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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 5 July 2012: I think you are being notified of your own answers on this post; as you post your own answer, the system sends you an email message, if you signed up for that feature. No one can PM you because your user name is not shown.
Apparently you are thin... (read in full...)
I can't fall asleep without drinking alcohol
Q. i have a problem with alcohol and i can't stop, i feel i must drink it. every time i don't i can't fall asleep at all. i always drink to sleep or forget but i don't know what to do now. it has gotten somewhat bad for me and i need advice....
A. 21 June 2012: So you have bigger problems that you are trying to get away from by drinking alcohol to sleep.
Sorry to hear of this very disturbing situation. Please contact one of these organizations to get a local referral for someone who can help you: http... (read in full...)
I have to go to College but we want a baby together. What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been best friends since middle school. I am 17 and about to start my senior year of high school. We want a baby but I have to go to college. What do I do?!?!?!...
A. 21 June 2012: You'll need to pay for child care while you are commuting to and from school, in school, and if you need to study and can't have distractions. Expecting someone to look after your baby for free isn't a viable child care strategy--this means you ... (read in full...)
Fear of using public toilets, how do I overcome this?
Q. I know this question isn't really on topic to what this website is about, and it's a pretty stupid question anyway, but I can't find anything else this helpful and anonymous on the web. I absolutely hate using the toilet at other peoples houses a...
A. 20 June 2012: Your disorder has a name: paruresis. There is a website devoted to helping people in your condition: http://www.paruresis.org/
Tell your family doctor as you may have some treatment options that will help.
You are not alone and there is help and... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship.....how do we plan our future together?
Q. Hello! I'm in a long distance relationship and we're really in love with each other, however we never met but he's planning to come from Germany to my country when he graduates next october to meet for the first time... he says that he wants to ...
A. 20 June 2012: I think you are putting your present on hold for some very nebulous future plans. I think you should recognize that this may not be a truly viable longterm relationship and that it may be healthiest for you to decide to let him go. If he can come ... (read in full...)
I can't fall asleep without drinking alcohol
Q. i have a problem with alcohol and i can't stop, i feel i must drink it. every time i don't i can't fall asleep at all. i always drink to sleep or forget but i don't know what to do now. it has gotten somewhat bad for me and i need advice....
A. 20 June 2012: You need to tell someone about whatever happened so you can get the help you need. Alcohol is not the answer. Ask for help, there are all kinds of places designed to help people in crisis, okay? Be brave now and get the help you need.... (read in full...)
The love of my life used to be an escort... can I forgive her?
Q. I met the girl of my dreams... or so I thought. A little background... She is a senior in college and I'm a few years older than she is with a solid career. She is beautiful, intelligent, exciting, fun... she was the perfect woman. I never ...
A. 20 June 2012: At what point did you have the 'exclusivity' talk? And how did you meet in the first place?... (read in full...)
Is this considered cheating? Help!
Q. Hi, Need help. Is this considered cheating? My fiance and I are 3 months away from the BIG day. I'm 29 and he's 38. Never married and no kids. We're having a coed bechalor/bechalorette party in Las Vegas. We're best friends so we figured i...
A. 20 June 2012: He's backpedaling like crazy, isn't he?
Postpone the wedding. Just say you need more time.
Go work through all the issues in a pre-marital counseling session. These can be extremely eye-opening and helpful. Go ahead and get a pre-nup too. Protect ... (read in full...)
Should I just forget about this guy, and move on?
Q. I have been with this guy for 7 years, i bought a house for us to live in which went great for the first 3 years, then his parents bought him a house which he eventually moved into his kids never speak to me , he spends all holidays with his family ...
A. 19 June 2012: I think it is time to move on. You know it too, you just need to do it. I think you'll feel some sorrow, but that will be alongside a huge sense of relief. Imagine the lightness you'll feel when you are free of his poor treatment of you, of your ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get her to reach orgasm
Q. I am 19 and am have been with my girlfriend for almost 4 months. I have had sex before but I was my girlfriend's first. The relationship is really strong and we are both very giving people. She trusts me completely and says she is completely ...
A. 19 June 2012: Has she ever given herself an orgasm? Unless she knows what works for her, she won't be able to show you.
I'd suggest you try a small vibrator and see what kind of response she experiences with that. It may prove very educational.
Some women fi... (read in full...)
I make excuses even to myself about my boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I'm new here and don't really know how this works but I really wish to talk to somebody about a problem I have, I'm so sad about it and I hope that someone on here can help me! :) I am seeing this guy, he's 33 and I'm 21. He said that he as ...
A. 19 June 2012: You stay with him because something inside you wants the drama, perhaps to reinforce the negative sense of self you have going on there.
Start paying attention to how you react when he does something rude and disrespectful. Is there a little thri... (read in full...)
Is this considered cheating? Help!
Q. Hi, Need help. Is this considered cheating? My fiance and I are 3 months away from the BIG day. I'm 29 and he's 38. Never married and no kids. We're having a coed bechalor/bechalorette party in Las Vegas. We're best friends so we figured i...
A. 19 June 2012: Wow. Quite the revelation, to discover he has no common sense when it comes to defining cheating. Perhaps this explains his prolonged bachelorhood?
Postpone the wedding.
Go to a pre-marital counseling service, where you can discuss ALL the hot butt... (read in full...)
I have to go to College but we want a baby together. What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been best friends since middle school. I am 17 and about to start my senior year of high school. We want a baby but I have to go to college. What do I do?!?!?!...
A. 19 June 2012: Save up. I ran what you'd need to get the child through to 6 years, childcare and groceries and all the incidentals and you need $113,000. That would be on top of whatever expenses you may have, such as college tuition.
Unless you have at least half... (read in full...)
My wife drags her mother along with us on vacation.
Q. I am a 39 year old male. My wife of 20 years is 41. My problem is that my wife invites my mother-in-law along on almost every trip or vacation. Sometimes she is unable to go (thank the heavens for that!) but I'd like it if it could just be the two ...
A. 19 June 2012: Why not suggest her mother comes and visits you at your home instead of coming along on your trips? This way, you can escape to work while she's visiting, your wife gets to spend time with her mother and the added expense is minimal.... (read in full...)
Is settling for someone who is lovely but is not "the one" ever right?
Q. hi there, the kind of man who would be perfect for me simply does not exist, for a lot of reasons. im sure of this. however i am currently with a man who loves me dearly and is wonderful. i just wonder if settling for someone who is lovely bu...
A. 19 June 2012: It depends. Does Mr. Lovely know he isn't quite 'the one' and is okay with it? If he is, great. It not, well, I rather think it is more polite to let Mr. Lovely go and find a girl who thinks he's the best thing ever. Keeping him around because you ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend what I really think about her wedding dress?
Q. A good friend of mine is marrying my cousin...I have known her for 29 years and I am in the wedding party which is taking place in Cuba. I recently just returned from a destination wedding myself so I have a good idea as to what works and what d...
A. 18 June 2012: I guess at a certain point you have to decide who is being served by 'the truth.' And how much you need to hammer home 'the truth.'
I bought the first wedding dress I tried on. I tried on 40-50 dresses after trying that one on, but I had fallen in l... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend what I really think about her wedding dress?
Q. A good friend of mine is marrying my cousin...I have known her for 29 years and I am in the wedding party which is taking place in Cuba. I recently just returned from a destination wedding myself so I have a good idea as to what works and what d...
A. 18 June 2012: Yes, just bite your tongue. She chose the dress she wanted. It may not be the dress YOU wanted for her, but you've given her your advice already. Relax, let it go, it's not your thing to 'fix' or edit or make right somehow... she will live, you will ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex trying to create conflict between me and my best friend?
Q. Last year I dated a guy for 3 months until I found out that he's married with kids. It was his pregnant wife who found out about him dating me and telling me about it (so she was the one who uncovered him). I was devastated and I asked him to stop ...
A. 16 June 2012: If he ever thinks about the happiness of something other than his penis, then he might realize it. The fact he's doing this shows he doesn't care. He doesn't care or worry about what negative emotions other peopke may experience.
He's toxic. Flus... (read in full...)
When she was a teenager, why did my wife walk around the house topless in front of her parents?
Q. Thank you all in advance for your thoughts. My wife and I have been working hard on our relationship over the past several months. If you have read my prior two post you will have a pretty good understanding of things. Basically tonight my wife...
A. 15 June 2012: In your other post, you describe your wife as an "attention whore." She was sending sexy pictures of herself to an ex fling and hiding it from you.
On the one hand, you say she has low self-esteem and in the very same post you say she's always felt... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 15 June 2012: Do you have homeless people there? We have homeless people here. What would you be capable of if you didn't have any money and needed to feed a child?... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that there is a difference between an accident and an intentional reaction?
Q. I accidently kicked my husband in the groin (he was standing behind me) as I was explaining to my older son that it was unacceptable to constantly thump my younger son. My husband suddenly ran and lunged at me with his thick MBT shoes on and kick...
A. 15 June 2012: Is he one of those guys who needs to win at all costs? Because if he is, then he will never acknowledge he owes anyone an apology.
I guess all you can do is lie in wait for him to screw up and hit him near the groin with a pair of heavy shoes and ... (read in full...)
Would you find a 42 year-old Virgin Dateable?
Q. Now to be honest, I have average looks and am average size being a tall, typical bodied white male. The issues exist that I suffer from social anxiety and other disorders, limiting my social skills, which might not attract women right off the ba...
A. 14 June 2012: Sorry, I just double-checked that link and I see it's a site requiring a membership. I have googled for you and found a few sites that may be a start for you:
http://aspergers.meetup.com/
http://as... (read in full...)
What do European guys think about pubic hair?
Q. Hello, I am 23 years old and I don't like having hair down there so I usually remove all of it via a hair removal cream if I am going to be with a guy. However, I am seeing a guy from Spain and I heard that they don't mind pubic hair, in face some ...
A. 14 June 2012: I blame Hugh Hefner, CindyCares. He and the other magazine publishers like him made pubic hair into a taboo. Then the razor and hair removal companies reinforce that here every day. Sigh.
OP (original poster), do what makes YOU feel comf... (read in full...)
Is she playing games with this blowing hot and cold?
Q. My partner of nearly a year seems to blow hot and cold...its really difficult to cope with and I don't know what to do. We have been absolutely great for a few weeks, really close, very affectionate and making plans for the future - we're getting ...
A. 14 June 2012: Sorry, I see that you were home by 8:30pm. So she wasn't having a peaceful snooze in bed then. Did you wash up and brush your teeth before bed?
There seems to me to be more to the story.... (read in full...)
Is she playing games with this blowing hot and cold?
Q. My partner of nearly a year seems to blow hot and cold...its really difficult to cope with and I don't know what to do. We have been absolutely great for a few weeks, really close, very affectionate and making plans for the future - we're getting ...
A. 14 June 2012: Look, it can be very unpleasant to be having a nice peaceful sleep in a nice clean bed and then to suddenly have a warm sweaty body which smells of alcohol and the pub suddenly launched into bed beside you. I would go so far as to call it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend snaps at me for stuff other people do?
Q. well ive been dating my boyfriend for about 4months now and he snaps at me alot. like one time i was messing with him and he snapped at me than apologized. he said sorry but his friend was getting on his nerves. i forgave him but he did it again. it ...
A. 14 June 2012: When he snaps at you, leave. Say brightly, "I'll see you later when you are in a better mood!" and then go home, or to the mall, or wherever. Just don't be in his presence when he's like this. Don't argue with him, don't bother reasoning with him.
I... (read in full...)
Is she playing games with this blowing hot and cold?
Q. My partner of nearly a year seems to blow hot and cold...its really difficult to cope with and I don't know what to do. We have been absolutely great for a few weeks, really close, very affectionate and making plans for the future - we're getting ...
A. 14 June 2012: Smells can trigger awful memories for people. If you had been out drinking with her in your presence, she wouldn't have noticed as much when you two went to bed. The coming home smelling of beer and possibly cigarette smoke and other people's odors ... (read in full...)
Would you find a 42 year-old Virgin Dateable?
Q. Now to be honest, I have average looks and am average size being a tall, typical bodied white male. The issues exist that I suffer from social anxiety and other disorders, limiting my social skills, which might not attract women right off the ba...
A. 14 June 2012: Ah, so you don't even know if you officially have Aspergers? Well, go get diagnosed. Then get yourself into one of the many support groups for people facing the challenges that this syndrome may mean. http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/ The socially m... (read in full...)
I can't fall asleep without drinking alcohol
Q. i have a problem with alcohol and i can't stop, i feel i must drink it. every time i don't i can't fall asleep at all. i always drink to sleep or forget but i don't know what to do now. it has gotten somewhat bad for me and i need advice....
A. 14 June 2012: The problem with using alcohol as a self-medication to avoid confronting a problem is that it leads to even bigger problems.
You have to tell someone, ask to see your doctor and tell him or her. Be very honest and upfront with the doctor and he o... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling betrayed when there was no betrayal?
Q. frustrated hyprocrite I have been divorced for 8 years. A year ago we got back together and are living together. During the time we were divorced I had 4 girlfriends and she also had relationships. The other day she told me about so...
A. 14 June 2012: Recognize that it's your mind that is causing you the pain, nothing else, just your mind imaging wild things.
So take control of your mind. When it starts to go off on the fantasy outrage riff, take a mental step back, and watch yourself get all ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is into anal sex and doesn't like the way my vagina looks
Q. This is kind of embarrassing but here we go. I have been in a LDR for several years. Not long after we started dating my boyfriend talked me into, um, pleasuring myself on camera for him. So I did and it's become a regular thing where we do it ...
A. 14 June 2012: He's nice until he hears the word 'no'? You hate anal, you've told him so, yet that's all he wants to see?
Ah, honey, you've been groomed. You don't have to be old to be a creeper or pervert. There are plenty of young handsome perverts. Sounds like... (read in full...)
I've never had an orgasm with my boyfriend and I cant keep faking it forever!
Q. Hey there ladies and gents. I am completely in love with my boyfriend. I'm 18, he's now 20. We've been dating for almost 2 years now. Physically he is very handsome, tall, and somewhat fit. Emotionally he is super sweet, a little sarcastic, loving, ...
A. 14 June 2012: Also, stop moaning unless you mean it. This might help encourage him to try the things you've pointed out that work.
I think you may as well tell him how you reach orgasm. He needs some idea what the sequence is and being shy about telling him won'... (read in full...)
I've never had an orgasm with my boyfriend and I cant keep faking it forever!
Q. Hey there ladies and gents. I am completely in love with my boyfriend. I'm 18, he's now 20. We've been dating for almost 2 years now. Physically he is very handsome, tall, and somewhat fit. Emotionally he is super sweet, a little sarcastic, loving, ...
A. 14 June 2012: "Sweetheart, I've given you some really important tips for me to enjoy lovemaking. I'm wondering why you aren't doing them. Is there some reason I should know about?"... (read in full...)
Nearing 25. Zero experience. Completely lost. Need all the advice I can get. Long rant.
Q. Okay, this is going to get a bit long but I have a lot to say and a whole lot more on my mind - been accumulating it for years now afterall ^^”… I would really appreciate anyone who reads this and offers up any similar experiences, advice, or any ...
A. 13 June 2012: I'll sum it up: too much thinking.
Quiet your mind.
You cannot spend your life avoiding things that are not actually happening.
Go ask a girl out on a date. She does not need to be the one you are going to propose to and spend the rest of your... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 13 June 2012: I guess that's a good question to sit and think about. Maybe try not thinking about it so much and just try some meditation and perhaps it will become clearer to you.... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is into anal sex and doesn't like the way my vagina looks
Q. This is kind of embarrassing but here we go. I have been in a LDR for several years. Not long after we started dating my boyfriend talked me into, um, pleasuring myself on camera for him. So I did and it's become a regular thing where we do it ...
A. 13 June 2012: I echo what the other aunts have already said. And I just wanted to add one thing: if you dislike a sex act because it is painful and uncomfortable, stop doing it. You don't need any more explanation than that.
In the final analysis, you two are ... (read in full...)
Friend's dad has the HOTS for me! SOS!
Q. Hey everyone so I think my friend's dad has the hots for me. I know he's really friendly and that's what i thought at first. I spend a Saturday evening with my friend and then we went to her house to watch the game. When I went her dad didn't k...
A. 12 June 2012: If he is making you feel uncomfortable, you are entitled to let them know. "Them" being your friend and her father. I would also talk to your parents about this.
I don't know if this guy is a predator or not, but what he's doing is inap... (read in full...)
Is my partner the one for me or not?
Q. Is my partner the one for me or not? I was 18 when my I first met my boyfriend. He was my first real boyfriend and we have been together for 10 years (I'm now 28). We have lived together for 8 of those years. He is the one who fell head ov...
A. 12 June 2012: Do him a big favor. Please go ahead with the break up. You are not going to make a successful longterm relationship with this mindset and I don't see how you can stay with thin if, after 10 years, you don't know he's the one.
This obviously will... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 12 June 2012: All you can do is wait and see what happens. If you are concerned about your own involvement in the case, consult with a solicitor. In fact, the solicitor would likely be able to give you a much clearer view of what may happen in the case. If it is ... (read in full...)
He's let me down many times. So how do I handle his continuing efforts to call and text me?
Q. Why is he doing this? What should I do? So there's this guy I used to like a lot. We'd chat on the phone and text a lot. We went on a date once and we really hit it off. He knew how I felt about him and always thought he felt the same. Cau...
A. 12 June 2012: "Thanks for reaching out but I've moved on."
Or continue to ignore/hit delete. Eventually he'll give up. He sounds very unreliable to me and I doubt that will change in the future.... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 11 June 2012: I don't know. I expect they will do what they can to get the trafficked women some help.... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 11 June 2012: I think one of life's lessons that is so difficult to accept is that we don't always know the outcome to everyone's story. I think perhaps this would be a good time to figure out how to live with uncertainty, with not knowing. It's okay.
If you are ... (read in full...)
How to write a letter to your ex without pushing him away- Help! My brain hurts!
Q. I have had an ongoing saga with my ex for almost a year now. He broke up with me and was with someone else, all the while calling me to tell me he cared about me, missed me and was confused. They broke and he came into town and wanted to see me and ...
A. 11 June 2012: Take back your power. You are waiting for him to decide what he wants. He's decided. It's not you. I'm sorry.
If you take back your power, decide for yourself what you will tolerate, and then apply your standards to the situation. I'd cut him off ... (read in full...)
I've never had an orgasm with my boyfriend and I cant keep faking it forever!
Q. Hey there ladies and gents. I am completely in love with my boyfriend. I'm 18, he's now 20. We've been dating for almost 2 years now. Physically he is very handsome, tall, and somewhat fit. Emotionally he is super sweet, a little sarcastic, loving, ...
A. 11 June 2012: He's not lacking. He doesn't know what you want. As you don't know what you want, how is he supposed to figure it out? You need to spend some time, alone with yourself, exploring what works for you. Use a vibrator, lubrication, whatever will help ... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 11 June 2012: I'm upset by it too, and I don't even know the girl. It's an upsetting and awful situation. Your reaction is natural. Try to take comfort in the fact that you've taken positive action that may help her in life, and may help others from being caught ... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 8 June 2012: You've filled in the form, now cut contact. For your own safety, it's best to create as little drama as possible and just be forgotten now, okay?
Please do be more cautious in the future and avoid escorts or prostitutes, those words are basi... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 8 June 2012: Try calling Crimestoppers and then the police. I sincerely doubt the madam would be able to track you, did you send any of them an email?... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 7 June 2012: I expect they see you as a target. They are probably trying to find a way to extract money from you.
Whatever you do, cut contact with her. If you want to try to help her, let the police know you are concerned she's been trafficked or is being held... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 6 June 2012: I think this is a lonely and vulnerable man who was looking for companionship and finds himself in a situation beyond his comprehension.
Poster, I would end contact with this woman and I would recommend having a chat with the local police. She need... (read in full...)
The only way I see us being together is if she quits her job as a prostitute!
Q. I met a prostitute 2 months ago, when I went to see one - I knew I was taking a risk. Now, I am not so sure, she is a wonderful girl, she's Hungarian, but 2 other girls work from the same flat as she does, and the one that speaks the best Eng...
A. 6 June 2012: Isn't this the one who wanted you to sign some papers, and who doesn't speak English?... (read in full...)
Would you find a 42 year-old Virgin Dateable?
Q. Now to be honest, I have average looks and am average size being a tall, typical bodied white male. The issues exist that I suffer from social anxiety and other disorders, limiting my social skills, which might not attract women right off the ba...
A. 21 May 2012: So why not cross that bridge when you come to it? It seems to me the first thing is to start dating. Have you found help for your social anxiety issue? And what are the other 'disorders'? Perhaps they are holding you back from dating.
All you have... (read in full...)
Would you find a 42 year-old Virgin Dateable?
Q. Now to be honest, I have average looks and am average size being a tall, typical bodied white male. The issues exist that I suffer from social anxiety and other disorders, limiting my social skills, which might not attract women right off the ba...
A. 20 May 2012: Do you have an actual woman in mind or is this just an 'in case' kind of question?... (read in full...)
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