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writes:I've been chatting with a guy for almost a month now. I know him through uni friends but have never properly hung out with him.At first we flirted and spoke through fb and moved on to textinh every single day, throughout the day.But now he takes about half an hour/to an hour to reply.During that time I'll see him on whatsapp online. Like he's talking to someone else.I did the same to him yesterday and left an hour between my texts.He then asked me what i'm doing and said hes asking because my replies are more delayed than usual.This was after a 'lol' reply.I don't know what else to do? I thought he liked me and part of me thinks I'm too available and thats why he does this.Should I ignore him for a while? Should I just stop speaking to him? I'm stuck. Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2014): I don't think this guy DISLIKES you but because you've never hung out you're still just a internet buddy - a casual acquaintance. You may feel that things are "progressing into something more" but I think that's just how YOU feel. If he felt the same, he would be suggesting that you meet up and spend time together by now. He just seems to be happy with the distraction of getting text messages all day - so much so that he now seems to expect them. It probably gives him a bit of an ego-strokeI think you have made yourself a little too available by engaging in constant text chat throughout the day so stop doing that. Don't initiate it anymore and don't rush to answer him if it's just general chit-chat. Just say you were busy. You have a life apart from him.If he does like you, he will want to make firm plans to see you or at least have proper telephone converstaions if distance is an obstacle. Not just vague phrases like "We must do xxx sometime"I think you should stop regarding him as a potential romance and friend-zone him. Or cut off contact if you can't do that but I seriously think you're barking up the wrong tree...
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 August 2014):
 Is this the same guy: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-flaked-a-few-times---.html ?
I think you're wasting a lot of time and mental energy on a guy who isn't into you enough to actually follow through.
If he wanted to meet you in person, he's had a month do so. You are being too available and too eager, honestly.
I would throw this one back into the FB weeds, as I said before about him.
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