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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I have feelings for my biological cousin, but we're both married. Should I back up and run before it's too late?
Q. I need help! I'm a 23 year old female who's catching feelings for her bio cousin. He is 22. We were raised together until about 6, when he was adopted out. I finally found him all these years later on Facebook. So here it is, a year later and we've ...
A. 23 June 2015: Yes, back up and run before it's too late. You will have to distance yourself from the married man but thankfully he lives a long way away.
How is it that you don't realize that what you are doing with him is an incredibly self-destructive thin... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my biological cousin, but we're both married. Should I back up and run before it's too late?
Q. I need help! I'm a 23 year old female who's catching feelings for her bio cousin. He is 22. We were raised together until about 6, when he was adopted out. I finally found him all these years later on Facebook. So here it is, a year later and we've ...
A. 22 June 2015: Sorry, you wrote "He is married with kids just like i am." So you aren't married? And the relationship with him is essentially a lot of arguing? So end the toxic relationship, go on being a super mommy.
And remember that bio cousin is married.
So... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my biological cousin, but we're both married. Should I back up and run before it's too late?
Q. I need help! I'm a 23 year old female who's catching feelings for her bio cousin. He is 22. We were raised together until about 6, when he was adopted out. I finally found him all these years later on Facebook. So here it is, a year later and we've ...
A. 22 June 2015: Why did you get married if you aren't ready to be faithful? Are you a supermommy, really? Would you want to put your children through a family crisis?
So you have a crush, and it happens to be on your cousin. So what? You made the choice to be marr... (read in full...)
It's been two or three years since we broke up, so why am I just now having recurring dreams about my ex?
Q. It's been 2 or 3 years after my ex dumped me. I don't remember exactly how long. I do sometimes think about him, but we stopped all contact 1 year ago. I haven't dated anyone after we broke up. I don't know why I dreamed about him a lot recently, ...
A. 22 June 2015: I would take it as you've met someone who will take this ex's place, only you just haven't realized it yet, and your subconscious mind is expunging the ex stuff from your data banks so you can move on. Take it as a sign that new things are on the ... (read in full...)
Is it generally normal for a Doctor to ask a patient if the patient is married?
Q. I had a followup with a female doctor/consultant after procedure. Big hospital, see different doctor each time usually, so probably won't see again. This one asked me if I am married, was very friendly and when I left told me how nice it was to know...
A. 22 June 2015: Asking about family status and marital history is a routine part of taking a medical history. In the case of an elderly person, for example, it helps the doctor to know if they live alone or have a spouse. Not that you are elderly.
Here's a comp... (read in full...)
Sibling rivalry? or self esteem issues? I appear not to matter to my parents
Q. I am not sure whether my question is about sibling rivalry or self esteem but here goes. I have always found life difficult, often feeling like I can never have long periods of happiness in even though I do try and remain positive. As much as pos...
A. 21 June 2015: P.S. If you are still waiting to be validated and valued and loved by your dysfunctional and AWFUL parents? Stop waiting. Coping with this realization is going to involve getting some great counseling. And you know what? That's okay. You are not ... (read in full...)
Sibling rivalry? or self esteem issues? I appear not to matter to my parents
Q. I am not sure whether my question is about sibling rivalry or self esteem but here goes. I have always found life difficult, often feeling like I can never have long periods of happiness in even though I do try and remain positive. As much as pos...
A. 21 June 2015: A friend of mine had an absolutely awful father. He was abusive to her mother and her siblings. She was addicted to food, alcohol and cigarettes. She was so unhealthy and looked so unhappy.
What helped her? Counseling. Following her doctor's reco... (read in full...)
Why does he not seem to care? Am I wrong to feel offended?
Q. Hi people of DearCupid. I hope you can help me figure this out and I apologise in advance if I make typing mistakes or sound incoherent. I'm on my friends laptop so not used to the keyboard. I'm in a long-distance relationship, it's...
A. 20 June 2015: I did forget to ask you, do you two have plans of closing the distance? Of one of you moving? How often do you see each other?
I get LDRs, I was in one as well. We saw each other often due to our travel schedules so we were able to maintain it and ... (read in full...)
Should I go and face her directly and tell her my feelings? She never responded when I sent a love letter via Facebook
Q. Hello... I had sent a love letter to a girl whom i liked in my office, but she never responded to a love letter and it's been 4 months since i sent her a love letter. Should i go and face her directly and ask her? The Girl already left the office o...
A. 20 June 2015: Her lack of a response IS her response. She isn't interested. What's the point of doing this now, after 4 months? And why would you do this over Facebook? Did you know her very well, or was this something more like a crush on a girl you looked at ... (read in full...)
How do I approach her to resolve our dispute? What should I say or do? She and I fell out and have not spoken for a year
Q. hi! my bestfriend and I recently ended our year long silent war (ignoring each other) she was the one who came to me 1st. I really want to go back to the way things were before, but I don't know how to approach her. what should I do?...
A. 20 June 2015: "I'm so happy you came to me first and I really want to go back to the way things were before, but I don't know how to talk to you about it. Can we talk and renew our friendship? I missed you so much and I want us to be friends again! I'm looking ... (read in full...)
Why does he not seem to care? Am I wrong to feel offended?
Q. Hi people of DearCupid. I hope you can help me figure this out and I apologise in advance if I make typing mistakes or sound incoherent. I'm on my friends laptop so not used to the keyboard. I'm in a long-distance relationship, it's...
A. 20 June 2015: Rather than be irritated, express to him that you would like to hear him ask about your health and well-being as you ask about his. Make it matter-of-fact and not judgmental, just tell him that it is important to you that he ask about your health. ... (read in full...)
Why did my husband react so strongly to my remarks? Is there more going on that I'm not seeing?
Q. My husband and I went to his brothers house for a small family cookout, and of course they were drinking. That was not a problem. My problem was that he was in the corner with his nephew and his nephew girlfriend and they were talking about going to...
A. 20 June 2015: You can also call this number TODAY for a referral for help: 1-800-799-7233 or visit http://www.thehotline.org
That site has this to say about abuse:
"Domestic violence and abuse stems from a desire to gain and maintain power and control over an ... (read in full...)
Why did my husband react so strongly to my remarks? Is there more going on that I'm not seeing?
Q. My husband and I went to his brothers house for a small family cookout, and of course they were drinking. That was not a problem. My problem was that he was in the corner with his nephew and his nephew girlfriend and they were talking about going to...
A. 20 June 2015: Remy, I remember you posting about your husband before. He's abusive when he drinks. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-is-drinking-again.html
Did you go to Al-Anon? That would really be the most important step you can take in dealing with... (read in full...)
Are there men out there willing to use condoms?
Q. I'm having a bit of an issue with birth control and I'm looking for some advice. I have tried so many types of birth control over the years: the injection; the implant and 4 different types of pill, and each of them have played havoc with my ...
A. 20 June 2015: I have some information for you: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/en/learn/birth-control/female-condom There is a female condom that you put in before penis-in-vagina intercourse and presumably won't cause a shy penis to lose its erection. It does ... (read in full...)
Love love serve...what is he trying to say?
Q. I wrote a note and told this guy we have a attraction between us, he wrote me a note saying, love, love, serve and put 15 at the bottom, what is he trying to say?...
A. 20 June 2015: Who knows? Ask him out (if he's single) and find out! Good luck!... (read in full...)
Is it weird to track your BF/GF's whereabouts on Find My Friends App on iPhone?
Q. What does everybody think of tracking your boyfriend or girlfriend's whereabouts on the Find My Friends App on iPhone? Where you use GPS to know exactly where they are on a map (or where their phone is) at any given time throughout the day... unless ...
A. 18 June 2015: http://cpancf.com/articles_files/jealousyinrelationships.asp
Bottom line on this article is to seek counseling in cases of extreme jealousy.
http://www.livestrong.com/article/110113-characteristics-insane-jealousy-relationship/#page=1
Bottom li... (read in full...)
Is it weird to track your BF/GF's whereabouts on Find My Friends App on iPhone?
Q. What does everybody think of tracking your boyfriend or girlfriend's whereabouts on the Find My Friends App on iPhone? Where you use GPS to know exactly where they are on a map (or where their phone is) at any given time throughout the day... unless ...
A. 18 June 2015: OP, you are the Canadian woman in her thirties who has been dating an older married man for the past 2 years. The sex is great, he'll never leave his wife. He's been a hairdresser, a dance instructor among other careers in your multiple posts on ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to track your BF/GF's whereabouts on Find My Friends App on iPhone?
Q. What does everybody think of tracking your boyfriend or girlfriend's whereabouts on the Find My Friends App on iPhone? Where you use GPS to know exactly where they are on a map (or where their phone is) at any given time throughout the day... unless ...
A. 18 June 2015: OP, you've gone off the deep end. http://www.drjoecarver.com/clients/49355/File/IdentifyingLosers.html Read that. You are the one who is the controlling jealous freak. Your need to know where he is at all times is pathological. http://www... (read in full...)
Are there men out there willing to use condoms?
Q. I'm having a bit of an issue with birth control and I'm looking for some advice. I have tried so many types of birth control over the years: the injection; the implant and 4 different types of pill, and each of them have played havoc with my ...
A. 18 June 2015: Of course there are quality men out there who are sensible and not only about their orgasms...
Keep on looking and do what you need to do to keep yourself healthy and free of those pesky STDs!... (read in full...)
Was that night a hookup or something more?
Q. So there's this guy that I have liked for a long time. I have been crushing on him for a month. Me and him are friends but we talked occasionally. When we see each other we talk so much and joke around. We were texting one day and he stopped ...
A. 18 June 2015: Classify him as "all chat no action."
Don't wait around for him and for now, don't text him unless he's texted you first.
Here's the brutal truth: if he wanted to be with you, he'd be putting his energy into that goal.... (read in full...)
Why was my wife so good to her cheating ex partners but I have to beg for sex?
Q. My wife and I are very happily married. However, in the past she was involved in very emotionally abusive relationships in the past where she put up with a lot of cheating and verbal abuse. She told me that she always tried to give more of herself ...
A. 17 June 2015: Think of it this way: she was in prison with her abusive partner snd she was forced to do things she didn't really want to do. Now that she's free, she can pick and choose her sexual interests.
Why would you want her to revisit abusive sex acts... (read in full...)
How do I let this much older man know I'd love to date him?
Q. Awww I need some advice please! I have had a crush immature phrase but that's all it is right now. On a older man I know, 18 year gap. He works local to where I live. He first caught my eye as he is handsome and always dressed in a suite. Always ...
A. 12 June 2015: Is he single?
If he is then you could tell him "I would love to stay longer and talk more but I have to get my 4 year old from school. But maybe next week we could go get coffee?"
P.S. the word you are looking for is "suit" not "suite"... English ... (read in full...)
When he flirts he says he's just being friendly. I need advice in any way you think is needed to deal with his behaviour please?
Q. Ok hi so this is my story. I’m 20 n my boyfriend is 33 he has 3 kids ages 7-12 I think. I don’t have any kids. We’re together one year six months . the people around us think that we shouldn’t be together for various reasons. When we now got...
A. 12 June 2015: Hi natooshy, you mentioned that the people around you think that you two shouldn't be together for various reasons.
If you were my sister at age 20 who had started dating a man with kids, three of them, and the first one he had was at the same age ... (read in full...)
What do I do? I feel so alone in this relationship
Q. Hi everyone I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a son together who is 6 months old. Since our son has been born my boyfriend has changed. He goes to work till 4 comes to mine at 6 we don't live together we have tea he goes then I get ...
A. 12 June 2015: And why don't you live together?
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What do I do? I feel so alone in this relationship
Q. Hi everyone I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a son together who is 6 months old. Since our son has been born my boyfriend has changed. He goes to work till 4 comes to mine at 6 we don't live together we have tea he goes then I get ...
A. 12 June 2015: Here's another mother with exactly the same problem: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-feel-like-a-single-parent-how-do.html
Perhaps the advice given there will help you as well!... (read in full...)
What do I do? I feel so alone in this relationship
Q. Hi everyone I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a son together who is 6 months old. Since our son has been born my boyfriend has changed. He goes to work till 4 comes to mine at 6 we don't live together we have tea he goes then I get ...
A. 12 June 2015: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cant-talk-to-him-about-how-i.html has advice pertinent to your situation.
I remember some similar posts so there must be some men who don't live with the mother of their children but see them for tea.
I think it... (read in full...)
What is he really playing at? He says he's working there. I think he has had a baby with another woman
Q. Six month's ago I found a new fb page of my current bf, which said in a relationship with someone else, when I confronted him he denied it and removed the account saying his brother made it. Anyway I kept the girls name and every now and then I g...
A. 12 June 2015: No, I don't think many guys do this to their girlfriends.
I remember you have posted about this guy before. He is far away and has basically said the right things to keep you wondering.
What is he really playing at? My guess is that he's a guy wh... (read in full...)
He says I'm being stupid. How do I get him to talk about our problems, instead of ignoring them.. and me? 2
Q. How do i deal with a fiancé who just wants to ignore problems and never talk about anything? My boyfriend and i just recently got engaged and for about the last month i've felt ignored. I've tried talking to him about it but whenever i bring...
A. 12 June 2015: Make him an ex-fiancee! Is he the guy who is hooked on a video game and likes getting high? The one who called you high maintenance?
If he is, girl, lose him like TODAY. He's a waste of your time and attention and energy. Seriously. Break up, give... (read in full...)
Gym is packed most of the time, so how do I go up to him and start a conversation? Scared of rejection.
Q. Okay so I have been going consistently to the gym since january. Back when I was freshly single. I spotted someone very cute but I looked awful cause I go to work out not look at guys but something about this guy makes me want to go talk to him. ...
A. 12 June 2015: Make eye contact, smile, say hi. Do that every time you are at the gym for a month. You don't need to do more than that for now, you are just trying to get familiar with him and get comfortable enough to just be in the same space without getting all ... (read in full...)
Can anyone offer any advice for a girl entering the dating scene for the first time?
Q. I'm 27yrs old, single, and partway through an epic weight loss battle. I've lost 100lbs, and while I still have 55lbs to lose I'm starting to think about relationships again and how I'm going to approach them once I reach my goal. I've been ov...
A. 12 June 2015: If you wait until life is perfect and you are at the "perfect" weight and with the "perfect" haircut and "perfect" outfits and shoes... you are going to wait a lifetime.
Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful. Nor do you have to be perf... (read in full...)
What to do about bully of a sister in law?
Q. Can't get away from her because she is living with my in laws. She is verbally abusive, aggressive, lies and manipulates. She's a spoilt adult who always gets her way. My in laws never tell her offend always make excuses for her. I don't trust h...
A. 12 June 2015: What did she lie about?
You say you yelled. Can you manage to communicate with people without yelling? Where is your husband in this?
Meccamega, you seem to wind up at odds with many people, based on your previous posts.
Are you on the Autism s... (read in full...)
Should I see him before I leave? And should I text him when I arrive at the destination?
Q. I met with this guy at work and we dated like 4 times. I slept with him after a month.Since we both working in the same airlines, we took an advantage and went on a trip. He became sick on the 2nd day and i took care of him. He appreciated and ...
A. 12 June 2015: Deezy, it's obvious to us and to this guy that you really like him and are doing everything you can to get him to like you back in the same way.
Don't get in touch with him for those 10 days. If he wants to talk to you, he knows how to reach you.... (read in full...)
Should I see him before I leave? And should I text him when I arrive at the destination?
Q. I met with this guy at work and we dated like 4 times. I slept with him after a month.Since we both working in the same airlines, we took an advantage and went on a trip. He became sick on the 2nd day and i took care of him. He appreciated and ...
A. 11 June 2015: Deezy, this guy is not boyfriend material. I've been looking back at your posts: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-cancel-the-trip-or-not.html
Do not try to see him before you leave. Do not text him when you get there.
You have a crush on... (read in full...)
Should I see him before I leave? And should I text him when I arrive at the destination?
Q. I met with this guy at work and we dated like 4 times. I slept with him after a month.Since we both working in the same airlines, we took an advantage and went on a trip. He became sick on the 2nd day and i took care of him. He appreciated and ...
A. 11 June 2015: Hi deezy, if I were you, I'd stop chasing him. You went on that trip together which was a disaster: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-understand-that-he-was-unwell-but-why.html
He knows you like him and that you are available.
If I were you, I'd... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife her vagina is loose without hurting her feelings?
Q. We have been married for around 15 years and have had a good sex life. I'm around 42 and my wife is 40. I have started facing this problem - I find my wife's vagina very loose now. I do not get the same feeling in my penis now as I used to get ...
A. 11 June 2015: The link that SoVeryConfused is a medical website and I am copy/pasting most of the article:
"The penis itself undergoes significant changes as a man moves from his sexual prime -- around age 30 for most guys -- into middle age and on to older age.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband's secret instagram profiles?
Q. My husband and I have been together for a few years now. I don't really question his being physically faithful. We spend our weekends together, he rarely hangs out with friends or looks secretive on his phone. The other day i was going through ...
A. 11 June 2015: Is he lying to you seems to be the bigger question, as you don't believe he's physically cheating. If you aren't concerned that he's physically cheating that begs the question, are you concerned if he's emotionally cheating or perhaps even going ... (read in full...)
How do I find a guy who's okay with casual dating but no sex?
Q. I'm 21, and due to a host of reasons (depression/SA etc.) I've never had a boyfriend, though my social life and career is OK again. Or even been on a date. I'm physically attractive so do get offers, but I still want to spend some time on my own ...
A. 10 June 2015: "How do I find a guy who's up for casual dating with no sex?" You keep on asking the guys you meet for what you want. If you don't ask, the answer will always be 'no,' as the saying goes.
... (read in full...)
How do I find a guy who's okay with casual dating but no sex?
Q. I'm 21, and due to a host of reasons (depression/SA etc.) I've never had a boyfriend, though my social life and career is OK again. Or even been on a date. I'm physically attractive so do get offers, but I still want to spend some time on my own ...
A. 10 June 2015: If you get offers, why not simply tell the man who asked you out: "I'm up for hanging out with you but at this point in my life, I am keeping it at that. Basically I'm not ready to get intimate right now. If you are good with that I'd love to go out ... (read in full...)
My in-laws are difficult to live with
Q. I've been living with my in laws because of financial reasons. My mother in law put heaps of pressure on us despite being in a bad financial position. I had lost my job and got no redundancy. But she said don't worry about it. Then didn't help. Yet ...
A. 9 June 2015: If you are the one being told off by doctors and your family, had it occurred to you that the problem lies with you and the way you handle conflict? ... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend never let's me finish when we make love. Am I doing something wrong?
Q. This is my first time every doing anything like this, because i can usually solve problems myself, so please bare with me. But, this is different for me. My question is Ive been seeing this girl for almost 2 years it's crazy how we met but she's...
A. 8 June 2015: Have you tried flipping the timing and you using your hand on yourself and she uses her hands on herself, so that she is lubricated and you are closer to orgasm, and then you try penis-in-vagina sex?
Or you give her oral sex until she's well lubr... (read in full...)
Why is she so upset about an email? She hugged everyone else and blanked me.
Q. Hi My question is about a girl I have known for a while. She is or used to be very friendly and speak to me no problem. Today I seen her at a event and she blanked me! She hugged everyone else and chatted away but didn't even smile at me? I'm ...
A. 8 June 2015: She's in her 20s? You said "now I have been brushed off by some 20 year old"!
Do you work together? "The content was just general about work." Did you ever actually read the email in full? "Something to do with me ignoring a E-mail she sent. She ... (read in full...)
I want to know if my girlfriend's actions are normal, or if I am over reacting
Q. So i have been in a relationship for 8 years with this girl who is now heading to another country for her post graduate. She is super excited but is also acting super weird about it. She started stalking guys who will be in her batch, and tells...
A. 5 June 2015: You've been with this girl since you were 14 or 17 or somewhere in that age range?
I'm thinking that what you're experiencing is the end of the relationship. Yes, it's not a very adult or mature way for it to end but as you were young teenagers when... (read in full...)
I'm not over him. How do I get on with my life?
Q. I was dating a guy and I got completely involved in him. We started dating in 2011. It was a long distance relationship. In the beginning I thought it would not work but I have no idea how hard I fall for him as the time passed by. We used to talk ...
A. 5 June 2015: Were you 14 when you started talking to him online? I ask because you say you started dating in 2011 and your age listed now is 18-21. So back then you ere 14-17.
You failed to tell your family you were dating this guy for 2 years. So effe... (read in full...)
My in-laws are difficult to live with
Q. I've been living with my in laws because of financial reasons. My mother in law put heaps of pressure on us despite being in a bad financial position. I had lost my job and got no redundancy. But she said don't worry about it. Then didn't help. Yet ...
A. 23 January 2015: I'm still waiting for the question you want answered.
Please answer the other aunts' questions. Do you have a disability that prevents you from doing so?... (read in full...)
My in-laws are difficult to live with
Q. I've been living with my in laws because of financial reasons. My mother in law put heaps of pressure on us despite being in a bad financial position. I had lost my job and got no redundancy. But she said don't worry about it. Then didn't help. Yet ...
A. 21 January 2015: Meccamega, you've stated your position and feelings about the situation several times now. Many aunts have offered suggestions and ways to deal with it. You restate your position without any sign that you've read their advice. It's like the aunts' ... (read in full...)
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