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writes:I'm not necessarily a young teenager, but I'm 19. I've always had low self esteem and confidence, which I've always been content with because I guess that's just a part of my life and who I am.But I kind of wish I knew the building blocks to a good self esteem.Help or advice?
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reader, Aunty Audrey  +, writes (18 January 2013):
 What worked for me was to set some goals for me and some were not earth shattering they were simple things.Write the goals down and then reward yourself visually by writing in the exact time and date you met that goal and how it made you feel.Choose some goals that mean you have to try some things that interesting or challenging. For instance if you knew you could not swim and you are a bit scared to learn then enroll yourself in a swimming class at a local pool and start to learn how to swim.If you know that you only like one or two fruits and don't like the rest then challenge you to make a fruit salad for your lunch on Saturday and include one new fruit you've never tried. each Saturday add a new fruit to the list. At the end of six weeks your bowl will indeed be a real fruit salad. Write down how it tasted and how it made you feel.Discover more about who you are, and what you can achieve. Achieve new goals and acknowledge that you did achieve new goals, that's what will build your self esteem
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2012):
What worked for me, and I was 30 years old at the time...
1) Remove all negative people from my life. If they had nothing good to offer that would make me a better person...GONE!!!
2) No one in this world is more important than me. Once I knew that, then I started letting the other important people back into my life.
3) Smile at everyone you meet, look them in the eye and acknowledge the presence. People will start smiling back at you, and even say “hi”. This will build you up on the inside.
4) Remember…it is not what you look like on the outside that matters. You could be the most awesome looking person in the world, and people will still find fault or a reason to hate you. But if you are awesome on the inside, it will show on the outside and how you treat people. Even strangers will come to your defense then.
5) Stay away from so call popular or cool people. They love to put other down to make themselves feel important. Plus…you really don’t want to learn their bad habits.
6) Love everyone until they give you a reason not to…then forgive them, and move on.
7) Love everyone…it is a lot harder than you think, but when you get good at it, you will see how much people are drawn to you.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (21 December 2012):
 What worked for me was to take on challenges that were personally meaningful. It's a long process -- I don't think there are any quick fixes. For me it was completing a difficult university program and being hired by an organization I considered prestigious. I felt lower than dirt at 17, and was on top of the world at 26. Lots of hard work in between. Set an ambitious goal, but remember that it's just each small step toward the goal that matters. Those small steps add up over time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2012): I had a low self esteem as a teenager too. The best way to build your self esteem is to constantly challenge yourself. Put yourself in situations that are out of the ordinary for you. For instance, apply to colleges you think you would never get accepted at. Take classes that you think you could never excel at. Expose yourself to friends and guys that you think would not be interested in you. And in the meantime do your very best and put your best effort into doing good with your challenges. Just because you have a low self esteem doesn't mean you don't have dreams. Go forward and follow your dreams. Little by little you will start seeing accomplishments that you never thought possible had you never exposed yourself to it. That you were able to do what you thought was the "impossible," and do it well, that will bring up your confidence and your inner strength.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 December 2012):
 Do you wake up early or late? When you wake up, does your mind start racing thinking of all the things you dread today? Do you lie there and pull the sheets back over your bed?
Or do you spring out of bed with fun thoughts about all the great things you have on your schedule?
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