid, I wanna paint a pictute here for woman and hear what they think. Pleeeeeeeease be brutally honest, no euphemism. If you (a woman) were in your twenties and liked some guy, just like, not a romeo and juliette love story, you've know...
A. 28 March 2015: What's the point of asking different women? We all will react in our own individual ways.
If your fear of rejection is crippling your social interactions with women, then work on that. Asking hypothetical questions like this won't help because I su... (read in full...)
What's the lowdown on the down there hair?
Q. I guess my question is more for the men on DC, but of course I am also interested in women's comments. So : it seems the general consensus , at least among the younger generations, is that a woman SHOULD be hairless down there :the hairless...
A. 25 March 2015: Hi, Cindy, I'm a bit late to this question, but I have to add my 2000 liras worth.... yes, that makes me a dinosaur or veteran as you so nicely put it....
I get ingrown hairs with large pimply pustules if I get too aggressive in the hair remo... (read in full...)
My sister's rage is out of control
Q. Before our studies commenced we had both decided to live together in a two bed flat in the Student Village. I thought it was going to be amazing... But it turns out that she gets angry and violent really, really easily. I have concerns that she's ...
A. 24 March 2015: If she threatened to strangle you today and then broke down .... do not wait, contact your university's mental health services at once, right now, call them now. The anger and violence is not your fault and sounds like something she cannot control ... (read in full...)
About Pornography: are my thoughts about women who like pornography accurate? Or simplistic generalizations? Or incorrect assumption?
Q. This is just a general question about something I've wondered about. Its safe to say that men who like porn come from all walks of life. But what kind of woman likes it or at least accepts it within a relationship? Often I'll read commen...
A. 24 March 2015: P.S. no tattoos. I worry about people who talk about 'legalized prostitution' as if that means that there aren't women who are trafficked or forced into prostitution...
I sometimes have highlights put into my hair. Does that mean I'm a libe... (read in full...)
About Pornography: are my thoughts about women who like pornography accurate? Or simplistic generalizations? Or incorrect assumption?
Q. This is just a general question about something I've wondered about. Its safe to say that men who like porn come from all walks of life. But what kind of woman likes it or at least accepts it within a relationship? Often I'll read commen...
A. 24 March 2015: So are you saying that men who are traditional, conservative and religious are porn afficionados? That these traditional, conservative and religious men who like porn are cool with legalized prostitution, swingers clubs, open marriages and ... (read in full...)
I found a box of condoms in his place!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now, rough patch but we get through it all. i have keys to his place, and yesterday I dont know why I snooped around. In one drawer iour bedroom, I saw a box of condoms. We dont...
A. 24 March 2015: You have been dating for 18 months and already had a rough patch? What was that rough patch about? Perhaps that rough patch thing was what triggered you to do the search of the apartment?
If the condoms are in a drawer of a room you seem to have... (read in full...)
My sister's rage is out of control
Q. Before our studies commenced we had both decided to live together in a two bed flat in the Student Village. I thought it was going to be amazing... But it turns out that she gets angry and violent really, really easily. I have concerns that she's ...
A. 24 March 2015: She needs help and you should talk to your mother, your school's counseling service and try childline.org.uk as well. Document all you can remember of her outbursts and threats.
If she's been hitting you then do not be alone with her. Stay with frie... (read in full...)
What percentage of women think about another man or an ex partner while having sex with their husband
Q. What percentage of women think about another man or an ex partner why having sex with there husband...
A. 24 March 2015: 25, 50, 75, 100....
2, 7, 12, 35, 92....
4, 35, 60, 81....
Ok, I know, it's all a bit random.
Some probably do, some don't.
Why is a certain percentage important to you?... (read in full...)
Do I kiss my best friend? She knows how I feel about her but says she doesn't love me
Q. So I have this best friend. Let's call her J. J is 18 years old, I'm 16. I have been in love with her for one year now and she knows it but... Yeah it's a year-long story.... More Information: I've known her since 2012. Since then we have been pre...
A. 24 March 2015: What is your desired outcome of the kiss?
Why not just try to kiss her now and deal with it now?
It does sound very dramatic and might be a warm memory for you to do the surprise kiss thing when you know you never have to see her again. But what... (read in full...)
He never tells me he loves me! What do I do?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my parter for the last four years, we have a 7 month old son together. there is an age gap he's 45 and I'm 24. I love him so much but I doubt if he feels the same as he never tells me. I don't think he fancy's ...
A. 22 March 2015: Change it up. Stop complimenting him and telling him you fancy him loads.
Just because he's older than you doesn't make him wiser or more intelligent or capable of sustaining a real relationship.
I agree with Honeypie, Dial back on the "worship... (read in full...)
Do I let them figure out they belong together? Or talk to the boy and get him to man up?
Q. So I have two close friends; a boy whose been my best friend since we were kids and a girl who I've recently become close with due to her being friends with the boy. The thing is the girl and the boy so obviously like each other (they both get ...
A. 22 March 2015: I'm going to disagree a bit with Honeypie, though I usually agree with her... I would say something like, "Oh for heaven's sake Jake ask Sadie out, it's pretty obvious you two have some feelings for each other." And then I would let it go.
A frie... (read in full...)
What do I wear on my first date? What do I say?
Q. Hi I need help because I'm going on a first date and I'm really nervous don't know what to say or were I don't want to embarrass my self in front of him...
A. 22 March 2015: Wear something that is comfortable but makes you feel like you look nice. Don't go with new shoes or a new top. Ask your Mom for advice (she went on dates at your age once too) or just wear something similar to what you wore when he asked you out. ... (read in full...)
Ridiculed for being single
Q. I am a 24 year old student in college who has never had a boyfriend or been kissed. it really hasn't bothered me, besides my friends bringing it up or other people asking me how come I am single, but recently my family has been picking on me as ...
A. 22 March 2015: My approach on this would be to have an emotional meltdown on them in a way that they would never broach the subject with me again.
Now it may just be that they are concerned about you and the questions about a boyfriend are part of the larger conc... (read in full...)
The girl I have been chatting with slept with someone else
Q. I have been chatting with a girl for over a year. Lately she has been getting very sexual in her comments, even saying we should meet for sex. I am not necessarily the type to want to meet a woman for sex (only) so I laugh her comments off. ...
A. 22 March 2015: And if the reason you haven't met her in over a year is because you have social anxiety or something like that then deal with the underlying issue. There is help out there but you do have to take action to get it.... (read in full...)
The girl I have been chatting with slept with someone else
Q. I have been chatting with a girl for over a year. Lately she has been getting very sexual in her comments, even saying we should meet for sex. I am not necessarily the type to want to meet a woman for sex (only) so I laugh her comments off. ...
A. 22 March 2015: You haven't met her after a year? You weren't serious about her and she wasn't serious about you, sorry to report the obvious, but if you are within a 4 hour drive you could have met halfway just to meet in person.
If you feel she's 'slutty' then... (read in full...)
How do I get past this flirtatious part of her to something more meaningful?
Q. I met this girl recently through a mutual friend. We have known each other for less than a month now but she added me on Facebook less than a week ago. From what I know so far, she is very flirtatious. With most men - from what I have seen - she ...
A. 22 March 2015: Ask her questions about herself. What do you know about her from mutual friends? Ask her about her interests, what she is passionate about (aside from flirting).
... (read in full...)
How do I get past this flirtatious part of her to something more meaningful?
Q. I met this girl recently through a mutual friend. We have known each other for less than a month now but she added me on Facebook less than a week ago. From what I know so far, she is very flirtatious. With most men - from what I have seen - she ...
A. 22 March 2015: Are you asking how to get her to stop flirting with others and have a regular conversation with you?
... (read in full...)
The girl I have been chatting with slept with someone else
Q. I have been chatting with a girl for over a year. Lately she has been getting very sexual in her comments, even saying we should meet for sex. I am not necessarily the type to want to meet a woman for sex (only) so I laugh her comments off. ...
A. 22 March 2015: You've been "chatting" for over a year; have you ever actually met her or gone out on a date with her? Are you dating? Are you boyfriend and girlfriend or she just an online chat-friend?
If you aren't the type to meet a woman for sex only, why not ... (read in full...)
Should I kick my girlfriend out?
Q. So my gf moved in 6 months ago. I cant walk through my garage cuz she hasnt unpacked, its full of boxes. Ive asked her many times to put the stuff away. She refuses to get a sitter for her kid. We havent gone out in 6 months no lie. I suggest things ...
A. 20 March 2015: Can she afford a sitter for her kid? Are you paying for the sitter for her kid?
Do you have room for all the contents of the boxes? Why not make it a party?
"Unpack and let go!" Ask all your mutual friends to help out!
If you are unhappy with... (read in full...)
My best friend stopped all contact with me because his girlfriend asked him to?
Q. Hello Everybody! My problem is: I have been friends with a guy for more than 10 years. We attended the same high school, and the same university for BA and also for the MA studies. We never tough about being more than friends, though we kissed...
A. 20 March 2015: Sadly, he wasn't enough of a friend to tell you that he decided to accept the boundaries he and his girlfriend agreed upon.....
It would have been polite for him to tell you that the friendship was essentially over, but like many people, he prob... (read in full...)
Should I just ask him where we stand, or would that push him away entirely?
Q. I'm still confused, and I'm starting to think that this guy I used to date now only sees me as friend. There has been a change in the physical/ sexual part of our relationship, but nothing else has changed. He's not seeing anyone else, and he said ...
A. 18 March 2015: "Ok, you said you hope to get back together in the future a while ago."
*I'm taking back my power now and not getting all apologetic.*
"I am putting myself back on the market, back in the dating pool.
"From today, we are back at square one. ... (read in full...)
When can a lady have sex so that she doesn't get pregnant?
Q. Hello, three days ago, i had sex with mt Gf. after sex she feel pain in stomach and smell coming from urine and discharge flow from vagina and also condom was not used.after she also used unwanted 72(i pill),we both did sex before 3-4 times. due t...
A. 18 March 2015: A lady can't get pregnant if she is in menopause or if she has had a tubal ligation or a hysterectomy. Otherwise, she could get pregnant anytime semen is introduced into her vagina.
Can she not see her doctor and acquire birth control? Why aren... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mother in law that I am not ready to forgive her behaviour?
Q. Hey everyone. Back in December, i wrote on here for advice on dealing with my insensitive, mother in law. Basically, she said some really cruel things to me regarding me infertility struggle. She told me to "hurry the f@*k up to have a baby because ...
A. 18 March 2015: I like what SVC advised. You could indeed head out of town for a spa weekend, or to a girlfriend's house.
Or you could go ahead and book some nice spa treatments for yourself on the weekend and ask MIL and hubby for some 'help' ..... "It would be l... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mother in law that I am not ready to forgive her behaviour?
Q. Hey everyone. Back in December, i wrote on here for advice on dealing with my insensitive, mother in law. Basically, she said some really cruel things to me regarding me infertility struggle. She told me to "hurry the f@*k up to have a baby because ...
A. 18 March 2015: Did you husband also tell his mother that she is not welcome at your place until she apologizes? If not, why not?
If she's such a steamroller and he's the asphalt under her rollers, you won't stand much of a chance.
"Dear MIL, while we are delighte... (read in full...)
Do I fight for her?
Q. So basically, I met the love of my life 3 years ago, we are a same sex couple, I am 34 she is 30, we married in May 2014, we lived together for 2 and a half years, altogether. We fell in live on our 1st date. Then 8 months into our marriage she ...
A. 18 March 2015: You can't ever close the gap if she doesn't want to reconcile.
I would start the process of mourning the relationship, and that might include a period of not speaking/communicating/texting/messaging/etc in any way with her, while you go through the ... (read in full...)
I miss the cuddling. How can I engage in any relationship in my situation? And are my friends right about arrive together and leave together?
Q. Hi everyone, need an advice. I am a single mom with 2 teens, 15 and 17. My life is very busy with work and kids. I don't date as I really have absolutely no time for that or energy. I concentrate on my kids and my job. But still I am a sexua...
A. 16 March 2015: Or you could be really discreet, hand the guy your phone number and tell them you are hanging with prudes and need to keep them clueless about what happens next. Leave with them, then when they are safely tucked in bed, head out and do what you ... (read in full...)
I miss the cuddling. How can I engage in any relationship in my situation? And are my friends right about arrive together and leave together?
Q. Hi everyone, need an advice. I am a single mom with 2 teens, 15 and 17. My life is very busy with work and kids. I don't date as I really have absolutely no time for that or energy. I concentrate on my kids and my job. But still I am a sexua...
A. 16 March 2015: Invent a family emergency or an illness, tell them you have to leave immediately and move to another town or hotel, where you won't run into them. Then you can carry on your vacation time and you won't feel trapped.
Stop going on vacation with thes... (read in full...)
How do I ask my employer for fewer hours to work my other job? I am leaving this employer
Q. I'm a full time Nanny that works with a work from home mom. I work 9-5 Monday through Friday with no benefits (no vacation days or sick days and no contract). Since the job is going to be up in May, I went job hunting to make sure I'm not jobless in ...
A. 16 March 2015: Ask her for a written recommendation from her now on the grounds that you are seeking employment in May. That way you at least have a written endorsement from her which would counter any issues later on if you do leave early.
Also document all your... (read in full...)
My boyfriend talks the talk but doesn't walk the walk and its making me feel sad and confused
Q. I've been in an LDR with my bf coming up to a year. I see him a few times a month and the time I get with him is precious. However, I feel lately that he's making no effort in our relationship. He tells me the things I want to hear, like he loves me ...
A. 12 March 2015: As you have spoken to him about this and he says you are being too sensitive and of course that he loves you, well, you have his words. Now, check out his actions.
Don't row the relationship boat, as another aunt on here puts it.
I would probably... (read in full...)
We just got engaged but I feel I'm pushed to the background
Q. Me and my partner recently got engaged,and now it seems that he's ignoreing me and spending more time with his friends and I starting to feel second fiddle to my partner ....
A. 11 March 2015: Have you talked with him about this? What did he say?... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he will leave me if I don't bleed during 1st time sex. I am a virgin!
Q. I have a fiance. We will marry after one year. He once asked me on chat whether i m virgin or not because he can predict virginity.i asked him how could u? He told me that virgin girls bleed on first night and non virgin doesn't bleed. So if u won...
A. 11 March 2015: Is he a virgin, by the way?... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he will leave me if I don't bleed during 1st time sex. I am a virgin!
Q. I have a fiance. We will marry after one year. He once asked me on chat whether i m virgin or not because he can predict virginity.i asked him how could u? He told me that virgin girls bleed on first night and non virgin doesn't bleed. So if u won...
A. 11 March 2015: Is this an arranged marriage? Because if it is, I would go to your parents and tell them you don't wish to marry an ignorant peasant who believes falsehoods, folk tales and fairy tales.
If it is a love match then I would tell him to his face that... (read in full...)
I'm not very good and giving hand jobs or blowjobs
Q. Hello :) I'll keep this as short as possible... Well basically my bf and I have been together for over a year now. And recently, v talked about blowjobs and handjobs.. And well so far I'm not very successful at any of those. And like my bf feels...
A. 11 March 2015: Ask him what he would like. You're not a mind-reader and what one man might like could be a total turn off to another man.
So if you two have a great relationship and communicate well then it's time to put that into practice and get serious abou... (read in full...)
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