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*isha2425
writes:I got married to guy 15 years older than me at the age of 23. I have two kids from a previous relationship. I didn't get married for love it was not like a security blanket for the shake of the kids. I didn’t ask him to marry me he kinda insisted we get married. I had a beautiful wedding at the beach. I had second thoughts but when along because I didn't want to look stupid. Well since we have been married within the last year my husband has cheated on my twice I know of with different women. I feel betrayed but each time I leave he comes and find me. He will do good for a while then get to tripping again. He is very mean when I don't do what he feels I should do. If he doesn't approve of my friends then I can't hang out with them. So now I dont have many at this moment. He always treats me that my life will be ten times worse without him. I sound like a broken record to alot of my friends because all I do is complain about how unhappy I am. I really want to leave him this time and I have somewhere to go where he cannot find me. What I really want to know is if I divorce my husband will I have bad luck or I am I to stay and stick it out. I want to do my own thing I know it is not going to be easy but I really need to start over because life is too short and I getting really depressed. Guys what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): Thanks to you all. I leaving in the morning
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): You will not have bad luck if you leave this mean old man, You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.My husband was hanging out and having sex with other women, many times I was walking the kids to the park and my husband would pass by us in the car with a women sitting very close to him. It hurted me very bad to leave him but I had to leave because the relationship was very unhealthy and now I'm living a happy life and you can do the same.And next time before you say I DO, make sure you love the guy as much as he loves you. You did play on him because you knew from the beginning you did not want to marry a man 15 years older than you so my advice to you is to make sure if you leave him that he can not find you because sometimes people snap when the relationship is all over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): A short answer. Leave him, you and your children have a right to be happy xxx
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 September 2012):
 It sounds like your luck is bad enough staying with him. Time for a fresh start if there is no hope of him being a faithful husband. He sounds abusive and is trying to isolate you from your friends.
Tell me again why you stay?
What is best for your children? To have a safe, healthy mother or one who is mistreated, abused and depressed?
The answer seems pretty obvious to me.
You do need to do one really important thing though, when you leave. You need to get yourself into counseling to find out why you put yourself in this position, so you don't wind up doing the same thing again, okay? Be brave! Be strong and wise now.
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